The Support I Didn’t Know I Had

In last week’s episode of Wisdom and Life, I wrote about Flatlining to a Waiting Room.  I  probably shouldn’t have been, but I felt overwhelmed by the number of people who reached out to me while in the hospital.  As each day passed and I stayed in the hospital, I became concerned, wondering when I’d be discharged. Hearing from friends and having so many visitors brought me comfort.  Friends I hadn’t seen in almost fifteen years stopped by to visit.

 

Image from:
Pixabay

Phone calls, texts, emails, messages on Facebook.
WOW!

 

Just an amazing experience to know how much support I REALLY have.  Almost felt like my own life celebration and I’m immensely thankful.  

 

While I went through that traumatic experience, I DEFINITELY see the blessing.  It’s one thing I’ve learned during this, my latest incarnation:
That there is ALWAYS a blessing inside EVERY challenge.

 

I found two blessings:
1.  All the love and support helped me through.
2.  Having faith that something exists and ACTUALLY feeling it with EVERY sense gives me peace.  ACTUALLY experiencing an NDE, now shows me that my faith has been proven.

 

We are simply shells that encompass our essence.  Nothing ever dies. Our shells simply deteriorate.  Then we must find a new home for our essence.

 

I’m just so grateful for EVERYTHING!
I’m grateful for the love and support shown to me
I’m grateful to have been shown what happens when our bodies can no longer operate.
I’m grateful to have been shown we do INDEED survive our bodies.

And I’m grateful for the second chance, to have been sent back.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Flatlined to a Waiting Room

So.  I’m a week late with returning from my holiday hiatus.
As you read today’s column, it will become clear why I missed last Monday.

 

Kind of a long column today.  As I wrote this over the past four or five days, I realized how important it was to get everything down and the more I wrote, the more I had to say.  You will NOT be disappointed.

 

I’ve been in the hospital for over a week now having been brought by ambulance on Tuesday, January 29 in severe respiratory distress. (Finally discharged on Friday, February 8 after eleven days.  The longest I’d been in the hospital since childhood.)  My oxygen was down to 60. I recovered on the way to Yale enough that I could breathe easier.  When emergency personal arrived, they said I was grey from lack of oxygen.  I was suffocating.

 

 

Image from:
Pixabay

 

 

 

I started to get sick two days prior to Tuesday and went to my doctor on Monday to get some medicine. I decided not to go home by myself and stayed with my family. It’s a good thing I did that because I was able to get help immediately Tuesday morning.

 

I felt better every day and even thought I’d be headed home by Friday. Friday night took a HUGE turn for the worse. Around 1030 as I got ready for bed I began having a coughing fit which lead to breathing issues again. I paged the nurse station and they came into check my oxygen. Next thing I remember is having a huge number of people in my room shouting:
Stay with us Chris!
Stay with us.

 

 

I only felt distress briefly while I couldn’t breathe in the first fifteen minutes after I paged the nurses.   I realized that by struggling I made matters worse.  Once I stopped struggling and gave myself over to whatever happened, everything became easier.  I no longer felt distress.

 

Then the room started to spin like an out of control merry go round, faster and faster. Doctor’s voices were fading away.

 

I was gone.  Flatlined.  Once more I heard someone in the room shout:
Come back!

 

I found myself in a big black empty field.  According to the preceding link, some souls stay in the void for longer periods of time.  Some see lights opening. That’s what I noticed:
Tiny pin pricks of light opened up to the far left, almost like a door opening out of the void.  Then the light moved all round me and enveloped me.

 

Perhaps these lights were souls of past people close to me, because when they appeared out of the darkness, blinking on, I never felt so much love and peace. I didn’t want to come back. It was absolutely amazing.

 

Don’t know how long I stayed there, but it felt like home.  It felt like that’s where I belonged. I didn’t feel anything but peace and all encompassing love.  I did not go through the typical tunnel one experiences. Again, according to the article, everyone enters the void first, THEN are guided through the tunnel.  I didn’t see the tunnel, which leads me to believe it wasn’t my time.

 

The next thing I vaguely recall is waking up sometime Saturday afternoon while in the ICU on a ventilator. Nurses tried to take me off but I still couldn’t breathe on my own.  Finally, Sunday morning around 1030 they were able to remove the ventilator and sent me out of the ICU in the early evening.

 

As I think back on my near death experience, because that’s what it was, I believe that image of a door opening through those pin pricks of light was significant because I THINK I was in a waiting room and someone peeked through and decided it wasn’t my time to be there yet so I was sent back. If the article I linked to above is correct, it seems that the void is definitely a waiting area before you are allowed to move on or return.

 

I recall nothing about returning and waking up briefly on Saturday when nurses in ICU attempted to take me off the ventilator.  But I do vividly remember the spinning room, the doctors saying stay with us and winding up in the void. All this happened. I find it fascinating that I don’t remember returning.  The only thing I can think of is that It would have been a painful trip back and perhaps those in the higher plane, in the void masked my pain.

 

This is an experience I will never forget and it proves to me once more that my worldview about death and dying is my truth. I found another article that deeply resonated with me:
Three Fundamental Realizations You Have after an NDE  
Everything in the precedingly linked article is so close to how I feel.  Fascinating truths there.


Should you want to know more about my thoughts on this subject, my book:
Taking Off A Coat: Ruminations on the Infinite Soul will give more opinion and thoughts.

 

Always having a strong faith in something and actually experiencing that faith with every sense, puts your life in a different perspective.  I’ve always believed we are souls having a human experience, that we are merely vessels, shells that carry our essence, our souls.  After going where I went when I flatlined, gives me even more peace.  I didn’t enjoy the initial trip getting there, but once I realized struggling made it worse, I let go and all that distress went away.  Maybe going through what I did, having had an NDE transpired to show me that struggle and pain are part of the human experience and when we discover this upon traveling home, to God, if we simply let go and let God, all that struggle will slip away as our mortal shell slips away.

 

I’ve never really been afraid to die because my faith is so strong.  I just don’t want to struggle.  Maybe as I said above, I had this NDE to show me NOT to struggle, to simply let go and whatever happens is supposed to happen.  I’ve always known this too but again having actually experienced something like this puts everything in a different perspective.  I will carry this with me for the rest of this latest incarnation I’m allowed to be in.  I’m grateful to my God for ACTUALLY giving me my own proof that we do indeed exist after these shells we inhabit deteriorate, that we don’t simply go into oblivion, that our essence, our souls do indeed survive and move beyond this earthly realm.

 

Obviously, I’m not done with my service here yet.  There is more for me to do and I look forward to however much time I have left.  I’m happy to have been sent back.  I would have been just as happy to stay where I went.  I felt so much peace and love there.  An amazing trip, and one I will never forget!

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Christmas Crossroads

This will be my last column this year.
I’m going on my yearly holiday hiatus.
Will be back the first week in February.

However, unlike previous hiatuses 
I will continue writing. Just not my two blogs. 
I’m working on short stories again.

My friend and blogger, Jean Wise is also a published author. Her latest book available on Amazon is:

Christmas Crossroads

This a small volume with huge concepts. Just because the concepts our large, it doesn’t mean that the book is challenging to understand. On the contrary, Jean writes in a manner that her thoughts come across easily.

In the book, Jean uses Biblical quotes to understand the implications of the Christmas season and reflects on each quote.  I like that style of writing, for it helps us understand how someone thinks about a certain topic. I write my own spiritual blog in much the same way.

One of the features about this collection that I like is that at the end of each reflection Jean writes what’s called a:
Roadside Billboard
Roadside Pursuit

and
Roadside Rest Stop

In each of these, she gives us advice on how to handle the challenges of not just the Christmas season but of life in general.

The crossroads part of the title references where we are at a particular time in our lives and how we can deal with with the challenges that this season brings.

As I read the book, I realized how much we share in common. I resonated deeply with each reflection. So many of Jean’s reflections connect to my own belief system. And because of that I wanted to share this collection with my readers. I think many of my followers will connect with this collection as well.

This is a book that I found personally useful. Christmas Crossroads has helped me see that we can choose how we spend our time. Whenever we come to a crossroad in our own lives we can choose which road we take. Whatever we decide, as long as we follow our true spiritual light, we can’t make a wrong choice.  Follow God’s path and we will be blessed.

I recommend this book to anyone attempting to calm themselves during this busy holiday season. I believe it will bring you back to center, bring you back to the present moment which is where we should ALWAYS be. As I’m done of saying:

Nothing challenging can happen in the present moment. It’s only when we start to forecast, it’s only when we look to the future wondering where we will be, wondering what will happen that we panic.

Stay in the present moment. That’s where we are safe.

Reading Christmas Crossroads helped me to understand this again and after reading it, I look forward to reading her previous titles available here:
Jean Wise on Amazon

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

The Month of Light

The last of my Theme Months ends with December being the month of light. It may seem counterintuitive to think of December being the month of light upon first blush. However after considering it you may come to understand why I see it that way. 

–The Winter Solstice arrives signifying the end of the darkest days of the year and bringing longer daylight hours every day after the Solstice. 

–December is also the month we celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ (The Light of the World.)

Image from:
Pixabay 

Two reasons apply for why December is considered The Month of Light:

I look forward to the Winter Solstice every year because daylight increases by the minute after the Solstice.  It’s actually one of my two favorite days of the year.  The other is when daylight savings time goes into effect.

There are those who believe Christ was NOT born in December but possibly in October. And the reason we celebrate his birth in December is so that it coordinates with The Winter Solstice.  The beginning of light and Christ being the giver of light. 

As I promised in October here’s how these three themed months connect. Now bear with me as I make the connection:

–If you recall, October was seeing through the thin veil that separates the physical world from the ethereal one. 

November was the Grateful Month. 

–December is the Month of Light. 

So here’s how I see them tying together:

DEATH and DYING should NOT be mourned. That event in one’s time should be celebrated. We should be GRATEFUL for having those people in our lives. For it’s a time of returning home, returning to the LIGHT  from whence we came. 

See how I made the connection there?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

God Friended Me

A quick column today:
For those living in the United States, I have a television show recommendation.  If you haven’t already started watching God Friended Me, I highly recommend you do.  You can play catch up OnDemand if you want to follow from the beginning.  Of the nine episodes Ihat have aired since the show began, only one was a bit weak.  The program is about someone who suddenly receives friend recommendations from a Facebook page called The God Account.  The guy that receives the “friends” then sets out to locate them with his best friend who works with him and a young woman.

 

They are called to help their new friends through whatever challenges they face.  One of the threads that flows through the series is the search for who is behind the God Account.  To throw things further into flux, the guy receiving the friend requests proclaims to be an atheist and his father is a minister.  

 

I don’t want to say much more if you haven’t seen the series yet, other than it has become must watch TV for me on Sunday nights.  It has replaced Once Upon A Time my previous must watch Sunday night show as a favorite.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Let Go. Let the Light In

Complaining about anything holds you in the place of refusing to receive the things you’ve been asking for. Justifying about anything holds you in the place of refusing to let in the very things that you’ve been asking for. Blaming someone holds you in the place of refusing to let in the things that you’ve been asking for. Feeling guilty, feeling angry, it doesn’t matter what you call it; it is a refusal, not a conscious one. You’re asking; you can’t help but ask. The Universe is yielding; it must yield. It’s a big question, folks: why aren’t you letting it in?

 

Abraham-Hicks
October 31, 2018

 

Look for the positive in life. That has been the underlying theme of Wisdom and Life throughout the course of its existence. Whether I’m discussing death and dying, whether it be dealing with a challenge, whatever is on tap, the best thing, the ONLY thing to do if you want to improve your outlook is to stop complaining, stop justifying. Because as Abraham-Hicks so eloquently says in the above quote, doing those things will only bring more challenges into your sphere.

 

Let the light in.

Image from:
Pixabay

In EVERY challenge that arises, you can find a gift if you look. Focus on the positive, focus on the gift in that rough patch you find yourself in. Stop dwelling on the rough patch and find a way out. Feeling angry, feeling bitter, getting anxious only hurts you. Let go of all the hurt. Release the pain. Let the past go.

 

You can’t do anything about the past transgressions done to you or that you have done to others so why are you still living in that place?  Why are you still letting it haunt you? Ask yourself what am I getting out of this? Is the pain, emotional and physical that I’m experiencing worth the effort I’m putting into it getting me anywhere useful?  I’m betting not. Let it all go.

 

You can do something physical to let it go. My initial thought was to write down all the complaints, all the justifications, all the blames you still carry and tie the notes to a balloon and launch them into the sky. However, launching balloons is not a very healthy thing to do to the environment these days.

 

So with that being said, perhaps another option is to light a contained fire and one by one drop each note into the fire, pausing each time and giving thanks to each note. When the last piece of paper has been incinerated, put the fire out and walk away, knowing that you are now clean. You now are free from the encumbrances of your past. And make a promise that from here on you will feel the hurt, you will feel the anger, then let it go. Envision dropping the blame, dropping the anger into an imaginary fire.

 

Your life will feel so much better. You won’t feel that pit in your stomach. When you leave the bitterness behind, when you let the light in, when you think positive instead of letting negativity encircle you, light and positivity will be the first place you look. Do your best to act this way and you’ll soon see everything turn around. You’ll find there IS another way to live your life. That life IS a gift. And you’ll want to start living it with that in mind.

 

Stop complaining.  Let the light in and start living!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Gratitude Month

As with October being the Through The Veil Month, now we are into the next of the themed months.  November is the Gratitude Month for a number of reasons.  As I’ve written previously here, First we have Veteran’s Day, ANOTHER day to thank the veterans and be respectful of them.  Were it not for this special select group of people we as Americans wouldn’t be so fortunate to live in this country.

 

Image:
Pixabay

 

The second important date in November that is significant to gratitude is Thanksgiving. Giving thanks is RIGHT there in THAT word.  We should be thankful EVERY day of the year. Seeing as the holiday, Thanksgiving falls in November, that’s the day set aside.

 

The original intent of the holiday was to honor the native Americans who helped the colonists who arrived here survive the first harsh winter. The colonists gave thanks and “broke bread” with the native Americans who knew what to plant, who knew what to build the structures that would withstand the climate.

 

We carry that tradition forward today by gathering family and friends together to celebrate the holiday.

 

Being thankful, being grateful is a big part of who I am and that plays a significant role at Wisdom and Life.as can be seen from the following link:
Being Grateful

 

So combining all of this together you can certainly see how November is seen by many as The Gratitude Month.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Publication Dreams

Being creative, being a writer is who I’ve always been.  As long as I COULD write, I’ve been writing. Novels, novellas, short stories.  I have a plethora of them, In the early to mid 1990s I began to see some success, having been been published sporadically in the small press.  Once you get a taste of that success it spurs you focus is on reaching for greater goals.

 

One of the questions that people ask is
Would you do what you’re doing if you didn’t reap abundance from it?

 

I’ve been writing for well over forty years.  So I guess the answer to that question is yes.  Abundance doesn’t always have to be financial however.  But I HAVE been writing without financial abundance for sometime now.  That’s all about to change. After years of doing my best to find a greater market for the writing I do, I have finally captured my leprechaun.  In November 2018, I will see two books get published simultaneously.

Fahrenheit Books, a Guilford Connecticut publisher is taking on my books.  One, a short story collection of dark fantasy is called:
Random Acts: Stories of Redemption

Click the above title to view it on Amazon.
Cover design by Chris Dobbins

 

This book is a collection of short stories I wrote in the late 1980s to mid 1990s.  The other book is essays on death and dying and my impression about what happens to us after we pass.  That book is titled:

 

 

 

 

 

Taking Off A Coat: Ruminations On The Infinite Soul

Click the above title to view it on Amazon.
Cover design by Chris Dobbins

 

To purchase each book, simply click the title link for each book.

This was originally scheduled to happen last year but as with all tentative publication dates it was delayed.  I’m so excited for this to happen. It’s been a long time coming and a lifelong dream. Isn’t it every writer’s goal to be published?  If not, then maybe you should reconsider writing. Robert Heinlein said it best with his rules of writing:
Rule One: You Must Write. …

Rule Two: Finish What You Start. …
Rule Three: You Must Refrain From Rewriting, Except to Editorial Order. …
Rule Four: You Must Put Your Story on the Market. …
Rule Five: You Must Keep it on the Market until it has Sold. …
Rule Six: Start Working on Something Else.

One of the most important factors that lead to this is that I didn’t give up, that I didn’t let anyone stand in my way.  There have been people in my life who have dissuaded me. Telling me:
No!  You can’t do that.  Telling me no is probably the greatest motivator someone can give me.  It provides the EXACT opposite of the original intent.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Even When I’m Alone

Even when I’m alone I have real good company — dreams and imaginations and pretendings. I like to be alone now and then, just to think over things and taste them.

 

IM Montgomery
Anne’s House of Dreams

 

Writers, musicians and all types of artists can probably relate to Montgomery’s above quote.
–Alone is when my creativity prospers.
–Alone is when I spend my most creative time.  When I write, when I’m out with my camera.
–Alone is when I edit both my photography and my written word.

 

Image from:
PixHere

 

As IM Montgomery says:
Even when I’m alone I have real good company
INFPs and introverts are imagination focused.  They have a deep imagination. They love the fantastic.  Being focused on imagination, I clearly understand Montgomery and I believe she falls on the INFP/J introvert scale, just by reading the above quote.  

 

 

Like, Montgomery, I’m also seldom lonely.  As I’ve mentioned at Wisdom and Life several times over, there is a vast difference from being alone and feeling lonely.  Being an INFP as can be seen from my blog, I need down time after spending a day with people, especially extroverts.  Having time to decompress is important for the introvert/INFP personality. It’s how we survive. Even when we are out with friends and family, we can shut down.  The last thing an introvert/INFP wants to hear is:
Why are you so quiet?

 

Being quiet in the face of noise is how we cope.  Sometimes we are quiet because as artists, we are formulating new plotlines, new topics to write about for that weekly column, a new place to go with our cameras or paint with our canvas and easel    

 

Or we may just need to decompress when we can.  So if you know your friend or family member is on the introvert scale, be mindful when you ask that question.  It may create more tension. Your friend or family may shut down further or could even lash out and say something they don’t really mean.  Not all artists are introverts and not all introverts are artists, however there is a large contingent of introverts who fall into creative careers.  It’s because art is created alone and art can be a healthy release.

 

Writing helped me release the negative energy I had.  And because I went through so much growing up, my fiction turned dark.  As I went back through my old writings however, I also saw a shard of light shining through the darkness.  Most of my dark fiction ended on a positive note. Even though what I went through as a child, I somehow instinctively knew that life would get better.  I see that more now as I delved back into the dark fiction I wrote some thirty plus years ago. I believe this blog, Wisdom and Life is a natural outgrowth of my dark fiction years.  

 

As I’ve also said here countless times, I no longer feel the need to write dark fiction, because I came through that period and I now live my life in the light.  I see life as a gift. I see there is always a way out. I’ve found another way to thrive. My spirituality and my faith are the gift that helped me. I wouldn’t be where I am today were it not for that gift.  And speaking of gifts:
We all have them.  Gifts, that is.

 

 

This blog has been a gift for me and even though I take breaks from it now and then, I can’t imagine leaving it entirely.  It is completely antithetical to the fiction I wrote when I was writing fiction. That’s because I’m in a different place as I said above.  I learned that everything happens for a reason and that my faith has helped me realize that God is always there. God is the guiding force in my life now.  My faith, my spirituality is the guiding force in my life.

 

What about you?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Through The Veil

Turns out my muse was tuned in yesterday while I attended church.  I realized while listening to the topic of our service:
Through The Veil that the last three months of the year have themes:
–October equals Through The Veil
–November equals Gratitude
–December equals light

Image from:
Pixabay

 

If you think about these three thematic months, you can see a connection I will mke in December with a column that ties them all together.  First, let’s look at Through The Veil.

 

Why do I see October as Through The Veil Month?

Every religious tradition as October as the month when the line between the physical world and the spiritual world is at its thinnest, meaning that this is the time of year when the two worlds find it easiest to communicate with each other.  Here is some of what I discovered at service yesterday:
1.  We dress in costume to confuse spirits that wish to do us harm.
2.  We light jack o lanterns to ward off the spirits that wish to do us harm.  Those spirits don’t like light.

 

Western traditional Halloween has its roots in Pagan tradition.  I KNEW THAT. What I didn’t know is THAT PAGAN tradition was born from a Gaelic holiday called Samhain.  As with each of these customs, Samhain also tells us that this is the time when the physical and the spiritual collide and combine, making it easy to communicate and witness the other world.  It’s a time when angels, sprites, and fair folk are able to cross over.

 

It’s also a time when the line between those we love who have passed find it easier to communicate.  Halloween has always been a time that in my deep consciousness, the one that grew up intimidated by the Catholic tradition of Hell has feared.  And if I’m being completely honest, there remains that fear. However, as I have matured in my worldview, as my belief system has changed through the course of this my latest incarnation, I have come to see the world of my faith in a different light.  I see this month now, more as a time of year when life and death is more transitory, more fluid. That there is a line that is more open to us, if we choose to see it. I’ve never seen death as a bad thing anyway. It’s just one more travel we all have to take.  And I certainly don’t believe it is a permanent state. It isn’t static. Death is just a transition. It is just a sleep, a resting period. Death is a place we go to review our previous life and ready ourselves for our next incarnation. This time of year, October shows us that those who have passed over are NEVER completely gone. Let those who have passed before you, those who shared a connection with you when in the physical embrace you.  Embrace this season as it only comes along once a year.

 

Love never dies.  

 

God/Your Higher Power/The Universe isn’t cruel enough to rip someone out of arms permanently.  And this time of year is that proof. Find your own proof and look through the veil.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.