Why Is This Happening?

On this day of your life I believe God wants you to know that “Why is this happening?” is the most useless question in the Universe.


Neale Donald Walsch Daily Inspiration

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Neale Donald Walsch (NDS) has been an inspiration to me since I read his three volume set:
Conversations With God.  Might I also recommend the movie:
Conversations With God DVD.


The movie is quite different from the books but still worth watching.  I receive NDS daily email inspiration and it is one more spark I use when I write Wisdom and Life.


Asking why is silly for those of us who believe we are watched over.  We know there is a reason for all that happens. That’s why as Neale says in the above quote that:
Why is the most useless question in the Universe.


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Why is it useless?  Because we understand the answer is not always simple.  Don’t ask why, Why is backward. Life isn’t about going backward.  Life is about moving forward, putting one foot in front of the other.  Why is this happening doesn’t solve anything.


Move forward with your life.  Looking back and asking why is this happening won’t help you resolve the question.  You need to stop asking why and blaming others.  Face your life and the decisions you’ve made that have brought you to this place.  Nothing will change until and unless you realize that YOU are in charge of YOUR life.  Asking why won’t help anyway as major decisions have been made before you chose to incarnate.


If you know anything about my worldview, you understand that predestination plays an intricate role in my life. Asking why is this happening is especially meaningless in my own life,  Even though I may not understand why at the moment, I trust that there IS a reason and that my soul made the choice before I incarnated.  The other thing I can say without hesitation is when something challenging happens, there is ALWAYS a gift that’s left behind. We simply have to be open to finding it.


Stop asking why and start embracing life.  You’ll find more joy in life when you decide to move forward to stop looking behind you.


Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


Einstein’s Happiness

A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness


Einstein’s Happiness


As can be seen from the following link Einstein at Wisdom and Life,

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I’ve written extensively about the man.  This quote from Einstein is much like:
Don’t chase the money.  Also a topic I’ve discussed at:  
Parental Pressure


That adage that there is nothing new under the sun once more proves itself accurate.  The Don’t Chase the Money and A calm and modest life…  are on in the same.  I find it fascinating that Einstein left this note in place of a tip.  Was he relaying a message that money isn’t what is needed to bring happiness?


Yes.  You need money to live your life.  I’m not denying that.  However, unceasing pursuit of money at the expense of every other aspect of your life can be emotionally as well as physically damaging.  


It can cause your stress levels to rise.
It can cause physical illness. Stomach upset, headaches. Blood pressure spikes.  All kinds of physical ailments can arise from psychological stress


That’s what Einstein meant and that’s what Don’t chase the money means.  Chasing money instead of chasing your bliss is not they way to live your life.  Being in a state of calm and living a modest life as Einstein says can create more more happiness, more peace than in a constant state of pursuit for money..


Being rich is a state of mind anyway.  There is more than one rich too.  I reminded of the pilot episode of Wings in which two estranged brothers are brought back together to search for a treasure their late father left for them. Travelling all over New England, they finally arrive back in Nantucket where they started and find a suitcase in a locker at the airport where one of the brothers has a airline.  The two brothers open the suitcase, but before they do, they begin fantasizing about the treasure that COULD be inside.  When they open the suitcase there simply a picture of them playing on the beach when they are much younger and a note:
You’re rich.  Is all it says.  


In other words you don’t need money to be rich.
You need to love and be loved.
You need family and friends.


If have love, if you have family, if you have friends, if you can live a peaceful life and let everything else fall into place then you will find the calm life you are chasing.  And let’s not forget that your life has been mapped out for you long before chose to incarnate anyway.


The monumental parts that is.  Click the link above to get a feel for my belief about predestination.  There are 31 columns in the category.  You don’t have to read them all to understand my perspective.  Several will probably give you a feel.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


Passing In Pairs


–Princess Diana
August 31, 1997

–Mother Teresa
September 5, 1997
–Wayne Dyer
August 29, 2015

–Oliver Sacks
August 30, 2015


On Monday, September 14, a friend of mine mentioned Wayne Dyer’s passing.  She then brought up the fact that Oliver Sacks passed shortly after Wayne Dyer.  Sometimes my mind goes somewhere that many people don’t consider.  Look at the above list of names and when they passed.  Do you ever consider why people in the public eye sometimes tend to pass in pairs?  I do.  


Let’s look at Princess Diana and Mother Teresa:
When Mother Teresa passed and it was less than a week after Princess Diana, even back then BEFORE my spiritual nature expanded to the point where it is now, I had these thoughts.  Why did these two remarkable women transition so close to each other?  I often wonder if their souls weren’t needed elsewhere to mediate some disturbance in the force so to speak.  Afterall they were extremely influential in the physical, and since we are OUR souls, since we ARE spiritual beings having a physical experience why couldn’t we not have something to offer in another realm?


I know what you’re thinking now.  You’re recalling my previous statements that our transition day is carved in stone, that it can’t be undone.  In most cases that is correct.  What if we chose to pass on that particular day because we KNEW we would be needed?


what if there was ONE who could override ANY particular order we placed?  I’m sure you’ve the adage:
Rules were made to be broken.


What if this tenet that our transition day is carved in stone is still true, but that it is carved in shale?


How about Wayne Dyer and Oliver Sacks:
My thoughts IMMEDIATELY returned to Diana and Mother Teresa when Oliver Sacks passed a day after Wayne Dyer.  


–Again Sacks and Dyer were influential in life, both were writers and both were an inspiration to many.
–Again what if they were needed to mediate in another realm?

I’m sure you can find other cases where influential souls have passed in pairs.  These are just two instances that jumped out to me.  It’s where my thoughts go when these kinds of things happen.  How bout you?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.



My Worldview

This column has been a long time in the making.  I’ve discussed my worldview in the past here at Wisdom and Life and how I’ve come to understand God.  Uh oh, Chris used the “G” word.  When I use the word “God,” I’m not referring to any particular denominational God.  I’m commenting on the “Universal God,” the Divinity we ALL worship.  See?  I think God and Religion became wrapped up in a human perspective.  I believe (And it is ENTIRELY my belief) that humanity warped the original intention of Jesus.  You only have to look at the recent news to see this.  I referring to Kentucky.


How can ONE person say what God wants?  It’s all an opinion.  There is so much about humanity’s interference with spiritual matters that disturbs me.  It’s why I chose my own way.  I believe you can still be spiritual without attending organized religion.  Now I understand that some may see that as a blasphemous statement.  And that’s fine too.  We all have a right to our opinions.  Let me see if I can show you that I do believe in a higher power, in a Divinity, in God.


I see God everywhere.  I carry on a daily conversation with HIM ALL the time.  I’m always grateful for HIS presence in my life.  Too much has happened to me NOT to understand that there is a spiritual presence, a positive force, a Divinity guiding our lives.


So what is my worldview?
is a belief that your life has been mapped out for you long before you incarnate.  That God has a plan for you and no matter what you do, there are certain phases of your life that can’t change.  I’m sure if you look back over the course of your latest incarnation, you’ll see instances where this seems to be the case.  I believe there is no “bad.”  That everything that happens in our lives is always for the highest good, that everything is a lesson to improve our lives.  That whatever happens is supposed to happen. Predestination isn’t just a word for me.  It’s how I live my life, knowing that when something I MAY perceive as negative, as bad occurs, I understand it is God clearing the way for something better.  I’m sure if you look back over the course of your life, you will find examples of this as well.  Don’t fret over lost things.  Nothing is EVER truly lost.  There is no bad.  Everything is a lesson to help us move forward and everything that is happening in our lives is supposed to happen.  Our lives have been mapped out long before we incarnated.  That’s predestination. This is a rock solid part of my worldview.  You can open the link above to read more at Wisdom and Life.  Why am I using the phrase:
Your latest incarnation?  It is because I’m convinced we all return over and over.


Past Lives
Not only do I believe we all return over and over, I also believe we return in groups.  These groups are called Soul Groups.  We meet these souls in life when we need them.  We meet them in transition as well.  Why do we return?  I like to relate life and transition to an education system.  How do you move from one school grade to another?  You graduate by learning lessons from each grade, correct?  Think of each incarnation you make as a new grade.  Every time you transition you go through a transitory time.  Go back and read the column Soul Groups carefully and you’ll see a reference to Transition Station.


In Transition Station we review the most recent incarnation we just left.  We are with those in our Soul Group who have passed as well.  It is here that we discuss what we could have improved upon in the past life we recently left.  It’s a classroom where we can make improvements in our next life.  When we have completed our time in Transition Station, we then move to Transition Hall


Transition Hall is where we go to choose our next incarnation.  I understand that some of my worldview may sound a bit esoteric.  However, for someone steeped in the paradigm, it is all simply one piece to the puzzle.


Some of what I believe has caused consternation among friends, sometimes to the degree that I’ve alienated several old friends.  You know what, though?  To those who no longer want to be my friend, I tell them:
I’m still the same person I’ve ALWAYS been.  I’ve simply changed one aspect of my life.


Death and Dying
Death is simply a transition.  It is NOT the end, but a beginning.  When someone uses the word pass to describe a death do you understand what it means?  Do you understand why you use the word:


What does pass or passing mean to you?  To me it means changing from one form to another; to transition.  Someone long ago understood this, which is why the word passing has been used to describe a death.  No one ever ceases to be.  

Why would God who is love ever end anything?
Why would God rip someone out of your life who meant so much to you?


We will meet everyone again.  Souls are eternal.  The shells we use to reside in are not.  It is the soul, the essence of who we are that lives on.  It’s why there is such a thing as love at first sight.  It really isn’t first sight, but eternal sight.  Our souls recognize those in our soul group.  It’s what is meant by soul mates.  Soul mates aren’t always destined to be romantic partners.  Sometimes they may incarnate as best friends.  Maybe one or both of them want to live an incarnation separate from romance.  Your previous romantic partner may be your brother or your sister in another incarnation.  The thing to remember is that no one is EVER lost.  Those in your soul group have traveled with you during each incarnation and they will ALWAYS travel with you.


You may be saying:
Where does God fit into this worldview?  Because I don’t see HIM anywhere.


God is everywhere.  HE is everywhere.  He s the conductor of this entire thing we call life.  You may not always see HIM but it doesn’t mean HE doesn’t exist.  The example I give in:
Life After Death: What Do You Believe perfectly illustrates this.  The bottom line is that I choose to see God everywhere.  And that’s what it really comes down to.  That’s my worldview in it’s most common denominator:
Everything is a choice.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


Bridging my Life

Another bridge to my life in Madison, Connecticut from my Hell in Farmington, Connecticut:


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A bridge gets you from Point A to Point B.

My first grade teacher’s name was Mrs. Newton. As a senior in high school, my English teacher’s name was:
Ms. Newton.  My first grade teacher’s daughter.


I can look back now and clearly see the connection. Does anyone else think that SIMPLY is TOO odd an event to think it was NOT part of a clear plan, as in yet another example of predestination working in my life?  I understand that some of you may be thinking:
Yeah, well because you are steeped in this paradigm, because you believe these things happen, you will look for and see these events that occur and believe they are what they are according to your point of view.


That may be true.  However, doesn’t that prove my point?  I’ve written here at Wisdom and Life previously, that everything is a choice.  If I choose to see something in a certain way, then that becomes my reality.  Because I choose to see this connection between my life in Farmington and my life in Madison as a direct path, that makes it so in my reality.  If after reading this column some of you also see the connection then I’ve done my job.  There is definitely something or someone somewhere pulling our strings, manipulating our lives, putting us in situations to improve us, to help us grow, to develop our etheric bodies, our souls.  I see this every day.  The fact that I experienced pain, challenges, storms during that brief time I lived in Farmington, Connecticut helped me become the person I am today.


I can look back now and understand the reason, the deeper meaning behind that turbulent time in my life because I see the reward:
I see the fact that I have a home that I wouldn’t have had otherwise.
–I see that I wouldn’t have the friends I have now.
–I see the bridge that my first grade teacher built to get me to my 12th grade teacher.


That bridge is just a message telling me that I crossed to safety; reminding me that if we look for messages, if we CHOOSE to see the events in our lives as connections, as messages from the Divine then we will always live in joy. Nothing will dampen our enthusiasm for life as long as we look for bridges, as long as we see the connections that make up our lives.


PLEASE see everything as a message!
PLEASE see all the connections around you!


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.



God is in Control

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again today. I feel so blessed to understand that my life is out of my control.
I no longer worry
I no longer stress


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I’ve finally come to the realization that whatever happens is supposed to happen. And that whatever happens is ALWAYS for the greater good.  I certainly understand that not everyone shares my belief in this, however, the point is that my life works so much better, my life flows, my life is no longer a struggle because I’ve ceded control of the challenges I encounter to the Divine.




I’ve always known that God is in control, that God brings the best to us, that God presents challenges in our lives to make us stronger, to bring better to us.  When something leaves our lives, whether it be a relationship, whether it be a job, whatever it maybe, don’t shut down, don’t close your eyes and give up.  Keep your eyes open.


Watch for the gift that will arrive.
Watch for that window to open.
Remember the Divine is directing our lives.

And the Divine only wants what is best for us.


I feel blessed to have realized this and to be able to put it into daily practice; which is not to say I don’t mourn the losses I experience.  I do!  However I also know to watch for that window.


It’s NEVER not happened.

Every challenge that has occurred in my life has always come with a something better in the future:
Living through my temporary hell in the 1970s brought my Fairy Godmother.
Losing the opportunity to work at Chatfield Hollow brought me to the Scranton Library.


There are so many other examples I can give, but you get the picture.


How did I reach this point where I see life as a gift, where I see the Divine as the director, where I see a window open as a door closes?  Excellent question.

I’ve seen it happen all the time.  You know how they say hindsight is 20/20?  As I look back over the course of my life and see EVERY challenge I’ve endured, (And oh man!  There have been too many to recount here.)  I’ve also seen blessings that have resulted from those challenges.  The biggest emotional challenge I experienced is recounted above in Living through my temporary hell…


The gift that arrived from that experience alone proved to me that there is ALWAYS a silver lining, that a window will ALWAYS open.


I certainly didn’t see it at the time because I was all of five, six and seven years old.  Twenty years later however, I see the blessing.  And now when a challenge arises I wait for the storm to clear the debris and look for the gift.  I understand that there is ALWAYS a gift, only because I’ve experienced it in the past.  You know what is said about the past:
That it is a wonderful teacher if you learn from it.


I’ve learned from my past have you?


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

The Mystery of Life

Some things will always remain a mystery at this level of consciousness, and it is right that they should. So do not try to solve all the mysteries. Give the universe a chance. It will unfold itself in due course. Enjoy the experience of becoming.

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How many of us sometimes want to know the outcome?
How many of us are tempted to read the last few pages of a book to discover the ending?


Are you EVER happy after you know what’s going to happen?  Do you continue reading, or does knowing what happens spoil the rest of the book?  As it would be if you knew the outcome of your life.


What’s the point of life if you remember in advance what’s going to happen next?  Remember?  Did you say, remember?  Yes indeed, I said remember.  You know of course that our lives have been mapped out.  We sign  a contract as I said in in the previous linkage.  It is in Transition Hall where we choose our next life, where we sign that contract that details what will happen and when it will happen in our lives.  If you find your life spinning out of control, if you are unhappy, if you are distressed, all I can say is:
Your soul chose this experience.
Your soul needs this to move on, to grow.


If you don’t find resolution in this incarnation, you will find it in another one.  Your soul is eternal, your current body is just a shell.  Your soul is what teaches your body.  I understand that while you are in your current turmoil, if you aren’t in the place where you’re aware of your soul and and the fact that your experiences have been mapped out, it can be VERY distressing to you that life isn’t working out according to your plan, but do you think it would make life any better, if you knew the outcome?


What if the outcome appeared more challenging than the experience?  Would you give up?  Would you close the book and put it away?  Would you cash in your chips?


You do understand transitioning at your own hand is a one way ticket back to the physical?  You don’t go through Transition Tunnel.  You don’t go through Transition Hall.  There is no reunion with your Soul Group.


This is NOT a punishment.  You simply have to learn that when a challenge arises you must face it and beat it back.  Life is a gift that should not be returned.  Your transition is determined when you sign that contract I discussed earlier.  What happens when you breach a contract?  There are consequences, correct?  The consequence of transitioning at your own hand is a one way ticket back to the physical.  Not only that, but you’ll find the same challenge at the same time in your life that caused your distress.


The point is:
Life is a mystery.  Don’t look for a reason for every circumstance.  Live life and do your best to be happy. Find joy even in the challenge that life presents.


Challenges will arise.  Meet them and don’t run away.  If you can find a way to laugh at your present moment even if you don’t want to you’ll find life will be easier.  Stress will vanish and you’ll be happier.  Just remember:
Your life is mapped in Transition Hall.
Everything that is happening is supposed to be happening according to the contract your soul signed in Transition Hall.  Life is a gift.  Don’t return it prematurely!


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Nothing is Permanent

Nothing is permanent in each of our incarnations; The only permanence is in the fact that we return again and again and we meet the same people again and again.


Christopher Jennings Penders


I was reminded of this last week while waiting for my walking partner and friend.  Doris Z. someone I just met about six months ago came up to me and told me she has lung cancer.  She never smoked.  I felt honored that she felt comfortable enough with me after only just meeting me to share such intimate details with me.  Laura B. another friend saw me a few weeks ago and mentioned that as long as she has known me, for almost twenty years, she has noticed how many people feel an instant connection with me and almost immediately upon meeting feel at ease and begin sharing intimate details of their lives.


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I never really gave that any thought but after Laura mentioned it, and after my conversation with Doris it all struck me at once that Laura was correct.


Nothing is permanent.  I originally was going in a completely different direction with this column.  However after having that conversation in the parking lot while waiting for my walking partner, I decided I needed to give credit to Doris and have her in my thoughts.  I did my best to comfort her.  I don’t know how successful I was however.  I always feel like I should do more to help those in need.  I want nothing more than to wave a magic wand and make everything all better for those in any kind of pain, whether it be physical or emotional.  It’s just the kind of person I am.  I can’t change my DNA.


If we can only remember that nothing is permanent, not pain, not blessings, not the weather, our lives would be dramatically improved.  Change is inevitable and we don’t have to view that as a negative.  To many people resist the inevitability of change and fighting it only causes us distress.  As I constantly say at Wisdom and Life:
Why not flow with the current?  Row your boat down the stream.


It’s only when we fight the current.
It’s only when we resist change.


That we struggle.


Everything that is happening in our lives is supposed to happen is it is unfolding anyway.  Our lives have been mapped out for us, by us before we incarnate anyway.


So don’t resist.
So don’t struggle.


Having relationship challenges?

It’s part of why you chose the relationship you’re in.

It’s why you’re having a challenge with your partner, whether they be your lover, your mate or simply a friend.  Every relationship you experience over the course of each incarnation you have is there to help you grow, to help you learn.  Everyone in your circle has ALWAYS been with you.  And we change relationships during each incarnation.  In one you may have a best friend.  In a previous or future incarnation that best friend may be your husband or your wife, they may be your brother or sister.  They may transition early or late.  It all depends on their decision.


That’s why I say that nothing is permanent except our continual recycling, our continual reincarnating.  I’ve said it before:
God was the first to think green.


So if you are experiencing an emotional storm.
So If you are experiencing physical pain.


Nothing is permanent.

And all the challenges we face are put in our path to help us grow beyond our dreams, to help us move up another rung in that spiritual ladder.  


Our final goal is to get to a point where we aren’t directed to return but where we can CHOOSE to return, to reincarnate.  Where we become one with God.  Our souls are constantly evolving and at some point we hope to get to the place where we don’t HAVE TO return.  Where we can choose to return if we want to.


As I said:

Nothing is permanent in each of our incarnations; The only permanence is in the fact that we return again and again and we meet the same people again and again.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.



Enjoy the Roses

One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living.  We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon–instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.


Dale  Carnegie
Change Your Life
Allen Klein
Page 121

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Dale Carnegie’s name is synonymous with his influential book:
How To Win Friends and Influence People.  After having written such a book, it should be no surprise to anyone that he was so forward thinking and such an authority on positivity.  The above quote from Mr Carnegie resonated with me because I do my best to live my life using that as a barometer.  If we all looked for the positive instead of the negative, if we all saw what was in front of us instead of what was down the road, if we simply lived in the moment and didn’t try to forecast our lives, if we didn’t always look for that crystal ball, our lives would work out just the way it is supposed to.  As my readers are aware I’m a huge believer in predestination.  Life always works out as it is planned.  After all we plan our lives before we incarnate in Transition Hall.

–If only we could remember that everything in our lives are working out JUST the way it is supposed to.
–If only we could remember that WE planned everything from the challenges we face to the gifts that are presented to us.
–If only we could remember transition hall.


Think how much stress would be removed from our lives.
Think how our lives would change.


We would see the world in a completely different way:
We would be better people to everyone.
We would stop using people.


Then, would we REALLY want to remember?  It’s as I’ve written previously:
The reason we do NOT recall our previous incarnations
The reason we do NOT recall our time in Transition Hall


is that we’d be cheating on the most important test(s) of our lives.  We would already know all the answers and how to avoid the challenges in our lives.  God blinds us to the reality that we are truly spiritual beings having a human experience.


He gives the truth to all of us though as well.  We only have to look for it.  We only have to be open to it. Those of us who discover the true meaning of life are blessed because we grow beyond the stress.


We see that living in the moment,

We see that enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.


is the ONLY way to live.  Wisdom and Life does its best to part the physical veil, to show the spirit world is all around us.  We simply have to be open to it.  Can you see it?  If you can’t as I’ve maintained all of my life:
Start small.


Mr Carnegie is right:
We need to spend time in the moment enjoying the roses that are blooming today.


Not what’s down the road.  For it is when we attempt to forecast our future that we get in trouble.  It is then that we lose sight of what is truly important.  As Eckhart Tolle is so fond of saying:
Staying in the Present Moment


You can clearly understand now that the adage:
What Goes Around Comes Around is relevant here today.  Mr Carnegie and Mr Tolle were ages apart and yet they are writing about the same philosophy.  It proves yet again that this philosophy worked at an earlier age and STILL works today.

Our True Family

The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.

Richard Bach


While I COMPLETELY understand that one’s family of origin is of utter importance to our molding as adults, once we have been shaped by our genetic family we can then choose our family.  And yes, I know we choose our genetic family We may well choose to continue our relationship with our genetic family or for whatever the reason may be we may choose to build a new one.

Your family of choice is whoever embraces you, whoever loves you, whoever will not leave your side.  Your family of choice, your true family is who you feel most comfortable with. They are those who are in your soul group.


I’m so fortunate to have a close circle of friends. They are my genetic friends. They are the friends I go to when I need reassurance, when I need someone to vent to, when I need to laugh.  If not for my genetic friends, I surely would not be where I am today.  We all have these people in our lives and I’m willing to bet that most of us have never considered that our genetic friends may well be in our soul group.  I’m here to tell you that you should consider it.  What other reason can you come up with for feeling an instant connection to someone.


Among this circle, there is one person who has slowly become my best friend, the person who will not leave my side, the person I can count on.  I’m convinced we have traveled together in each of our incarnations.  I’m convinced she is in my soul group.  From the moment we met I felt a connection to her.  We are bonded by something greater than friendship. We are family.  I’m fortunate to have found another member of my soul group in her.


I’m far from saying the others in my circle are less important, for they all have played important roles in shaping the person I have become.  They all have been there for me at various stages in my life when I needed them.  I owe each of them more than they will EVER know.


The first time I EVER felt an instant connection with someone was with a writer.  We both attended a writer’s course in 1989.  As I sat at my desk waiting for the class to begin, he walked into the room and I KNEW immediately that we were going to connect and be friends.  How did I know that?  I believe it is because our souls recognized each other.  See? I think we meet the others in our soul group when we most need them.  This particular writer arrived at a time when I most needed a confidant.  He became extremely important to me.  He listened to me when I went through a particularly challenging time in my life.  Now in 2014 we still stay in touch.  We are still friends.  Twenty five years later and we are still friends.


When I met another one of my friends in the early 1990s, she arrived (A little inside joke) at writer’s group for the first time and said EXACTLY what I felt:
She felt an instant bond, a connection unlike any other.  She knew in a moments glance that we’d be friends forever.  That doesn’t just happen.  I think again, it’s because our souls recognized each other.  Those in our soul groups are NOT necessarily romantic partners.  They are simply those we travel with during our incarnations and our transitions. We will EVENTUALLY find EVERYONE in our soul group, but only when we need to.


Our souls are magnetic and when we come into contact with others in our soul group, we vibrate at the same frequency. We have no choice but to be bonded.  We may not connect with everyone in our soul group for some time.  It took almost thirty years to find this particular person.  I believe we choose when we will meet when we are in Transition Hall.  We meet those in our soul group when we need them most.  And now it is over twenty years later and we are still friends. See?  We were right. Though twenty years is far from a lifetime, it IS the longest friendship I’ve maintained.  We’ve seen many challenges in each other’s lives.  We’ve seen some blessings as well.


The third writer I connected with now lives in Florida.  He returns to visit once a year and the three of us can pick up RIGHT where we left off.  We all have a Block Island obsession.  It’s another connection we share.  We traveled to Block Island in June as we do when he returns every year.


Madison Connecticut Business Owners:

Four of the others are partnered up.  Both couples own businesses in Madison.  And were it not for one business I surely would not have met the other couple.  Or my TRUE soul brother, Jeff.  You SIMPLY MUST read the previous link to see all the connections Jeff and I share.  After reading it then tell me you don’t believe.  I dare you!


It was in the land of misfit toys that I found my safe haven.
It was in the land of misfit toys that I met all of the others in my soul group.


I love all of my genetic friends in my soul group.  They are all so important to me and these two couples have been my sounding board for so many challenges that have cropped up in my life.  So many times I have come to them and they have listened.  That’s what your friends are for.  Sometimes, I have simply needed them to listen.  That’s something I struggle with, knowing when to just listen and when to offer advice.  When someone has something negative happening in their lives, my first inclination is to reach out and help.  It’s who I am.  I want to make everything better.  Sometimes someone simply wants an ear.  Sometimes someone simply wants a shoulder.  Not necessarily advice on how to fix something.  That’s just one of the reasons why not only the two couples are in my small circle of friends, why they are family, but why each of my friends here are so important to me.  I’m convinced now and will be until I transition that EVERYONE here is in my soul group.  Each one of these people and I felt an instant connection.  Magnets attract.  Our souls are magnetic.  Naturally, we vibrate at the same frequency as others in our soul group.  Hence those in our soul group recognize each other by our vibrations.   It’s the people I feel an instant connection too who I KNOW are in my soul group.  That feeling doesn’t just happen.  If you find it happening to you, pay attention to it.  Consider that connection may be the magnets in your souls attracting each other.  And remember!

Soul mates don’t necessarily have to be romantic.
Soul mates are everyone in your soul group.
Soul mates are part of your true family.



We all have a soul group.
We all have our genetic friends.


Who are yours?
Let me know in the comments below.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.