Your Job

Your job is to help others get to where you are.   Why do you suppose you know the terrain so well?  Are you acting as The Source for the advancement of others today? Who have you lifted up, and how, in the past 24 hours? And in the next? What is your plan for the next?


Neale Donald Walsch Daily Inspiration
June 5, 2017


If you don’t know Neale Donald Walsch (NDS), he came to popularity through his books:
Conversations With God.


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NDS has always been one of my favorite spiritual people I follow. I connected with the June fifth, daily email I received from him because I consider one of my jobs is to help people see there IS another way to see life.  That’s really why Wisdom and Life exists.


Everyone has incarnated with a gifts to use.  Our mission while in the physical is to find the gifts we were given and use them to help others.  I’ve written an entire category at Wisdom and Life called Parental Pressure that has my columns about the gifts we receive.  Check it out when you feel like it.


I write often that if you remove your spiritual blinders, you’ll be able to see life is all about spirituality and less about physicality.  This blog is in existence to show that.  I’ve always had a strong faith and for those who are new to reading Wisdom and Life, you can certainly ready my category on faith.


My life has been filled with blessings and I’ve felt as the above quote states that I want:
to help others get to where you are.


How do you use your own gifts to help others?  There are countless ways to help.
–You can be a shoulder to lean on.
–You can be an ear to listen with.


Some of us use the gifts we were given to directly help others.  Writing is one way to help others.  Neale Donald Walsch knows that.  Through his Conversations With God series, he has certainly helped numerous people.  I hope Wisdom and Life is doing that as well, helping people understand that there is a spiritual underpinning to the world.  I consider it my job to help others see through this physical plane into the etheric one.


What are your gifts and how do you use them?


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.





You Can Fail At What You Don’t Want

I had no idea that Jim Carrey followed my train of thought.  The preceding link that is his name is all you need to watch today.  He discusses taking a chance on doing something you want.  Carrey says:
You can fail at doing what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.


In the short video, Carrey uses phrases I use all the the time:
You can ask the universe.

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That’s been my philosophy my entire life.  I’ve devoted a whole category to this at Wisdom and Life:
Parental Pressure.


No one should pilot your life other than you.  We’ve all incarnated with gifts to share.  It is up to us as individuals to find those gifts and use them to create abundance in our lives as well as the lives we touch.  



Don’t let anyone poison your dreams.  
Follow the path that you want.
Ask the Universe.


I’ve seen that video countless times as I’m sure many of my readers have as well.  But it’s always nice to have a reminder that these concepts that were once hidden away and seen as esoteric are now becoming more mainstream.


Jim Carrey is right when he he discussed his father in the short snippet above.
Do what you love and you will never work a day in your life.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.  

A Divine Chip

In a recent Power Group meeting, we ended up discussing parents and their children as high school was coming to a close.  One of the things we discussed was those high school students who SAID they didn’t know what they wanted to do.  I countered that MOST students do know what they want but are afraid to say.





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Those who knew and DID express their opinions I believe sometimes had a “divine chip” implanted in them as they incarnated.  This chip overrode any dissenting opinion either from family or school.  These people bucked the system do do what they were put here to do.


My best friend growing up in Lisbon, Connecticut is one such person.  I recall being in third grade with him at Lisbon Central School and hearing him repeatedly say he would be a doctor.

Joe is now a foot doctor in Norwich, Connecticut.  I learned a valuable lesson from Joe:
Never let someone tell you what’s best for you, because only YOU know what’s best for you.


Some of us can’t afford to pursue of career choice immediately.  That simply means we must find another way to supplement or abundance while we continue to work on our specific goals.  For some of us, we can simply pivot a bit.  I’ll use myself and another friend as an example:

For me, my goal has always been the written word.  


Writing as can be seen from the previous link, has always been my first love.  It takes a long time to build a career in writing.  I acknowledge that.  I didn’t let that deter me however and I also didn’t travel a completely different path.  I’m still involved with the written word, having pivoted to a library, where I am surrounded by books.  Books have always been a major influence on me.  I didn’t want to be separated from them.  I thank my own “divine chip” for keeping me on the right path.  No one influenced me to make a decision that they THOUGHT was right for me.  That “divine chip” implanted in myself is still working.  And I thank God for placing it there.


My friend, Jason Marchi who I’ve mentioned here at Wisdom and Life as can be seen from the previous link is someone else who I believe has that aforementioned “divine chip.”  Like me, he has been a writer as long as I’ve known him.  In fact it is how we met.  And like me, he pivoted just a bit in his day job, having worked for a publishing company in his hometown.  We both stayed in the “writing field” so as to keep our enthusiasm up.  We didn’t let other people define the roles we wanted and now we are reaping the rewards.


I believe we all have that divine chip.  However for some of us it is more defined and we are not afraid to express what we want.  We don’t want to wake up one morning saying:
Shoulda.  Woulda.  Coulda.


Thanks to Patricia for the inspirational term:
Divine Chip


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


Give Your Children Wings

Parents can’t choose the mates of their children or the behavior of their children. You actually can’t choose anything for your children without disempowering them.




Your family of origin, your genetic family ALWAYS has the best of intentions for you when they attempt to guide you.  However, more often than not their guidance pulls you away from your heart, from your true reason for incarnating.  Your genetic family has to learn to let go.  They have to let you do what is best for you.  As I’ve maintained here at Wisdom and Life from this blog’s inception:
EVERYONE eventually finds their way if you let them be.


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Look it at this way:
What if someone attempted to tell you as an adult what they think you should be doing and pushed you in a direction you knew wasn’t right for you?


What if someone told you No!  You can’t be with him or her when you were of an age where you could clearly decide for yourself?


Now I understand that children need guidance.  I’m not condoning letting them run wild.  What I am saying is this:
Give them the freedom they need to make their own way.  If they have a desire to pursue something that you feel is a mistake, stand back and let them go.  And remember:
Sometimes, you may be influencing your child to do something for financial gain because you’re concerned for their future.  My belief is just the opposite.  You should be influencing your children to be happy, to be joyful.


Isn’t it more appropriate to love what you’re doing and make a little less money than be making money hand over fist and be miserable?  And missing out on all life has to offer?


What a powerful word to use here.  By attempting to choose the life for your children, that’s EXACTLY what you are doing:
Disempowering them.


Children need to learn from their challenges and by not letting them make errors in judgement, by shielding them, you are in the end doing them a disservice.  And they know better than you do what they want to do.  If they are brought up in a family where they feel intimidated to speak their mind, they won’t.  And they will wind up letting someone else make their decisions for them, thus disempowering them yet again.  Parents need to step away and let their children fly.  It’s truly the only way our children will make their way in the world.


If you attempt to tell your children who they can be intimate with and who they can’t, you’ll also run the same risk of alienating them.  Is that what you really want?  Love happens in many ways and takes many forms.  You can no more tell someone who to love than you can tell them what career to choose.


Maybe someone who attempts to guide their children is REALLY trying to live vicariously.  In other words, perhaps what the parents are guiding their children toward is something they themselves wanted to do when they were young.  The cycle has to break somewhere, otherwise children and adults will continually be unhappy.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Education, Right Brainers and Discovering Our Gifts

You are really individual beings, with very special talents, and it would be nice if teachers had the time, or parents had the awareness or skill, to see the children as the very individual, very special beings that they are. So that rather than trying to drum them into one category, they are, instead, appreciating the special insight that each child brings to the sea of diversity and contrast which is the stuff that creation comes from.





We all have our God given gifts.  It’s up to us to discover them and use them to our advantage.


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They MAY mean well.  But too many times they guide their children in the same way they were guided.  By pigeonholing them into careers that will earn them the MOST money, disregarding the fact that many people who are financially secure are emotionally bereft.






Which would you honestly rather be?
Financially successful?
Emotionally successful?


What if you could be both?  You can be!  You simply have to discover the gift or gifts that were given to you when you incarnated.  Discover a way to create a career around that gift.  Whether it be songwriting.

Whether it be an artist.
Whether an actor.


Whatever you feel impassioned about
Whatever brings you joy
However you get lost in the Flow


That’s your gift.


Abraham Hicks is correct:
We REALLY are individual beings, with very special talents.
and we can’t let anyone dissuade us.
We can’t let anyone tell us different.


Do you know why our parents and our educators do what they do?
Do you know why they steer us in the financially driven direction?
One reason is as I said above, because that is how they were taught.  But there is another implication here too.

That’s right the other reason is fear driven.  All of our teachers from our youth, our parents as well as our school administrators are fearful that we will learn that we ARE individuals, that we are not automatons, that we all don’t fit in a square box.


Some of us draw outside the lines and education today is all about conformity.  There is no room for the individual to shine.  Some people learn differently.  I should know, because I went through this myself.  I’m a visual learner. Always have been.  I’m a right brainer.  Always have been.  I don’t know where this fits on that spectrum but when I attended middle school and high school and was administered tests it became quite apparent that taking multiple choice exams was the wrong way to judge what I learned.  Give me an essay exam or an oral exam and I excelled.  This was proven several times when I failed miserably with the multiple choice tests.


It was finally discovered by a teacher who took an active interest in my growth.  In the sixth grade he pulled me aside and asked if I wanted to take the exam over, but this time he would give me an oral exam.  He realized that I actively participated in classroom discussion and understood that I had more to offer.  He was right.  After class that afternoon he and I sat in his classroom and he tested me orally.  He was shocked at how well I knew the material.  He said he knew I understood what he was teaching.  He just needed me to know he knew.  From that time, I was given essay exams and my grades shot up in that class.


So see?  We are ALL individuals and if it wasn’t for that one teacher in middle school who had taken an active interest in one of his students I very well may have floundered in his class as well.  I am grateful to him and told him so once the year was out.


Learning differently
Thinking differently has actually helped me later in life.  Being right brained is a benefit in the career I chose. Writing and being in the literary field.  Right Brainers learn visually which is what that sixth grade teacher realized immediately after seeing my results on that multiple choice exam.


It’s unfortunate that most educators today don’t take the time to understand the individual.  For if they did, I imagine we’d see more students succeed.  I’m blessed that one teacher saw that I learned differently, that I was truly right brained.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Road to Success

Last Month on February 28, Your Law of Attraction on Google+ shared
Road to Success”. How does your picture in your mind looks like?

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What is your road to success paved with?
How do you travel your road?

What are your goals on your road?


Do you THINK you ARE a success?

You DO know that believing you are successful is the first step to becoming successful?  I’m sure my friend, Gibson Goff would agree, as his blog A Daily Dose of Success details how to be successful.


In my response to Your law of Attraction’s question, I responded:
I keeping moving forward toward my goals:
–Writing the best content I can.
–Photographing and sometimes melding my two gifts as in writing a photography blog:
CJP Photo News


Keep pushing forward.
Keep your eyes on the prize and don’t let anyone place debris in your river:
Your Life is Like a River


It is important to keep your eyes on the prize and keep putting one foot in front of the other and to keep in mind as I’m fond of saying that:
Life is a marathon and not a sprint.


Success won’t always be vertical.  Sometimes you must step sideways, to make that vertical step, and while you STEP sideways you won’t see the big picture until long after.  It’s happened to me with my chosen career.  I wanted to write for a living, however I quickly realized that MOST writers simply can’t make a living solely through writing.  They must find a day job.


I stepped sideways into the book field; and even then I received consternation.

How will you make a living doing that?  was a refrain I heard from time to time.  Well, I’m here to say I HAVE made my living thus far in the book field, having worked at my local public library since 1998.  One of the most important things I can say and it’s been consistent here at Wisdom and Life in the Parental Pressure category here is this:
Don’t let ANYONE stand in your way of following your dream.
Don’t let ANYONE convince you to do something solely based on financial success.

It’s those people who chase the money and not their gifts that are the most stressed.
It’s those people who chase the money who want to keep you from feeling the freedom of joy.


Don’t let them block your flow.
Don’t let them dam your river.


Make sure your road to success is paved with your gift.  Whatever that may be.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Cats in the Cradle

Another lunch themed column today.  I was having lunch out of town one day last week at a diner after an appointment with a Social Media Client.  

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I sometimes like eating somewhere where I’m anonymous as it gives me an opportunity to eat in peace; which is not to say I don’t enjoy the camaraderie that small town living can bring.  It’s just that sometimes I like to decompress without fear of meeting someone else that I know.


While I was eating a young boy (maybe about 5 years old) sat down with his father.  During the entire lunch, the boy’s father was on the phone.  Meanwhile the young boy is doing his best to get his father’s attention and all I can do is sit by and watch the interplay.


This is a time in his son’s life that he will never get back.
He is teaching his son lessons with each experience.


What keeps flashing in my minds eye is the Harry Chapin song:
Cat’s in the Cradle

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If you don’t know the song, it’s about a father who thinks he is providing resources for his children by constantly remaining busy, but is in actuality forfeiting their childhood by not participating in it.


It was all I could do to keep quiet while watching the young boy keep himself entertained while his father took phone call after phone call.  Is that the lesson he really wants to teach his son?

–That he doesn’t have time for him?
–That he can’t take a half hour at most out of of his day to spend with his son?
–Is what he is discussing so important that it can’t wait until after lunch?


I see this activity more every day as cell phones are becoming ubiquitous, and if I’m honest with myself I’ve participated in this activity as well.  Seeing it with my own eyes shames me and I promised myself that when I’m out with my friends I will do my best to avoid the practice.


How about you?
Have you seen this yourself?  If you have what was your reaction?  Did you want to shake the person talking on the phone while their companion sat by entertaining themselves?
Have you done this?  All the while understanding you providing a teachable moment?


What do you want to teach your friends and family?


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be positive!
Blessings to you.


Retirement Ad

We asked people what they would do if they could be paid to do what they wanted?  Isn’t that retirement is supposed to be for?


Everytime I see this ad, it causes my blood to boil over.  To all the young people just starting out in their careers:
Why wait for retirement to enjoy what you do?


I’ve said it before.
Don’t let anyone else dictate your life, your career.
Don’t let anyone divert your river.


The reason this ad doesn’t make me happy is that it is VERY easy to create a joyful career.  Simply follow your bliss.

Discover your passion and pursue that.
Find a way to make your passion your career.


We all understand what we want…
It’s only when we listen to someone else…

it’s only when someone else guides our ship that we become someone we are not.  If more of us listened to our souls, if more of us listened to our hearts, we wouldn’t have to wait until retirement to enjoy our careers.


Am I the only one that feels challenged by this ad?  Perhaps it is because I’ve awakened to the larger purpose of life, one of the reasons we incarnate:
To live a joyful life.
To find our purpose and to make that purpose our goal.


The goal isn’t to make money!

The goal is create happiness while we pursue our career.  Too many of us perform our goals backward which, now that I have time to step back and consider this television ad is who the commercial is aimed at.


It isn’t produced for those who have awakened.
It is for those who still blindly pursue someone else’s path set out for them.


Who knows?

Maybe, JUST maybe, the ad will bring about something good in the end:
It might JUST awaken others to the possibility that they don’t have to wait until retirement to enjoy life.  And maybe JUST maybe they will pass that on to their children.


Because as I’ve said here so many times in the past, if there is one thing that aggravates me more than anything else it’s when a well meaning family member attempts to divert their charge from doing what they love,
from creating a life through their gift.


That’s the REAL reason this ad is so disconcerting to me.  .


We can ALL have the life we want.
We can ALL have the life we deserve.


It’s very easy:
Listen to YOUR heart.
Listen to YOUR soul.


Block out everything else.
Follow your bliss and the Divine will open all the doors!


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Finding the New Normal

College freshmen are leaving their familial homesteads in droves this time of year, August.  There are challenges on both sides.  The students who are leaving, are heading into the unknown; for them it will be their first experience living on their own.


They will have to adjust to a new schedule.
They will have to learn a new routine.
They will have find their new normal.


It can be distressing for a 18 year old to be thrust out into the world when they’ve had all of their needs met previously.  As much as children want to be on their own, to be away from the families, to feel free, once they leave the comforts of home it all finally sinks in.  This is not a family vacation where everyone goes away and everyone returns.


A friend of mine said goodbye to her son last week and as with all family relationships, there is the typical spreading of wings the last year of high school.  The child spends less and less time with the family, probably thinking:
Oh, I have plenty of time.


They don’t realize that time moves quickly and when there is none left and student and parents say their final goodbyes then it may sink into the student:
Wow!  I’m not going home.


This is when there may be a flurry of texting if you both of phones that can send and receive texts.  The student may now understand what was lost by not spending valuable time with family and upon realizing that he squandered his time to spend with friends instead of with family he may feel lost, especially because he has to start anew, find new friends, adjust to a new environment.


For parents, this can be just as challenging.  You’ve done what you can do to prepare your children for this monumental change.  Have you given yourself the time to consider what life will be like without your son or daughter?  As with your child, you’ve probably been too busy with your own life to stop and live in the present moment.  When the time comes for YOU to realize that your child will not be under your feet every morning, you won’t hear them return home from school in the afternoon, you can’t say goodnight and hear their response, it will be just as challenging to you as it is to them.


If we can look into the animal kingdom and take solace from their world, maybe it will be easier on us:
Birds simply toss the young out of the nest.  Their fledglings need to fly immediately.

Look at domesticated cats and dogs.
We take for granted that we come in and take puppies and kittens away from their mothers, sometimes as early as six weeks.  How do you think these babies can adjust to not only being taken away from their brothers and sisters, but also the their mother and the only home they’ve ever known?  Think about it.


Isn’t that what happens when children leave the comfort of their home?
Kittens and puppies adjust to the new normal.


So can you.
So can your child who has left.


All it takes is time. There’s that word again:


Time can control you or you can control time.
What you decide will have ramifications on the rest of your life.


Your children will learn to be self sufficient.
Your children will move on and go through the same experiences as you are facing now.

Life is constantly recycling.
Life is one big circle.


What happens is supposed to happen.
Everyone eventually finds their way.


I think one of the challenges parents face is the concern that their children won’t succeed.  I think that is one reason we worry when we send our children off into the world. If we can only keep in mind what I said earlier:
What happens is supposed to happen.
Everyone eventually finds their way.


We can maybe settle our minds.
Can you settle your mind?
Do you understand that life is right on track?

That life is happening just as it should?

If you can see this then you can find your new normal.
As will your children.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Chase Your Gift

Okay.  Here’s another repeat offender:
Since we are coming up on another end of school year for our students I wanted to discuss what our high school seniors will do after they have left their primary education behind.  Parents are so concerned at this momentous time in their children’s lives that they have occasion to forget that it’s their child who must live with the choices that are made.

Many children who say they don’t know what they want, are not being completely honest with themselves or their parents.  They are afraid of disappointing their parents by telling them what they truly want.  Maybe your child has attempted to tell you and you have been less than supportive, saying something like:
Oh you can’t make a living doing that.

If someone hears that long enough, the words will grow, the words will develop meaning.
Sometimes parents are attempting to live vicariously through their children, fulfilling their desires through their children.  These parents are merely perpetuating the cycle began by their own parents.  Children have to be strong enough to break that cycle.  If they do indeed know what they want, the must stand up and confidently shout:
This is what I want.

I’ve seen too many students in high school relent.
I’ve seen too many adults miserable in their chosen career because they didn’t listen to their bliss.
They didn’t follow their heart.
They chased the money.

They followed someone else’s path.
They listened to another’s advice.

It wasn’t until later in life that these adults realized the error and then attempted to detour.  Sometimes they found their way back.  Many times they did not.  Why detour at all?  Why not go confidently into your future when you have the opportunity?  Why not as Star Trek says:
Go Boldly.

When you are at an age where your entire future is spread in front of you as is the case after high school, it is so much easier to go forth and pursue your bliss, follow your heart, chase your gift.  You know.  The gift you were given when you incarnated.  We all know what that gift is long before our senior year in high school comes about.  As I said at the outset of the post today, many of us when we are in high school are intimidated by our superiors, our teachers, our parents.  We believe we cannot disobey their wishes.  We’ve been programmed to listen to our family.  At some point however, we must break away from our parents.  We must break away from our primary school teachers.

The question becomes:
Who are we attempting to please?

We can’t and won’t always please our family with our plans for the future.  Nor should we try.
In the end do they have to live with our regrets?
In the end does our family feel our emotional turmoil if we’ve made the wrong choice?

No!  It is us that have to live with the choices we have made.  Why make a choice to satisfy someone else?  When in the end we are the ones who have to live with the choices we make?

I cannot say it enough!
Do NOT follow someone else’s path for you.
Do NOT chase the money.

Follow your bliss.
Chase your gift.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.