Reveling in Solitude

Alone vs Loneliness.
Being an introvert has its positives and many people see those positives as negatives.

–Some see introverts as rude, because they don’t do small talk.
–Some see the tendency of the introvert’s need for alone time as out of sync with humanity, that people need people.

 

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While that is ostensibly true, some of us who are introverts get burned out when we are “in the public eye” for long periods of time.  We need to decompress. And if we are influenced or forced to spend more time out, we will become more quiet, less likely to communicate.  We will find a solitary place in a crowd to decompress. We will hide.

 

When we are influenced to spend time with friends and family and we don’t want to, this action will conceivably bring more animus, with the introvert doubling down and finding a deeper hole to hide in.  So how do we merge these two dichotomous attributes and learn to live as an introvert and as someone who knows one?

 

I think the best approach one can take who knows an introvert is to learn to read the signs of your particular friend or family member.  If (s)he says I’d rather not do anything today then
–Don’t be insulted or hurt that they turned you down.  
–Don’t attempt to change their mind by creating guilt.
–Accept the choice and realize it has nothing to do with not wanting to see you it has more to do with taking care of themselves.

 

If the introvert IS out with you and they suddenly vanish again:
–Don’t be hurt.
–Don’t get angry at them.
–Don’t question the behavior.

It is the introvert’s method of ramping up again.

 

If you want to understand the introvert in your life better than you do now, I highly recommend reading what I believe is the introvert handbook:
Quiet:
The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking

 

If you are in the presence of an introvert and the introvert is noticeably quiet, the worst thing you can do is ask is something wrong?  Why are you so quiet? Nothing is wrong! It’s likely as stated above they are merely decompressing.

 

So what’s with the Two words at the top of this column:
Alone and Loneliness

 

I believe I’ve covered this at Wisdom and Life previously.  Being alone and feeling lonely are completely different. I’ve been fortunate to hardly ever feeling lonely.  I can’t say for sure because I’m the only test subject I’m aware of. However, realizing that I’m an introvert, I sometimes wonder whether loneliness is an attribute that introverts in general are not afflicted with.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

I Read a Book One Day

I read a book one day and my whole life changed.

Light The Dark:
Writers on Creativity, Inspiration,
and the Artistic Process

 

 

 

 

 

When someone asks me what I do, the first response is photographer. It should be writer THEN photographer.
I’ve been writing longer than I’ve had a camera in my hand; and I write more than I’m out with my camera. EVERY day as a matter of fact I’m at my computer tapping on my keyboard.

 

Light The Dark: Writers on Creativity, Inspiration, and the Artistic Process is the latest book I’m reading.  I’ve had a challenge finding any fiction to read recently, having borrowed several books from my library in the past six weeks or so.  No fiction has turned me on.  Nonfiction is where I find my inspiration now. Writing books have always been a favorite of mine, and this book along with several others have been an inspiration.  I highly recommend the two below:
Dancing on the Head of a Pen
Still Writing: The Perils and Pleasures of a Creative Life

 

Read my column that refers to Still Writing:
Writing Saved My Life

 

Reading and writing have been such an important aspect of my entire life.  I feel blessed that I followed my bliss and continued with my writing career even though roadblocks had been placed in my way.  Many people said:
No.  You can’t do that and expect to make a living.

 

So I went around the roadblocks and worked my way into the book field, working first at RJ Julia Booksellers, my local bookstore, then at The EC Scranton Library.  All the while I continued to write; first short stories then moving into blog content.  I let no one dissuade me.  In fact, as I may have said here previously, the BEST motivation anyone can give me is try telling me no.

 

And now, while I haven’t yet broken through and made a living writing, I DO have two books being published later this year.  So I will paraphrase the above quote:
Reading a book has changed my life for the better.

 

For without reading EVERYTHING, you can’t expect to accomplish ANYTHING!  Ray Bradbury I think said it best:
“I’m completely library educated. I’ve never been to college. I went down to the library when I was in grade school in Waukegan, and in high school in Los Angeles, and spent long days every summer in the library. I used to steal magazines from a store on Genesee Street, in Waukegan, and read them and then steal them back on the racks again. That way I took the print off with my eyeballs and stayed honest. I didn’t want to be a permanent thief, and I was very careful to wash my hands before I read them. But with the library, it’s like catnip, I suppose: you begin to run in circles because there’s so much to look at and read. And it’s far more fun than going to school, simply because you make up your own list and you don’t have to listen to anyone. When I would see some of the books my kids were forced to bring home and read by some of their teachers, and were graded on—well, what if you don’t like those books?”

 

And here’s another by Bradbury:
I spent three days a week for 10 years educating myself in the public library, and it’s better than college. People should educate themselves – you can get a complete education for no money. At the end of 10 years, I had read every book in the library and I’d written a thousand stories.

 

So turn off your television and immerse yourself in the written word.  
Your brain will thank you.
Your eyes will thank you.
Your writing will thank you.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Your Soul Energy

Your soul is interested in how you use your energy—what you create and whether you achieve your greatest potential.  It sees the experiences of your life as part of a larger, richer, more complete picture than the one you can see

Thoughts from the Heart of the Soul

 

 

I use a variety of resources for inspiration, many books to help me write about the topics of Wisdom and Life.  Gary Zukov is an author I’ve followed for awhile. He’s in the same vein as Deepak Chopra and Wayne Dyer.  I recommend reading some of his content.

 

As I’ve maintained at Wisdom and Life almost from its inception we all have a plan that has been divinely planned before we incarnate.  How do you know what your soul has intended?

 

When you’re doing what you SHOULD be doing, as the quote above says, your energy level will rise and that’s what your soul is interested in:
High energy.

 

So how do you achieve high energy?

You follow your bliss.  Your bliss is how you feel when you are doing what you love.  And whatever you do do NOT let anyone dissuade you from your soul’s plan.  That’s the time when you lose your energy.

 

The reason your soul sees your life as part of a larger fabric is that before you incarnate, it knows EVERYTHING you will you will face:
–Your soul knows when you will return to spirit, to the ethereal.
–Your soul knows when you’ll find your soulmate, and how you will spend your time together, whether as friends, lovers or married.
–Your soul knows how you will spend your life, what kind of career you will have.  It will do everything it can to show you your gifts then push you to follow your bliss.  In the end it’s up to you whether you listen to your soul or outside influences.

 

Listen to your soul so that you live in bliss!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Reincarnation Blues –A Review

Reincarnation Blues is a book right up my alley.

 

Milo has lived almost ten thousand lives, the maximum a soul can return until it reaches perfection. If the soul hasn’t reached perfection in ten thousand tries then they are blown into oblivion.

 

In between lives that Milo lives we see him in a kind of afterlife that exists as a mirror of incarnated life. Three other characters play a role in Milo’s life between lives.

 

Suzie, who is his “Death” that comes for him each time his passes. And two women who are his guides. He calls them Grandmother and Nana.

 

Each life, Milo lives (We, the readers are treated to his last five) could be an individual story but the setup works well.   Several of the life stories are really fleshed out and I liked reading them.   There are some definite undertones from Susan Baker’s The Incarnations in the way both books take on the different lives the protagonists live.  Each life becomes a story unto itself.

 

The difference being that The Incarnations is much darker and violent throughout.  That didn’t keep me compelled from reading however.  Both books are worth reading.

 

You don’t necessarily have to believe reincarnation is a reality to enjoy Reincarnation Blues or for that matter Susan Baker’s book. There are aspects to Reincarnation Blues that resonate with me and there are some things that don’t. But it didn’t stand in my way from enjoying the book.

 

Pick up either book and leaf through the first chapters of both.  You may find yourself intrigued.  I did.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Fishing with my Grandfather

I’ve invoked Jonathan Carroll’s name at Wisdom and Life often.  He is one spectacular writer.  In The Ghost in Love, there is a scene where Ben Gould, the protagonist of the story visits himself at earlier times in his life.  The scene that is most memorable is one where Ben witnesses himself as a young boy on a swingset.  So what does this have to do with fishing with my grandfather?  

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I’ve also written at Wisdom and Life about going back in time.  With this column today, I’m asking if you could travel back to a previous experience in your life and interact with the experience, where would you want to go and why? Now mind you, you can’t attempt to change anything, because as you know from reading the previous link about going back in time, any change you make, big or small will send your life in a completely different trajectory.  

 

 

 

With that being said, as a bridge to last week’s column:
Don’t Take Time For Granted

 

where would you like to go?

 

 

Me?
I’d choose fishing with my grandfather at Blissville Pond in Lisbon, Connecticut.  It’s one memory I love, and sitting with a fishing pole in my hand at Blissville Pond is where I go when I meditate.  It’s my safe place.  As my long time readers understand, my maternal grandparents have been important in making me who I am.  As an example:
My grandfather was ostensibly the only routine male in my life who I identified with as a young boy.
My grandfather bought me my first camera.
My grandfather taught me to fish as can be seen from this column.

 

I spent so much time fishing at Blissville Pond growing up, sometimes with my grandfather, sometimes on my own.  As I’ve written at Wisdom and Life many times over, I felt so fortunate to grow up on Graham Terrace in Lisbon, Connecticut.  
My best friend, Joe lived just down the street.

I could walk to Blissville Pond.
I wouldn’t trade growing up there for a thing.

 

It’s why Blissville Pond holds such magic for me and it’s why that’s the one experience I’d like to eavesdrop on now as an adult.  I’d love to interact with myself as a young boy with my grandfather.

 

Where would you like to go?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Ferdinand the Bull

My newest category at Wisdom and Life:
INFP is another topic I’ve started to discuss  INFP is on the Myers Briggs testing spectrum.  If you haven’t taken the test, it will reveal your personality as long as you are honest about the responses.  You can take the test here:
16 Personalities

 

I’ve mentioned Ferdinand The Bull at Wisdom and Life previously.

I’ve always loved the book and didn’t realize it until I recently understood my personality type connects on a completely different level with Ferdinand.  Ferdinand is definitely an INFP on the Myers Briggs spectrum. I now read Ferdinand in a completely different way.  I discovered that Ferdinand is an INFP after reading the book again in the last week.  Apparently, others feel the same way as can be seen from this Google search:
Ferdinand The Bull and INFP

 

After taking the Myers Briggs test and getting my results, I clearly see that I am an INFP.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Rob Bell

I discovered Rob Bell several years ago through reading his book:
Love Wins.  

This book spoke volumes to me as it clearly identified the challenges I’ve experienced with organized religion.  Bell ruffled many feathers in the religious field with his thoughts.  He is still unsettling some in organized religion.  I feel like he is only stating the truth as he sees it.  One of the features of Love Wins that Bell writes about is:
If God is truly love, how and why would he forsake ANYONE?

 

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I couldn’t agree more.  In a July 28, 2017 CNN article written by John Blake:
Outlaw pastor Rob Bell shakes up the Bible Belt Rob Bell continues to push for radical changes in the church.  Let me just say, that I don’t find the changes, he is calling for radical at all.  In fact, I embrace them.  One of the changes, Bell calls for is accepting women as priests or pastors.  He says:
Do you belong to a church that says women cannot be priests or pastors?
Bad move, Bell said.

Any church that does so betrays the example of Jesus, who treated women as equals. Women in Jesus’ times couldn’t even testify as witnesses in court.

“Yet all the gospels have women as the first witnesses to Jesus’ resurrection,” he said.

Makes sense?  Doesn’t it?  This is one of the many challenges I have with religion.  And I’m well aware that I may take flak for it.  However, Rob Bell brings up an interesting perspective:
–Any church that does so betrays the example of Jesus, who treated women as equals.
–Yet all the gospels have women as the first witnesses to Jesus’ resurrection.

 

Rob Bell has stirred something in many people.  Controversy can be a good thing as it brings people together who want to facilitate a change.  I give Bell credit for bringing his thoughts to a conservative area of the United States.  The Bible belt as some of the Southern States are called could be a “danger zone” for Bell as he has antagonized some in that area.  He didn’t let that stop him however.  I like that.  That he stands up doesn’t let controversy scare him away.  I have a lot of respect for Rob Bell.  I like that we are on the same page when it comes to our worldviews.  If you haven’t yet been introduced his books, I highly recommend starting with:
Love Wins

 

Bell certainly still has a following even after his ouster from his own megachurch.  You can see that following in the crowds he still amasses when he speaks.  It was with Rob Bell, that I realized my belief system had changed.  Bell voiced in Love Wins, what I always knew about myself but hadn’t been able to see in myself that as I stated in My Spirituality:
I believe God LOVES EVERYONE.

I believe God created us and he won’t forsake ANY of us.

I recently discovered Rob Bell’s Book Love Wins and after reading it I realized Mr Bell and I believe the same things.

Why is it so difficult to embrace this worldview?
Isn’t religion supposed to be inclusive?  I understand these are rhetorical questions.  They shouldn’t be, however.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Jonathan Carroll

I’ve been writing reviews a bit more recently at Wisdom and Life.  I do my best however to ensure those reviews are compatible with Wisdom and Life’s guidelines.  Today, I’m featuring my favorite author:
Jonathan Carroll.  Hiis themes touch on many of Wisdom and LIfe’s themes as well:
Death and Dying
Love and many more.


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When you read Today’s column you will see how much Carroll has impresesed me.  A new Jonathan Carroll book always warms my literary heart.  Mr Carroll is one of the few authors whose books I will buy sight unseen.  A few weeks ago, on October 21st when I returned from dinner I received an email from Jonathan Carroll’s website telling me his new book  Bathing the Lion was out in stores.  On my way back to work at the Scranton Library in Madison I made a detour across the street to RJ Julia Booksellers so I could hope beyond hope that a copy of the book was in.  There were two.  I grabbed one and was so happy I floated out of the store.

 

Jonathan Carroll has a plethora of books to choose from and I’ve read many of them.  With his latest book, Bathing the Lion Chaos returns a pseudo character that first graced the pages of his books with  White Apples and its sequel Glass Soup.

 

I started with White Apples when I worked at RJ Julia Booksellers.  I was given an advanced reader copy of White Apples and I read the book in a week.  As with all of Mr Carroll’s books by 45 pages in I understood that I was in the hands of a master storyteller and I wanted to keep reading the book but I became afraid that I was reading too fast.  In other words I didn’t want the book to end.  And when I FINALLY did finish.  I wanted to read it again for the first time.  As it has been with all of his books.

 

Someone recently asked me what is style was like.  The ONLY way I could think to describe him is he is:
Alice Hoffman on LSD.

 

White Apples and Glass Soup tells the story of Vincent Ettrich and his significant other Isabelle.  Vincent has died, but Isabelle brings him back from death because he needs to teach their unborn child what he’s learned in death because it will help their child defeat Chaos.

 

There are so many amazing passages in White Apples and Glass Soup.  One in particular in Glass Soup is discussed at one of my other blogs here:
Life is Controlled Chaos  Start reading from:
“This is how it began.

 

I think another reason I connect so well with Mr Carroll is that he seems to be on the same page with me when it comes to our worldview.  In his latest, Bathing the Lion he writes:

Burnt sienna:
The colors of the greatest love humans can feel for each other. It comes only when all others have burned off or faded away and what remains is a hundred percent pure. Like the color of the earth in direct sun  on a late fall afternoon. It’s the color of the truest human passion.

Bathing the Lion
Page 217

And again:

Dogs know what comes after death. It was not bad. THIS is the primary reason why most dogs are so merry and resilient:

Death is no more frightening than traveling to a distant land where the landscape is lushly tropical or glacially polar or simply unlike anyplace you’ve ever been.  Just the smells alone…

Bathing the Lion
Page
222

 

Death and Dying is a topic I feel strongly about and the above passage is my entire belief.  There’s more. The Burnt Sienna passage above is also another strong belief.  As is the column Life is Controlled Chaos.

 

Carroll has written other books as well and each one holds something special.  You simply MUST read him to see what type of writer he is.  Don’t miss this guy.  Don’t let him pass you by because you’re afraid to try something new.  I implore you to pick up one of his books.  I’m guessing some of you will come back to me and say the same thing I say:I want to read him so badly but I don’t want the book to end and when I’ve finally reached the last page I wish I could read his books again for the first time.

The Ghost in Love, Carroll’s previous book turned out better than Glass Soup as Glass Soup turned out better than White Apples.  The Ghost in Love, about a man who goes out in the middle of winter to walk his dog, he falls and cracks his head.  The man was scheduled to die with that fall but doesn’t.  Why?  You’ll have to read the book to discover the answer.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

What Dreams May Come –Book Review

A repeat performer here at Wisdom and Life. 
I feel this column needs to be shared regularly
for new and old readlers of Wisdom And Life alike.

 

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What Dreams May Come
Richard Matheson


WhatDreams

This is one book that MUST be read by EVERYONE on this journey we call life.  It will forever change your life and your perspective on death if you are open to it.

 

I read Richard Matheson’s What Dreams May Come originally in the early 1990s and the book had such an impact on me that it changed my entire perspective on Life and Death. There have not been too many books that have had such life altering experiences for me.  What Dreams May Come is on a very short list of such books. This book should be on EVERYONE’S shortlist of books to read in their lifetime.

 

To show what an impact What Dreams… has had on me simply click Richard Matheson to see how often I’ve discussed this book at Wisdom and Life.

 

A movie of the same name based on the book is available on DVD:
What Dreams May Come
and though I don’t usually recommend both book and movie, this is that rare exception where both can be viewed separately and neither one takes away anything from the other.

 

The book is based on years of research by the author.  In fact so much went into this book that there is an extensive bibliography in the back of What Dreams May Come.  Matheson says in his foreword that he doesn’t expect us as readers to read every book that he used, however he DOES say that if we chose to we’d come away with a new perspective just as I did.

 

The book begins with a knock on the door of someone.  Chris Neilson has passed and he has been communicating with a medium.  It is said medium who knocks on Chris’s brother’s door and insists on giving him the notes from said conversations.

 

This is where the book begins.  Through this manuscript, Chris attempts to reach out to his brother, doing his best to explain that there is indeed a survival after death, that the soul does carry on, that at some point, we can choose to return to earthly bodies. Yes!  I’m referring to reincarnation.

 

Ostensibly, in What Dreams May Come is where I first saw this topic and really delved deeply into it.  I’ve read this book several times; one of only a handful of books I’ve read more than once.  Each time I read it I come away with a deeper insight.

 

What Dreams May Come is a MUST read!
It is a book that MUST be read by ALL of humankind.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

A Force in the Universe

There’s a force in the universe that’s 100 percent trustworthy.  It creates and manifests from love, cooperation, beauty, and expansiveness, and it’s to this flawless work of spirit that you can return in order to know inspiration.

 

Wayne Dyer
Your Ultimate Calling

 

 

 

 

In my power group, I’ve been told that I have the “God gene.”  That’s not the EXACT phrase that’s used.  What they mean is that I have faith that I’m taken care of, that no matter what happens, I’ll be safe. I’ve mentioned to them that I don’t worry….

….about anything.  It’s why I connect with the above quote by Wayne Dyer.

 

I understand that I’m taken care of.  No matter what.  I’ve always been blessed to feel that.  I wish everyone could feel the power of faith that I do.  But we all have our own path to walk.  That force mentioned above?

It can be seen as the Universe, a Higher Power, God.

 

We all need something to cling to when we are circling the drain.  For me, I’ve always relied on God.  I see him everywhere.  It’s why I think I’ve felt protected, because, for myself, God is everywhere.  I feel like we have a symbiotic relationship.  I believe God is everywhere, so God gives me the faith I need to march through this my latest incarnation.

 

I believe faith and God are all around us we simply have to know where to look.  Sometimes you can’t see what you’re looking for because you have your blinders on.  Remove those spiritual blinders, as I like to say and you’ll feel that force that Wayne Dyer writes about above.

 

It’s easy for me to have this faith that everything will be alright, because it’s a gift I’ve had my entire life.  If you want some  as I wrote in 2012, the best way is to start small.

 

There’s a force in the universe that is looking out for all of us.  Can you find it?  If not:
Start small.

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.