Why Do You Write?

Uh oh!

Another column about writing?  Well it is part of who I am. Of all the questions I get the one that most fascinates me is:

Why do you write?

 

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That was an easier question to answer in my youth.  I wrote then to release stress. As with all with all school age students, I experienced my fair share of stress, from anxiety at school, to stress at home, to fitting in.

 

My personal writing schedule during my time living at home became extremely important to me and I made sure I gave myself time to write every night.  I usually worked best from seven to ten, typically after I finished any homework I had for the evening. There were times during the evenings I wrote, as I’ve mentioned here previously, that I would spend the entire three or four hour time period writing something and not even be aware that I wrote ANYTHING at ALL.  Being in the flow is an amazing experience, and I hope everyone can feel that at some point in their lives.

Everyone needs to release their stress, otherwise it will eat you from the inside out.  Writing helped me deal with life.  Some people turn to destructive behavior.  I turned CONstructive. It’s why my fiction turned dark:
Haunted Houses.
Vampires, werewolves, ghosts.

 

But even within that darkness, there turned a positive outcome.  I may have been dealing with emotional garbage, but I also understood that life would pivot, that it would get better.  All of my dark fiction had dark elements but EVERY ONE of my stories turned positive at their resolution. Which is how my life turned.  So even during my youth, I knew that even though life wasn’t easy at the time, I only had to hang on. In my youth, writing became my crutch.  I could feel myself circling the drain when I didn’t spend time writing. I was more volatile, more distressed. Writing kept me balanced. Another surprising aspect to my writing was that I could NEVER write from a male’s point of view.  

 

All of my fiction uses female protagonists.  I gave sincere efforts to use a male voice on many occasions, but always failed.  Probably the same reason I have more female friends.  So many times I started a short story using a male’s voice.  I’d get through a page or two and realize that I was simply going through the motions. I wasn’t enjoying the task.  I’d stop for a time and return later and try again. It just wasn’t working. So I’d scrap the couple of pages and start again using the female voice I became comfortable with.

 

My writing has changed from the time I spent at it in my youth.
Now?
Well, it has transitioned to short bursts.  A page or two for the most part. Blogging has become the writing I do now.  I still NEED to write, but not for the same reasons I wrote in my youth. Writing still smooths my edges, still alleviates my stress levels.  I still understand when I’m not spending enough time tapping on the keyboard. But now I write for other reasons then simply de-stressing. I write because it’s who I am.

 

I’m a writer.  And as I’ve said here on multiple occasions:
A writer writes.

 

You may as well ask me:
Why do you breathe?

Writing IS Breathing

Since I’ve been writing for as long as I could write, with the exception of a ten year period from 2000 to 2010, it became as imperative for me to write as it is to breath.  During that ten year period I lost the itch to write and surprisingly, I didn’t even miss it.  When the gift was given back to me, I decided that I would do everything in my power to make sure I didn’t lose the desire again.

 

Having deadlines now also provides me an impetus.  Which is another reason blogging is a valuable tool for any new writer.  Having deadlines will surely impress upon any artist the need to produce.  A blogger should be producing and publishing on the same day every week, I’ve said it here before as well that your readers come to rely on your columns to be consistent.  So for all of these reasons and more, writing has given me the gift of my voice. Even when I have a challenge speaking on occasion, I have my writing to show my intelligence.

Since I started this column today, discussing questions writers get, I think the one question that EVERY writer bristles at is:
Where do you get your ideas?  Am I right?

 

I keep returning to Wisdom and Life’s previous entries here only because I’ve written so many columns that there seems to be a topic for each subject I discuss.  

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Right Where You are Supposed To Be

There is one aspect of Spirituality and Law of Attraction that states:
You’re right where you are supposed to be.  Wisdom and Life’s Category on Predestination explains how your life is already planned for you BEFORE you incarnate.  If you believe your life isn’t working out the way you thought it would, don’t fret, and remember that your soul planned everything that is happening RIGHT NOW!  It can be comforting to understand this if you’re constantly attempting to change the circumstances you find yourself in. Don’t engage in a fruitless attempt to change something that is beyond your control.  That will only cause you more anxiety.

 

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Remember:
You’re right where you’re supposed to be.
Life isn’t supposed to be a struggle.
Life is about moving forward and not looking back.

 

I understand that some of you may have a difficult time grasping this thought process and that’s fine, As I’ve said here when I sometimes tend to go off The Deep End, I don’t expect everyone to understand and accept my ENTIRE worldview, I’m simply putting some of these concepts out there so my readers can try them on and see if they fit.

 

Another reason I’m bringing this opinion forward is that I know people who are struggling at the moment, if I can help them see that everything is going to be alright, that if they can’t get it right in this incarnation, that you will have plenty of opportunity to do better in your next incarnation.  I’m not saying this to create an excuse for the challenges in your life at the moment. You still have to do the work to create the life you want. But if you don’t see your efforts bringing immediate results, keep moving forward.
Life is a marathon.  Not a sprint.

 

Worry only brings more stress.  And stress and worry cause emotional and physical challenges.  If you can find a way to rid yourself of that stress, you’ll find your life easier.  Not everyone has that capacity, however. We all have the worry gene. In some of us that gene is stronger; in some of us it is barely there.  What those of us who have a strong worry gene have to do, is work on tamping it down. Not easy, I know.

 

What you have to realize though, is how do you feel when you worry all the time.  That pit in your stomach? Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could get rid of it?

 

Remember,
God is in control.  
Your life is planned out.

 

Stay in the present moment and nothing bad will happen.
You’re right where you’re supposed to be.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Independence Day 2018

I know it really isn’t Independence Day today. But then if you follow John Adams and his thought process:
See below.
Maybe it is

 

Seeing as we are into the Independence Day week, and even though Monday is not the 4th, I’ve decided not to post a regular column today.  Did you know we MAY be celebrating on the wrong day?:
July 2nd is the real Independence Day? John Adams thought so

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CJP Photos

 

 

Regardless.  July 4 is our Independence Day.   And I wish you all a happy and safe holiday.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Walking And Writing

Several writers I know are walkers.  
They walk to break writer’s block.
They walk to create inspiration

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Pixabay
Writing Image from:
Pixabay

There is a host of data to suggest that walking helps writers break through any creative obstacles they may face

 

How does walking (away from something you’re working on) affect your writing?  When you’re away from your computer or your writing implement, you tend to let your mind wander and you’re not as focused on the task at hand:

Writing.

 

For myself, I’ve found that hiking in the woods contributes more to opening my muse than walking downtown.  I hear nothing in the woods or everything. What does that mean?

I don’t hear the hum of vehicles and people.
I don’t hear footsteps on concrete.
I don’t hear bikes whizzing by.

 

When I’m in the woods, there’s a different noise.
Birds chirping.
Tree frogs if you’re out at dusk.
Cicadas and crickets.

 

Walking/hiking clears your head.  It can be a source of meditation. And meditation can help when you’re working through a block.   Walking alone can sometimes be a benefit because you’re within your own thoughts, (thus providing the opportunity to meditate,) and you can walk at your own pace.  Solo walking also helps in the process of imagination, for it presents the opportunity of looking within for the challenge you’re facing, whether the challenge has to do with writing or something else.  Inspiration sometimes strikes when you’re alone and it’s better especially if you need to clear a logjam in your thought process. You certainly don’t want someone interfering by talking when all you want is silent introspection.  If you’re in this place, I would recommend avoiding the city/town and find a wooded trail to hike.

 

Walking with others, especially another writer can be helpful as well.  You can bounce ideas off each other and since you’re both of the same ilk, you can feed each other and hopefully, since you’re walking partners you understand when you need silence to consider a block and when you need to talk something through.  It even might be interesting to have a writer/walker group where you can set aside a specifically scheduled time to walk and discuss your writing needs. If this is something you’re considering, then you should set ground rules:
Treat the walk as you would any writer’s group
Anything discussed MUST be writing related.

 

So my advice:
If you’re struggling with working out a writing challenge, shut off your computer, shut off your brain and find a wooded trail.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

 

 

 

If Your Desire Is Strong Enough

If your desire is strong enough, it doesn’t matter what your beliefs are. If you have a desire that is strong enough, that desire will be the dominant vibration, and it will override any other vibration that you have.

 

Abraham-Hicks
May 27, 2018

 

I’ve seen this happen countless times in my own life.  As I’ve written here many times over:
Becoming a successful artist was NEVER NOT going to happen.
Working at my local library was NEVER NOT going to happen.

 

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What Abraham Hicks is saying is that if you want something badly enough, and you work to acquire what you desire, nothing will prevent you from reaching that goal. Desiring that which you want is the first step. Once that desire is set in motion, it is difficult to NOT think about that wanting. The more thought, the more desire you give, the stronger that becomes.  It’s like you’re willing what you want into fruition. Heck. It’s not LIKE you’re doing it.

 

You ARE willing that which you desire to be received.

 

One of the tenets of Law of is:
Ask for what you want then wait for it to arrive

 

Put that desire out to the Universe and the Universe will go to work for you. As long as you continue to ruminate over the thought, it can’t help but become a reality.

 

You have to believe.
You still have to do the work. Nothing is ever handed to you without some work on your part. I think one of the things that got lost in translation with Law of Attraction is the belief that you don’t have to do anything to get what you want. I’ve never known that to be the case.

 

As an example:
My job at my local library. I knew beyond all doubt that I’d be hired. But it didn’t mean that I didn’t have to put in the work to receive my library science degree BEFORE I was hired full time.

 

Everything you ever received came with a price. Whether it’s education to get that prize.
Whether it’s talent you had to perfect.
Whether it’s motivation to become a better person.

 

For each thing you do to improve yourself there is work to be done. Nothing comes to you for free. With that in mind, if you’re willing to do the work, if you have a desire you only have to express it to the Universe then do the work to receive it and the Universe will respond in the positive.

 

We live in a universe of cause and effect:
Cause:
The desire of wanting.

Effect:
Bringing that want into your world.  It’s as simple as that.

Ask for something and see what happens.  You may be surprised.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Blue Light and Sleep

Wisdom and Life typically discusses Spirituality and Law of Attraction.  It’s not the only topic I discuss.  There are a whole plethora of categories at Wisdom and Life.  If you’re interested in other subjects, simply scroll down a bit and look through the categories.  One of the subjects I’ve written about here on several occasions is the effect of sleep on your lifestyle.  You can read those columns at my Health and Fitness category

 

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Today I want to discuss the challenges that light and specifically blue light has on our health and our sleep.  I recently read a WebMD Magazine article on Blue Light.  That started me down this path.  If you’re interested in reading the entire article, it starts on page 38.  There’s not much I did not know before reading the article. However I believe it is still worth reading.

 

I remember when I lived at home with my family, my bedroom was also my entertainment center.  I owned a VCR, a computer and a television. All three of these products emit light and the amount of light in my room light affects my productive sleep.  I covered all products that give out light. And when my mom would see me doing so, she’d scoff.
If your eyes are closed you can’t see the light.

 

While in some respect that’s true, the light you see is only one factor to consider.  Light (any light) plays a role in your overall sleep patterns. Even if you can’t “see” the light, you CAN feel it.  If what my mom says is true that when you close your eyes you can’t see the light, then why not try sleeping in broad daylight?

 

Blue light, which ostensibly is the topic of today’s column has tremendous side effects on our health and sleep.  So what’s the solution. According to the WebMD article:
–Install dimmer switches in your home and at dusk, begin using them, dimming the light in your home.
–An hour or two before going to bed, stop using all electronic monitors.  That means televisions, computer monitors and phones.

 

Also according to WebMD:
By far the best documented consequence of excess evening light exposure is short-term sleep disruption. In one study, people in a sleep lab who read from an e-reader at night saw their nighttime melatonin levels drop by 55% after five days, took longer to fall asleep, had less restorative rapid eye movement (REM) sleep, and felt groggier the next day than those reading a paper book.

Page 41

 

So the solution is:
Stop reading e-readers.  ESPECIALLY (or at least) at night!

 

My suggestion is:
Keep ALL electronics out of your bedroom and if you MUST read then do so outside of your bedroom.

 

Your bedroom should be used for one thing:
Sleep

 

If you do anything else in that room, your body will subconsciously begin to understand that sleep is secondary to your bedroom, not specifically for sleep.  That’s not a good thing if you want to sleep well.

 

I do my best to follow the above step (Turning off all electronics before going to bed.)  I’m not always successful. The point is to attempt to do this. I know that when I do turn off. I generally have a more productive night’s sleep.  We can all do little things to help our overall health and nothing is more important to our health than getting a proper amount of sleep each night.

 

Do you follow any of these steps?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

A Helping Hand Can Help You

When you see someone living something awful, a rocket of desire for their resolution shoots out of you. And then, if you start focusing upon their resolution, you’ll start feeling better right away. And now, you’re part of the current that is part of the solution.

Abraham-Hicks
May 7, 2018

 

Have you known this to happen?  If you’re in a low place and someone you know is in a lower place, see if reaching out to them and offering an ear, offering a hug, offering advice if they ask for it, you just may find yourself feeling better.

 

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One of my friends has told me repeatedly that she’d love to help me when she can clearly see that I’m in distress. She knows me so well that even when I THINK I’m hiding it well, she sees through the shade.  

 

One of my INFP personality traits is that I have a difficult time with sharing my challenges, EVEN with my closest friends and family. I’d rather help others deal with their own issues. I’m doing my best to overcome that, but after years of living that trait, it doesn’t come easy to stop doing so.  

 

I understand that by sharing our own challenges we show our vulnerability and that can deepen a relationship.  If we stay closed off, if we don’t share what is troubling us, our friends may look elsewhere for people who will.  If we long for an intimate relationship with another person, then:
–We have to learn to trust them.  
–We have to remove our own walls.

 

–Once we begin to show our vulnerabilities,
–Once we open our emotional wounds to those we trust or are trying to build trust with, we will find that relationship we have been searching for.

 

It won’t happen overnight.  However if you want to build commitment, if you want others to feel good about themselves when they are in distress, then it is important to let your own walls down.  Let others inside. Let them help you, because as Abraham-Hicks states above:
By helping someone else, you are also helping yourself.

 

The concentration is off your own challenges and onto someone else.  Thus you’re not dwelling on your own situation. Here’s a writing example for those who write:
Have you ever faced a situation where you’re blocked?  By moving to another project, whether it’s another writing project or some other creative endeavor you do on the side, your thought gets refocused on the new project, freeing you up.  Quite often by removing yourself from the block, you get unblocked because you’re no longer focused on that.

 

So my advice to those of you in the INFP personality who have a challenging time letting your guard down with your closest friends and family, think about how this affects THEM.  They may need to focus on something else while dealing with their own issues. Help them by letting them help you.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Memorial Day

As today is Memorial Day my usual column will be postponed.  Memorial Day should be a day of remembrance.  When you see someone in the US Military this week, make sure you thank them for their service.

 

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And PLEASE remember, Memorial Day is more than the unofficial start of summer.  It is more than just another day off.  It is more than picnics and sales.

 

Memorial Day is designated as the National day of Remembrance.  It is the day we pause and give thanks to all those who lost their lives in our conflicts and wars throughout our history.

 

Nine Years and Counting

Another column on writing from Wisdom and Life.  Today, as we are in the month of May I realize Wisdom and Life will turn nine years old.  When I began, I published five days a week. As I look back, I’m pleasantly surprised that I found topics to write about for five days in a row for over a year or more.  Now I’m down to once a week at Wisdom and Life and once a week at my second blog, CJPPhotoNews.  So I’m still writing every day.

 

My friend, Mary has much to do with the inception of Wisdom and Life as she encouraged me to start writing about Law of Attraction as we met once a week to discuss how LoA inspired us.

 

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When I started writing for Wisdom and Life, I’m not sure what my goals were for the blog.  I’m not sure I knew how long I’d be writing for that blog. Next year will be ten years. I produced a book out of this blog.  I can clearly and honestly say that when this blog started, I NEVER thought or even intended to create a book from these columns.  Many of you who have followed me from its inception, know the original intent was entirely Law of Attraction (LoA).

 

After time, I heeded the call from on high to pivot.  My blog turned toward spirituality.  I realized while writing several columns that Law of Attraction and spirituality are one in the same.  All you have to do is spend some searching the comparisons between LoA and spirituality. You’ll be surprised by what you find.

 

I have no plans of closing this blog down.  It means to much to me. Writing for it helps me just as much as writing dark fiction did in the 1980s and 1990s.  The columns I write here help me to continue to realize that life IS a positive, that there is an INDEED another way to see our existence. That we shouldn’t focus on what MAY go wrong, but instead keep our eyes on what is going well. I only hope I’m helping others see that as well.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Silence is Golden

Because I’m on the introvert scale, I’d rather stay quiet than speak about inane topics.  The most uncomfortable tactics one can make to an introvert is:
Ask Why are you so quiet?
Draw an introvert into an unwanted conversation.
Influence them to join a group whether friends or family. 

 

Those approaches can cause an introvert to shut down even further.  

 

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An introvert needs time to decompress when being inundated with the noise of the world.  If someone with introvert tendencies is asked to join in with a group, whether family or friends and they politely decline, then it is important to take them at their word.

 

Don’t influence them to do something that goes against their paradigm. Again, you will see them pull away further. Let the introvert come to you. Give them the space they require and you’ll build a stronger relationship with them. If you feel like they have pulled away, don’t take it personally, they may just need some “ME” time.

 

The INFP personality and the introvert are almost one in the same. These two personalities share many of the same traits which is why they are joined together.
INFPs need lot’s of “ME” time.
INFPs tend to be creative.
INFPs don’t engage in small talk

 

These are all traits that introverts share. If an INFP/introvert has befriended you, you should feel fortunate, for that personality type doesn’t let many people in. They are much more comfortable with themselves. They don’t get lonely often. That word doesn’t register in their lexicon.

 

Treat an INFP/introvert with the lessons above and you will have a friend for life. This personality tends to remain loyal sometimes to their detriment. Once an INFP/introvert lets you in they will fight to keep you in their lives.

 

If you break their trust, generally they will shut you out. They will hurt and take time to process that emotional distress and it will be generally more difficult for them to open up again. INFPS and introverts are trusting when they allow you into their small circle. Don’t break that trust.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.