Easter Monday

As is always the case, when my blog falls on a holiday, I interrupt my regularly scheduled routine and write about that specific holiday.  Since yesterday was Easter Sunday and by some semblance, today is Easter Monday it is time again to write about this holy day:

 

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Easter is important to a wide range of people.  Myself included. Even though I don’t consider myself religious, that doesn’t mean I don’t practice my own faith.  Faith is what helped me survive through all the challenges I’ve faced in this my latest incarnation.

 

I do believe in the resurrection.  I do believe I’m still a practicing Christian. I just may have taken a detour on the path.

 

Christianity, Spirituality can work together.  There are many themes within Christianity that are anathema to my own belief system, such as the view of past lives and reincarnation.  I understand that there are those in the strict Christian model that find some of my worldview counter to their belief system. That’s alright.

 

I’ve been able to meld all of my worldview into my own practice.  That works for me.
The resurrection?
God?
Jesus?
Easter?

 

I have no issue fitting opposing viewpoints into my own puzzle.  Easter and the Resurrection has always been and will continue to be an important aspect of my spiritual practice.

 

I do believe and will ALWAYS believe!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Introverts and Public Speaking

Two quotes today from Introvert Dear that relates to this column:
It’s not the antagonism of the crowd that bothers me, I can handle that. It’s the after-debate party that terrifies me.

Most people would feel relaxed at a party and sink into terror at the thought addressing a large crowd. For me, it was the other way round.


Someone at my November, 2018 book launch took this picture of me speaking.  Wish I remembered/knew. I would gladly give credit. It could have been any number of family or friends.

Many who have introverts in their circle tend to make inferences based on what they THINK they know:
Introverts don’t like people.
Introverts are too quiet.
Introverts always want to be alone.

 

Introverts fear public speaking:
This is where I’m focusing today.  One of the traits that many introverts share is the discomfort of small talk, the discomfort of being in large group expecting to interact socially with individuals we don’t know or are not comfortable with, in other words engaging in rudimentary small talk.  However get an introvert to talk about what excites them, what they love doing and speaking about it in front of a crowd, in other words, public speaking about their passion and you’ll never shut them up.

 

I’m like that.  I have a few other challenges that creep in when I speak though.  I sometimes find it difficult to get the words out when I begin talking.  I have a tendency to block. For a long time I avoided public speaking because I felt self conscious about this.  The more speaking I do however, I find that I’m less intimidated and it has become easier t deal with this. As this quote suggests:

Most people would feel relaxed at a party and sink into terror at the thought addressing a large crowd. For me, it was the other way round.

 

It’s exactly how I feel.  I’m so much more comfortable standing in front of a crowd discussing my passion, because I know I’m what I saying is true and I get to talk about what I love.  Get me in front of people where I have to interact socially that’s when things tend to go awry. I’m uncomfortable making small talk. I actually don’t like it.  Small talk is not genuine and I’d rather run and hide, find a safe place to regroup. That’s why many times when I’m at a social event, whether it be a family party or a business event, you’ll find me on the periphery, usually standing alone, away from the crowd.  I’m not sure how to act when I’m in a crowd, unless I’m speaking about something that people are there to hear.

 

Public speaking no longer intimidates me.  It’s social events that leave me feeling claustrophobic, causing the fight or flight mode.  And typically I choose flight. When engagement overwhelms me, I will run away to a quiet place and regroup.  Some may think that aloof, indifferent, detached. It isn’t. Simply put escaping is my defense mechanism. Over stimulation causes an introvert to shut down and they need time to regroup.  Unfortunately, many people take an introvert’s quirks and contorts them to fit a specific set of rules they feel are right. People not on the introversion scale have a tendency to try and draw the introvert out with questions like:
Is everything okay?
Why are you so quiet?

 

This doesn’t help the introvert.  In fact it does more harm to their already sense that there is something wrong with them and they need to be fixed.  An introvert can’t be and shouldn’t want to be fixed.

 

Speaking of people putting introverts into a box, squeezing them into their preconceived notions of the way introverts should behave, we don’t all behave the same way.  Some of us shrink from public speaking. Me? Not so much.

 

I’d rather be up on a podium addressing a group of people who are interested in what I have to say about one of my particular passions; then sitting around people I don’t really know well and be expected to introduce myself and do a round of small talk.  How bout you?

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Go To Your Room?

The last couple of months I’ve written about my NDE  as a theme.  That was planned.  This month, an unplanned theme evolved:
Introversion/INFP.  As of this writing, there are three columns in this theme.

 

Enjoy:
Telling an introvert child to go to their room after doing something wrong may not be the deterrent  you thought. We know that introverts thrive on alone time and family should be aware of their children’s personality type by the time they’re old enough to start needing discipline.

 

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You should consider other deterrents to keep your introverted child on the right path.  Sending an introverted child to their room after doing something wrong may have the opposite effect of deterrence, not the child won’t understand they are being scolded.  They will. However, that child will likely find solace in the alone time, especially if she were acting out because she’d had too much together time. Let’s not forget that introverts can handle only so much people time.  If they’ve been over saturated, the introvert will lash out, they will run and hide or they will shut down. Scolding a child for their natural behavior may not be in the best interest of the child or the parents. It could lead to further disruptive behavior.

 

I’m not saying to scold your child by putting them in a situation where they will be more uncomfortable.  Maybe sit down and discuss what YOU THINK they did that needed to be reprimanded. If you’re open with them, you may discover something about your own parenting.  You may discover something about your child as well. Don’t be so quick to judge. Don’t judge without first considering what you are judging. Just like don’t say the first thing that comes to your mind.  

 

Weigh your words, your judgements and your actions carefully BEFORE putting them out, because one your words, your actions and your judgements are out there, they can’t be put back.  Those things can hurt anyone. Introverts are especially vulnerable to being emotionally scarred. Be careful when you consider doing hurtful things do an introvert. They may recover, but they may shut you out of their lives if you continue to hurt them.

 

Teaching children right from wrong, scolding them when they’ve done wrong is an important part of growing up.  It’s important however, to take into account the type of child you have. You can’t reprimand all children in the same way.  Not everyone responds in comparable fashion. It’s your task as a parent to understand your child’s personality and what works as deterrence and what doesn’t.  Reprimanding bad behavior should be part of growing up. However, you don’t want your son or daughter to wind up being distant either physically or emotionally when they are adults because you hurt them.  I’m not saying that reprimanding bad behavior shouldn’t happen, because you want to be your child’s best friend. Just that you have to consider the best way to scold your children and to follow up on the topic of today’s column, sending an introvert to their room might NOT be the BEST solution when we all understand that introverts crave alone time.

 

Just something to take under advisement.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Health Products

I returned to Saint Raphael’s Hospital on Monday, February 25 after being in distress over the weekend.  I discovered something new about myself, that I have a narrow trachea, which makes it challenging to breathe in and breathe out.  Having a narrow trachea is also challenging to cough up anything. I have two new products now to use to help this situation:

  1. An Acapella Pep Therapy System Green

 

This little green bottle is amazing for someone with breathing issues and congestion in the lungs and chest that simply won’t move.  It works by blowing into the mouthpiece then vibrating deep into your chest and lungs, moving mucus and breaking it up. By breaking up the large chunks into smaller pieces, it makes it easier to move through a narrow pipe like my trachea.

 

 

 

 

 

2. A Salter Aire Plus 8350 Nebulizer

 

While in the hospital for the second time in the first three  months of 2019, I was given nebulizer (neb) treatments. Using my Pep therapy system along with the neb treatments has helped immensely.  The large pieces of mucus is now breaking up and moving out of my lungs and I’ve stopped my continuous coughing.

For those who have asthma/COPD and or other breathing challenges, these two products may just be the gift you didn’t know you needed.  If you can’t afford both, and you had to choose one or the other, I’d say the Acapella Pep Therapy System.

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Mattress Genie Bed Wedge

Last week was the last DIRECT column related to my NDE.  The next two columns, while  related are not directly tied to my NDE.  They are related to my health and staying well after leaving the hospital.

 

A raised mattress may just be the fix one needs for health reasons.
A hospital bed? 
A brand new adjustable bed?

Maybe not.

 

After spending eleven days in the hospital in the month of February in a hospital bed, I realized upon leaving I could no longer sleep lying prone.  The initial thought was a temporary fix of renting a hospital bed. But the challenge with that was where to put it. The next thought became buying an adjustable bed.  Both options would require chunk of change. My sister in law recommended a far less expensive choice:
Mattress Genie Bed Wedge, Queen

 

The blue pillow under my boxspring with the white plug and white cord IS THE Mattress Genie:

 

Mattress Genie has sizes for all beds and since I have a queen size mattress I have that size.  The Genie raises the mattress up high enough, almost to the same degree as a hospital bed. Because my breathing is so challenging with my scoliosis that presses into my chest, having this wedge that raises my head is a Godsend.

 

Sleeping has always been important to me.  I’ve never really been one not to sleep well. Now that I have this bed wedge I have no worry about waking up and not being able to catch my breath.  That last Tuesday in January when I woke up lying prone and losing my oxygen level is the last time I slept lying flat.

 

Having a raised mattress helps with more than just breathing.  It can prevent snoring and help with acid reflux as well. So happy that I have this now and I THINK it has become my permanent fix.  Should anyone have breathing issues or any of the other issues above, having raised mattress is something you should consider.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Prepared For Your Ultimate Journey?

Are you prepared for your ultimate journey?  Having my recent NDE, has put my life in a brand new perspective.  I understand this can be a difficult discussion to have.  However you don’t want to leave your family with the challenges that arise if you do not have all your final preparations completed.  Putting things off because they are uncomfortable will create more uncomfortableness for family. I know people who haven’t prepared and I’ve seen the effects it has.  I waited a little too long myself but two years ago I FINALLY decided to prepare myself. I need to look over my information and MIGHT need to make a change to one particular aspect of my of my own preparations.

 

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This is too important to keep putting off.  If you haven’t begun this process I implore everyone to get started.  Go to your public library and research how to begin. I believe some states don’t require a lawyer.  Regardless, I recommend using a lawyer. That way you will know all your “I’s” are dotted and all your “T’s” are crossed.

 

Do you have a living will?  This is also an important decision to make.  What kind of care would you like to have if you suffer a catastrophe?  A living will will go a long way to helping you and your medical personal decide what kind of care you would like.

 

Getting these things done sooner rather than later will help everyone.  If you haven’t begun this process, start now.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Relationships Are Eternal

Relationships are forever. They are eternal. Not just permanent in this lifetime. Once you establish a relationship, it is an eternal relationship….

 


Abraham-Hicks
March 6, 2019

 

Here’s a caveat to today’s column and EVERY column:
When you see blue underlined text, it is usually referencing back to previous columns at Wisdom and Life.  If you want a refresher, feel free to click on the blue underlined text. It will bring you to the previous columns.  Sometimes, the text/links will bring you outside my blog.

 

My recent NDE re-convinced me of many things.  One, as Carly Simon sings is Life is Eternal, is that nothing ever ends.  That includes relationships we’ve made, friendships that have developed over time, friendships that have altered our lives.  Regardless of whether we are no longer here physically, those relationships still exist. Those souls who have passed onto the ethereal still exist.  We will always be together.

 

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If you haven’t read Richard Matheson’s What Dreams May Come, I implore to get this book and after you read it, then tell me you don’t see the validity in the fact that relationships don’t end with someone passing into the ethereal.  I understand this book is presented as fiction, however, when you read it, you will clearly see the fact in it. Matheson even included an extensive bibliography to show how much research he put into the manuscript.  This book should be read by ALL humanity. I believe it is that important. It helped change my views on life and it may just do the same for you. Relationships don’t end when one passes.

 

Even though my NDE didn’t show me specifically that relationships, friends, genetic friends or family move beyond the ethereal together, just having the NDE has proven to me that we, as humanity move beyond, that we are simply, (as I’ve said multiple times) shells that our souls, our essence is who we TRULY are.  That our bodies are just a mode of transportation in this physical world.

 

Relationships don’t end with the passing of one.  Physically, yes; it MAY feel like the end. But all your important friendships and familial connections continue in the ethereal world.  Your soul group is who you are.  Why would God put someone in your life who BECAME your life, only to take them away from you?  I don’t believe it. That would be vindictive. And I don’t believe God is vindictive. God is love.  Love is God. They are one in the same.

 

Just as life is eternal, relationships are eternal.  Your best friend, may have been your lover in a past life.  Your lover may have been your brother in a past life. Sex is indeterminate in souls.  A male in a past life may be a female in a current life. It’s the soul that attracts, not the shell, not the body.

 

Remember!  NOTHING is lost.  Relationships once forged will be with us ALWAYS.  Love will be with us ALWAYS. Nothing ends. It’s a continuing cycle of renewal.  God is ALWAYS green

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

What I Learned

Bear with me while I continue exploring my recent Near Death Experience. (NDE) This was a life changing event and something I will carry with me for the duration of this my latest incarnation.  Today, I want to discuss what I learned from my NDE. This column arises the same way last week’s did:
From a question someone asked me:
Did you get any insights into the purpose of humanity during your episode?

 

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I’m going to move around the periphery of that question and hopefully be able to satisfy the person who asked.

 

 

 

 

I wasn’t in the waiting room long enough to gain any insight into the  purpose for ALL humanity. I can only discuss my own personal experience:

Nothing other than when we pass, we don’t disappear into a permanent void.

Our consciousness remains. Our bodies may deteriorate but our “essence” lives on, just like when a hermit crab moves from one shell to another, our souls move from one “shell” to another when our bodies can no longer sustain us.

Love and positive energy is everywhere in that other place.

 

As a way of TRYING to tie this into the initial question about the purpose of humanity in general, l can only say that no one should fear being dead. Because death doesn’t exist. My own NDE has proven that to me.

 

Actually experiencing an NDE myself has given me more peace. I’ve ALWAYS had faith that there was something beyond, but being in that place, feeling it with every fiber of my being is completely different.  Being there and returning proved to me beyond doubt that we do survive our mortal shells. So that’s what I would say is the BROAD insight I took away from my NDE; that we shouldn’t fear we go once we shed our shells. For as I’m so fond of saying:

We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

 

Kind of ironic that I went through this myself after having Taking Off A Coat, a book published in November on this very topic.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

The Difference Between an NDE and Reincarnation

Continuing my columns on my recent Near Death Experience while at Saint Raphael’s Hospital in New Haven, Connecticut today, I’ll answer a question several people have asked me since I posted the original column linked above.

If you died when you were in St. Raphael’s Hospital on or about January 27, 2019 as you told us; and came back to life and were reincarnated in accordance with your belief, why didn’t you return in a different state of existence ( a different life, person etc)?

 

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The above question was posed and asked in the specific manner it was written.  A few other people have asked this question in similar ways.

 

Here’s how I attempt to answer:
I didn’t actually stay on the other side. I believe I was sent back because it wasn’t yet my time. So my soul, my essence was put back into the body I currently am residing in.

 

From what I understand and believe, reincarnation happens only after you have crossed over and are not sent back (as in an NDE.)  And you are only able to return after a significant amount of time reflecting on the life you just left. When you cross the threshold of an NDE into the COMPLETE transitional period, you WILL pass through that tunnel.  I did NOT get that far. Being sent back BEFORE entering the tunnel convinces me I didn’t reach the next level.

 

After passing through that said tunnel you will eventually meet up with those in your soul group who have already passed on.  Your soul group is who you will reflect with about how you lived your most recent incarnation.  It isn’t until after you’ve spent time in this place that it will be decided whether or not you return or stay in the ethereal world.  The ultimate goal for a soul is to stop returning, to reach for perfection enough that you’ve done enough to achieve it.

 

Only God is perfect.  God doesn’t expect perfection from his children, the souls of those he has created, only that we live the best life we can and to learn from previous lives, previous incarnations.  Once we have reached what God thinks is our best last life, we can then make the decision on our own, whether to reincarnate or not. I believe the choice is left to us once we reach that place.  Until we get to our last best life, we must continue returning.

 

We return over and over so that we can learn from our previous lives to reach Godlike perfection.  As I said earlier, however God doesn’t expect perfection, only that we attempt to get there.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

The Support I Didn’t Know I Had

In last week’s episode of Wisdom and Life, I wrote about Flatlining to a Waiting Room.  I  probably shouldn’t have been, but I felt overwhelmed by the number of people who reached out to me while in the hospital.  As each day passed and I stayed in the hospital, I became concerned, wondering when I’d be discharged. Hearing from friends and having so many visitors brought me comfort.  Friends I hadn’t seen in almost fifteen years stopped by to visit.

 

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Phone calls, texts, emails, messages on Facebook.
WOW!

 

Just an amazing experience to know how much support I REALLY have.  Almost felt like my own life celebration and I’m immensely thankful.  

 

While I went through that traumatic experience, I DEFINITELY see the blessing.  It’s one thing I’ve learned during this, my latest incarnation:
That there is ALWAYS a blessing inside EVERY challenge.

 

I found two blessings:
1.  All the love and support helped me through.
2.  Having faith that something exists and ACTUALLY feeling it with EVERY sense gives me peace.  ACTUALLY experiencing an NDE, now shows me that my faith has been proven.

 

We are simply shells that encompass our essence.  Nothing ever dies. Our shells simply deteriorate.  Then we must find a new home for our essence.

 

I’m just so grateful for EVERYTHING!
I’m grateful for the love and support shown to me
I’m grateful to have been shown what happens when our bodies can no longer operate.
I’m grateful to have been shown we do INDEED survive our bodies.

And I’m grateful for the second chance, to have been sent back.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.