Passing Into The Next Life

Passing into the next life has never been a traumatic expectation for me, especially after having my own NDE. Since becoming familiar with past lives and learning from each life we live, I’ve also realized that we choose the life we live and even how and when we return to our true home. The ethereal, the spiritual realm is our true home. It’s why I have no fear of passing on. And the fact that I’ve already been to the other side leaves me feeling more at peace.

 

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If, as I believe we DO CHOOSE how and when we will pass into the next realm, those left behind have to create a new mindset.  We have to learn to celebrate the life that left us. There should be no need to feel anything but joy. I certainly understand why we mourn those who have passed. We feel as if they are no longer with us; especially if they were taken violently or unexpectedly. That makes it understandable why we feel distressed when someone we care for deeply passes on.  We’ve forgotten that we have chosen the path we take in this human life.

 

In other words, we’ve already mapped out how we will return to the ethereal.  Whether it is unexpected, or something we are aware of as illness overtakes us makes no difference.  We’ve decided ourselves in transition hall when we return to spirit.

 

Violent death can be especially challenging to overcome.  It’s difficult for those left to pick up the pieces after a sudden passing, especially one that was totally unexpected.  We have to realize that getting angry about a sudden death does no one any good. Remember my column:

Holding onto Anger?  In that column I wrote:
When you hold on it’s like grasping a hot piece of coal.  You only wind up hurting yourself.  

 

I understand this topic may ruffle some feathers.  It may seem somewhat esoteric to my readers. I realize that IF we DO choose when and how we leave this physical plane and THEN once we become human again we forget everything we did in Transition Station (To learn more about this see Soul Groups.) I can see how punishment, retribution and anger could certainly overwhelm us.  The thing we have to remember though is the fact that we forget everything when we incarnate again.  

 

The reason we forget is because we wouldn’t learn anything from the last life we just led.  The entire reason for reincarnation is to learn from each life and attempt to improve and learn from past transgressions.  We want to get to a place where we don’t have to return. We want to seek perfection. Not that we will ever get there, but we want to get to a point where we’ve learned enough and made enough positive changes so we can get off the reincarnation ride, where we can eventually choose to return if we want to.  So you may be asking where this worldview I have came from.

 

This belief that we choose how we come and go in this world primarily evolved through a book called Journey of Souls.  Feel free to click the preceding link to read more about the book at my blog.  If you go back and read my column called:
Signing a Contract you will see more of this belief system there. I also recommend reading my thoughts on how we choose our next life in Soul Groups. Start with:
For it is in our humanity that we are tested.  And we don’t know our results until we are all together again in Transition Station.  Notice we go through Transition Tunnel to get to Transition Station?

 

Another piece of my worldview puzzle fell into place through a Melissa Etheridge  song called:

Gently We Row.  In that song, there’s a lyric she sings:
My soul crashed into my body
Falling into consciousness

 

This is exactly how I see our spiritual souls coming from the ethereal realm, The Transition Station where we choose our next life.  Apparently, Melissa Etheridge feels the same way.

 

I understand why people feel angry when someone close to them passes on violently but if as I believe we choose how we will return AND how we will pass, IF WE ALL choose how we return then we have to celebrate the life and not mourn the passing or be angry about how the person went home. The unfortunate thing as I said earlier in today’s column, is that when we DO pass into the ethereal, we forget the choice we made and even that we made the choice at all.

 

That’s why writing this blog and specifically my thoughts on death and dying as well as the topic of past lives is so important to understand.  If more of us considered the fact that this MAY be true, that we DO all return again and again and that we DO choose how and when we leave and return:
I believe we would stop being so distressed over death.  
I believe we would become a kinder gentler people.  
I believe criminal punishment would take on a whole new meaning.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Arthur C. Clarke’s Third Law and Star Trek Discovery

Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from. magic.
Captain Pike from Discovery says:
The law was debated by scientists and theologians alike and later reinterpreted to say any sufficiently advanced extraterrestrial intelligence is indistinguishable from God.

Star Trek Discovery
New Eden

 

I’m stepping outside my usual themes today, using Star Trek as my inspiration today.  As you read today’s column, you’ll find that I do link everything back to my spirituality theme.  I wrote this column in January.  However, as events occurred since then, such as my NDE and my three hospital stays, I’ve had to move columns around.

 

As I’ve written at Wisdom and Life multime times over, I’m a HUGE fan of Star Trek.  You can read my previous columns by clicking on the preceding link.  Star Trek Discovery is the new series based on the original. The second season started a few weeks ago and New Eden is the second episode of the second season.  Not only am I fan of Star Trek, I’m a fan of science fiction (SF) in general.

 

Arthur C.Clarke is a one of the quintessential SF writers of the 20th century.

 

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Prins Claus en Arthur C Clarke (1982)


Hearing Captain Pike from Discovery, reinterpret Clarke’s third law to include God stirred my thoughts.  The overriding subject of Wisdom and Life IS spirituality and finding a better way to live your life.  My faith in God has helped me live a better life. Getting back to Star Trek, in a Next Generation episode called The Chase, Captain Picard discovers a theory that humanity may have been seeded from the stars, which returns us to the quote that Captain Pike reinterpreted.  There’s no reason proof of extraterrestrial intelligence has to nullify a belief in God, which leads DIRECTLY back to Pike’s interpretation of Clarke’s Third Law

 

Everything is a circle and everything repeats itself over and over.

 

If we believe that God is omnipotent, why couldn’t he have created more than one race?  I’ve discussed this previously here but can’t recall the exact column.

 

Since I mentioned Next Generation earlier in this column, I liked seeing that Jonathan Frakes directed this episode.  I hope by having a name from a previous Trek direct Discovery shows that there is interest in seeing the latest Star Trek succeed. Also there’s the fact that Patrick Stewart is returning to the role of Captain Picard. Seeing all these events line up leads me to believe that Star Trek will indeed “live long and prosper.”

 

I’m enjoying the new series and seeing spirituality enter Discovery makes the new Star Trek more appealing, at least to me.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Why Are So Quiet/Talk To Me

I touched on this topic a while ago with Silence Is Golden. I wanted to return to it again today. Of all the questions I regularly receive, the one that most distresses me is:
Why are you so quiet?
Followed by
Talk to me.

Generally these two sentences come from people who know me well and they are aware of my personality. I think that’s why I get agitated each time I’m asked this. Most of the time they want to engage in small talk. A few of them are uncomfortable with silence. They feel like maybe the person not talking is angry. In my case as with many introverts, small talk is cringeworthy. We’d rather stay quiet then engage if there is nothing fulfilling to discuss.

 

 

 

Ask me about my passions and I won’t shut up.
Ask me about the latest book I’m reading.
Ask me where I last took my camera.
Ask me what I’m writing.

 

Get me to engage about what makes me tick, then you’ll be wishing for blessed silence.
Introverts are only quiet when someone tries engage them in small talk.
Introverts are only quiet when they need time to recharge.
Introverts are only quiet when they are sizing up a new possible friend.

 

I don’t know if it’s an introvert trait. I’ve never asked other introverts. As for me, I can generally tell within ten minutes of meeting someone for the first time what kind of relationship we will have going forward.
If we’re just going to pass through for a temporary time.
If we’re going to stay in touch occasionally
OR
If we’re going to be bonded for life.

 

My radar for determining how a relationship will come to pass has been pretty spot on. Can another introvert let me know whether they’re radar works the same way? Can my fellow introverts determine fairly quickly what kind of relationship they will have after a short time?

 

If the people in my life would only understand how I feel when they attempt to engage me in small talk and stop asking me why I’m so quiet, I’d be in a better position to engage.

 

Am I the only one?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;
We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

The Color Blue

As I started to get ready for work one day in February, I grabbed a sweater.  I then started going through all the sweaters I own and realized how much I am drawn to the color blue.  Over three quarters of the sweaters I own are different shades of that color. Once that became apparent, I saw how much blue is in my life:

 

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My bedroom curtains
My iPhone case
My computer cover
My two water bottles

My portable bluetooth speaker
Two of my winter jackets
Many sweaters/sweatshirts are some shade of blue.

 

And here’s the funny thing about that:
My conscious color choice is burgundy.  

 

However, it’s the unconscious choice that I believe is more important.  For that’s the choice I believe that reflects who I truly am, because I chose it without any knowledge of why I chose it.  As I look back at all the color blue that surrounds me I am truly in awe.  

 

Unconsciously, my color of choice is blue.  I had no idea how much the color blue has influenced my life.  Once i saw this, I started ruminating on how color influences our lives and what each color means to us.  What our favorite color, the color we choose either, consciously, or unconsciously, says about us:
If blue is your favorite color you love harmony, are reliable, sensitive and always make an effort to think of others.  You like to keep things clean and tidy and feel that stability is the most important aspect in life.

From:
Psychology Today

 

Many of these traits line up with my Introversion/INFP personality:

Sensitivity and thinking of others before yourself are certainly traits I have and they correlate well with  the INFP personality type.

 

If you look at the first two traits under INFP Strengths on this page that describes INFPs you’ll clearly see this is correct:
INFP Relationships

 

I found fascinating information about how the color I chose rather unconsciously matches up with my introvert personality.  I wonder how many other people are choosing colors unaware of their choice and what it says about their own personalities.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Easter Monday

As is always the case, when my blog falls on a holiday, I interrupt my regularly scheduled routine and write about that specific holiday.  Since yesterday was Easter Sunday and by some semblance, today is Easter Monday it is time again to write about this holy day:

 

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Pixabay

 

Easter is important to a wide range of people.  Myself included. Even though I don’t consider myself religious, that doesn’t mean I don’t practice my own faith.  Faith is what helped me survive through all the challenges I’ve faced in this my latest incarnation.

 

I do believe in the resurrection.  I do believe I’m still a practicing Christian. I just may have taken a detour on the path.

 

Christianity, Spirituality can work together.  There are many themes within Christianity that are anathema to my own belief system, such as the view of past lives and reincarnation.  I understand that there are those in the strict Christian model that find some of my worldview counter to their belief system. That’s alright.

 

I’ve been able to meld all of my worldview into my own practice.  That works for me.
The resurrection?
God?
Jesus?
Easter?

 

I have no issue fitting opposing viewpoints into my own puzzle.  Easter and the Resurrection has always been and will continue to be an important aspect of my spiritual practice.

 

I do believe and will ALWAYS believe!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Introverts and Public Speaking

Two quotes today from Introvert Dear that relates to this column:
It’s not the antagonism of the crowd that bothers me, I can handle that. It’s the after-debate party that terrifies me.

Most people would feel relaxed at a party and sink into terror at the thought addressing a large crowd. For me, it was the other way round.


Someone at my November, 2018 book launch took this picture of me speaking.  Wish I remembered/knew. I would gladly give credit. It could have been any number of family or friends.

Many who have introverts in their circle tend to make inferences based on what they THINK they know:
Introverts don’t like people.
Introverts are too quiet.
Introverts always want to be alone.

 

Introverts fear public speaking:
This is where I’m focusing today.  One of the traits that many introverts share is the discomfort of small talk, the discomfort of being in large group expecting to interact socially with individuals we don’t know or are not comfortable with, in other words engaging in rudimentary small talk.  However get an introvert to talk about what excites them, what they love doing and speaking about it in front of a crowd, in other words, public speaking about their passion and you’ll never shut them up.

 

I’m like that.  I have a few other challenges that creep in when I speak though.  I sometimes find it difficult to get the words out when I begin talking.  I have a tendency to block. For a long time I avoided public speaking because I felt self conscious about this.  The more speaking I do however, I find that I’m less intimidated and it has become easier t deal with this. As this quote suggests:

Most people would feel relaxed at a party and sink into terror at the thought addressing a large crowd. For me, it was the other way round.

 

It’s exactly how I feel.  I’m so much more comfortable standing in front of a crowd discussing my passion, because I know I’m what I saying is true and I get to talk about what I love.  Get me in front of people where I have to interact socially that’s when things tend to go awry. I’m uncomfortable making small talk. I actually don’t like it.  Small talk is not genuine and I’d rather run and hide, find a safe place to regroup. That’s why many times when I’m at a social event, whether it be a family party or a business event, you’ll find me on the periphery, usually standing alone, away from the crowd.  I’m not sure how to act when I’m in a crowd, unless I’m speaking about something that people are there to hear.

 

Public speaking no longer intimidates me.  It’s social events that leave me feeling claustrophobic, causing the fight or flight mode.  And typically I choose flight. When engagement overwhelms me, I will run away to a quiet place and regroup.  Some may think that aloof, indifferent, detached. It isn’t. Simply put escaping is my defense mechanism. Over stimulation causes an introvert to shut down and they need time to regroup.  Unfortunately, many people take an introvert’s quirks and contorts them to fit a specific set of rules they feel are right. People not on the introversion scale have a tendency to try and draw the introvert out with questions like:
Is everything okay?
Why are you so quiet?

 

This doesn’t help the introvert.  In fact it does more harm to their already sense that there is something wrong with them and they need to be fixed.  An introvert can’t be and shouldn’t want to be fixed.

 

Speaking of people putting introverts into a box, squeezing them into their preconceived notions of the way introverts should behave, we don’t all behave the same way.  Some of us shrink from public speaking. Me? Not so much.

 

I’d rather be up on a podium addressing a group of people who are interested in what I have to say about one of my particular passions; then sitting around people I don’t really know well and be expected to introduce myself and do a round of small talk.  How bout you?

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Go To Your Room?

The last couple of months I’ve written about my NDE  as a theme.  That was planned.  This month, an unplanned theme evolved:
Introversion/INFP.  As of this writing, there are three columns in this theme.

 

Enjoy:
Telling an introvert child to go to their room after doing something wrong may not be the deterrent  you thought. We know that introverts thrive on alone time and family should be aware of their children’s personality type by the time they’re old enough to start needing discipline.

 

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You should consider other deterrents to keep your introverted child on the right path.  Sending an introverted child to their room after doing something wrong may have the opposite effect of deterrence, not the child won’t understand they are being scolded.  They will. However, that child will likely find solace in the alone time, especially if she were acting out because she’d had too much together time. Let’s not forget that introverts can handle only so much people time.  If they’ve been over saturated, the introvert will lash out, they will run and hide or they will shut down. Scolding a child for their natural behavior may not be in the best interest of the child or the parents. It could lead to further disruptive behavior.

 

I’m not saying to scold your child by putting them in a situation where they will be more uncomfortable.  Maybe sit down and discuss what YOU THINK they did that needed to be reprimanded. If you’re open with them, you may discover something about your own parenting.  You may discover something about your child as well. Don’t be so quick to judge. Don’t judge without first considering what you are judging. Just like don’t say the first thing that comes to your mind.  

 

Weigh your words, your judgements and your actions carefully BEFORE putting them out, because one your words, your actions and your judgements are out there, they can’t be put back.  Those things can hurt anyone. Introverts are especially vulnerable to being emotionally scarred. Be careful when you consider doing hurtful things do an introvert. They may recover, but they may shut you out of their lives if you continue to hurt them.

 

Teaching children right from wrong, scolding them when they’ve done wrong is an important part of growing up.  It’s important however, to take into account the type of child you have. You can’t reprimand all children in the same way.  Not everyone responds in comparable fashion. It’s your task as a parent to understand your child’s personality and what works as deterrence and what doesn’t.  Reprimanding bad behavior should be part of growing up. However, you don’t want your son or daughter to wind up being distant either physically or emotionally when they are adults because you hurt them.  I’m not saying that reprimanding bad behavior shouldn’t happen, because you want to be your child’s best friend. Just that you have to consider the best way to scold your children and to follow up on the topic of today’s column, sending an introvert to their room might NOT be the BEST solution when we all understand that introverts crave alone time.

 

Just something to take under advisement.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Health Products

I returned to Saint Raphael’s Hospital on Monday, February 25 after being in distress over the weekend.  I discovered something new about myself, that I have a narrow trachea, which makes it challenging to breathe in and breathe out.  Having a narrow trachea is also challenging to cough up anything. I have two new products now to use to help this situation:

  1. An Acapella Pep Therapy System Green

 

This little green bottle is amazing for someone with breathing issues and congestion in the lungs and chest that simply won’t move.  It works by blowing into the mouthpiece then vibrating deep into your chest and lungs, moving mucus and breaking it up. By breaking up the large chunks into smaller pieces, it makes it easier to move through a narrow pipe like my trachea.

 

 

 

 

 

2. A Salter Aire Plus 8350 Nebulizer

 

While in the hospital for the second time in the first three  months of 2019, I was given nebulizer (neb) treatments. Using my Pep therapy system along with the neb treatments has helped immensely.  The large pieces of mucus is now breaking up and moving out of my lungs and I’ve stopped my continuous coughing.

For those who have asthma/COPD and or other breathing challenges, these two products may just be the gift you didn’t know you needed.  If you can’t afford both, and you had to choose one or the other, I’d say the Acapella Pep Therapy System.

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Mattress Genie Bed Wedge

Last week was the last DIRECT column related to my NDE.  The next two columns, while  related are not directly tied to my NDE.  They are related to my health and staying well after leaving the hospital.

 

A raised mattress may just be the fix one needs for health reasons.
A hospital bed? 
A brand new adjustable bed?

Maybe not.

 

After spending eleven days in the hospital in the month of February in a hospital bed, I realized upon leaving I could no longer sleep lying prone.  The initial thought was a temporary fix of renting a hospital bed. But the challenge with that was where to put it. The next thought became buying an adjustable bed.  Both options would require chunk of change. My sister in law recommended a far less expensive choice:
Mattress Genie Bed Wedge, Queen

 

The blue pillow under my boxspring with the white plug and white cord IS THE Mattress Genie:

 

Mattress Genie has sizes for all beds and since I have a queen size mattress I have that size.  The Genie raises the mattress up high enough, almost to the same degree as a hospital bed. Because my breathing is so challenging with my scoliosis that presses into my chest, having this wedge that raises my head is a Godsend.

 

Sleeping has always been important to me.  I’ve never really been one not to sleep well. Now that I have this bed wedge I have no worry about waking up and not being able to catch my breath.  That last Tuesday in January when I woke up lying prone and losing my oxygen level is the last time I slept lying flat.

 

Having a raised mattress helps with more than just breathing.  It can prevent snoring and help with acid reflux as well. So happy that I have this now and I THINK it has become my permanent fix.  Should anyone have breathing issues or any of the other issues above, having raised mattress is something you should consider.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Prepared For Your Ultimate Journey?

Are you prepared for your ultimate journey?  Having my recent NDE, has put my life in a brand new perspective.  I understand this can be a difficult discussion to have.  However you don’t want to leave your family with the challenges that arise if you do not have all your final preparations completed.  Putting things off because they are uncomfortable will create more uncomfortableness for family. I know people who haven’t prepared and I’ve seen the effects it has.  I waited a little too long myself but two years ago I FINALLY decided to prepare myself. I need to look over my information and MIGHT need to make a change to one particular aspect of my of my own preparations.

 

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This is too important to keep putting off.  If you haven’t begun this process I implore everyone to get started.  Go to your public library and research how to begin. I believe some states don’t require a lawyer.  Regardless, I recommend using a lawyer. That way you will know all your “I’s” are dotted and all your “T’s” are crossed.

 

Do you have a living will?  This is also an important decision to make.  What kind of care would you like to have if you suffer a catastrophe?  A living will will go a long way to helping you and your medical personal decide what kind of care you would like.

 

Getting these things done sooner rather than later will help everyone.  If you haven’t begun this process, start now.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.