Do You Have To Face Reality?

Many around you want to point out “reality” to you. They say, “Face the facts. Look at what-is.” And we say to you, if you are able to see only what-is—then, by Law of Attraction, you will create only more of what-is… You must be able to put your thoughts beyond what-is in order to attract something different or something more.

 

Abraham-Hicks
May 30, 2018

 

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Imagining what you want and staying focused on reaching that goal is an important aspect of creating the life you want.  Reality is what we make it. If you want a better reality, it is critical that you start imagining a better place. Those who say:
Face Reality are most likely those who have not been able to do create the life THEY WANTED.  And they may be angry because you are doing your best TO create the life you want.  They may wish they had the chutzpah to follow their own bliss and not pay attention to those who told them:
No.  

 

I’ve actually written about this topic previously:
Reality at Wisdom and Life.  Read the first three columns and you’ll get a feel for my take on what reality means to me.

 

Some may feel they are helping you from making a financial blunder.  They will say they are looking out for your best interest. But only YOU know what’s in YOUR best interest.  If we want to live a happy life, then we MUST pursue our life’s dream. Since we are discussing reality, I would be remiss in not mentioning Einstein.

 

Einstein has played a role at Wisdom and Life as can be seen from the following link:
Einstein at Wisdom and Life

 

I’ve asked my readers before what Einstein has to do with Spirituality which is the overriding topic of this entire blog.  Before becoming familiar with Einstein, I would have said that science and spirituality can not coexist. Now, however, I’ve had to rethink that opinion.  

 

Carl Sagan is another example of how my opinion has changed.  You only have to click his name to see how spirituality and science CAN coexist.  Sagan is the first scientist that I discovered who had a antithetical view that science and religion couldn’t cohabitate.  Read my column about the book and movie Contact at Wisdom and Life to have a deeper understanding of what I’m referring to.

 

Back on topic, Abraham Hicks quote above is reminiscent of parental pressure, my own topic at Wisdom and Life.  We have to let our children make their own decisions with SOME input.  If they are adamant about pursuing something, it is our responsibility as their parents to support them.  Our reality is different from THEIR reality. Let’s twist this on its side.

 

What if your child said the same thing to you:
Face the facts.  I’m listening to your suggestions, but I’ve decided that I’m going to follow my bliss.  How would YOU react? Consider for a moment the way you chose to suggest to your child that they listen to YOU.  One of you has to give in if you want to maintain a healthy relationship moving forward. Why not give your child an option.  If they are an artist and want to pursue art, give them an absolute time frame to complete an agreed upon goal, whether it is selling something, whether it is completing a project, whatever it may be if you work together you will find everyone will live a more harmonious life.  
That way you can both create your OWN reality.
That way you can both face your OWN reality.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Columbus Day?

As always, since Wisdom and Life falls on a Monday where there is a day of remembrance, today is day to recall the accomplishments and foils of Christopher Columbus.  In the past several years, his achievements have been overshadowed by many of the transgressions he has been accused of. When we consider Christopher Columbus, we shouldn’t discount his misdeeds either. 

 

When I went to Southern Connecticut State University, I read a book called:
Admiral of the Ocean Sea an amazing book by Samuel Eliot Morison.  It’s a book I highly recommend.  Clicking the Amazon link for Admiral… will bring you to my Amazon account.  If you purchase the book through MY link, I will benefit.

 

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While he is celebrated for finding the North American Continent, was he REALLY the first person?  And did he really set foot on the North American Continent? Maybe not:
He DID reach Cuba and Haiti.  But actual North America?  That’s debatable.

 

There have been stories of the Norsemen, Leif Eriksson, especially arriving in in North America long before Columbus.  So who discovered North America? And can something be discovered that was already present?  Native Americans were here before Norseman, so can’t it be said that they discovered North America?  

 

Now here are the challenges with celebrating Columbus:
He brought disease to North America.
He enslaved the people he met when he landed in Hispaniola.

 

Whether Columbus is celebrated or pilloried, he journeyed across the ocean when no one thought it was possible.  His original intent, to discover Asia never materialized, however before he turned 45 he led four treacherous trips across the Atlantic Ocean in wooden ships.  Am amazing feat in that time period.

 

Christopher Columbus has been celebrated for years by Europeans and those who followed him to the “New World.”  It’s like the old saying:
History is told by the victors.  

 

What of the defeated?  Thankfully, we have stories passed down which is why we know of the Columbus misdeeds.  So the question is:
Will the REAL Christopher Columbus please stand up?
Who is the REAL Christopher Columbus?

 

That question may never be fully answered.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Look for a traditional column next week.

 

I’m Back

After my two month hiatus, I’m back.  These occasional breaks I take help me recalibrate. I come back reinvigorated to continue writing Wisdom and Life.

 

Having one weekly column to be responsible for, for the bulk of the summer months is less stressful for me than writing two a week. Writing for Wisdom and Life is sometimes more challenging than writing for CJPPhotoNews. I’ve mentioned that before as well.

 

I think the reason for this is Wisdom and Life has been in operation since 2010 and I sometimes wonder whether I’m repeating myself. When these thoughts reemerge, I think about reinventing this blog, or shutting down. At the moment however, I’m going to keep the same structure, the same plan.  And I have no intent on shutting down. I may decide to take these breaks more frequently. Twice a year is what I’ve done the past two years. From December 25 until The first week in February and August and September.

 

See you next week.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Introverts Are Walking Contradictions

Wisdom and Life is going on Hiatus
for the month of August and perhaps September

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As a follow-up to last week’s column:
Are You Giving Yourself Enough “Me” Time
I want to say that it MAY SEEM as if I don’t like being around people. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I don’t like being in crowds, at huge functions. Introverts tend to stand off in a corner or stand alone when faced with lots of people.

 

If you see someone standing by themselves at a function, then you have to make the first move. Get an introvert to talk about what makes them tick and you won’t ever hear the end. Introverts don’t enjoy small talk.  They’d rather disappear then involve themselves in the inanity of what the weather is like, or how your day is going. Introverts crave deep meaning in their relationships. They may not have a plethora of friends. Several close relationships outside of family is all they really need.

 

Any more and they will look for a means of escape.

 

Those fortunate enough to break through the walls, can count on the introvert to be in their lives through anything.  Introverts will lay their lives on the line for those in their small circle. Break that trust, however, and you’ll find it tremendously challenging to get it back.  

 

Introverts, when emotionally wounded by someone, sometimes will not let the person who hurt them back in.  You may not even know why. For the introvert may simply ignore your calls, may block you from reaching out.  As with crowds and small talk, introverts abhor conflict. They will do just about anything to avoid it. They are uncomfortable speaking out to defend themselves when they feel they’ve been embarrassed, provoked.

 

They will shut down, avoid you, if you lash out at them in public. They will find that inner place in their soul where they can regroup.  It may take hours for them to return to the world. So consider your words and actions carefully when you have an introvert in your life. Consider your words and actions carefully with ANYONE in your life for that matter.

 

Introverts are walking contradictions.  On the one hand, they may seem aloof. They don’t interact well in crowds. Remove the crowd, get them one on one and you’ll see a COMPLETELY different person.  Avoid small talk, find the deeper conversation and watch the introvert become almost extroverted when interacting with you.  Above all, don’t attempt to remake the introvert. Do NOT expect them to become an extrovert. Accept them for who they are and you’ll have a friend for life if you so choose to.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Are You Giving Yourself Enough “Me” Time?

Being an introvert at heart, I need more “ME” time than others may. As with writing, if I don’t get enough alone time I get irritable. I snap at people when I don’t necessarily mean to. It’s why I sometimes bail on pre planned events. Understand it has nothing to do with those people I made plans with and everything to do with me.

 

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Being an introvert at heart, I’ve always known I needed extra time to come down from activity but it wasn’t until a little over a year ago that I understand why. I’d been seeing the Myers-Briggs tests pop up all over the Internet and finally decided to see what they were all about. After taking a few tests over the course of a week or so I discovered that I was on the INFP scale. Everything finally fell into place for me and I understood WHY I required so much downtime.

 

Being an introvert at heart, can have its detriment.

My friends and family can sometimes misinterpret my needed “ME” time for being antisocial. Seeing as several people I’m my circle are extroverted, they get especially anxious (and I use that word for lack of a stronger word) when I decline invitations.

 

After a full day at work where I HAVE to be on, the LAST thing I want to do is to go out and be on. It’s why I love living alone.  I can go home and decompress, relax and write. Writing, as anyone who truly understands who I am is how I decompress. If I don’t have time to be alone I don’t fare well with others.
I wind up snapping when I shouldn’t.
I wind up creating friction.
I wind up finding somewhere to hide if I’m out with people

 

Being an introvert at heart, I don’t know that I could EVER live with someone full time, unless there was a safe place for me to run away to when I needed to decompress.  This could be one factor why I haven’t been successful in finding a long term relationship. What I want from a relationship might not exist. MOST of the time I’m pretty happy with the way my life is proceeding.  Loneliness doesn’t enter into my lexicon all that often. When it does, it vanishes almost as quickly as it arrived. I WOULD sometimes like to have a close friendship with someone who understands that when I need to pull away it has nothing to do with them.  

Being an introvert at heart can be challenging when I’m doing my best to find a relationship.

Because I need time to myself when embarking on a new friendship whether, romantic or platonic, time needs to be devoted to building that trust, to finding common interests. It can cause ANY introvert a flaming desire to run if too much time is spent in the company of others. Typically, for myself, I can spend one on one time with someone after I’ve become comfortable.

 

A first time meeting is not a good thing to witness at least with me. I don’t know what interests the other person has and it can be quite awkward which probably explains why I don’t get many second chances. The few times I have, my relationships have succeeded beyond any expectation.

 

As long as my friends and family give me the latitude I need, my life and my current and new friendships will continue to prosper. I just need to learn to speak up when I’m becoming overloaded. Being an introvert at heart, however, it can be challenging for us  to speak up. We are much better at expressing ourselves through the written word. It’s why so many introverts thrive as writers and artists. Wwe just need to be given the proper respect we deserve and we can thrive during any circumstance that arises.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Why Do You Write?

Uh oh!

Another column about writing?  Well it is part of who I am. Of all the questions I get the one that most fascinates me is:

Why do you write?

 

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That was an easier question to answer in my youth.  I wrote then to release stress. As with all with all school age students, I experienced my fair share of stress, from anxiety at school, to stress at home, to fitting in.

 

My personal writing schedule during my time living at home became extremely important to me and I made sure I gave myself time to write every night.  I usually worked best from seven to ten, typically after I finished any homework I had for the evening. There were times during the evenings I wrote, as I’ve mentioned here previously, that I would spend the entire three or four hour time period writing something and not even be aware that I wrote ANYTHING at ALL.  Being in the flow is an amazing experience, and I hope everyone can feel that at some point in their lives.

Everyone needs to release their stress, otherwise it will eat you from the inside out.  Writing helped me deal with life.  Some people turn to destructive behavior.  I turned CONstructive. It’s why my fiction turned dark:
Haunted Houses.
Vampires, werewolves, ghosts.

 

But even within that darkness, there turned a positive outcome.  I may have been dealing with emotional garbage, but I also understood that life would pivot, that it would get better.  All of my dark fiction had dark elements but EVERY ONE of my stories turned positive at their resolution. Which is how my life turned.  So even during my youth, I knew that even though life wasn’t easy at the time, I only had to hang on. In my youth, writing became my crutch.  I could feel myself circling the drain when I didn’t spend time writing. I was more volatile, more distressed. Writing kept me balanced. Another surprising aspect to my writing was that I could NEVER write from a male’s point of view.  

 

All of my fiction uses female protagonists.  I gave sincere efforts to use a male voice on many occasions, but always failed.  Probably the same reason I have more female friends.  So many times I started a short story using a male’s voice.  I’d get through a page or two and realize that I was simply going through the motions. I wasn’t enjoying the task.  I’d stop for a time and return later and try again. It just wasn’t working. So I’d scrap the couple of pages and start again using the female voice I became comfortable with.

 

My writing has changed from the time I spent at it in my youth.
Now?
Well, it has transitioned to short bursts.  A page or two for the most part. Blogging has become the writing I do now.  I still NEED to write, but not for the same reasons I wrote in my youth. Writing still smooths my edges, still alleviates my stress levels.  I still understand when I’m not spending enough time tapping on the keyboard. But now I write for other reasons then simply de-stressing. I write because it’s who I am.

 

I’m a writer.  And as I’ve said here on multiple occasions:
A writer writes.

 

You may as well ask me:
Why do you breathe?

Writing IS Breathing

Since I’ve been writing for as long as I could write, with the exception of a ten year period from 2000 to 2010, it became as imperative for me to write as it is to breath.  During that ten year period I lost the itch to write and surprisingly, I didn’t even miss it.  When the gift was given back to me, I decided that I would do everything in my power to make sure I didn’t lose the desire again.

 

Having deadlines now also provides me an impetus.  Which is another reason blogging is a valuable tool for any new writer.  Having deadlines will surely impress upon any artist the need to produce.  A blogger should be producing and publishing on the same day every week, I’ve said it here before as well that your readers come to rely on your columns to be consistent.  So for all of these reasons and more, writing has given me the gift of my voice. Even when I have a challenge speaking on occasion, I have my writing to show my intelligence.

Since I started this column today, discussing questions writers get, I think the one question that EVERY writer bristles at is:
Where do you get your ideas?  Am I right?

 

I keep returning to Wisdom and Life’s previous entries here only because I’ve written so many columns that there seems to be a topic for each subject I discuss.  

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Right Where You are Supposed To Be

There is one aspect of Spirituality and Law of Attraction that states:
You’re right where you are supposed to be.  Wisdom and Life’s Category on Predestination explains how your life is already planned for you BEFORE you incarnate.  If you believe your life isn’t working out the way you thought it would, don’t fret, and remember that your soul planned everything that is happening RIGHT NOW!  It can be comforting to understand this if you’re constantly attempting to change the circumstances you find yourself in. Don’t engage in a fruitless attempt to change something that is beyond your control.  That will only cause you more anxiety.

 

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Remember:
You’re right where you’re supposed to be.
Life isn’t supposed to be a struggle.
Life is about moving forward and not looking back.

 

I understand that some of you may have a difficult time grasping this thought process and that’s fine, As I’ve said here when I sometimes tend to go off The Deep End, I don’t expect everyone to understand and accept my ENTIRE worldview, I’m simply putting some of these concepts out there so my readers can try them on and see if they fit.

 

Another reason I’m bringing this opinion forward is that I know people who are struggling at the moment, if I can help them see that everything is going to be alright, that if they can’t get it right in this incarnation, that you will have plenty of opportunity to do better in your next incarnation.  I’m not saying this to create an excuse for the challenges in your life at the moment. You still have to do the work to create the life you want. But if you don’t see your efforts bringing immediate results, keep moving forward.
Life is a marathon.  Not a sprint.

 

Worry only brings more stress.  And stress and worry cause emotional and physical challenges.  If you can find a way to rid yourself of that stress, you’ll find your life easier.  Not everyone has that capacity, however. We all have the worry gene. In some of us that gene is stronger; in some of us it is barely there.  What those of us who have a strong worry gene have to do, is work on tamping it down. Not easy, I know.

 

What you have to realize though, is how do you feel when you worry all the time.  That pit in your stomach? Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could get rid of it?

 

Remember,
God is in control.  
Your life is planned out.

 

Stay in the present moment and nothing bad will happen.
You’re right where you’re supposed to be.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Independence Day 2018

I know it really isn’t Independence Day today. But then if you follow John Adams and his thought process:
See below.
Maybe it is

 

Seeing as we are into the Independence Day week, and even though Monday is not the 4th, I’ve decided not to post a regular column today.  Did you know we MAY be celebrating on the wrong day?:
July 2nd is the real Independence Day? John Adams thought so

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Regardless.  July 4 is our Independence Day.   And I wish you all a happy and safe holiday.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Walking And Writing

Several writers I know are walkers.  
They walk to break writer’s block.
They walk to create inspiration

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Pixabay
Writing Image from:
Pixabay

There is a host of data to suggest that walking helps writers break through any creative obstacles they may face

 

How does walking (away from something you’re working on) affect your writing?  When you’re away from your computer or your writing implement, you tend to let your mind wander and you’re not as focused on the task at hand:

Writing.

 

For myself, I’ve found that hiking in the woods contributes more to opening my muse than walking downtown.  I hear nothing in the woods or everything. What does that mean?

I don’t hear the hum of vehicles and people.
I don’t hear footsteps on concrete.
I don’t hear bikes whizzing by.

 

When I’m in the woods, there’s a different noise.
Birds chirping.
Tree frogs if you’re out at dusk.
Cicadas and crickets.

 

Walking/hiking clears your head.  It can be a source of meditation. And meditation can help when you’re working through a block.   Walking alone can sometimes be a benefit because you’re within your own thoughts, (thus providing the opportunity to meditate,) and you can walk at your own pace.  Solo walking also helps in the process of imagination, for it presents the opportunity of looking within for the challenge you’re facing, whether the challenge has to do with writing or something else.  Inspiration sometimes strikes when you’re alone and it’s better especially if you need to clear a logjam in your thought process. You certainly don’t want someone interfering by talking when all you want is silent introspection.  If you’re in this place, I would recommend avoiding the city/town and find a wooded trail to hike.

 

Walking with others, especially another writer can be helpful as well.  You can bounce ideas off each other and since you’re both of the same ilk, you can feed each other and hopefully, since you’re walking partners you understand when you need silence to consider a block and when you need to talk something through.  It even might be interesting to have a writer/walker group where you can set aside a specifically scheduled time to walk and discuss your writing needs. If this is something you’re considering, then you should set ground rules:
Treat the walk as you would any writer’s group
Anything discussed MUST be writing related.

 

So my advice:
If you’re struggling with working out a writing challenge, shut off your computer, shut off your brain and find a wooded trail.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.