A Helping Hand Can Help You

When you see someone living something awful, a rocket of desire for their resolution shoots out of you. And then, if you start focusing upon their resolution, you’ll start feeling better right away. And now, you’re part of the current that is part of the solution.

Abraham-Hicks
May 7, 2018

 

Have you known this to happen?  If you’re in a low place and someone you know is in a lower place, see if reaching out to them and offering an ear, offering a hug, offering advice if they ask for it, you just may find yourself feeling better.

 

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One of my friends has told me repeatedly that she’d love to help me when she can clearly see that I’m in distress. She knows me so well that even when I THINK I’m hiding it well, she sees through the shade.  

 

One of my INFP personality traits is that I have a difficult time with sharing my challenges, EVEN with my closest friends and family. I’d rather help others deal with their own issues. I’m doing my best to overcome that, but after years of living that trait, it doesn’t come easy to stop doing so.  

 

I understand that by sharing our own challenges we show our vulnerability and that can deepen a relationship.  If we stay closed off, if we don’t share what is troubling us, our friends may look elsewhere for people who will.  If we long for an intimate relationship with another person, then:
–We have to learn to trust them.  
–We have to remove our own walls.

 

–Once we begin to show our vulnerabilities,
–Once we open our emotional wounds to those we trust or are trying to build trust with, we will find that relationship we have been searching for.

 

It won’t happen overnight.  However if you want to build commitment, if you want others to feel good about themselves when they are in distress, then it is important to let your own walls down.  Let others inside. Let them help you, because as Abraham-Hicks states above:
By helping someone else, you are also helping yourself.

 

The concentration is off your own challenges and onto someone else.  Thus you’re not dwelling on your own situation. Here’s a writing example for those who write:
Have you ever faced a situation where you’re blocked?  By moving to another project, whether it’s another writing project or some other creative endeavor you do on the side, your thought gets refocused on the new project, freeing you up.  Quite often by removing yourself from the block, you get unblocked because you’re no longer focused on that.

 

So my advice to those of you in the INFP personality who have a challenging time letting your guard down with your closest friends and family, think about how this affects THEM.  They may need to focus on something else while dealing with their own issues. Help them by letting them help you.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

The Thought You’re Thinking

The thought that you think, you think, which attracts to it; so you think it some more, which attracts to it; so you think it some more. In other words, when you have an expectation, you’ve got a dominant thought going on, and Law of Attraction is going to deliver that to you again, and again and again. And you say “The reason that I believe this, is because it is true.” And we say, the reason that you believe it, is because you’ve practiced the thought. All that a belief is, is a thought that you keep practicing.

 

Abraham-Hicks
Thursday,May 3, 2018

 

If you’re thinking is negative and you wonder why challenging events continue to appear in your life, then maybe it’s time to reconsider your thought process. That’s the concept behind Law of Attraction:
Stop thinking negativity and refocus on the positive of your life and you’ll see things start to turn in your favor.

 

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I certainly understand that some of you may see LoA as esoteric, as new age. However I ask those of you who feel that way to spend a month or so exploring the concept and comparing LoA to religious beliefs and I believe you will find compatible issues with both.

 

It’s important that you stop focusing on WHAT MAY happen and draw your attention to WHAT IS happening. Staying in the present moment is another key in LoA. Nothing bad can happen in the present moment.

 

Abraham-Hicks is correct:
By focusing on the positive in your life, the challenges will move away.

 

As I’m fond of saying here. I understand this is easier said than done. Some see this as a platitude. And unless we are in the person’s shoes we shouldn’t be offering this up as something to consider.  The events in our individual lives can be causing stress beyond all comprehension and hearing someone offer up a new way of processing that stress can often be counter productive.

 

My response to that is
What have you got to lose?

 

If you’ve exhausted all other factors and you want to feel better emotionally, see if this will help you. One of the things I’ve discussed here earlier about discovering if Law of Attraction will work for you is to:
Start Small

 

Stop focusing on the negative.
Start focusing on everything good in your life. And remember:
The thought you have is the reality you are creating!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Why Is This Happening?

On this day of your life I believe God wants you to know that “Why is this happening?” is the most useless question in the Universe.

 

Neale Donald Walsch Daily Inspiration

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Wikipedia

 

Neale Donald Walsch (NDS) has been an inspiration to me since I read his three volume set:
Conversations With God.  Might I also recommend the movie:
Conversations With God DVD.

 

The movie is quite different from the books but still worth watching.  I receive NDS daily email inspiration and it is one more spark I use when I write Wisdom and Life.

 

Asking why is silly for those of us who believe we are watched over.  We know there is a reason for all that happens. That’s why as Neale says in the above quote that:
Why is the most useless question in the Universe.

 

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Why is it useless?  Because we understand the answer is not always simple.  Don’t ask why, Why is backward. Life isn’t about going backward.  Life is about moving forward, putting one foot in front of the other.  Why is this happening doesn’t solve anything.

 

Move forward with your life.  Looking back and asking why is this happening won’t help you resolve the question.  You need to stop asking why and blaming others.  Face your life and the decisions you’ve made that have brought you to this place.  Nothing will change until and unless you realize that YOU are in charge of YOUR life.  Asking why won’t help anyway as major decisions have been made before you chose to incarnate.

 

If you know anything about my worldview, you understand that predestination plays an intricate role in my life. Asking why is this happening is especially meaningless in my own life,  Even though I may not understand why at the moment, I trust that there IS a reason and that my soul made the choice before I incarnated.  The other thing I can say without hesitation is when something challenging happens, there is ALWAYS a gift that’s left behind. We simply have to be open to finding it.

 

Stop asking why and start embracing life.  You’ll find more joy in life when you decide to move forward to stop looking behind you.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Your Soul Energy

Your soul is interested in how you use your energy—what you create and whether you achieve your greatest potential.  It sees the experiences of your life as part of a larger, richer, more complete picture than the one you can see

Thoughts from the Heart of the Soul

 

 

I use a variety of resources for inspiration, many books to help me write about the topics of Wisdom and Life.  Gary Zukov is an author I’ve followed for awhile. He’s in the same vein as Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer.  I recommend reading some of his content.

 

As I’ve maintained at Wisdom and Life almost from its inception we all have a plan that has been divinely planned before we incarnate.  How do you know what your soul has intended?

 

When you’re doing what you SHOULD be doing, as the quote above says, your energy level will rise and that’s what your soul is interested in:
High energy.

 

So how do you achieve high energy?

You follow your bliss.  Your bliss is how you feel when you are doing what you love.  And whatever you do do NOT let anyone dissuade you from your soul’s plan.  That’s the time when you lose your energy.

 

The reason your soul sees your life as part of a larger fabric is that before you incarnate, it knows EVERYTHING you will you will face:
–Your soul knows when you will return to spirit, to the ethereal.
–Your soul knows when you’ll find your soulmate, and how you will spend your time together, whether as friends, lovers or married.
–Your soul knows how you will spend your life, what kind of career you will have.  It will do everything it can to show you your gifts then push you to follow your bliss.  In the end it’s up to you whether you listen to your soul or outside influences.

 

Listen to your soul so that you live in bliss!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Learning Turns Everything Into A Positive

Something just a BIT different today, although still a reflection of the themes I discuss regularly at Wisdom and Life.  This time I’m discussing Gratitude as it relates to Tom Brady and his 2018 loss in Super Bowl 52.  As you can see from the preceding link, Brady says he’s grateful for getting to Super Bowl 52.  He says all the right things and everything I believe as well is reflected in his statements.  I especially like the title of this column today.  And yes, Tom Brady is credited with saying:
Learning Turns Everything Into A Positive.

 

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I understand that The Patriots can be polarizing.  However, everyone should be able to identify with being grateful.  If you can separate The Patriots and Tom Brady from who they are and simply take Tom Brady’s lesson on finding the gift in loss, you’ll learn to live life in a better way.  It’s why I write this blog.  I want to show that there is another way.  But you still need to do the work.  You still need to apply the lessons.

 

Being Grateful is a HUGE lesson to learn.  Many people have still to learn that being grateful is the key to a positive life.  Even in life’s catastrophes, if you can take one thing away from adversity and turn it into a positive you’re on your way to living an affirmative life.  This is not an easy step to take when just learning about Law of Attraction, (LoA) which at its core is all about living a grateful life however the more you practice the tenets of LoA, the easier it will become.

 

Look at Tom Brady’s link above and you will clearly see someone practicing LoA.  He may not know that’s what he’s doing, however it is apparent to anyone who knows the tenets of the practice, that IS EXACTLY what he is saying.

 

Loss of anything or anyone is cause for reflection and distress.  The goal of reflecting on your challenge is to hopefully come out the other end of the adversity with a positive.  If someone who lost the most impactful game of the NFL season can pull out something grateful from the loss then anyone can find something in their own challenges to be grateful for.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

My Three Words

A few weeks ago in January at Shoreline Unitarian Universalist Society, I participated in the service. The members of the congregation join in on services on occasion. The subject of the service was for those who participated to choose three words that defined who they were. This is my write-up of my three words:

My Three Words:
Creativity
Faith
Gratitude

 

Creativity:
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Faith:
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Grateful:
Pixabay

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let’s take these words one at a time.

 

Creativity:
I remember being nine and ten years old writing short stories, going out with my first camera.  Creativity has always been part of who I am.  Try taking it away from me and I will cease being Chris Jennings.  

 

Being creative helps keep me centered.  Whether through writing or photography, if I didn’t have these outlets I would become much more anxious.  In fact, when I through long periods of not writing or not being behind my camera, I feel my stress level rising.  

 

Growing up wasn’t easy for me.  So many challenges.  Writing is how I released much of the stress that swirled around me.  I needed to write when I grew up.  When I didn’t spend the time writing, my irritability spiked.  It’s only because, life wasn’t easy for me.  Writing brought me back.  

 

Creativity is an important part of my life not just because it helps keeps me centered, but also because it is a gift I have and I feel that every gift we are given should be shared.  We who are creative don’t create to hide our art away.  All art is meant to be shared.  

 

Being creative means sharing our gifts

 

Faith:
I understand that this can be a tricky word for some of us at SUUS.  As one of the tenets of Unitarianism states:
We all come with our own belief systems and we all can believe what we feel works for us.

 

For me, faith has carried me through some extremely challenging times in my life.  So much has happened in my life:
Times when I should have not even survived

From experiencing multiple seizures as a six month old infant to having a subdural hematoma.  These seizures have had long lasting but no underlying physical effects.

 

I sincerely believe faith helped me survive through all of these challenges I faced.  I understand that without my strong faith in myself and in the divine I don’t think I’d be here standing before you all today.  Faith doesn’t have to be a religious word.  

It can be spiritual.
It can be strength.
It can be a belief in something where there is no proof.

 

For me Faith is all three of these statements and more.  Faith is one of the tenets I live by now.

Faith in knowing that I’m what where I’m supposed to be.
Faith in knowing that everything that happens is happening for my greatest good.

 

Gratitude:
Being grateful is important to everyone’s wellbeing.  If we can follow this simple rule:
Be grateful for what we have.

 

Our lives will improve exponentially.  It can be difficult to follow when something happens to distress us.  What we have to remember though is that things can always be worse.  Look for the positive in every challenge we face and you’ll find your life turning around.  You can always find something in a challenge to be grateful for.  It’s how I do my best to live my life now.  You may not see the gift when you’re in the middle of the challenge, but I imagine we can all look back at something that happened to each of us that initially was a negative but later we realzed something good came from it.  

 

The other thing I’ve learned as far as being grateful goes is:
When a challenge arises that we have no control over, why stress over it?  Stressing over something we have no control over will only cause us more anxiety which in turn will only hurt us physically and emotionally in the long run.  If there’s nothing we can do to change a situation don’t stress and look for gratitude.

 

That’s what I mean by being grateful for everything whether positive or negative.  If we can make an effort to do this you’ll see life will be much easier.  Learn gratitude.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

November is the Grateful Month

Jean Wise at Healthy Spirituality discusses what Being Grateful means to at her her own blog.  We have similar thoughts not only on this topic but throughout the entire spectrum of both our blogs.

 

Thanksgiving has passed and we are now in full holiday mode. I heard it said last week that November is the thankful month and December is the “I want” month or something similar.

 

We shouldn’t have to rely on one month to be thankful.  We should be grateful 24-7/365.

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What are you thankful for?  And how can you carry that gratitude with you into December and beyond?  There is only so much that we can want before we start having too much.  Instead of “Wanting” in December, why not consider the true meaning of Christmas and other Winter holidays?

 

What do you think the TRUE meaning of the holidays are?  I can tell what it’s not:
It’s NOT about Santa Claus.
It’s NOT about getting “things.”
It’s NOT about Black Friday.
It’s NOT about wishing you spent more money on the people you love.

 

Then what IS the true meaning of the Christmas season?
Spending time with loved ones.
Being grateful for what you have and not wanting more.

 

Being grateful is one of the tenets of Law of Attraction.  If you know anything about Law of Attraction (LoA), it may well be from The Secret.  The Secret is only just one aspect of LoA however.  The Secret discussed how to GET THINGS.  But there is so much more to the practice.  LoA is REALLY a way of living your life and Being Grateful is the major tenet of the practice.  Being Grateful for what you have and not wanting anymore.

 

Interesting that Veteran’s Day and Thanksgiving fall in the same month.  For those are two days we should be thankful.  And it’s why I think that November is indeed called the Thankful Month.  We should be thanking US Veterans when we see them, not just in November but EVERY TIME we see them.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Einstein’s Happiness

A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness

 

Einstein’s Happiness

 

As can be seen from the following link Einstein at Wisdom and Life,

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I’ve written extensively about the man.  This quote from Einstein is much like:
Don’t chase the money.  Also a topic I’ve discussed at:  
Parental Pressure

 

That adage that there is nothing new under the sun once more proves itself accurate.  The Don’t Chase the Money and A calm and modest life…  are on in the same.  I find it fascinating that Einstein left this note in place of a tip.  Was he relaying a message that money isn’t what is needed to bring happiness?

 

Yes.  You need money to live your life.  I’m not denying that.  However, unceasing pursuit of money at the expense of every other aspect of your life can be emotionally as well as physically damaging.  

 

It can cause your stress levels to rise.
It can cause physical illness. Stomach upset, headaches. Blood pressure spikes.  All kinds of physical ailments can arise from psychological stress

 

That’s what Einstein meant and that’s what Don’t chase the money means.  Chasing money instead of chasing your bliss is not they way to live your life.  Being in a state of calm and living a modest life as Einstein says can create more more happiness, more peace than in a constant state of pursuit for money..

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Being rich is a state of mind anyway.  There is more than one rich too.  I reminded of the pilot episode of Wings in which two estranged brothers are brought back together to search for a treasure their late father left for them. Travelling all over New England, they finally arrive back in Nantucket where they started and find a suitcase in a locker at the airport where one of the brothers has a airline.  The two brothers open the suitcase, but before they do, they begin fantasizing about the treasure that COULD be inside.  When they open the suitcase there simply a picture of them playing on the beach when they are much younger and a note:
You’re rich.  Is all it says.  

 

In other words you don’t need money to be rich.
You need to love and be loved.
You need family and friends.

 

If have love, if you have family, if you have friends, if you can live a peaceful life and let everything else fall into place then you will find the calm life you are chasing.  And let’s not forget that your life has been mapped out for you long before chose to incarnate anyway.

 

The monumental parts that is.  Click the link above to get a feel for my belief about predestination.  There are 31 columns in the category.  You don’t have to read them all to understand my perspective.  Several will probably give you a feel.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Fishing with my Grandfather

I’ve invoked Jonathan Carroll’s name at Wisdom and Life often.  He is one spectacular writer.  In The Ghost in Love, there is a scene where Ben Gould, the protagonist of the story visits himself at earlier times in his life.  The scene that is most memorable is one where Ben witnesses himself as a young boy on a swingset.  So what does this have to do with fishing with my grandfather?  

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I’ve also written at Wisdom and Life about going back in time.  With this column today, I’m asking if you could travel back to a previous experience in your life and interact with the experience, where would you want to go and why? Now mind you, you can’t attempt to change anything, because as you know from reading the previous link about going back in time, any change you make, big or small will send your life in a completely different trajectory.  

 

 

 

With that being said, as a bridge to last week’s column:
Don’t Take Time For Granted

 

where would you like to go?

 

 

Me?
I’d choose fishing with my grandfather at Blissville Pond in Lisbon, Connecticut.  It’s one memory I love, and sitting with a fishing pole in my hand at Blissville Pond is where I go when I meditate.  It’s my safe place.  As my long time readers understand, my maternal grandparents have been important in making me who I am.  As an example:
My grandfather was ostensibly the only routine male in my life who I identified with as a young boy.
My grandfather bought me my first camera.
My grandfather taught me to fish as can be seen from this column.

 

I spent so much time fishing at Blissville Pond growing up, sometimes with my grandfather, sometimes on my own.  As I’ve written at Wisdom and Life many times over, I felt so fortunate to grow up on Graham Terrace in Lisbon, Connecticut.  
My best friend, Joe lived just down the street.

I could walk to Blissville Pond.
I wouldn’t trade growing up there for a thing.

 

It’s why Blissville Pond holds such magic for me and it’s why that’s the one experience I’d like to eavesdrop on now as an adult.  I’d love to interact with myself as a young boy with my grandfather.

 

Where would you like to go?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Signs, The Divine, and Spiritual Evolution

Have you ever thought that you wanted something so badly and you looked for signs that pointed in the direction of “the rightness,” of the choice but every time you turned around there were opposite signs pointing you in a different direction?

 

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Did you see these signs or did you choose to ignore them?  What do you suppose would happen if you chose to ignore them?  On a soul level we ALL know what feels right.  We ALL know when something is NOT supposed to happen and when we ignore the RIGHTNESS of something, the Divine will continue pushing you toward the right path.

 

Maybe it is a conversation you have with someone.

Maybe you overhear someone else and ONE word or a series of words get magnified and you ONLY hear THOSE words.  These are the things we MUST pay attention to.  It is the Divine directing us but unless we are aware, unless we are awake, unless our “spiritual blinders” are off we won’t understand, we won’t see, we won’t hear where Spirit is guiding us.

 

It’s important for our spiritual evolution to move forward.  And the only way we can develop beyond our current capacity is to listen our intuition, listen to our gut.  And when a choice is to be made, follow your intuition.  Your intuition is the direct pipeline to the divine.  If you receive a message in the form of an overheard conversation and the message appears to be telling you NOT to do something, then for heaven’s sake, heed the message.  For if you don’t and you stumble forward choosing to ignore THAT message then something stronger will come down the pike and knock you on your ass.

 

The first message you receive from the Divine can sometimes be VERY subtle, which is why it take practice to hear that message.  If you are indeed awake and you understand the messages that are filtering through the first time and you STILL choose to ignore them, then the NEXT time you hear from Spirit, the next message won’t be so subtle  I SINCERELY believe we get that next communication that is more brazen to wake us up, to shake the lethargy from our inner being.

 

There is no bad.
There is no negative.

 

Everything that happens in our lives, from blessings to challenges are simply the Divine’s attempt to move us forward, to help us grow, to help us evolve.  To move forward, however we have to start paying attention to the communications we receive.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.