I’m Back

After my two month hiatus, I’m back.  These occasional breaks I take help me recalibrate. I come back reinvigorated to continue writing Wisdom and Life.

 

Having one weekly column to be responsible for, for the bulk of the summer months is less stressful for me than writing two a week. Writing for Wisdom and Life is sometimes more challenging than writing for CJPPhotoNews. I’ve mentioned that before as well.

 

I think the reason for this is Wisdom and Life has been in operation since 2010 and I sometimes wonder whether I’m repeating myself. When these thoughts reemerge, I think about reinventing this blog, or shutting down. At the moment however, I’m going to keep the same structure, the same plan.  And I have no intent on shutting down. I may decide to take these breaks more frequently. Twice a year is what I’ve done the past two years. From December 25 until The first week in February and August and September.

 

See you next week.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Introverts Are Walking Contradictions

Wisdom and Life is going on Hiatus
for the month of August and perhaps September

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As a follow-up to last week’s column:
Are You Giving Yourself Enough “Me” Time
I want to say that it MAY SEEM as if I don’t like being around people. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I don’t like being in crowds, at huge functions. Introverts tend to stand off in a corner or stand alone when faced with lots of people.

 

If you see someone standing by themselves at a function, then you have to make the first move. Get an introvert to talk about what makes them tick and you won’t ever hear the end. Introverts don’t enjoy small talk.  They’d rather disappear then involve themselves in the inanity of what the weather is like, or how your day is going. Introverts crave deep meaning in their relationships. They may not have a plethora of friends. Several close relationships outside of family is all they really need.

 

Any more and they will look for a means of escape.

 

Those fortunate enough to break through the walls, can count on the introvert to be in their lives through anything.  Introverts will lay their lives on the line for those in their small circle. Break that trust, however, and you’ll find it tremendously challenging to get it back.  

 

Introverts, when emotionally wounded by someone, sometimes will not let the person who hurt them back in.  You may not even know why. For the introvert may simply ignore your calls, may block you from reaching out.  As with crowds and small talk, introverts abhor conflict. They will do just about anything to avoid it. They are uncomfortable speaking out to defend themselves when they feel they’ve been embarrassed, provoked.

 

They will shut down, avoid you, if you lash out at them in public. They will find that inner place in their soul where they can regroup.  It may take hours for them to return to the world. So consider your words and actions carefully when you have an introvert in your life. Consider your words and actions carefully with ANYONE in your life for that matter.

 

Introverts are walking contradictions.  On the one hand, they may seem aloof. They don’t interact well in crowds. Remove the crowd, get them one on one and you’ll see a COMPLETELY different person.  Avoid small talk, find the deeper conversation and watch the introvert become almost extroverted when interacting with you.  Above all, don’t attempt to remake the introvert. Do NOT expect them to become an extrovert. Accept them for who they are and you’ll have a friend for life if you so choose to.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Are You Giving Yourself Enough “Me” Time?

Being an introvert at heart, I need more “ME” time than others may. As with writing, if I don’t get enough alone time I get irritable. I snap at people when I don’t necessarily mean to. It’s why I sometimes bail on pre planned events. Understand it has nothing to do with those people I made plans with and everything to do with me.

 

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Being an introvert at heart, I’ve always known I needed extra time to come down from activity but it wasn’t until a little over a year ago that I understand why. I’d been seeing the Myers-Briggs tests pop up all over the Internet and finally decided to see what they were all about. After taking a few tests over the course of a week or so I discovered that I was on the INFP scale. Everything finally fell into place for me and I understood WHY I required so much downtime.

 

Being an introvert at heart, can have its detriment.

My friends and family can sometimes misinterpret my needed “ME” time for being antisocial. Seeing as several people I’m my circle are extroverted, they get especially anxious (and I use that word for lack of a stronger word) when I decline invitations.

 

After a full day at work where I HAVE to be on, the LAST thing I want to do is to go out and be on. It’s why I love living alone.  I can go home and decompress, relax and write. Writing, as anyone who truly understands who I am is how I decompress. If I don’t have time to be alone I don’t fare well with others.
I wind up snapping when I shouldn’t.
I wind up creating friction.
I wind up finding somewhere to hide if I’m out with people

 

Being an introvert at heart, I don’t know that I could EVER live with someone full time, unless there was a safe place for me to run away to when I needed to decompress.  This could be one factor why I haven’t been successful in finding a long term relationship. What I want from a relationship might not exist. MOST of the time I’m pretty happy with the way my life is proceeding.  Loneliness doesn’t enter into my lexicon all that often. When it does, it vanishes almost as quickly as it arrived. I WOULD sometimes like to have a close friendship with someone who understands that when I need to pull away it has nothing to do with them.  

Being an introvert at heart can be challenging when I’m doing my best to find a relationship.

Because I need time to myself when embarking on a new friendship whether, romantic or platonic, time needs to be devoted to building that trust, to finding common interests. It can cause ANY introvert a flaming desire to run if too much time is spent in the company of others. Typically, for myself, I can spend one on one time with someone after I’ve become comfortable.

 

A first time meeting is not a good thing to witness at least with me. I don’t know what interests the other person has and it can be quite awkward which probably explains why I don’t get many second chances. The few times I have, my relationships have succeeded beyond any expectation.

 

As long as my friends and family give me the latitude I need, my life and my current and new friendships will continue to prosper. I just need to learn to speak up when I’m becoming overloaded. Being an introvert at heart, however, it can be challenging for us  to speak up. We are much better at expressing ourselves through the written word. It’s why so many introverts thrive as writers and artists. Wwe just need to be given the proper respect we deserve and we can thrive during any circumstance that arises.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Why Do You Write?

Uh oh!

Another column about writing?  Well it is part of who I am. Of all the questions I get the one that most fascinates me is:

Why do you write?

 

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Pixabay

 

That was an easier question to answer in my youth.  I wrote then to release stress. As with all with all school age students, I experienced my fair share of stress, from anxiety at school, to stress at home, to fitting in.

 

My personal writing schedule during my time living at home became extremely important to me and I made sure I gave myself time to write every night.  I usually worked best from seven to ten, typically after I finished any homework I had for the evening. There were times during the evenings I wrote, as I’ve mentioned here previously, that I would spend the entire three or four hour time period writing something and not even be aware that I wrote ANYTHING at ALL.  Being in the flow is an amazing experience, and I hope everyone can feel that at some point in their lives.

Everyone needs to release their stress, otherwise it will eat you from the inside out.  Writing helped me deal with life.  Some people turn to destructive behavior.  I turned CONstructive. It’s why my fiction turned dark:
Haunted Houses.
Vampires, werewolves, ghosts.

 

But even within that darkness, there turned a positive outcome.  I may have been dealing with emotional garbage, but I also understood that life would pivot, that it would get better.  All of my dark fiction had dark elements but EVERY ONE of my stories turned positive at their resolution. Which is how my life turned.  So even during my youth, I knew that even though life wasn’t easy at the time, I only had to hang on. In my youth, writing became my crutch.  I could feel myself circling the drain when I didn’t spend time writing. I was more volatile, more distressed. Writing kept me balanced. Another surprising aspect to my writing was that I could NEVER write from a male’s point of view.  

 

All of my fiction uses female protagonists.  I gave sincere efforts to use a male voice on many occasions, but always failed.  Probably the same reason I have more female friends.  So many times I started a short story using a male’s voice.  I’d get through a page or two and realize that I was simply going through the motions. I wasn’t enjoying the task.  I’d stop for a time and return later and try again. It just wasn’t working. So I’d scrap the couple of pages and start again using the female voice I became comfortable with.

 

My writing has changed from the time I spent at it in my youth.
Now?
Well, it has transitioned to short bursts.  A page or two for the most part. Blogging has become the writing I do now.  I still NEED to write, but not for the same reasons I wrote in my youth. Writing still smooths my edges, still alleviates my stress levels.  I still understand when I’m not spending enough time tapping on the keyboard. But now I write for other reasons then simply de-stressing. I write because it’s who I am.

 

I’m a writer.  And as I’ve said here on multiple occasions:
A writer writes.

 

You may as well ask me:
Why do you breathe?

Writing IS Breathing

Since I’ve been writing for as long as I could write, with the exception of a ten year period from 2000 to 2010, it became as imperative for me to write as it is to breath.  During that ten year period I lost the itch to write and surprisingly, I didn’t even miss it.  When the gift was given back to me, I decided that I would do everything in my power to make sure I didn’t lose the desire again.

 

Having deadlines now also provides me an impetus.  Which is another reason blogging is a valuable tool for any new writer.  Having deadlines will surely impress upon any artist the need to produce.  A blogger should be producing and publishing on the same day every week, I’ve said it here before as well that your readers come to rely on your columns to be consistent.  So for all of these reasons and more, writing has given me the gift of my voice. Even when I have a challenge speaking on occasion, I have my writing to show my intelligence.

Since I started this column today, discussing questions writers get, I think the one question that EVERY writer bristles at is:
Where do you get your ideas?  Am I right?

 

I keep returning to Wisdom and Life’s previous entries here only because I’ve written so many columns that there seems to be a topic for each subject I discuss.  

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Right Where You are Supposed To Be

There is one aspect of Spirituality and Law of Attraction that states:
You’re right where you are supposed to be.  Wisdom and Life’s Category on Predestination explains how your life is already planned for you BEFORE you incarnate.  If you believe your life isn’t working out the way you thought it would, don’t fret, and remember that your soul planned everything that is happening RIGHT NOW!  It can be comforting to understand this if you’re constantly attempting to change the circumstances you find yourself in. Don’t engage in a fruitless attempt to change something that is beyond your control.  That will only cause you more anxiety.

 

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Remember:
You’re right where you’re supposed to be.
Life isn’t supposed to be a struggle.
Life is about moving forward and not looking back.

 

I understand that some of you may have a difficult time grasping this thought process and that’s fine, As I’ve said here when I sometimes tend to go off The Deep End, I don’t expect everyone to understand and accept my ENTIRE worldview, I’m simply putting some of these concepts out there so my readers can try them on and see if they fit.

 

Another reason I’m bringing this opinion forward is that I know people who are struggling at the moment, if I can help them see that everything is going to be alright, that if they can’t get it right in this incarnation, that you will have plenty of opportunity to do better in your next incarnation.  I’m not saying this to create an excuse for the challenges in your life at the moment. You still have to do the work to create the life you want. But if you don’t see your efforts bringing immediate results, keep moving forward.
Life is a marathon.  Not a sprint.

 

Worry only brings more stress.  And stress and worry cause emotional and physical challenges.  If you can find a way to rid yourself of that stress, you’ll find your life easier.  Not everyone has that capacity, however. We all have the worry gene. In some of us that gene is stronger; in some of us it is barely there.  What those of us who have a strong worry gene have to do, is work on tamping it down. Not easy, I know.

 

What you have to realize though, is how do you feel when you worry all the time.  That pit in your stomach? Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could get rid of it?

 

Remember,
God is in control.  
Your life is planned out.

 

Stay in the present moment and nothing bad will happen.
You’re right where you’re supposed to be.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Independence Day 2018

I know it really isn’t Independence Day today. But then if you follow John Adams and his thought process:
See below.
Maybe it is

 

Seeing as we are into the Independence Day week, and even though Monday is not the 4th, I’ve decided not to post a regular column today.  Did you know we MAY be celebrating on the wrong day?:
July 2nd is the real Independence Day? John Adams thought so

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CJP Photos

 

 

Regardless.  July 4 is our Independence Day.   And I wish you all a happy and safe holiday.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Walking And Writing

Several writers I know are walkers.  
They walk to break writer’s block.
They walk to create inspiration

Walking Image from:
Pixabay
Writing Image from:
Pixabay

There is a host of data to suggest that walking helps writers break through any creative obstacles they may face

 

How does walking (away from something you’re working on) affect your writing?  When you’re away from your computer or your writing implement, you tend to let your mind wander and you’re not as focused on the task at hand:

Writing.

 

For myself, I’ve found that hiking in the woods contributes more to opening my muse than walking downtown.  I hear nothing in the woods or everything. What does that mean?

I don’t hear the hum of vehicles and people.
I don’t hear footsteps on concrete.
I don’t hear bikes whizzing by.

 

When I’m in the woods, there’s a different noise.
Birds chirping.
Tree frogs if you’re out at dusk.
Cicadas and crickets.

 

Walking/hiking clears your head.  It can be a source of meditation. And meditation can help when you’re working through a block.   Walking alone can sometimes be a benefit because you’re within your own thoughts, (thus providing the opportunity to meditate,) and you can walk at your own pace.  Solo walking also helps in the process of imagination, for it presents the opportunity of looking within for the challenge you’re facing, whether the challenge has to do with writing or something else.  Inspiration sometimes strikes when you’re alone and it’s better especially if you need to clear a logjam in your thought process. You certainly don’t want someone interfering by talking when all you want is silent introspection.  If you’re in this place, I would recommend avoiding the city/town and find a wooded trail to hike.

 

Walking with others, especially another writer can be helpful as well.  You can bounce ideas off each other and since you’re both of the same ilk, you can feed each other and hopefully, since you’re walking partners you understand when you need silence to consider a block and when you need to talk something through.  It even might be interesting to have a writer/walker group where you can set aside a specifically scheduled time to walk and discuss your writing needs. If this is something you’re considering, then you should set ground rules:
Treat the walk as you would any writer’s group
Anything discussed MUST be writing related.

 

So my advice:
If you’re struggling with working out a writing challenge, shut off your computer, shut off your brain and find a wooded trail.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

 

 

 

If Your Desire Is Strong Enough

If your desire is strong enough, it doesn’t matter what your beliefs are. If you have a desire that is strong enough, that desire will be the dominant vibration, and it will override any other vibration that you have.

 

Abraham-Hicks
May 27, 2018

 

I’ve seen this happen countless times in my own life.  As I’ve written here many times over:
Becoming a successful artist was NEVER NOT going to happen.
Working at my local library was NEVER NOT going to happen.

 

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Pixabay

 

What Abraham Hicks is saying is that if you want something badly enough, and you work to acquire what you desire, nothing will prevent you from reaching that goal. Desiring that which you want is the first step. Once that desire is set in motion, it is difficult to NOT think about that wanting. The more thought, the more desire you give, the stronger that becomes.  It’s like you’re willing what you want into fruition. Heck. It’s not LIKE you’re doing it.

 

You ARE willing that which you desire to be received.

 

One of the tenets of Law of is:
Ask for what you want then wait for it to arrive

 

Put that desire out to the Universe and the Universe will go to work for you. As long as you continue to ruminate over the thought, it can’t help but become a reality.

 

You have to believe.
You still have to do the work. Nothing is ever handed to you without some work on your part. I think one of the things that got lost in translation with Law of Attraction is the belief that you don’t have to do anything to get what you want. I’ve never known that to be the case.

 

As an example:
My job at my local library. I knew beyond all doubt that I’d be hired. But it didn’t mean that I didn’t have to put in the work to receive my library science degree BEFORE I was hired full time.

 

Everything you ever received came with a price. Whether it’s education to get that prize.
Whether it’s talent you had to perfect.
Whether it’s motivation to become a better person.

 

For each thing you do to improve yourself there is work to be done. Nothing comes to you for free. With that in mind, if you’re willing to do the work, if you have a desire you only have to express it to the Universe then do the work to receive it and the Universe will respond in the positive.

 

We live in a universe of cause and effect:
Cause:
The desire of wanting.

Effect:
Bringing that want into your world.  It’s as simple as that.

Ask for something and see what happens.  You may be surprised.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Blue Light and Sleep

Wisdom and Life typically discusses Spirituality and Law of Attraction.  It’s not the only topic I discuss.  There are a whole plethora of categories at Wisdom and Life.  If you’re interested in other subjects, simply scroll down a bit and look through the categories.  One of the subjects I’ve written about here on several occasions is the effect of sleep on your lifestyle.  You can read those columns at my Health and Fitness category

 

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Wikipedia

 

Today I want to discuss the challenges that light and specifically blue light has on our health and our sleep.  I recently read a WebMD Magazine article on Blue Light.  That started me down this path.  If you’re interested in reading the entire article, it starts on page 38.  There’s not much I did not know before reading the article. However I believe it is still worth reading.

 

I remember when I lived at home with my family, my bedroom was also my entertainment center.  I owned a VCR, a computer and a television. All three of these products emit light and the amount of light in my room light affects my productive sleep.  I covered all products that give out light. And when my mom would see me doing so, she’d scoff.
If your eyes are closed you can’t see the light.

 

While in some respect that’s true, the light you see is only one factor to consider.  Light (any light) plays a role in your overall sleep patterns. Even if you can’t “see” the light, you CAN feel it.  If what my mom says is true that when you close your eyes you can’t see the light, then why not try sleeping in broad daylight?

 

Blue light, which ostensibly is the topic of today’s column has tremendous side effects on our health and sleep.  So what’s the solution. According to the WebMD article:
–Install dimmer switches in your home and at dusk, begin using them, dimming the light in your home.
–An hour or two before going to bed, stop using all electronic monitors.  That means televisions, computer monitors and phones.

 

Also according to WebMD:
By far the best documented consequence of excess evening light exposure is short-term sleep disruption. In one study, people in a sleep lab who read from an e-reader at night saw their nighttime melatonin levels drop by 55% after five days, took longer to fall asleep, had less restorative rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, and felt groggier the next day than those reading a paper book.

Page 41

 

So the solution is:
Stop reading e-readers.  ESPECIALLY (or at least) at night!

 

My suggestion is:
Keep ALL electronics out of your bedroom and if you MUST read then do so outside of your bedroom.

 

Your bedroom should be used for one thing:
Sleep

 

If you do anything else in that room, your body will subconsciously begin to understand that sleep is secondary to your bedroom, not specifically for sleep.  That’s not a good thing if you want to sleep well.

 

I do my best to follow the above step (Turning off all electronics before going to bed.)  I’m not always successful. The point is to attempt to do this. I know that when I do turn off. I generally have a more productive night’s sleep.  We can all do little things to help our overall health and nothing is more important to our health than getting a proper amount of sleep each night.

 

Do you follow any of these steps?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.