Our Next Incarnations

As I’ve written here many times, I feel as if I’m directed what to write.  Today’s column is no different.  I discovered some distressing news on Monday while at Starbucks in Madison, Connecticut.  Writing has always helped me dispel any unwanted energy; so please bare with me while I discuss the news that was revealed to me.  And I want to say at the outset that I’m in no way making light of the tragic events that occurred in Newton, Connecticut last Friday.

Wednesday, December 19
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I also want to say that I didn’t write this looking for sympathy.  Writing has always been a catharsis for me, helping to dispel the negative energy within.  I felt the need to write out my feelings on Monday when I arrived home.  So, please.  No sympathies today.

Being as spiritually in tune as I am, you’d think hearing distressing news would roll of my back.  However as I’m cloaked in humanity I still find it challenging when I receive news I know is on the horizon, news I understand is arriving sooner than I’d expect, news that still challenges me, still disrupts my positivity and yes news that saddens me.

I was at Starbucks in Madison, Connecticut on Monday and my ten month old niece had just left after I spent a glorious hour with her.  She is such  treasure.  I love seeing her and I can never get enough time with her.  I’m so fortunate that she lives in Madison  as it provides me so much time with her.  I can’t wait until she starts talking.

Well, as is usually the case I’ve gone down another path.  Let’s see if I can find my way back.  I think I’m avoiding the topic because it does distress me.  It does sadden me.  Although it shouldn’t.

Before someone brings up Newton and wonders why I’m focusing on my own distress let me say I feel for all those who lost loved ones in that tragic event.  I’m in no way shape or form lessening the events that took place last Friday afternoon.

No words can express my dismay.
No words can lessen the pain felt by those who lost loved ones.

It was a travesty to all involved.  I wish all those who have unexpectedly and violently transitioned safe passage into the spiritual realm.

Okay.  So what am I talking about?  I bet you want to know.  A friend of mine, someone I discussed books with all the time went through the spiritual door on Saturday.  She transitioned.  Her son knew that we discussed books all the time.  She was diagnosed with cancer in 2009 but went into full remission.  In August of this year, she broke her arm and when she went to have her arm looked at she was told the cancer returned.

Now as I look back on the events that transpired I can see the Divine working its magic once again.  Had I discovered the information before my niece arrived I wouldn’t have been such pleasant company.  And discovering the news after Rylee left softened the news.  See, I understand the Divine is always working, always looking out for me.  I’m grateful for that.  I’m grateful that I see everything is Divine.

I hadn’t seen her in weeks after she broke her arm and I began to wonder.  She was a frequent library visitor as in every week sometimes twice a week.  One of our favorite authors, Lee Child who writes a no nonsense character as in a one man wrecking machine, Jack Reacher has a movie being released in a couple of weeks.  Some backstory on Jack Reacher:
The character in Lee Child’s books is described as over 6 feet, full of strength, grimy and the such.  If you’ve read any of his books you’ll have a picture of who Reacher is.

Our running commentary on the actor chosen to portray Reacher is nothing short of golden.  We know Jack Reacher inside and out.  That’s one thing I will miss:
Not getting to hear her discuss the choice.

I’ll also miss recommending books to her.  She chose to read some slipstream books that I honestly surprised me.
–Jonathan Carroll
–Charles DeLint

These are not authors her generation would have chosen on their own.  It brought me great joy to know she respected my opinion enough to venture into uncharted territory.

I’ll miss that too.

We discussed my unshakable belief in reincarnation many times during our brief chats at the library circulation desk.  I wish her safe passage into the spiritual realm and I look forward to seeing her again during our next incarnations.  I sincerely believe we return in groups and people close to us in one incarnation will be with us again in future incarnations.  That’s why I shouldn’t be distressed.  In December 2010 I wrote a column called Highest Tribute to the Dead, where I discussed a Television show called:
I Survived… Beyond and Back
.   In the episode described, I mentioned someone who survived a motorcycle crash.  In the recounting of his story, he said that now when he hears that someone has passed over, he thinks, Lucky Bastard, you’re going home.

My spiritual self understands this.  It is still a challenge to reconcile the knowing with my physical side.  It is still distressing knowing that my friend is beyond the human, beyond the physical.

Wishing you safe passage, my book loving friend!
Looking forward to our next interactions during our next incarnations.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Live in the Present Moment

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

Buddhist Quote

I wrote a recent post about The Dog Whisperer.  I watched an episode a couple weeks ago and each time I watch I’m continually surprised at Cesar Millan’s language.  He understands that dogs react to their owner’s energy.  One of his favorite quotes from the show is:
Be calm and assertive.

In the episode I watched Bulldog on Edge, Cesar used the phrase:
When we live in the present moment the aggression will go away.

See?  If dog owners anticipate trouble, if we show fear, the dog will pick up on that behavior and reflect it back in their attitude.  It’s that way with people to people interaction as well.  Remember my post called Interchangeable Pawns where I relayed the definition of Transference?  That’s what happens when your dog reflect back your attitude, your behavior.  It’s the same when someone says something negative.  Ninety percent of the time what someone said to you it’s really something they are dealing with.

It’s their issue and they can’t admit it to themselves so they throw the behavior onto someone else.  They transfer it.  If you’re living in the present moment you can let these slights wash away.  You can learn to accept that what is said to you in a negative manner is simply a reflection of the instigator.  Once you master the game, nothing will stick.  You’ll become teflon.

Dogs, people, friends will realize your new strength and will act accordingly.  I can give a strong example.  Remember my post Unexpected Friendships?  Dingo our family dog that my brother, Jay rescued from Cape Cod would take advantage of everyone who walked her.  She would drag everyone to the middle of the road.  Dingo understood she was queen.  Everyone bowed down.  When I walked her, she ALWAYS behaved.  She walked on the far left side of the road.  She did so from the first time I walked her.


Because I trained her to do so.  If she didn’t behave I turned around and brought her home.  When she attempted to drag me to the middle of the road, I calmly brought her back to the side and made her sit.  We didn’t move again until she understood that I wasn’t going to be taken advantage of.  Dingo learned early that I was in control not her.  She respected me and therefore she listened to me.

I never showed anger or fear in her presence.
I praised her when she listened, when she behaved.
I stopped what I was doing with her when she didn’t behave.

Dingo learned quickly that I was in control not her.  That’s why I could walk her properly when no one else could.

If I didn’t stay calm and assertive, if I didn’t stay in the present moment with Dingo, she would have done the same to me as she did to everyone else.  I expected to have an owner/dog experience with Dingo, not a dog/owner experience.  Because I envisioned that experience, that’s the relationship we had.  I believe now more than ever before, after watching The Dog Whisperer, that as Cesar says at the start of each episode:
“I rehabilitate dogs; I train people.”

I sincerely believe that.  I have the experience to back it up with Dingo.

Anyone else want to comment on a similar theme?  Would love to hear from you.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Divine Doorways

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OK, I’m sure I’m about to lose some of you with this but as I’ve ALWAYS said and as I’ve maintained at this blog from its inception, I no longer worry if someone thinks I’ve gone off The Deep End. There are are many who DO believe this.  However, just because it is a theory doesn’t necessarily make it so. The Many Worlds Theory which I’ve written about here before states:
That every experience in humanity is happening in different realms. We just can’t see them all. We can only live the experience we are having at this moment.

OK. This is where I’m going to lose some of you.  I believe there are divine doors that can be opened by anyone as a way to move into one of these other realms. We only have to find the entry point.  I see someone ripping at the fabric of the air and rendering a tear in the universe. Or as in one of my favorite books by Neil Gaiman called Neverwhere.  I’m not about to give the book away but you have to read the book and pay close attention to the last four pages of the book.  I constantly re-read those last four pages because for myself they make the entire experience so fulfilling.

There are most assuredly multiverses.  We only have to find the way in.  Maybe there are select areas where these doorways exist; sacred places.
Easter Island
Valley of the Kings

Native American:

The point is there are MANY people who believe that multiverses exist.  If Quantum Theory is a proven theory then why can’t there be a way into these other realms.  Another example I can think of is in the Movie and book Return of the King:
The way is shut.

See?  But the way, the path, the door is NEVER closed entirely.  There are people who realize this.  There are those who know the way in.

Do you believe the multiverse theory?
IF you believe multiverses exist then do you believe there are divine doors to enter the multiverse?

I feel like that’s asking the question:
Do you believe there is other intelligent life somewhere in the ENTIRE universe?

How can you NOT believe that?  The universe is SO vast, there are SO many planets, you’d have to be an egotist NOT to conceive of the possibility.  Alright so let’s say you’re a God fearing Christian and you believe God created the universe.  I’m right there with you.  Except for the fearing aspect.  Why would you also not believe God created other life giving planets?  As I said in Saint Christopher:
I’m NOT in the LEAST attempting to be blasphemous here.

I’m simply showing there are other ways of interpreting God.  I HOPE EVERYONE who reads my blog understands that.  Science and Christianity, Science and Faith, Science and Religion, Science and Spirituality DON’T have to be in constant conflict.  I learned that they CAN be harmonious as can be seen through the eyes of Einstein and Carl Sagan.

Do you believe that?

Conflict, tension, anger, war;  these are all negative forces.  They create more of the same.  Why not look at our similarities instead?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


The Dog Whisperer

Was flipping through Comcast one day last week and stopped on Nat Geo Wild to give Cesar Millan’s The Dog Whisperer a try.  Don’t know if any of my readers have ever seen his show on National Geographic Channel, what I found extremely fascinating about the show was how much he spoke about being in the now.  Being present.

After watching several episodes I see how this practice translates to dog ownership.  I can clearly see how being in the now can help dogs and their humans develop a strong bond.  Something else I’ve heard Mr Millan state is when you’re looking for a rescue dog and you visit a shelter, don’t show despair, don’t show grief at the dogs experience being in the shelter because the dogs will pick up that energy.

Wow!  There’s that word:

It’s the context that caught me the first time I heard Mr Millan use it.   Where have we heard that context?  And where have we used it?

I’m always surprised when something I’ve been practicing myself and ONLY seeing it in a specific way, then when I start seeing it practiced outside my purview; I’m taken aback, because it seems alien when someone else uses the practice to enhance a completely different aspect of their lives.

I’ve always thought of “being in the now” as a spiritual experience and never seen it used outside that narrow scope.  I think it is so important to use these tools outside the natural experience.  It brings focus to them.  It lights the way for others to experience these tools.

More ripples to expand.
More layers to peel back.

When different people are exposed to these ideals, they will expand their minds and if even one of them who watched Cesar Millan mention “being in the now” looks deeper into that, perhaps picking up Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now, then there’s been another circle navigated.

Have you seen an example of something you’ve been practicing and ONLY seen it in a strictly narrow view, then suddenly seen it break out into a more public arena?  How did that make you feel?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



We all experience doubt at some point in our lives.  Will this REALLY happen?  What if it doesn’t?  We have to prepare for the worst.  These are all comments I’m sure we are familiar with.  What isn’t such common knowledge and what I’m trying to point out and what others are saying now is that when people think this way, it can cause a self fulfilling prophecy.  This is what is at the heart of The Law of Attraction.

Thinking about doubt and fear will only bring more doubt and fear into your life.  I’m aware of several people who can’t release doubt from their lives:

We must prepare for the worst.
Things don’t always work out.  This is how these people live their lives.  As many times as I show them that this is the wrong way to live, that remaining positive is the way to conduct your life, that things normally DO work out they can’t seem to grasp the point.

There are so many examples I can give but I will relate one I’ve mentioned here in the past:

It’s just like my story of getting hired at the library:
I KNEW beyond doubt that the job was waiting for me, much to the uncertainty of a few people;  and there was a sign THERE as well.  There were several signs but the one that was most prevalent was when someone left.  The hole that person left was exactly what I was doing part time.

The reason I tell this story, is that doubt can creep into everyone’s life.  You can’t let it take over however.  In Rhonda Byrne’s DVD: The Secret, it is stated that if you want something, three things are required:
1.  Ask for it
2.  Act as if you ALREADY have it.
3.  Thank the universe when it appears.

That’s one quality I have in spades.  When I know something is going to happen, ninety percent of the time it comes to fruition:
–My friends who wound up leaving Madison last year because of a job transfer.  I said they’d get the offer to move.  They didn’t believe.  As often as I was right when it came to their life and what was going to happen to them, they couldn’t trust that I was going to be correct.  Ya know what?  I was right.  They received the offer.  I think they now get it.

–My library position happened.
–I correctly identified the sex BOTH of my brother’s babies.

The MOST important step here, in my opinion, is step 2.  Doubt simply can’t enter your field of reference.  Once doubt is there it will react and mix with all the other energies in the field.  And doubt is a HUGE negative force.  If left unchecked it can can grow exponentially.  It must be constantly weeded out.  Don’t let it take root.

To help remove doubt, I look for signs as well.  One sign that made itself clear in my eyes as it relates to my library job is the fact that I was hired part time in 1997.  I KNEW it was ONLY a matter of time.  Also because I’ve ALWAYS been interested in the written word whether as it relates to writing or reading, the written word has always been part of my life.

Have you ever experienced a knowing and been dissuaded?  I’d love to hear from you.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Connectedness and Consciousness

No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.


Albert Einstein

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I’ve quoted Einstein here before.  I find him particularly interesting, only because he seems to have a spiritual side as well as a scientific side.  When growing up I always guessed that scientists had no room for the divine.  I think what started to alter that perception was Carl Sagan, especially after reading Contact.  The movie was also fab.  Knowing what I know now specifically about Einstein and Sagan I’ve had to rethink some of my preconceived notions about Science and the Divine.  Perhaps, they CAN walk side by side.

Consciousness?  What does that word mean to you?  To me it is an extremely spiritual word as I know it now.  Here’s yet another link to the Divine and Einstein.  Do you suppose, he was using that word in much the same way it is used today?  If not then why did he choose that word when there are so many others he COULD have used?

Maybe Einstein means our problems need others to help solve them.  The fact that we are all connected can help solve a challenge that arises in one person if we allow others in.  I’m reminded here of The Global Consciousness Project.  This project shows how connected humanity REALLY is.  In order to resolve conflicts, challenges, issues it will take more than one person.  We need to look at all of humanity and see the connectedness we share, the values we share, the sameness in each of us.

We need to stop looking at our differences.
We need to stop seeing our conflicts.

Can you find one positive thing in someone you have a conflict with?
Are you strong enough to approach that person and tell them that positive?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Shared Death Experiences

I recently watched a documentary on Netflix called Afterlife:

and one of things discussed in the movie was something I’ve never heard before:

Shared Death Experiences

What’s that?  You may ask.  First let me explain a bit about Near Death Experiences (NDE’s.)  An NDE occurs when someone has a fatal experience and yet somehow survives.  Many of these experiences seen through medical science have been ridiculed by the scientific community as nothing more than:
“Oxygen leaving the brain and causing hallucinations as a result.”

If that’s the case then how do you explain the near perfect recall of patients stories of what happened to them during an NDE?
–Recalling medical doctors verbatim conversations.
–Knowing medical equipment and pointing the equipment out once they “return to their bodies.”

Writing about NDE’s reminds me of another blog I wrote about Near Death Experiences in which I discussed a book called Tunnel Visionby Gary Braver:

And now we have a new experience (New to me at least) with a Shared Death Experience (SDE.)  An SDE is one where the person experiencing an NDE is accompanied on their experience with someone else, whether it be a medical professional or someone near the person experiencing the NDE.  What happens is when the NDEr experiences the near death someone another person follows and sees the same thing.  Why this happens is anyone’s guess.  I wonder if it is because when the NDEr returns and they have a challenging time convincing anyone what happened and that it DID occur that one way to prove NDEs are occurring is to bring someone else along.  What do you think?

If this is REALLY happening, how can the scientific and medical community continue to dismiss NDEs as simply hallucinations?  Dr Raymond Moody discusses SDEs in the link above.  For me as I’ve written here on multiple occasions, no proof is necessary.  My faith informs my paradigm, my world view.  I KNOW beyond doubt that our bodies survive after our transition.  Hearing others who experience NDEs/SDEs only reinforce my faith.

What do you believe?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


The Present Moment

Staying in the Present Moment:

How many of us can really say we do this consistently?  I’ll  be honest.  That’s why ALL of my challenges arise.  We all know people who simply can NOT stay in the present moment.  People who always look ahead.

It’s when we look ahead that we fall behind.

How many times have you fallen into a quagmire, fallen into the depths, fallen into turmoil when you’ve attempted to manipulate the outcome of a particular challenge you’ve faced?

How many times have you said:
If only this would happen.
When what you SHOULD REALLY have been saying was:
Thank you for this present moment.

Don’t look ahead to some far off future.
Don’t be wishing for some gift to arrive in the future.

That’s when the turmoil can arise.
That’s when you can very easily fall into the pit.

Stay in the present moment.
Be happy now.

I understand that it is very easy for me to sit here and say this.  The challenge becomes putting this into practice on a daily basis.  I’ll be the first to admit that I fall into my old paradigm easily and I can very easily be looking into my own crystal ball wishing for something.  But as I’ve said here before I’m fortunate enough to recognize when this happens and I do my best to pivot.  The pivot doesn’t always happen immediately but as long as I continue to work at it I know that eventually I’ll dig myself out.

We all have to become aware of when we are not in the present moment, when we are attempting to manipulate an outcome, when we are wishing for something to change YESTERDAY.  Recognizing it is half the battle.  Once we see what we’re doing we can start move beyond.

Start to recognize when you’re NOT in the moment!

I’m currently reading a book called Man Seeks God.  Wow!  Very reminiscent of the movie Oh my God.  The author of Man Seeks God. Eric Weiner has a medical emergency that sends him on a quest to find HIS God.  He narrows his search to several regions.  I just finished the chapter on Buddhism.  I resonate quite a bit with this religion myself as I believe MANY of their precepts.  One quote I found particularly enlightening was this one that describes Buddhism:
I know of religions based on grace, or submission, or learning.  Buddhism is based on the pause, a tiny barely perceptible pause between our thoughts, a pause that, while we normally are not even aware of its existence, contains the entire universe.

So why did I include that in this column?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Spiritual Blinders

In August 2011, my friend, Jessica at Ascending the Hills wrote a column called Lifting Our Spiritual Blinders.  It’s one of the reasons I write my blog.  For those of you have been with me since this blog’s inception you’ll know my original intent was to concentrate solely on Law of Attraction.  A few short months after I started writing here however, my blog took a turn.  I believe that I was NOT in control of that detour.

My blog turned more spiritual, more faith based.  By faith I don’t mean religious.  Anyone who knows me knows I’m far from religious.  I talk about God as I know him.
–God is Love.
–God is Universal.
–God is Benevolent.

When I saw the turn my blog took, I initially felt some trepidation.  Would those people who started out following me continue to do so when they began reading what I was writing about now?  As it turned out I had nothing to fear.  Everyone stayed.  And because I was now expanding my blog to include things spiritual, I picked up some new readers.  Once I became comfortable in my new realm I was given another insight.  My blog took the turn it did to help people move forward, to help people realize there was more to this world then the physical.  That there was a spiritual world we could all tap into as well as long as we knew where to look, as long as we knew HOW to look.

One of the phrases I use constantly when I write about spiritual matters is:
I write this blog to help people remove their spiritual blinders.

Is there someone in your life who you wish would see that the world is more than just a physical manifestation?  Someone you’d like to go to and literally rip the blinders off of?  Show them the REAL world is spiritual?  That we REALLY are spiritual beings having a physical experience?

For me there are two.  They both refuse to see the spiritual world.  I understand from experience that we can’t change others, that we can only change ourselves.  And I have made a radical change in the past several years, becoming much more cognizant of the spiritual world around me.  I have removed my blinders and now that I see, now that I REALLY see, I want to help other see too.  One of the things that comes to mind a result of that last line is a quote from Everybody Loves Raymond.  I’ll have to paraphrase because I couldn’t find the exact quote,.  It came from Recovering Pessimist.  Ray’s brother, Robert says in relation to Ray Sharing some good news:
Why does everyone who converts try to drag everyone else with them?

We see the positive effects being joyful, has on our bodies.  We simply want to share what we know.  I recently read a book called Journey of Souls and I shared the book with one of the people above.  We talked about it a few days ago and they said they’re struggling believing.  They don’t know whether they’ll get back to the book.  I think that’s a shame because what’s going to happen when they reach their transition?  I only hope they see before that time comes.  I’m doing my best to help.  The only thing I can DO is continue living my life they way I am and hopefully they will see by example that there is another realm to this physical world.  It’s my mission in life to help this person remove their spiritual blinders.

Several years ago I was visiting my Dad on Martha’s Vineyard and after I settled in I began searching for the book I was reading at the time:
Brian Weiss’s Many Lives, Many Masters.  When I couldn’t find it I realized that I left it back home in Madison.  My Dad asked me what I was reading and when I told him what the book was about, I could see his demeanor change instantly.

You don’t really believe that do you?  he asked.  He wasn’t too happy with my response.  I gave him points in that book as well as other information I’d accumulated since I became convinced of Past Life theory.  He would have none of it.  Another instance where I feel like I’ve done what I can do, but it’s not enough.  I want these two people to at least accept what I believe.  They don’t necessarily have to believe as well, but I’d love to be able to talk with them about it.  As it stands now I can’t talk to my Dad on The Vineyard because it will just cause more disruption.

At least I can discuss my paradigm with the other person.  They may not accept it but I can carry on a conversation.  For that I feel blessed.

I’ll end with the same question I started with:
Is there anyone in your life who you’d like to help remove the spiritual blinders from?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Fixed Rules

What you might not understand is that the rules of this planet are fixed. Just as water freezes at thirty two degrees Fahrenheit, or earth makes its rotation approximately every twenty four hours, there are certain spiritual laws here, set in place even before the physical creation of the sphere that houses and nourishes you.


American Savior
Page 62

It shouldn’t surprise anyone that I’m quoting from yet another book that I’m reading.  Reading for me is as much a part of who I am as is my spirituality.  You can take the same quote devoted to my faith and simply substitute faith with the word books or reading and you’d see the same results:
Take away my faith–reading and I’d simply stop being who I am.

There are rules on every plane.  We must live by the rules set down where are.  On the spiritual plane, we have a different set of rules than we do on the physical plane.
Time is one rule that greatly differs between these two planes.

Time is linear on the physical plane.
Time appears to take longer on the physical plane

On the spiritual plane there REALLY is no time.

If you’ve ever seen the movie Made in Heaven, then you’ll understand that travel on the spiritual plane is instantaneous.  You only have to think about where you want to be and like magic you’re instantly transported there.  The same theme is set down in the movie What Dreams May Come.  These are both favorite movies of mine as they follow closely my world view.

On the physical plane travel is associated with time on the spiritual plane.  In fact, time and travel are both closely associated with each other on both planes.

Can you think of any other rules that are fixed on both planes?  Rules that are dichotomously different on each plane?  I’d love to hear from you in the comment field.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.