Sammy Hagar’s Forgiveness

A friend of mine sent me a news article about Sammy Hagar tweeting Happy Birthday to Eddie Van Halen in February.  The two former band mates had an acrimonious break up years ago.

 

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Hagar said that the passing of David Bowie and Glenn Frey lead him to mend fences with Van Halen.  He said that he didn’t want to pass with having enemies. He said he no longer wants to hold grudges.

 

It can sometimes be seen as a weaknesses to forgive because some may see it as being taken advantage of, some may think you’re weak, some won’t understand.

 

Forgive anyway!  

 

You’ll find a lightened heart.  
You’ll find the negative turn positive.

 

 

Negativity, anger, distress?
They only hurt you.  It’s like I say in Holding onto Anger.  You’re grasping a hot piece of coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, but you’re the one to get hurt.  I’m with Sammy Hagar:
Forgive ALWAYS

 

You may be taken advantage of on some occasions.
People may not understand how if you’ve been hurt how you can embrace the person or state again.

 

Ya know what?  You don’t owe anyone an explanation.  You’re the captain of your own life.  You get to decide if you want to row against the current or row with it.  I’d rather row with it, even if others may not understand.

 

I learned that it’s too painful to stay angry.  I don’t have time, strength or energy to stay negative, to stay locked in perpetual emotional distress. Each of our incarnations are short.  I want to spend each life I have here joyful.  If that means I sometimes get taken advantage of, I can live with that.  At least I’m not staying angry, staying hurt, staying negative.  I’ve been there and I don’t like it.

 

Want to join me in saying no to negativity?  Saying no to grudges?  Saying no to debilitating continuous anger?

 

Say yes to love!
Say yes to forgiveness.  It’s not easy but if you can move past the hurt and get to the other side and don’t let someone else question your motivation, I think you’ll find that life will be easier.  The weight of all that anger you carried will be lifted from your soul. And you will be much happier.

 

You can easily stay in that angry place and some do. It’s always easier to stay stuck then it is to move forward.   But just because it’s easy doesn’t make it right. I’d rather do the work and move forward.

 

To love is Divine.
To forgive is Divine.

 

Join Sammy Hagar.
Join me.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Will the NFL Step Up

Sometimes at Wisdom and Life, I take news that is relevant and use it as fodder, as grist for columns here.  Today’s column is taking that approach.  Even if you don’t follow the NFL, you can’t help but have heard about the challenges they are suffering from in the past few weeks.
Ray Rice
Greg Hardy
Adrian Peterson

 

And writing about The NFL is not without precedence here as I’ve even discussed The Baltimore Ravens at Wisdom and Life previously.

 

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These two players find themselves out of a game that has given so many people a leg up, a way out.  There are so few who have the opportunity to be successful who grow up like many of the players in the NFL.  Unfortunately, these players and many like them don’t see the advantage.  Sometimes they can’t break old patterns.  Sometimes they continue to to stay in relationships that are toxic and because it is the only thing they’ve ever known it can be quite difficult to break away.

 

Ray Rice:
Being abusive to a spouse or a partner is reprehensible and it is one of the two things someone can do that does NOT get a second chance in my opinion, because if you did it once, you’ll do it again and the first time you are caught, is NEVER the first time.  I’ve heard from many who are still supporting Ray Rice (though that number is declining every day) say why did she stay?  There are many reasons:
–I can change him.
Stockholm Syndrome.
–COULD be as I said above:
It’s the only thing they know.  Maybe they grew up being abused and they can’t break the pattern.

 

These are FAR from excuses.  Simply reasons why some may not be able to leave.  At some point you have to make a decision if it is healthy to stay in a relationship that is unhealthy.

 

Greg Hardy:
What I don’t like about this is its knee jerk reaction.  All week long the Carolina Panthers maintained that Hardy would play even though he was convicted of domestic violence.  The ONLY reason The Panthers backpedaled is because of the events in the preceding weeks.  When are we as a society going to step up and say:
This is unacceptable behavior and we are not going to condone it?  We will not enable it?  We will not sweep it under the carpet?

 

Adrian Peterson
Peterson said it himself:
I discipline my child as I was disciplined.

 

That proves my ENTIRE point above that we find it difficult to break patterns.  If Adrian was disciplined by being struck “with a switch,” then he obviously sees nothing wrong with doing the same.  It’s the ONLY thing he’s ever known.  Here’s the ironic thing however:
His two year old son he never met was beaten to death.

 

You’d think knowing this, Peterson would be ever vigilant NOT to go down that same path.  Unfortunately it can be difficult to break patterns.  I’m in NO WAY excusing this behavior because there is NO excuse!

 

 

The NFL has the perfect opportunity to change its image now.  There should be zero tolerance for this kind of behavior.  As long as we have teams who value winning over character, this will continue to proliferate.  It’s WAY past the time to put an end to this.  The question now becomes:
Will the NFL step up?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Everything Is Cyclical

“Everything is cyclical,” Rivers told The Associated Press during a chat last year. “So I just enjoy the good times. And when the bad times come, I know it isn’t forever. It’s happened to me three or four times in my life. But I moved forward.” 

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Joan Rivers has it right. She seemed to be on the same page with me.
–Moving on
–Letting go
–Forgiveness

 

These are all important attributes to have. For it is in letting go that we are able to move forward.  Enjoying the good times certainly brings more of that into your life.

 

Ms. Rivers had every right to hold onto the anger at Johnny Carson. But from what we know of her story, she did NOT hold that grudge.  It’s too bad that Mr Carson from what we know wasn’t spiritually evolved enough to understand.

 

As I said:
We only know one side of the story.  

 

Speaking from my perspective I can relate to Joan Rivers about Johnny Carson and the Late Night wars he had, not just with Joan Rivers but a host of other Late Night talk shows.

 

If the stories are true, it’s a shame that there was so much animosity left unresolved. Because now it will be left that way.  We ALL need to learn forgiveness.  For if we don’t, just like Joan Rivers says:
Everything is cyclical.

 

The next time we incarnate we will meet the same circumstances again and again until we learn to let go.
–How many times do we want to relearn that lesson?
–How many times will it take us to learn?

 

It looks as if Ms. Rivers understands.

Do you?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.