“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
Founder of Buddhism
I learned this about fifteen years ago, after a lifetime of being shown. As is ALWAYS the case though, you’ll wear your emotional blinders until you’re ready to see. Once you remove those blinders, spirit will rejoice and you’ll see the world in a completely new way. Learning the lesson lifted a huge burden from my soul. I no longer hold grudges. I no longer stay angry. Holding onto those negative emotions hurts YOU. It does nothing to the person you’re angry at. Thus you become a victim twice. The victimizer wins twice as well. Unfortunately there are many more people who haven’t learned this valuable lesson yet. They are doomed to repeat the lesson over and over, just as I did until they realize for themselves. All it takes is one small adjustment to their attitude.
Stop being the victim. If you can let go of that hot piece of coal, imagine how much better you’ll feel. Think about that coal in your stomach. How does THAT feel? That pit in your stomach? That anger? Do you REALLY feel good holding onto it? I bet you don’t. Drop that hot piece of coal. It’s not worth holding onto.
I’ve had people marvel at how I’ve perfected the release. I continually hear something I take a huge amount of gratitude in:
I’m still angry and you’ve let it all go. How did you do that? Why did you do that? Now I feel guilty for being angry.
OK. Let’s take a look at that last sentence:
Now I feel guilty for being angry.
What word do you think should be emphasized here? What word do you think I think should be emphasized?
How about FEEL? Stop and think for a minute. If someone was hurt and you were in their presence and that person who was hurt overcame the turmoil why should you carry THEIR emotional baggage. You’re still only hurting yourself.
Are you holding onto any emotional turmoil? Do you hold onto your hot coal for far too long? Why do you do that when it only hurts you? Drop it, throw it way, release it. That hot coal does no one any good.
Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!