The Mystery of Life

Some things will always remain a mystery at this level of consciousness, and it is right that they should. So do not try to solve all the mysteries. Give the universe a chance. It will unfold itself in due course. Enjoy the experience of becoming.

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How many of us sometimes want to know the outcome?
How many of us are tempted to read the last few pages of a book to discover the ending?


Are you EVER happy after you know what’s going to happen?  Do you continue reading, or does knowing what happens spoil the rest of the book?  As it would be if you knew the outcome of your life.


What’s the point of life if you remember in advance what’s going to happen next?  Remember?  Did you say, remember?  Yes indeed, I said remember.  You know of course that our lives have been mapped out.  We sign  a contract as I said in in the previous linkage.  It is in Transition Hall where we choose our next life, where we sign that contract that details what will happen and when it will happen in our lives.  If you find your life spinning out of control, if you are unhappy, if you are distressed, all I can say is:
Your soul chose this experience.
Your soul needs this to move on, to grow.


If you don’t find resolution in this incarnation, you will find it in another one.  Your soul is eternal, your current body is just a shell.  Your soul is what teaches your body.  I understand that while you are in your current turmoil, if you aren’t in the place where you’re aware of your soul and and the fact that your experiences have been mapped out, it can be VERY distressing to you that life isn’t working out according to your plan, but do you think it would make life any better, if you knew the outcome?


What if the outcome appeared more challenging than the experience?  Would you give up?  Would you close the book and put it away?  Would you cash in your chips?


You do understand transitioning at your own hand is a one way ticket back to the physical?  You don’t go through Transition Tunnel.  You don’t go through Transition Hall.  There is no reunion with your Soul Group.


This is NOT a punishment.  You simply have to learn that when a challenge arises you must face it and beat it back.  Life is a gift that should not be returned.  Your transition is determined when you sign that contract I discussed earlier.  What happens when you breach a contract?  There are consequences, correct?  The consequence of transitioning at your own hand is a one way ticket back to the physical.  Not only that, but you’ll find the same challenge at the same time in your life that caused your distress.


The point is:
Life is a mystery.  Don’t look for a reason for every circumstance.  Live life and do your best to be happy. Find joy even in the challenge that life presents.


Challenges will arise.  Meet them and don’t run away.  If you can find a way to laugh at your present moment even if you don’t want to you’ll find life will be easier.  Stress will vanish and you’ll be happier.  Just remember:
Your life is mapped in Transition Hall.
Everything that is happening is supposed to be happening according to the contract your soul signed in Transition Hall.  Life is a gift.  Don’t return it prematurely!


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Nothing is Permanent

Nothing is permanent in each of our incarnations; The only permanence is in the fact that we return again and again and we meet the same people again and again.


Christopher Jennings Penders


I was reminded of this last week while waiting for my walking partner and friend.  Doris Z. someone I just met about six months ago came up to me and told me she has lung cancer.  She never smoked.  I felt honored that she felt comfortable enough with me after only just meeting me to share such intimate details with me.  Laura B. another friend saw me a few weeks ago and mentioned that as long as she has known me, for almost twenty years, she has noticed how many people feel an instant connection with me and almost immediately upon meeting feel at ease and begin sharing intimate details of their lives.


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I never really gave that any thought but after Laura mentioned it, and after my conversation with Doris it all struck me at once that Laura was correct.


Nothing is permanent.  I originally was going in a completely different direction with this column.  However after having that conversation in the parking lot while waiting for my walking partner, I decided I needed to give credit to Doris and have her in my thoughts.  I did my best to comfort her.  I don’t know how successful I was however.  I always feel like I should do more to help those in need.  I want nothing more than to wave a magic wand and make everything all better for those in any kind of pain, whether it be physical or emotional.  It’s just the kind of person I am.  I can’t change my DNA.


If we can only remember that nothing is permanent, not pain, not blessings, not the weather, our lives would be dramatically improved.  Change is inevitable and we don’t have to view that as a negative.  To many people resist the inevitability of change and fighting it only causes us distress.  As I constantly say at Wisdom and Life:
Why not flow with the current?  Row your boat down the stream.


It’s only when we fight the current.
It’s only when we resist change.


That we struggle.


Everything that is happening in our lives is supposed to happen is it is unfolding anyway.  Our lives have been mapped out for us, by us before we incarnate anyway.


So don’t resist.
So don’t struggle.


Having relationship challenges?

It’s part of why you chose the relationship you’re in.

It’s why you’re having a challenge with your partner, whether they be your lover, your mate or simply a friend.  Every relationship you experience over the course of each incarnation you have is there to help you grow, to help you learn.  Everyone in your circle has ALWAYS been with you.  And we change relationships during each incarnation.  In one you may have a best friend.  In a previous or future incarnation that best friend may be your husband or your wife, they may be your brother or sister.  They may transition early or late.  It all depends on their decision.


That’s why I say that nothing is permanent except our continual recycling, our continual reincarnating.  I’ve said it before:
God was the first to think green.


So if you are experiencing an emotional storm.
So If you are experiencing physical pain.


Nothing is permanent.

And all the challenges we face are put in our path to help us grow beyond our dreams, to help us move up another rung in that spiritual ladder.  


Our final goal is to get to a point where we aren’t directed to return but where we can CHOOSE to return, to reincarnate.  Where we become one with God.  Our souls are constantly evolving and at some point we hope to get to the place where we don’t HAVE TO return.  Where we can choose to return if we want to.


As I said:

Nothing is permanent in each of our incarnations; The only permanence is in the fact that we return again and again and we meet the same people again and again.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.



Enjoy the Roses

One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living.  We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon–instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.


Dale  Carnegie
Change Your Life
Allen Klein
Page 121

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Dale Carnegie’s name is synonymous with his influential book:
How To Win Friends and Influence People.  After having written such a book, it should be no surprise to anyone that he was so forward thinking and such an authority on positivity.  The above quote from Mr Carnegie resonated with me because I do my best to live my life using that as a barometer.  If we all looked for the positive instead of the negative, if we all saw what was in front of us instead of what was down the road, if we simply lived in the moment and didn’t try to forecast our lives, if we didn’t always look for that crystal ball, our lives would work out just the way it is supposed to.  As my readers are aware I’m a huge believer in predestination.  Life always works out as it is planned.  After all we plan our lives before we incarnate in Transition Hall.

–If only we could remember that everything in our lives are working out JUST the way it is supposed to.
–If only we could remember that WE planned everything from the challenges we face to the gifts that are presented to us.
–If only we could remember transition hall.


Think how much stress would be removed from our lives.
Think how our lives would change.


We would see the world in a completely different way:
We would be better people to everyone.
We would stop using people.


Then, would we REALLY want to remember?  It’s as I’ve written previously:
The reason we do NOT recall our previous incarnations
The reason we do NOT recall our time in Transition Hall


is that we’d be cheating on the most important test(s) of our lives.  We would already know all the answers and how to avoid the challenges in our lives.  God blinds us to the reality that we are truly spiritual beings having a human experience.


He gives the truth to all of us though as well.  We only have to look for it.  We only have to be open to it. Those of us who discover the true meaning of life are blessed because we grow beyond the stress.


We see that living in the moment,

We see that enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.


is the ONLY way to live.  Wisdom and Life does its best to part the physical veil, to show the spirit world is all around us.  We simply have to be open to it.  Can you see it?  If you can’t as I’ve maintained all of my life:
Start small.


Mr Carnegie is right:
We need to spend time in the moment enjoying the roses that are blooming today.


Not what’s down the road.  For it is when we attempt to forecast our future that we get in trouble.  It is then that we lose sight of what is truly important.  As Eckhart Tolle is so fond of saying:
Staying in the Present Moment


You can clearly understand now that the adage:
What Goes Around Comes Around is relevant here today.  Mr Carnegie and Mr Tolle were ages apart and yet they are writing about the same philosophy.  It proves yet again that this philosophy worked at an earlier age and STILL works today.

Our True Family

The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.

Richard Bach


While I COMPLETELY understand that one’s family of origin is of utter importance to our molding as adults, once we have been shaped by our genetic family we can then choose our family.  And yes, I know we choose our genetic family We may well choose to continue our relationship with our genetic family or for whatever the reason may be we may choose to build a new one.

Your family of choice is whoever embraces you, whoever loves you, whoever will not leave your side.  Your family of choice, your true family is who you feel most comfortable with. They are those who are in your soul group.


I’m so fortunate to have a close circle of friends. They are my genetic friends. They are the friends I go to when I need reassurance, when I need someone to vent to, when I need to laugh.  If not for my genetic friends, I surely would not be where I am today.  We all have these people in our lives and I’m willing to bet that most of us have never considered that our genetic friends may well be in our soul group.  I’m here to tell you that you should consider it.  What other reason can you come up with for feeling an instant connection to someone.


Among this circle, there is one person who has slowly become my best friend, the person who will not leave my side, the person I can count on.  I’m convinced we have traveled together in each of our incarnations.  I’m convinced she is in my soul group.  From the moment we met I felt a connection to her.  We are bonded by something greater than friendship. We are family.  I’m fortunate to have found another member of my soul group in her.


I’m far from saying the others in my circle are less important, for they all have played important roles in shaping the person I have become.  They all have been there for me at various stages in my life when I needed them.  I owe each of them more than they will EVER know.


The first time I EVER felt an instant connection with someone was with a writer.  We both attended a writer’s course in 1989.  As I sat at my desk waiting for the class to begin, he walked into the room and I KNEW immediately that we were going to connect and be friends.  How did I know that?  I believe it is because our souls recognized each other.  See? I think we meet the others in our soul group when we most need them.  This particular writer arrived at a time when I most needed a confidant.  He became extremely important to me.  He listened to me when I went through a particularly challenging time in my life.  Now in 2014 we still stay in touch.  We are still friends.  Twenty five years later and we are still friends.


When I met another one of my friends in the early 1990s, she arrived (A little inside joke) at writer’s group for the first time and said EXACTLY what I felt:
She felt an instant bond, a connection unlike any other.  She knew in a moments glance that we’d be friends forever.  That doesn’t just happen.  I think again, it’s because our souls recognized each other.  Those in our soul groups are NOT necessarily romantic partners.  They are simply those we travel with during our incarnations and our transitions. We will EVENTUALLY find EVERYONE in our soul group, but only when we need to.


Our souls are magnetic and when we come into contact with others in our soul group, we vibrate at the same frequency. We have no choice but to be bonded.  We may not connect with everyone in our soul group for some time.  It took almost thirty years to find this particular person.  I believe we choose when we will meet when we are in Transition Hall.  We meet those in our soul group when we need them most.  And now it is over twenty years later and we are still friends. See?  We were right. Though twenty years is far from a lifetime, it IS the longest friendship I’ve maintained.  We’ve seen many challenges in each other’s lives.  We’ve seen some blessings as well.


The third writer I connected with now lives in Florida.  He returns to visit once a year and the three of us can pick up RIGHT where we left off.  We all have a Block Island obsession.  It’s another connection we share.  We traveled to Block Island in June as we do when he returns every year.


Madison Connecticut Business Owners:

Four of the others are partnered up.  Both couples own businesses in Madison.  And were it not for one business I surely would not have met the other couple.  Or my TRUE soul brother, Jeff.  You SIMPLY MUST read the previous link to see all the connections Jeff and I share.  After reading it then tell me you don’t believe.  I dare you!


It was in the land of misfit toys that I found my safe haven.
It was in the land of misfit toys that I met all of the others in my soul group.


I love all of my genetic friends in my soul group.  They are all so important to me and these two couples have been my sounding board for so many challenges that have cropped up in my life.  So many times I have come to them and they have listened.  That’s what your friends are for.  Sometimes, I have simply needed them to listen.  That’s something I struggle with, knowing when to just listen and when to offer advice.  When someone has something negative happening in their lives, my first inclination is to reach out and help.  It’s who I am.  I want to make everything better.  Sometimes someone simply wants an ear.  Sometimes someone simply wants a shoulder.  Not necessarily advice on how to fix something.  That’s just one of the reasons why not only the two couples are in my small circle of friends, why they are family, but why each of my friends here are so important to me.  I’m convinced now and will be until I transition that EVERYONE here is in my soul group.  Each one of these people and I felt an instant connection.  Magnets attract.  Our souls are magnetic.  Naturally, we vibrate at the same frequency as others in our soul group.  Hence those in our soul group recognize each other by our vibrations.   It’s the people I feel an instant connection too who I KNOW are in my soul group.  That feeling doesn’t just happen.  If you find it happening to you, pay attention to it.  Consider that connection may be the magnets in your souls attracting each other.  And remember!

Soul mates don’t necessarily have to be romantic.
Soul mates are everyone in your soul group.
Soul mates are part of your true family.



We all have a soul group.
We all have our genetic friends.


Who are yours?
Let me know in the comments below.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Ladder of Life

Tell me:
When will we as humanity realize that life is never done.  That death is not a reality and that what we don’t accomplish in one incarnation may be finished in our next life?


I see so many stressing because we are all worried about finding success whether it consist of love, financial gain, or joy. If we simply let go of that stress and understand that we have MANY MANY lifetimes to achieve what we are looking for, our lives would be far less anxious.   Think of life and transition as a ladder:
With each transition we go through and with each life we choose in transition hall, we move one rung up that ethereal ladder.

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Ladderto Heaven

There are no mistakes.
There are no wrong turns in this philosophy.


EVERYTHING becomes a lesson and we hopefully learn from that lesson so in our next incarnation, we remember on a soul level that lesson so we can move forward and not make the same mistake again.  If we don’t learn we will keep meeting the same challenge until we move beyond it.




I know!
I know!  I said there are no mistakes.  There aren’t, really.  Challenges?  Yes!  Lessons? Yes!


We have to move beyond thinking in negative terms.


If we can adopt the worldview that we return over and over and stop stressing over life; realize that we are ONE soul that echos through life, that is continually recycled, that we never get it wrong, that we have many lifetimes to improve, imagine how much better our lives would be.  Many have asked me how I seem to be in a lighter state now, that I seem to have metamorphosed.  This is one reason why.  I now understand that life is continually ricocheting, that I am one soul that has been recycled many many times.  I now understand that I have countless times to improve.


As I’ve said at Wisdom and Life previously, I in no way am using this philosophy as an excuse NOT to improve; I’m not saying to take anything for granted.  On the contrary, this worldview has only made me want to improve at a faster rate, this worldview has created in me a desire to watch for any challenges in this my latest incarnation and make the necessary adjustments, create the shift in my attitude NOW so if I MUST return again I will not come upon the same pothole again.  


A ladder is an apt description to use when seeing life as a continual cycle of life, transition and return.  Who is ready to join me and consider reincarnation as a philosophy?


It would certainly help us see that there truly are ONLY challenges and lessons to meet as we all climb the ladder to perfection, to become more Godlike.  This piece of the puzzle to my ENTIRE worldview is one of the reasons I have become the person I am today:
–Someone with a lighter heart.
–Someone who no longer holds grudges.
–Someone who understands that I have many lifetimes to get it right.


Tell me:
Who is with me?


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Winds of Change

I found a quote on Jigar Vyas G+ Profile last month that I felt compelled to write about:
When the winds of change blow, some people build walls and others build windmills.

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Funny, how a few weeks ago while I encountered a storm I built a wall.  I wrote about it in Trust the Universe.  I MUST learn to build windmills, as the Chinese suggest.  I’m typically so good at feeling the wind at my back, NOT resisting, using that imaginary windmill to my benefit.  In every other aspect of my life I use the wind to move me forward.  Challenges don’t get the best of me.  I’m stay positive.  If there is one positive that I can take away from the experience, it is as I said in Trust the Universe, because I’m in this paradigm now, I’m able to clear the debris, I’m able to use the wind to my benefit, I’m able to move beyond that challenge that arises in a quicker time period than before I had these tools.  So to some respect I DO build a windmill, but I just don’t build it soon enough.  And because I wait too long to construct it, the windmill has to perform twice as much work, blowing down that half built wall as well as remove the emotional debris.  While I understand these things after the fact and I ALWAYS promise myself that I’ll NEVER do that again, invariably that challenge will arise again and I will find myself building that wall again.


That’s the lesson I need to learn in this my most recent incarnation.  Remember one of my philosophies for reincarnation:
That we return over and over to learn from past experiences
That we need to learn our lessons and move beyond

That not only do we need to learn our lessons but we also need to implement those learned lessons in our next incarnation, otherwise we will continue seeing that same challenge every time we incarnate.


I need to stop building walls.  Not only does building walls keep the negative trapped inside, those same walls keep the positive out.  Those walls keep people from reaching in to help.  The Chinese have it right.:
When the winds of change blow, some people build walls and others build windmills.


I just need to implement the to tools I have at my disposal sooner rather than later.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Passing on the Street

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Karen Sisco: [at the hotel bar] So tell me, Gary, what do you do for a living?

Jack Foley: How far do you want to go with this?

Karen Sisco: Not yet. Don’t say anything yet.

Jack Foley: I don’t think it works if we’re somebody else. I mean, Gary and Celeste, what do they know about anything?

Karen Sisco: Well, this is your game, I’ve never played before.

Jack Foley: It’s not a game. It’s not something you play.

Karen Sisco: Well, does this make any sense to you?

Jack Foley: It doesn’t have to. It’s something that happens. It’s like seeing someone for the first time… like you could be passing on the street, and you look at each other and for a few seconds… there’s this kind of a recognition… like you both know something. The next moment, the person’s gone, and it’s too late to do anything about it. And you always remember it, because it was there, and you let it go, and you think to yourself, “What if I had stopped? If I had said something?”

Jack Foley: “What if, what if?” And it may only happen a few times in your life.



I watched Out Of Sight a few weeks ago for the first time since I went to the theater to see it and the movie held up surprisingly well.  I would expect nothing less from an Elmore Leonard story however.  With the cast included the movie could only BE a success.


This isn’t the first time I’ve included a Clooney reference at Wisdom and Life.  Check out Your Life is Like a River.  The passage I’m focusing on in the above scene is this one:
Jack Foley says:

It’s like seeing someone for the first time… like you could be passing on the street, and you look at each other and for a few seconds… there’s this kind of a recognition… like you both know something. The next moment, the person’s gone, and it’s too late to do anything about it. And you always remember it, because it was there, and you let it go, and you think to yourself, “What if I had stopped? If I had said something?”



My feeling is:
If you feel an instant connection with someone you meet on the street.

If your eyes meet and you BOTH have this recognition, you owe it to yourself to explore that.  Why would you let that pass?  Makes no sense.


You do understand my conception of past lives and reincarnation don’t you?  What if this person you passed is somehow in your Soul Group and this is your one opportunity to meet?  This could be a test for both of you.  Do you recognize each other’s souls enough to do something about it?


I bet you’re thinking what is Chris talking about.  A test?  Yeah I’m convinced that life is a series of tests given to us by the Divine.  How we perform guides us in our next incarnation.  Let’s take passing our soulmate on the street as an example:
If this person we feel an instant connection with
This person we don’t know from Adam in the physical sense passes us on the street and you BOTH stop look at each other.


Isn’t it worth a moment of your lifetime to explore the reason you feel that electricity?  Even if neither of you subscribe to the Past Life paradigm, how often do you have that electric feeling?


Karen Sisco says:
Well, does this make any sense to you?

Foley is right when he says it doesn’t have to make sense.  Attraction seldom makes sense.  –We are attracted to each other’s souls.
–That’s why there is the case of love at first sight.  It’s REALLY NOT first sight.  Oh yes in the physical sense it is.  But we knew each long before we passed each other on said street.
–We are brought together on a soul level to love, to work out our lessons together.


Meeting your soulmate at a specific time has been predestined from the time we chose our physical incarnation.  It’s up to us to act on the meeting.  We DO have control over some aspects of our lives as I’ve said here countless times.

This is information that some of you me feel is kind of esoteric.  Some of you may be shaking your heads thinking:
Wow!  Does Chris REALLY believe this?


My answer to that is a resounding YES!  As I’ve stated at Wisdom and Life:
This is who I am.  Take me or leave me.  I no longer worry what others think.  I’ve seen too much, been involved in too much to not understand that there is a fabric to this place we call the universe underneath everything else. You only have to remove your spiritual blinders to see there is SOOOO much more.


Can you take your blinders off and join me on this incredible journey that I’m on?


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


The Secret of Contentment

I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation,
whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or want.
I can do everything through him who gives me strength.
Philippians 4:12-13

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When someone who doesn’t know me well breaks into my inner circle and begins to understand the many challenges I faced growing up, the question that invariably comes up is:
How did you survive?


I understand that it sounds cliche, only because it seems that everyone says it, but for me it is the God’s honest truth.  More than anything else it was and continues to be my faith that pulls me through every situation I found myself in.


I understand that I’ve spoken here many times about the Divine/God/Source but that’s only because my faith plays a huge role in my life.  As the last line in in the quote says:
I can do everything through him who gives me strength.


Faith and my belief in predestination truly carried the day.
A belief that everything works for the greater good.
A belief that there are no bad things, everything that happens is meant to make us stronger, is meant to move us forward.


Life is an evolutionary process.
Life is about moving forward.  And since we return over and over, what we don’t get right in this, our latest incarnation we will have the opportunity to make right in the next life.


My secret of contentment,
My secret of peace,
My secret to life is this:
There are no mistakes!
There are no coincidences!
We return over and over, and we never get it completely right.


Someone asked me last week why we must be in this human shell, because after all that’s all our bodies are:
A shell encompassing what is REALLY important.
This body we are in, this shell we carry around with us is there to protect our inner being, our light, our spirit.  The truly important beings we are:

Our Souls.  We are after all spiritual beings having a human experience.


The sooner the bulk of humanity realizes this the better our world will be.

So returning to THAT question:
Why are trapped in this shell?


We incarnate into the physical because this is where we come to learn from past challenges.  If we remained as we truly are, Light, Spirit, Free; we would never move beyond our experience. The concept behind reincarnation is evolution.  The only way for us to evolve, to move closer to the Divine, to become more God like is to experience challenges in our lives. We certainly can’t have physical experiences while we are in our natural state.


You already know what I believe our natural state is:
One of light.  One of spirit.


So again the secret to my contentment
the secret to my peace
the secret to my joy is:

Understanding this
Understanding that predestination is ALWAYS working in my life.

That I chose this incarnation before I incarnated.  As I said in Soul Groups:
For it is in our humanity that we are tested.  And we don’t know our results until we are all together again in Transition Station.  Notice we go through Transition Tunnel to get to Transition Station?  It is only after we have each reviewed our lives with each member of our group that we can decide when to go back.  It is then that we are brought to Transition Hall.  Here is where we choose our next life.  That next life will be a result of how we performed in our previous life.


That’s my secret:
Knowing that I planned everything in my life.
Knowing that major events are indeed “carved in stone.”
Knowing that everything happens for the greater good.


I’m fortunate to have awakened.  Now I have an opportunity to awaken others, to help other remove their spiritual blinders and see the world for what it truly is:


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress,
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Dredging Up Memories

My friend, Jessica Mokrzycki


published Pain’s Precipice at her blog yesterday and it dredged up memories that were buried deep in my consciousness:

Spending time with The Professor’s Husband

Because like Jessica, I visited someone who I became close to over the course of several years. You can read about my friend in the linked column above.  I will say only this about our visits:
We were of the same spiritual ilk and it’s why I so enjoyed our conversations.


Jessica says at one point in Pain’s Precipice:
Others that come here to care for him that I talk to think him a silly old man that rambles on and on. I see him as a genius and if one only cares to listen he reveals a life where splendor shone daringly at its crest.


After my friend transitioned, I also heard the same stories about him:
That once his wife transitioned, he became entrenched in a spiritual fugue. (My turn of a phrase.)
That he lost a part of his cognition when his wife passed.
That he believed some “silly” thoughts.


I didn’t see this at all.
I saw the strong soul behind the man.


So, thank you, Jessica for bringing these wonderful memories I have of my time with The Professor’s Husband back around.  I so enjoyed my conversations with him, for he was about the ONLY person I could talk to about my worldview because we were BOTH on the same page when it came to these discussions.


Another memory Jessica’s column brings up is spending time with my maternal grandparents; only because she writes about her time with HER grandparents early on:
…Of sitting at my grandparent’s kitchen table after a night of sleeping over with my sister. Poached eggs, grapefruit and cantaloupe before us as well as my grandparent’s loving eyes and warm voices drifting melodically in a shared space made sacred. A time of memories being woven deep in the fibers of my consciousness. My heart winces as I know my grandmother is no more. Her remains now in a marble urn atop my grandfather’s dresser. Those days gone forever.


First I want to tell Jessica that my paradigm suggests that:
Those days are NOT gone forever.
That we will ALL see each other again in transition as well as in life.
I want to suggest reading Journey of Souls to her.


I have my own wonderful memories of spending time in Lisbon, Connecticut on Graham Terrace with my maternal grandparents:
There was the ubiquitous fishing hole two minutes down the street from my grandparents.
My grandfather taught me to fish.
My grandfather introduced me to my photography obsession.


Graham Terrace in Lisbon, Connecticut was a magical place.  It became my sanctuary.  My first best friend lived on Nora Street just a hop and jump away, and I sometimes spent more time visiting him than I did with my grandparents.
Seeing that map of Lisbon, floods my brain with endorphins.
Seeing that map of Lisbon brings back all the amazing memories I had growing up.
Seeing that map of Lisbon, engulfs me in peace.


Spending time there as a youth made me who I am today and I wouldn’t trade anything for not having the experiences I did while living there.  Everyone should have such a place to have grown up in.

All such amazing memories I experienced growing up and it is always peaceful going back and recalling those memories. So I want to thank Jessica for Dredging Up Memories of my youth.

And here’s another memory that just popped in:
As with Jessica’s friend, my grandfather took up painting later in his life as well.

I’d forgotten ALL about that but now I clearly see him sitting in the dining room that became his studio crouching over a painting he worked on.  WOW!  I’d ENTIRELY forgotten that about him.  Goosebumps and a warm feeling just flooded my being.  I can actually close my eyes and bring the image of my grandfather sitting in that studio now.

Thank you, Jessica!

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Feeling Trapped?

–Are you feeling like you are trapped in a losing situation?
–Feeling imprisoned?
–Are you feeling like which ever way you turn you’ll make a wrong move?
–Are you feeling frustrated that you can’t seem to catch a break?

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–Trying to escape?
–Put some distance between you and your challenges?
–Want to move out of town, move out of state?


–The Divine may have other plans.
–YOU may have made other plans in Incarnation Hall.  

What is Incarnation Hall?  You may ask?

lt is where you, as a soul looks down and chooses the life you will lead, the challenges you will face and the people you will meet along the way.  The entirety of your life is chosen by you BEFORE you incarnate.  It’s called predestination and you CHOOSE what happens based on past experience or past lives.


Returning to the top of this column where I ask those several questions:
Are you feeling trapped etc.


You may have no control over changes you WANT to make if you have made the decision to stay where you are during your time in Incarnation Hall.
–It may be that you were a drifter in a past life and you want the experience of staying in one place in this life.
–It may be that you ran from all of your conflicts in a past life and didn’t face those challenges and you realized before you chose your current life that you needed to face the challenges in this life to move beyond them in the next life

Everything is a learning experience in each life you lead.


There are no mistakes.
There are no defeats.


There are simply lessons to learn.  And the ONLY way to learn the lessons being shown us is to keep repeating them until we move past them.  We are given ample opportunity to learn with obstacles being placed in our path.
–You want that job?  Something stands in your way.  A traffic jam makes you late to the interview and someone else gets the job.
–You want that house you’re eyeing?

Too bad, but something better is coming down the pike for you.  It’s like George Clooney said in my column:
Your Life Is Like A River
Little Anne Frank wants to be a high school teacher? Tough Anne. That’s not your destiny.

Your life has been predestined. And if you attempt to make changes that aren’t in the cards for you, you will find obstacles put in your path, debris put in your river and no amount of clearing will make your plans come to fruition if you hadn’t forecast them long before you incarnated.


So, I guess what I’m saying here is:
If you are frustrated because you feel trapped,
If you feel as if you aren’t making a difference,


Close your eyes and remember this is all part of the plan.
Life is one long lesson and you never get it ENTIRELY right.
The concept behind Reincarnation is to learn from previous lives and move closer to the Divine/God/Source.


And we learn by making changes to old habits, to previous challenges.

So once again if you feel as if you are stuck and you can’t escape your own shadow, just keep in mind that this may WELL HAVE been the plan all along.


I completely understand by my telling you this it does nothing to help the current challenges you are facing, because they will STILL be there when you look around, but if you can keep in mind this is simply a process we all must go through, understanding that, MAY make life JUST a bit easier.


I wish everyone nothing but peace joy and happiness.
Look for it and you will surely find it.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.