Does Fate Play a Part in Your Life?

What is fate?  Merriam-Webster defines fate as:
The will or principle or determining cause by which things in general are believed to come to be as they are or events to happen as they do.

 

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Dictionary defines fate as:
The universal principle or ultimate agency by which the order of things is presumably prescribed; the decreed cause of events; time:
–That which is inevitably predetermined; destiny:

 

Do you believe fate plays a role in your life.  Predestination plays an important role in my own life as can be seen from the preceding link.  Are fate and predestination intrinsically bound together? I believe there are events that happen in our lives that were recorded BEFORE we incarnated, things we decided at the moment we chose to return to humanity.  As a companion to the last two columns:

At First Sight
Stop Looking

 

You may be asking do I believe fate plays a role in my own life?  If you take the first definition by Dictionary:
The universal principle or ultimate agency by which the order of things is presumably prescribed…

 

…And extrapolate it to a higher power or God then I guess I can say yes. I do believe in fate.  If you decipher ultimate agency as something tangible, God then it makes spiritual sense. In my worldview events don’t just happen. There is definitely a design to everything. Meeting my friend, Jeff, for example:

We share the same birthday.
Our mothers have the same first name.
We are both photographers.

 

That doesn’t just happen. 

I can’t drive on the highway.
I live five minutes from work. 

Read:
Phone Call to the Future and
You Can’t Always Get What You Want for further reading and understanding of this topic

Clear design in my opinion of a higher power/God working in my life.

 

In my worldview that doesn’t just happen. I see a clear design. Whether it’s fate or not, that’s up to each individual to decide. I see God everywhere. It certainly doesn’t mean you do as well. 

God?
Predestination?
Fate?

All one in the same for me. 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Stop Looking

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Are you single?  Do you want to find a long term relationship?  I have one piece of advice:
Stop looking! 

 

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What?  You may be asking.  How will I find anyone if I don’t look.  I’m sure you’ve heard it before that it’s only when you stop looking that what you want will appear.  In my previous column:
At First Sight each of the people I wrote about showed up in my life when I wasn’t looking.  I can also affirm that all the times I have actively looked for a relationship, nothing has come of it.  That’s a lesson I continually have to be reminded of. As I’ve written here previously:
–I often wonder if I incarnated during the wrong time period this time.
–I often wonder if the person in my soul group who I’m matched with decided or if I decided in this incarnation to live separately.
–I often wonder if we decided to be friends only during our time in this incarnation

 

Because you do understand if you adhere to this philosophy that we choose the life we live BEFORE we incarnate.  Everyone in our soul group will always be with us but sometimes we choose not to be romantically linked. I believe those in our group are the only ones we can, would and will be romantically linked with and since souls are light and energy there is no male or female.  We choose that when we incarnate as well. I completely understand that I may lose some of you here with this esoteric worldview and that’s alright.  I certainly don’t expect everyone to accept everything I believe.  These pieces of my worldview have been sewn into my fabric over many years, through various resources.  

 

Dr Michael Newton’s Journey of Souls has played an instrumental role in developing my concepts of soul groups and choosing our lives.  Those in our soul group show up when we need them and just because you haven’t found your one romantic partner, (in this worldview) doesn’t mean you didn’t.  It could be your best friend of the opposite sex is the partner you’ve always been matched with and as I said earlier in this column, perhaps one or both of you decided to be FRIENDS during this your most recent incarnations.  I believe that COULD be the case for many of us. As I’m writing this, I feel better knowing it could be a valid explanation.  

 

It’s only when I forget, that I find myself becoming distressed.  However, it makes sense that some of us continue to search for that partner and have been unsuccessful.  Because we already have the person in our lives that we are linked to.

 

At First Sight should provide evidence enough for those who understand the esoteric philosophy of soul groups and choosing each life we will lead before we incarnate.  We only have to put these words into action and when we find ourselves slipping, circling the emotional drain, pitying ourselves because we haven’t found that ONE person yet.  Remember:
The people in our soul group will show up when we need them and not before.  Perhaps we haven’t found them yet because we don’t truly need them yet or perhaps as in the movie:
Made in Heaven we set a limited amount of time to find them.  Whatever the reason, they are already in our lives and we are only friends during this lifetime, or we haven’t found them yet.  There’s another possibility and one I’ve toyed with myself. I actually included it in my own book:
Taking Off A Coat: Ruminations on the Infinite Soul 

Sometimes I wonder if karma is playing a role in my own circumstances:
Maybe I was a philanderer, and the fact that I have so many women who are my friends is because women see me as a non threat in this lifetime. The karmic aspect being that I can’t find that long term relationship because I’m paying my debt in this lifetime for a previous lifetime’s philandering.

 

I know.  I know. Sometimes as with my belief in reincarnation and karma many of you may see me going off The Deep End.  But this is who I am now.  This is my worldview. Accept me or not.  We all have beliefs that run counter to others.  It’s what makes us human. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

At First Sight

How many times in your life have you run across someone and knew instantly that you’d be lifelong friends?

 

At first sight usually connotes Love.  In this instance, I’m using the phrase to reflect meeting someone and knowing immediately that you’d be lifelong friends.  Has it ever happened to you?  

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It has with me:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Happened in September 1989.  Still can’t believe it will be thirty years
Happened in January 1992 (The night of the first gulf war.)
Happened in 1993-1994 (Don’t recall the EXACT time.)
Happened in July 2008

 

In all four cases, I KNEW on a gut level.  I’m going off The Deep End again, going esoteric, ethereal.  In both cases, I’m convinced these people are in my soul group.  The concept for soul groups came from a book called Journey of SoulsIt’s the first time I came across the idea, and I was able to sew into the fabric of my worldview seamlessly.  If you read the soul group link you’ll get a feel for what it means to me. 

 

My radar is pretty much spot on.  I can typically tell within a few minutes of meeting someone for the first time whether we’ll be friends, acquaintances or whether we’ll ever see each other again.  The lifelong friends thing though? That’s only happened a few times. But each time, I KNEW immediately.

–Thirty years ago I was in a classroom.
–1992 I waited in RJ Julia’s downstairs.
–1993-1994 I sat in a coffee shop (The Land of Misfit Toys)  That’s a little inside joke.
–July 2008 I was taking pictures of the Madison Connecticut 4th of July Parade.

 

Four separate cases each connected by a knowledge deep in my soul that these people would be instrumental in my life.  In all these instances these people still are vastly important to my well-being.

 

These four or five people have been the most important friends I’ve made and from the MOMENT I saw them I KNEW we’d be friends.  I’m fortunate to call these people my friends. They know who they are without my calling out their names.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Guidance and Control

If you guide through anything other than your own example, it crosses over into the category of control. If you say, “This is what I’ve found that works for me, try it if you like.” That’s guidance. If you say, “This is what I’ve found works for me, and if you don’t follow it, you’re in trouble,” that’s control.



Abraham-Hicks
November 23, 2018

 

Abraham Hicks has been an inspiration for Wisdom and Life since its inception. The original intent of this blog, to impart positive messages via Law of Attraction shifted after several months to become more spiritual. I’ve never forgotten the roots that became the structure however. I still return frequently to the topics that Abraham Hicks discusses. When I take a quote from one of my inspirations, I typically focus on one or two words in the quote. Today I’m focusing on guidance and control.

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Since discovering Abraham Hicks and Law of Attraction, I like to believe that my personal attitude has shifted from one of control, looking at the world as something to change to make my own world better to one of guidance where I do my best to look inward and see what I must do to change myself. I learned that we can’t change anyone else, we can only change our attitudes and our reactions to outside events. When we change our response to a challenging confrontation and choose not to engage, many times the one causing the conflict loses all reason for continuing. That’s a brief explanation for why I made this significantly similar choice.  Now, the meat of this column.

 

The partial quote:

This is what I’ve found that works for me, try it if you like. is an extension of how I choose to live my life. It’s the entire purpose FOR Wisdom and Life. What works for one person probably won’t work for someone else.  As I’ve maintained here during the course of Wisdom and Life’s existence, helping even just one person with something I’ve written is gratifying enough, because maybe that one person will help someone else due to what they read.

 

Living through a guidance aspect and learning that control can be damaging, not just to the person BEING CONTROLLED, but to the person CONTROLLING as well. It’s the one controlling that hurts more I think. They’re the person that carries that control inside. When you learn to let go and let guidance take over, you’ll find yourself in a better place. All that stress you’re carrying around with you?  That will likely vanish as long as you continue to choose guidance.

 

When you choose control and expect people to follow your lead, many will abandon you. No one likes or even needs control. For the most part, people know what needs to be done. If you simply show them and guide them when they need it, you’ll find that life and work flow so much better. It’s like:

Row your boat DOWN the river.  It’s only when you go against the current that you get in trouble.

 

Let guidance be your life choice.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

 

 

Revisiting The Past

Something a bit different at Wisdom and Life today, and a companion piece to last week’s A Look Back.  We’re traveling back to the beginning of this ride we’ve been on for almost ten years. It’s hard to believe that next May at this time Wisdom and Life will turn ten years old.

 

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I’ve written many columns over that period. And I hope to continue writing for another ten years. I understand some of my recent readers found me through my adventuring through my NDE. You may have thought that was the entire subject of this site. If you’ve returned at all or explored you’ll see that I write on many topics. I tie everything together in spirituality though. That’s the underlying theme of Wisdom and Life. That and my attempt to show that if you give everything over to spirit and let go of all animosity, you will be able to live a more joyful life.

 

As I’ve written here countless times before, the original intent of Wisdom and Life to concentrate on Law of Attraction (LoA) morphed into a more spiritually themed site about four months after I started. I realized once I understood what happened, that Law of Attraction is just another color of the spiritual rainbow. In other words LoA is another vehicle to realizing faith and spirituality without the dogma attached. For some of us who have strayed from all things religious, regardless of whether they are tied to any specific organized religion or not, simply hearing about spirituality can turn some off.

 

I am deeply spiritual and have always carried a huge amount of faith. I believe that’s why I unconsciously changed the direction of Wisdom and Life. Law of Attraction still plays a role here.  However if you take some time explore, you’ll find I write on a plethora of topics. I will always return to the two main topics when it comes to writing for Wisdom and Life though:
Faith and Spirituality
and
Law of Attraction

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

A Look Back

Nine years ago, I started writing Wisdom and Life.  So hard to believe it’s been nine years since this blog has existed.  

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Thought it would be fun to read my initial post from May 30, 2010:
Starting another blog today. After hearing some of my story a few weeks ago, my friend, Mary thought others might benefit from some of my wisdom. (Ha-ha) We’ll see how this goes.

This will be a place to share my thoughts on life and why I think we’re here. Feel free to comment on my posts. I’d like to get as many perspectives as possible here. Will try and post something between twice a week to daily. We’ll see how it goes.

To start with:

Let me introduce myself. For those of you who don’t know me from my photography blog, I’m a photographer who lives in Madison, Connecticut who just happens to have changed his perspective on life a couple years ago. What happened, you may ask?

The Secret is what happened. I’ve moved on from that initial introduction. One way I describe The Secret is think of it as AOL in the early days of the Internet. America Online was the introduction to many to the online world. Once you became familiar with the Internet through AOL some graduated to direct Internet. So think of The Secret in the same manner. It is simply a bridge to move forward to greater wisdom.

Follow me and we will see where this life brings us!

We’ll see you again soon!

Chris

 

Walking In Someone Else’s Shoes

During my recent time in the hospital, I reconnected with an old friend from high school. Shawn visited just about every day. We reminisced about our time in high school. He remembered the times when I was belittled and sometimes bullied because of some of my challenges, from my speech that sometimes prevented me from getting the words out that I wanted to say to my appearance because of my scoliosis. Shawn wondered how I let that roll off my back and continued to smile through everything.

I explained to him my reasoning behind my personality.

Just think about what must be happening in THEIR lives, I said. They must have been bullied themselves, either at home or in school. I never took anything anyone did or said to me personally. I did my best and still do my best to see bullying and belittlement from another perspective. I put myself in their shoes. I feel bad for them, because just think about all that negative energy they carry around with them. It has to be released in some way. And unfortunately, many of us don’t have a constructive way to do so. To my advantage, I found my creative outlet.

 

I spent my nights after dinner while in school writing. That became my outlet. It was how I released my own negative energy. And it worked for me. If I hadn’t had that, who knows?  I don’t think I’d have ever become a bully having experienced it myself all through grammar school and high school to a degree. I always had too much empathy to to consider belittling anyone.

 

I found it fascinating to talk to Shawn again after all the years that passed between us. He seemed to recall more examples of my being intimidated while in high school. Sometimes others see something happening when we don’t. I KNOW there were definitely times when I felt belittled, however I always felt more distress for those doing the intimidating. I kept thinking about their lives. What must they be going through?

 

That probably won’t work in today’s socially connected world where a single thought or post can be seen by your entire tribe, your friends, your frenemies and anyone else. I was also fortunate to have friends such as Shawn.

 

Jack Whaley was another such friend I made the first day in the eighth grade. People who took the time to get to know me beyond my outward challenges. I’m grateful for all my friends. But of all my high school friends, having Shawn visit me while I spent so much time in the hospital this winter really touched me. Listening to him relate some stories about his experience with seeing me be intimidated rocked my world because in some cases I don’t recall it happening. But once he’d leave, I would reflect on it and then I’d remember. Oh yeah, I’d think. That DID occur.

 

Bullying has taken on an entirely new dimension and we can no longer just turn to our friends to help and we can’t simply put ourselves in the bully’s shoes. There’s too much of it happening today.  The connected world has made life easier and more challenging at the same time. It’s sad that people still feel the need to intimidate others. I still can’t help but think about the lives they have.  

 

Being empathetic is who I am.  And it’s how I made it through my school age years. Maybe if more people looked at life that way we wouldn’t have so much ugly threatening. Am I being too naive?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Memorial Day 2019

A repeat performance!

As today is Memorial Day my usual column will be postponed.  Memorial Day should be a day of remembrance.  When you see someone in the US Military this week, make sure you thank them for their service.

 

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And PLEASE remember, Memorial Day is more than the unofficial start of summer.  It is more than just another day off.  It is more than picnics and sales.

 

Memorial Day is designated as the National day of Remembrance.  It is the day we pause and give thanks to all those who lost their lives in our conflicts and wars throughout our history.

 

Passing Into The Next Life

Passing into the next life has never been a traumatic expectation for me, especially after having my own NDE. Since becoming familiar with past lives and learning from each life we live, I’ve also realized that we choose the life we live and even how and when we return to our true home. The ethereal, the spiritual realm is our true home. It’s why I have no fear of passing on. And the fact that I’ve already been to the other side leaves me feeling more at peace.

 

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If, as I believe we DO CHOOSE how and when we will pass into the next realm, those left behind have to create a new mindset.  We have to learn to celebrate the life that left us. There should be no need to feel anything but joy. I certainly understand why we mourn those who have passed. We feel as if they are no longer with us; especially if they were taken violently or unexpectedly. That makes it understandable why we feel distressed when someone we care for deeply passes on.  We’ve forgotten that we have chosen the path we take in this human life.

 

In other words, we’ve already mapped out how we will return to the ethereal.  Whether it is unexpected, or something we are aware of as illness overtakes us makes no difference.  We’ve decided ourselves in transition hall when we return to spirit.

 

Violent death can be especially challenging to overcome.  It’s difficult for those left to pick up the pieces after a sudden passing, especially one that was totally unexpected.  We have to realize that getting angry about a sudden death does no one any good. Remember my column:

Holding onto Anger?  In that column I wrote:
When you hold on it’s like grasping a hot piece of coal.  You only wind up hurting yourself.  

 

I understand this topic may ruffle some feathers.  It may seem somewhat esoteric to my readers. I realize that IF we DO choose when and how we leave this physical plane and THEN once we become human again we forget everything we did in Transition Station (To learn more about this see Soul Groups.) I can see how punishment, retribution and anger could certainly overwhelm us.  The thing we have to remember though is the fact that we forget everything when we incarnate again.  

 

The reason we forget is because we wouldn’t learn anything from the last life we just led.  The entire reason for reincarnation is to learn from each life and attempt to improve and learn from past transgressions.  We want to get to a place where we don’t have to return. We want to seek perfection. Not that we will ever get there, but we want to get to a point where we’ve learned enough and made enough positive changes so we can get off the reincarnation ride, where we can eventually choose to return if we want to.  So you may be asking where this worldview I have came from.

 

This belief that we choose how we come and go in this world primarily evolved through a book called Journey of Souls.  Feel free to click the preceding link to read more about the book at my blog.  If you go back and read my column called:
Signing a Contract you will see more of this belief system there. I also recommend reading my thoughts on how we choose our next life in Soul Groups. Start with:
For it is in our humanity that we are tested.  And we don’t know our results until we are all together again in Transition Station.  Notice we go through Transition Tunnel to get to Transition Station?

 

Another piece of my worldview puzzle fell into place through a Melissa Etheridge  song called:

Gently We Row.  In that song, there’s a lyric she sings:
My soul crashed into my body
Falling into consciousness

 

This is exactly how I see our spiritual souls coming from the ethereal realm, The Transition Station where we choose our next life.  Apparently, Melissa Etheridge feels the same way.

 

I understand why people feel angry when someone close to them passes on violently but if as I believe we choose how we will return AND how we will pass, IF WE ALL choose how we return then we have to celebrate the life and not mourn the passing or be angry about how the person went home. The unfortunate thing as I said earlier in today’s column, is that when we DO pass into the ethereal, we forget the choice we made and even that we made the choice at all.

 

That’s why writing this blog and specifically my thoughts on death and dying as well as the topic of past lives is so important to understand.  If more of us considered the fact that this MAY be true, that we DO all return again and again and that we DO choose how and when we leave and return:
I believe we would stop being so distressed over death.  
I believe we would become a kinder gentler people.  
I believe criminal punishment would take on a whole new meaning.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Arthur C. Clarke’s Third Law and Star Trek Discovery

Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from. magic.
Captain Pike from Discovery says:
The law was debated by scientists and theologians alike and later reinterpreted to say any sufficiently advanced extraterrestrial intelligence is indistinguishable from God.

Star Trek Discovery
New Eden

 

I’m stepping outside my usual themes today, using Star Trek as my inspiration today.  As you read today’s column, you’ll find that I do link everything back to my spirituality theme.  I wrote this column in January.  However, as events occurred since then, such as my NDE and my three hospital stays, I’ve had to move columns around.

 

As I’ve written at Wisdom and Life multime times over, I’m a HUGE fan of Star Trek.  You can read my previous columns by clicking on the preceding link.  Star Trek Discovery is the new series based on the original. The second season started a few weeks ago and New Eden is the second episode of the second season.  Not only am I fan of Star Trek, I’m a fan of science fiction (SF) in general.

 

Arthur C.Clarke is a one of the quintessential SF writers of the 20th century.

 

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Prins Claus en Arthur C Clarke (1982)


Hearing Captain Pike from Discovery, reinterpret Clarke’s third law to include God stirred my thoughts.  The overriding subject of Wisdom and Life IS spirituality and finding a better way to live your life.  My faith in God has helped me live a better life. Getting back to Star Trek, in a Next Generation episode called The Chase, Captain Picard discovers a theory that humanity may have been seeded from the stars, which returns us to the quote that Captain Pike reinterpreted.  There’s no reason proof of extraterrestrial intelligence has to nullify a belief in God, which leads DIRECTLY back to Pike’s interpretation of Clarke’s Third Law

 

Everything is a circle and everything repeats itself over and over.

 

If we believe that God is omnipotent, why couldn’t he have created more than one race?  I’ve discussed this previously here but can’t recall the exact column.

 

Since I mentioned Next Generation earlier in this column, I liked seeing that Jonathan Frakes directed this episode.  I hope by having a name from a previous Trek direct Discovery shows that there is interest in seeing the latest Star Trek succeed. Also there’s the fact that Patrick Stewart is returning to the role of Captain Picard. Seeing all these events line up leads me to believe that Star Trek will indeed “live long and prosper.”

 

I’m enjoying the new series and seeing spirituality enter Discovery makes the new Star Trek more appealing, at least to me.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.