A Work In Progress

What are your resolutions for the new year?

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It’s one of my least favorite things about New Years. Everyone wants to know what changes you plan on making. New Year’s resolutions only set us up for failure. Harsh, I know.

 

 

But you tell me how many of us actually follow through on ANY of the resolutions we’ve sworn to keep?

 

Yet we continue to create the façade. We continue making these pronouncements that THIS year will be different. It’s why I’ve decided to get off that ride. I know longer make resolutions. I want to continue being happy throughout the year and continue doing what I love.   By making resolutions I do not keep, I continue that pretense and set myself up for disappointment.  Why not change your habit and do something different?

Why not stop making resolutions you won’t keep?  Be happy with who you are today.

 

One of the stories I love recalling is when a teacher asked their student what they wanted to be when they grew up and the student said:
Happy.

 

No.  The teacher said.  You don’t understand.  What do you want to DO?  The student smiled back and said:
You DON’T understand.  I want to be happy!

 

The student was right.  It’s the teacher who received a lesson on that day.  Being happy is much more important than our career, which is what the teacher aimed at asking.  Why not be happy with both?

 

Isn’t that what we all want?
To be happy?

 

We are all a work in progress and there is no perfection. We should all be aiming for happiness and abundance.  Abundance of all types.  Not just monetary wealth, but joyful wealth, friendship wealth, spiritual wealth.  The Divine doesn’t EVEN EXPECT perfection, only that we strive for it.

 

So no more New Year’s Resolutions for me.  I think there are simply too many pitfalls waiting to happen.  I’d rather, as I said previously, continue to be the happiest person I can.

 

Doesn’t that seem like a much better use of our time?

 

Happy New Year’s to all those who celebrate it.

 

Next week’s column will be something different.
A remembrance of a local establishment that has
recently shuttered its doors.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Editing my Manuscript

I’ve been editing my manuscript:
Taking Off a Coat: Ruminations on Transitioning for the past couple of weeks.

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Hence there will be no traditional column today.  I hope to have the final rough draft of my manuscript done by the middle of December.  I originally thought it would be complete at the end of the week. However, I need to have a BIT more time to go through the document and make sure that it is as complete as I can make it.  

 

My typical month long hiatus from Wisdom and Life is starting a couple of weeks earlier this year so I can devote more time to writing and editing my manuscript.  So, today’s column will be the last one until the middle of January 2017.

 

Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying. For there truly is no end.

I See Everything by Faith

I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.

C.S. Lewis

C.S. Lewis, as with many others has been in inspiration for me for countless years.  I may not have used his quotes here often, however it doesn’t mean that I don’t respect him.  His spirituality has always been in conjunction with mine.  I feel a common thread with Lewis especially after reading several of his books.

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When someone mentions the name CS Lewis, I THINK the first topic that comes to mind when anyone hears his name is The Chronicles of Narnia trilogy.  At least that’s where I discovered him first.

The above quote resonated deeply with me, because this is EXACTLY how I see my faith.

“Because by it I see everything else”

An interesting turn of phrase because as I’ve also said at Wisdom and Life, my faith is part of who I am and if you take away my faith then I cease to be who I am.  I see everything, as it appears Lewis does, through the lens of my faith.  EVERYTHING that happens in my life is due to God.  Both positive and negative.  You only have to look through my blog to see this is true.  Look at the category:
Connections to see how much this is true.  Every column in that category will prove my point.

I’m using Christianity and faith as interchangeable even though they are not.  I have Christian beliefs and I have spiritual beliefs.  Some of my worldview would seem anathema to Christianity.  For example, my belief in reincarnation, past lives.  It doesn’t mean I don’t consider myself Christian, because I surely do.  I just don’t affiliate with any particular denomination.  I carry on my own spiritual conversation with God…

…ALL THE TIME!

“Because by it I see everything else”

I measure my faith, my Christianity by my own standards and while some may doubt my belief, the only person that has to believe is myself.  I see God everywhere I go.  

–I believe, because my life is lead by my belief.
–I believe, because I’ve seen too much.
I believe, because I’m here.
–I believe, because my faith and God kept me here (as can be seen from the above link.)

I owe a debt of gratitude to God for saving me countless times.  My faith has saved me so many times.  God has saved me countless times.  I believe in Christianity, I believe in my faith because without it I surely wouldn’t be here.  I may not even be walking.

 

 

Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.
Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying. For there truly is no end.

Thanksgiving Week

As I’ve always maintained, the quickest three months of the year are September to December and now here are at Thanksgiving Week

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So one of my big things as a result of learning about Law of Attraction, is being grateful.  So seeing as we are at the start of Thanksgiving week, I will ask:
What are you grateful for?

 

 

 

 

Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying. For there truly is no end.

Light Deprivation

No column last week
as I was fighting a cold

I’m usually a bright spot, a positive, a light in the dark.  When it comes to this time of year however, I need to vent a bit.

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Well.  Here we are.  Daylight Savings time has ended and we have two months before we can actually see the sky after 5 in Connecticut.  And even longer before we can actually be out enjoying the light.  This is my least favorite time of year.

 

See?  I’m outdoor person.  I LOVE being outside, especially after dinner.  And driving after dark doesn’t enthuse me anymore.  The older I get, the more I’m convinced it is the lack of light in the winter that distresses me more than the lack of warmth.  It’s not that I have Seasonal Affective Disorder, it’s just that I don’t enjoy being inside during the winter.

 

My favorite thing to do after work is head down to The Surf Club, our town beach with my camera and set up for sunset.  I’ll usually bring the current book I’m reading and sit at one of the picnic tables and wait for the optimum time to start photographing.  Unfortunately with sunset coming so early now and with the weather changing, it makes it a bit challenging to head to the beach.

 

I’ve recently decided that I while I don’t like the cold weather, it is the early sunset that REALLY distresses me.  I could almost deal with the cold, if I knew sunset would be later at night.  A little after 8 pm would be amazing.  That would give me about three hours after I arrived home to still enjoy the night; even if I couldn’t head outside at least driving wouldn’t be so distressing for me.  As I mentioned above, I’m not comfortable driving long distances after dark now.

 

It’s why December 21 and the second weekend in March is so celebratory for me.  And it’s why I prefer it to be January, rather than August.  Because in January we have six full months of longer daylight hours.

 

Be Happy! Be Well! Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying. For there truly is no end.

Halloween

Halloween:
The day where the line between the living and the transitioned is at its weakest point.  That’s why it was at one time known as The Day of the Dead in Pagan lore

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It has morphed into something different but still maintains some of the pagan rites.  As with most holidays, it seems anathema to say HAPPY before ANY somber holiday.  And Halloween certainly fits that  mold.

Wikipedia has this to say about the holiday:
Halloween

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

We are Immortal

We are immortal. We will always be reunited, always be together. There is so much evidence documenting the enduring existence of our souls.

Dr. Brian Weiss

 

 

 

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Death?

Ha!  There is no such thing.  In the above quote by Dr Weiss, he says will always be together.  Fascinating that that is the title from one of my columns here at Wisdom and Life:
Always Together

 

Our souls always find each other.  I like to call it transition.  Because in my opinion that’s all it is:
A transitory period where we reflect on our past life before moving on to our next incarnation.  We are immortal, just not in the sense that our bodies are.  Our bodies break down after so long.  Our bodies are simply shells that carry the most important commodity:
Our essence, our souls.  As with all tools, everything breaks down eventually, even our souls.

It’s why we need a rejuvenation period.

It’s like when a snake sheds its skin.  It does so to grow, correct?  That’s exactly what happens when we cast off our mortal coil.  We do so to grow, to learn from our past.

 

Our souls are who we are.
Our souls are how we connect, how we recognize each other.
Our souls are magnetic.

 

Remember!
There is no death!
There is only transition.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Meditation in the Classroom

In a recent Time Magazine article called The Mindful Classroom, there is a movement afoot in some schools to provide meditation as a required class for students starting kindergarten.  The implication being that if we start children learning at an early age to meditate we can alleviate one of the great challenges found in students as they move through school:
Anxiety.

 

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Breathing exercises, yoga, meditation all help this.  The Time Magazine article states:
Although research on mindfulness in children is still preliminary, studies show that it can help kids who have anxiety and trouble paying attention with their schoolwork, behavior and stress regulation.  First through third graders who were taught mindfulness and breathing techniques had fewer ADHD symptoms and less anxiety one study found.

 

Which is not difficult to imagine, as the process of meditation and breathing exercises alleviate stress.  If meditation class became a part of school structure, I think we’d see quite a bit less   challenging students.  The article from Time Magazine mentioned that teachers are being taught meditation as well in order to show their students.  

 

There is even a program in place in some schools in The United States where detention has been replaced with meditation class.  If students misbehave the normal response is to punish them.  But that only encourages more negativity.  Why not find a positive response insead?  By replacing detention with meditation, students who continually have behavior challenges may become less difficult by meditating.  Meditation takes away the stress, and the anger that caused the outburst in the first place, replacing it with a calm.  If more schools looked into replacing detention I believe we’d see less behavior challenges just as if meditation became part of a school’s regular curriculum.

 

Yoga, breathing exercises, meditation.  They are all part of a healthy lifestyle and it’s so good to see that primary schools are now focusing on more than simply intellectual learning and turning their attention to esoteric education as well.  Long time coming.  Let’s hope it continues far into the future.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

How Many Friends

You only need two close friends in which you can trust and dedicate yourself to. Having too many friends can lead to depression and stress.

Law of Attraction

 

Moving as much as I did growing up, you’d think I would have had a challenging time finding friends. I would have if I became intimidated and fearful.  I could very well have done so and no one would have blamed me.

 

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That’s NOT who I am!

 

If I wanted to have friends, I had to be the one to make the first move.  I’m still that way. I have lot’s of people I call friends, but I can count on one hand the number of people who REALLY know me and know ALL of my secrets.  It’s quality NOT quantity that I strive for.

 

I see this on “social”  ALL THE TIME:
The race to accumulate the most followers, the most “friends.”  And how is that working for you?  Are ALL of these people in your virtual circles helping you?  

 

How many of them share your content?
How many of them comment?

 

As in the real world, I’d rather have people in ALL my circles, both virtual as well as physical who do their best to help me improve.

 

It’s quality over quantity.

 

Being an introvert at heart it can be challenging for me sometimes to reach out, however as I said earlier if I want to make friends it is up to me to make the first move.  And as I’ve said at Wisdom and Life on previous occasions, I THINK my intuition is spot on most of the time.  I can usually tell within a matter of minutes whether I feel compatible with someone.  I’d rather have one or two friends who know me implicitly, knows all of my secrets and still want to be my friend then a whole host of friends who know only certain parts of me.  While it is important to be liked by many, I think it’s more important to be loved by a few despite all our secrets, flaws and weaknesses.   I’m fortunate to have found my genetic friends.

 

These people are very important to me and even if we don’t see each other as often as I’d like we are all still connected and when we do get together we can pick up as if we’d just seen each other a day earlier.  

How many of you can say that?
How many of you have such friends?

 

Friendship, love:
That’s what makes the world go round.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Leave Me Alone. I’m Writing!

Leave me alone. I’m writing.

Christopher Jennings Penders

 

My friend, Mike Allton inspired today’s column when he shared:
12 Things You Should Never Say To A Writer

 

Before I start this column, let me say, I’m aware that many of you may see the above quote and think:
Wow!  That’s kind of harsh.

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Let me just say sometimes in order to create boundaries we need to be harsh.  To protect ourselves.

 

I’m sure writers everywhere have experienced interruptions with the person doing the interrupting saying something like:
Oh, you’re only writing and you can’t take a moment to talk?  Or something to that effect

 

It’s the only writing thing that disturbs me more than being interrupted because THAT ONE phrase trivializes what we do. It seems as if ALL artists are spoken to this way.

 

–Would you interrupt a lawyer in the middle of a trial?
–Would you interrupt a chef while they were cooking?
I think not?

 

Then why is it alright to do so to an artist?  Because art, ANY KIND of art is no longer taken seriously.  We consider it a hobby, something people do to pass the time; not as a vocation, not as something one does to get paid. This is also reflected in the world when someone asks if you can give your work away without compensation. There is an overall lack of respect for artists in general and I find it shameful that it still happens.  

 

Writers matter.  For without the written word, society would cease to exist. So the next time you consider interrupting a writer while they are working, AFTER they have already said as much (And YES. I said working) think about whether you would do the same to someone in another field.  It’s why when I write, I don’t answer my phone, or respond to texts or emails.  Most of my friends and family now understand that IF I don’t respond, it means that I’m working.  And on the off chance that I do pick up a ringing phone and say I’m writing and I can call back later, MOST people understand.  It took some conditioning to get the point across and yes there are STILL SOME times when I need to recondition.  For the most part however, people now respect me when I say I can call back later.  I even have an outgoing message on my phone that says I may be writing.

 

Anything we can do to get across the understanding that yes, for some of us, writing is much more than just a hobby.  

 

For me, writing was my first passion even before I picked up my first camera.  I’ve been writing since I COULD write.  So when someone, ANYONE disrespects my writing, they disrespect me.  

 

Am I the only one who feels this way?  Would love to hear from others in the comments below.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.