Happiness Is Within

Happiness comes from within.  You can’t FIND happiness.  It already exists in our hearts.  You can’t run away from a challenge and expect to find joy.

 

Do you know someone who who is always chasing joy, who is always looking for something to create happiness? You do of course understand as I said above that you can’t FIND happiness.  It is within all of us and until we realize that, joy will slip through our fingers as sand does.  If you are unhappy and you believe by leaving the place that is creating that unhappiness will bring you the joy you are so in need of, you will not succeed.
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No matter where you go, you can’t escape YOU!  You create the joy or the grief in your own life.  Surely by escaping, you’ll find some temporary peace.  Long term, however?  I’m not so sure.  Wherever you left from, whatever challenge you left behind will follow you until you confront the dispute.  Your unhappiness may not return in exactly the same form it had when you left, however if you experienced a lack of joy in one place, simply leaving that place won’t fulfill your need for love, for joy.  That same challenge you’re running from will manifest at some point where you run to, until you face it and make amends.

 

Joy comes from within.  If you can’t create that gratefulness, that joy where you are at the moment, you won’t have success creating it anywhere.

 

You can’t find happiness:
It’s the same concept as I wrote at Wisdom and Life in July 2011 with The Journey.  Happiness comes from being on the journey.  NOT arriving.  You must find it within.

 

Yes; there will be challenges along the way.
Yes; you will find mountains to climb, chasms to cross.
Don’t turn back.
Don’t run away.

 

As I’ve said at Wisdom and Life previously:
Life is about moving forward.

 

Don’t give up.
You’ll eventually regret that choice.
Maybe not today.
Maybe not tomorrow.

 

Surely, however at some point when you’re looking back at the monumental decisions you’ve made during the course of this, your latest incarnation, there will be regrets if you chose to walk away from a challenge.  And lest we forget any challenge, any dispute we walk away from that could very well have been settled easily in this incarnation will show up again at the same time during your next lifetime.  Life is one big lesson plan.  Life gives us teachable moments and unless we learn from those moments we will see them again and again.

 

Find the joy within yourself.
Then you can move on.  Don’t move on to find joy.  You’ll be forever chasing your tail.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Memory Doesn’t Care

A long time reader of Wisdom and Life stopped into the library a few weeks ago to pick up a couple of books she had on hold.  Lisa R. looked at one of the books and said she THINKS she read it previously.  We then began a discussion about memory and how it works.  Lisa brought up Einstein and said there is a story that he never remembered his phone number because he didn’t care to.  I mentioned to her that if someone asked me about a book I read twenty plus years ago, I can tell you what it was about and why it resonated with me.

 

 

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Because you care, she said.  It’s why unless someone is motivated by what they are learning, unless they care about the subject matter, it won’t be retained, she said.

 

What I took away from that conversation for parents and children as well is what I’ve said from day one in my Parental Pressure category at Wisdom and Life:
Let your children go.
Let them decide the course of their lives.

 

If you push them to do something they are not ready to do they will surely fail because their heart isn’t in it.  The memory won’t care to retain any knowledge.  If someone isn’t motivated, they surely won’t learn.

 

I never really considered that.  I never thought about memory working if you care about what you’re doing.  Reading has always been a HUGE part of my life.  It stands to reason that I’d recall books I read years ago.  Lisa struck a chord with me.  It’s not the first time she has inspired me to write a column as can be seen from the search query below:
Lisa R/Wisdom and Life  The first seven columns:
Routines to Life is a Process are inspired by Lisa.

 

I just find it fascinating that it sometimes takes someone else to point out something that we don’t or can’t see in our own lives.  You know, like that saying:
You can’t see the forest for the trees.

 

It makes perfect sense now that I consider it, that memory only works for things we WANT to recall.

 

Do you have examples of this in your own life?  Would love to hear from you if you do. Leave your comments below.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

An All Providing Invisible Force

Make yourself available for success, and know and trust in an invisible force that’s all providing.

 

Wayne Dyer

 

A friend of mine who has been following Wisdom and Life for sometime now dropped into the library before this past Christmas and gave me a gift, a daily Wayne Dyer Quotes calendar.  I have such wonderful friends I’ve made and they continue to surprise me.  In August when my birthday rolled around, several library patrons left cards for me.

 

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It’s such a warm feeling to know that people I know superficially through my contact with them at the library, appreciate me and show that appreciation.  It continues to surprise me when these things happen.

 

The above quote came from that calendar.  I’ve discussed success at Wisdom and Life before and it’s one of those topics that never gets old.

 

Do you define success by what you have in the bank?
Do you define success by what your debt is?

 

That is surely one way to measure success.  There is so much more to success however.  You’ve heard it said That you can’t take it with you, I’m sure.  I’ve seen many people who have financial success and be miserable.  To me I’d rather create abundance:
An abundance of friends.
An abundance of memories.
An abundance of people who love me whether they be friends or family.

 

Success means different things to different people.  If I can help someone see that it means more than financial then that’s a good thing.

 

How much do we in general stress over finances?
How much good does it do to stress over something that is out of our control?
Yes we can control some of the financial stress in our lives by maintaining a balance on what we spend.  Some things are out of our control however:
Groceries.  
Car maintenance.
Household bills.

 

All of these things are out of our influence.  The only thing we can master is our reaction to the events that circle around us.  Most of us will always have debt in our lives.  The question is will we let it manipulate our well-being?

 

Does being in debt make us bad people?

That depends on our personality.
That depends on how we feel.  

 

You know my understanding of belief is that we receive what we believe, we receive what we think.  If we see lack in our lives, if we believe debt makes us bad people, then that’s what will happen.  We will be in that neverending cycle of debt equals bad people.

 

It’s one of the blessings I have to understand that yes I have substantial debt but I don’t let that navigate my life, I don’t let it affect my personality.  I understand that I will be taken care of.  If I chop away a little at a time, if I dig a little bit at a time, I will see that debt begin to evaporate.  Being in debt doesn’t mean I’m not a success.

I have a career that I love.
I have a roof over my head.
I live five minutes from work.
I can walk anywhere within a few minutes and be downtown.
I have countless friends.

 

This is how I measure my success.

 

I have a strong faith that my life is guided by the Divine.
That God is in control.
I understand that we have multiple lives to get it right.
I understand that we NEVER get it right.  Life is one huge lesson and there are no mistakes, just challenges to improve our lot in life.

 

Success is measured in abundance.  Not in financial well being.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Facing a Challenge

Last Thursday, January 29, I spoke before  an audience for only the second time in several years.  Rachel Salvo and I spoke about Social Media.  I’ve been using social for many years now and because of that, I’ve been able to understand what works and what doesn’t.  Google+ is my area of expertise.  I’m not saying that I’m G+ expert.  I’m not.  There are many others on the platform who know much more than I do.  I can speak to how it has helped my business and my three blogs however and that’s what I spoke about.

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See?  I have challenge with my speech, have had it all my life, where I block.  I sometimes can’t get out what I want to say.  When I was younger, this was a full fledged stutter where I’d repeat and repeat.  Somewhere along the way, the stutter morphed into what it is now, a block.

 

I used to be intimidated to speak before an audience.  Not anymore!  As long as I explain myself in the beginning and people understand the situation it kind of relaxes me and if I’m relaxed, I don’t stress as much and if I don’t stress the speech challenge doesn’t bother me.  I think knowing that I was going to speak about a huge passion of mine curtailed my anxiety as well.   We all have challenges in our lives.  The only thing that really matters is how we deal with them, how we face them.

 

We have to deal with them.
We have to face them.

 

If we don’t, if we simply run away from them, if we hide from them, if we bury our heads in the sand and pretend they don’t exist, then the challenge wins.  Notice I have used the word challenge to describe what I have.  Look at the first page of the search term Negative Words at Wisdom and Life to understand why I choose to use the words I do now.  I don’t see things in the negative anymore, because if we focus on negativity, that’s what shows up.

 

It’s why I continue to push myself beyond my expectations.  It’s why I accept a challenge such as speaking before an audience. It’s why when I was growing up, I pushed against what others expected of me, what others wanted me to do with my career.  It’s why I chose my own path.  And because I chose my own path it’s why I’m so happy with my life at the moment.  I love the career path I chose because I CHOSE it.  It wasn’t foisted on my by the well meaning people in my life.

 

Challenges will always arise in our lives.  We can face them head on and push through them; or we can choose to ignore them and run away.  I’m grateful to understand the only way to survive is to meet each challenge head on and push through.  For if we don’t do our best to beat each one that crops up, we may look back on our lives and say:
Shoulda.
Woulda.
Coulda.

 

I know I never want to be in that place.  It’s why I choose to live my life the way I do.  How do you live your life?

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Daylight and Spring

Living in New England in the middle of winter can be quite the challenge if you don’t have the right attitude.  If there is one thing about New England winters that distress me more than anything else, it isn’t the cold.  Although, the bitter cold does cause me some concern.  It’s the early dark that causes me the most anguish.  That’s why if I have to choose a time for it to be, I will choose January over August.

 

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I can see some of you scratching your heads wondering why I would choose the bitter cold of January over the warm summer evenings of August.  Here’s why:
In August, the daylight hours are decreasing.  If I must choose between cold and longer daylight and warm and shorter daylight, you better believe I want longer daylight.

 

 

One reason this is the case is that I’m no longer comfortable driving in the dark.  So because we are now in January in New England, things are looking up, things are getting better.  When I leave work at five pm, I can still see the sky.  I can still see the street without aid of headlights and streetlights.

 

We also start seeing warmer weather and flowers start blooming as well such as the Star Magnolia outside the EC Scranton Memorial Library

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And it will only improve as the months move forward.  Then comes Sunday, March 8, when we turn the clocks and spring forward.

 

Woo Hoo!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Stillness is Not a Thing

Stillness is the only thing in this world that has no form.  But then, it is not really a thing, and it is not of this world.

 

Eckhart Tolle
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As The Eagles say:
Learn to be Still

 

It is only in stillness that we learn who we truly are.  In this modern age of technology, it is extremely challenging to unplug, to shut down, to be just with oneself.  How many of us can do so?  Not many I would imagine.  If we want to remain emotionally balanced, it is imperative that we find a way every day to slip away from the world; to shut down, to contemplate our place.  It is important for our well being that we unplug.

 

Introverts, especially need this me time.  Which is not to say we all don’t need quiet time.  We do.  In the stillness, is sometimes where our greatest insights come from.  Why do you think creatives sometimes use the excuse of going for a walk to clear their heads?  It is because by getting away, by leaving their challenge, by going for a walk they declutter their minds, they are able to free up that noise and think about something else.  Thus, many times creatives find that elusive solution that was hiding in plain sight.  They remove themselves from the obstacle and the debris flows away, thus clearing the path for the solution to present itself.

 

I’ve used this practice myself many times.  Writing fiction many years ago presented challenges all their own and several times during the course of a week, I would arrive at a wall.  Instead of being discouraged by this, I’d use it as an opportunity to realize that I needed to break away, that I needed a respite.  I walked away from the wall.  I shut down.  I played some soft music and closed my eyes.  I blocked out all thought of said challenge.  I meditated.

 

Mediation has been a tool I’ve used for years.  Not simply in helping me find solutions to challenges, but also as a means of helping me cope with the daily grind that life presents.  Learning to be still can help in so many ways.

–Meditation can help you deal with the challenges that arise in your life because you can calm yourself in the face of fear.

–Meditation can help you with your sleep patterns.  If you meditate at night just before going to sleep, turning off all electronics, turning off all lights, and playing soft music, you will find yourself much more relaxed when you head to bed.

 

And speaking of your bedroom, the ONLY thing you should be doing in there is sleeping.

You should have NO television in your bedroom.
You should have no computers in your bedroom.

 

 

Your body and mind get used to a certain rhythm and having glowing screens in front of you all the time, it is next to impossible to shut out all that flickering light.  Why do you think when you close your eyes after staring at something bright, you continue to see that flickering?  Do you really think that flickering doesn’t hurt your chances to sleep at night?

 

Of course it does.  That’s why I find it so important to shut down all screens an hour before I go to bed.  Learning to meditate took me some time, but now I find it very easy to do so.  Remaining still, finding your center, meditating?  These are all extremely important traits to have.  Everyone should practice.

 

Stillness:
Find yours!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Higher Vibrational People

Seek out higher vibrational people, and avoid those who reflect more ego-oriented behavior patterns

 

Your Ultimate Calling
Wayne Dyer
Page 201

 

Knowing that according to Law of Attraction our thoughts create our reality, it then stands to reason that those we choose to surround ourselves with also influence our thoughts, thus influencing our reality.  If we are feeling low, if we are in a negative place, perhaps we need to look the people in our circle.  Are we letting the right people in?  If not, It may be time to weed our gardens.

 

Weed our gardens?

 

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Yes.  Are there weeds in our friendship gardens?  Are there people who choke our emotions, who keep us down?  Perhaps some of those weeds hide the fact they are indeed weeds by growing flowers, doing their best to stay in our lives.  What we must do is really get down in the dirt, examine each and every person in our garden.
Do they charm us?  
Do they lift us up?  
Do they bring laughter and joy?

 

Or:
Do they only appear to do so by hiding the fact that they are weeds?

 

We need to be strong enough to know we can eliminate the weeds and still move forward without the pretty weeds, the weeds that appear to be positive, but really still bring us down.

 

We are better than these people.  If it comes down to the fact that you have more weeds than flowers, it is better to eliminate the weeds.  As challenging as it may be to be without anyone in your life, does it really make sense to keep people around just because you’d be lonely without them?

Are these negative people truly your friends?
Do they want what is best for you or what is best for them?
Are they only happy, do they only reach out when you lift them up?

 

Only you can make the decision whether to keep or remove someone.  Eventually your emotional state will make the choice for you.  I’ve learned this lesson and I now have the BEST circle of friends I’ve EVER had.

 

As Wayne Dyer says:
Seek out higher vibrational people, and avoid those who reflect more ego-oriented behavior patterns.

 

It’s more important to have positive people in your life especially if you are just starting down this new path.  You don’t need someone constantly dragging you backward.  It’s why in EVERY recovery program available, those who have been there tell you to drop your old friends because most likely many of them are still not in recovery.  They will only drag you back.  If you are truly interested in growth then it is time to weed your garden.  You’ll find the right people once you remove the negative people.

 

Be strong enough to move forward.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

 

You Were Born With Wings

You were born with potential.  You were born with goodness and trust.  You were born with ideals and dreams.  You were born with greatness.  You were born with wings.  You were not meant for crawling. You have wings.  Learn to use them and fly.

 

Rumi

 

I don’t recall recall how I initially came across Rumi.  However, everything I’ve read as resonated deeply with me.  Rumi is a wonderful inspiration for those looking for positivity in their lives.  When we incarnate, we we are naturally love.  We are goodness and trust.  No one is born without those intentions.  So what happens to those who souls who grow up and lose those innate feelings of love?  Of trust?

 

Society happens.
Society burns those out of us.  We forget because those around us make us forget.  You know what, though?

 

Love is still there!
Trust is still there!
Our wings are still there!

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AngelWingsThey are only hiding.  Our task while incarnated is to remember that we are made of love.  We are positive energy.  Love is all around us.  Greatness is within us, hiding. Our wings are still there too.

 

If you want to find your wings,
If you want to find your love,
If you want to find your dreams,

 

The only thing you can do is look within.  And remember:
You won’t be able to give love.  You won’t be able to give dreams, if you can’t find them within yourself.

 

So how do you find something that you once owned but have misplaced?  Do you look in the same places over and over hoping that the next time you look there, the missing item will miraculously appear?  I know I’ve done that countless times as I’m sure many people have.

 

But when searching for an emotion such as love or greatness if you look in the same old places you may get burned. That’s why the ONLY place to find these lost emotions are within yourself.

Those wings?
That love?
That greatness?

 

They’ve taken up residence deep within your soul and the only way to recover them is to dig them out.  Tell yourself you are love.  Tell yourself greatness resides within you.  Even if you don’t believe it, eventually those words will become a mantra and eventually you can’t help but listen and when you start listening, listening will mold itself into belief.

 

Once belief takes hold you can fly with those beautiful angel wings that have sprouted once more.  That is simply the beginning of your new life.  Once you have your wings, once you have recovered that lost child, then the most challenging part of your new life begins:
You must show others how to discover their own greatness.

 

For greatness, love and wings grow exponentially when shared.  Are you up for the task?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Intimate Secrets

Forget the first kiss, the first sex, the first tears of misunderstanding, the first fight. Forget the first amazing gift that says they thought long and hard about what you love. This gift is physical proof they tried their best to get you something concrete, in- the-hand wonderful to show the intensity of their feelings for you.

Forget it. Forget it all.

The first great real intimacy between two people begins when secrets are told.

 

Jonathan Carroll
Bathing the Lion
Page 95

 

A new book from Jonathan Carroll
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ALWAYS warms my heart.  He is one of the few writers whose books I will purchase sight unseen.  The above passage from his latest should point very well to the reason why.  Every one of his books has standout passages such as the one above.

 

Secrets are indeed the way to someone’s heart.  When you tell a secret, one you never thought you’d reveal to anyone you’re opening yourself up in more than any other way.  As Mr Carroll so eloquently puts it:
A kiss?
The Physical act of sex?

 

These are nothing in comparison to laying bare your soul.  Trusting someone so implicitly as to tell them something no one else knows.  That’s where REAL intimacy is.  Trust comes first.  How can you begin to build a relationship if the foundation isn’t built on trust?  Trust is hard to build but extremely and painfully easy to shatter.

 

Telling your partner secrets is one way of building that intimacy.  You’ll know when it is right to open up.  If you’re fortunate enough to have someone in your life who feels secure to let you in, to share their innermost thoughts and fears, sometimes that relationship can be stronger than a physical one.

 

I know!  You’re looking at me now like I have three eyes, right?  Well you do of course know we DO all HAVE three eyes don’t you?  I guess that’s blown out of the water now!

 

Being intimate seems to have brought with it it’s own set of rules.  And unfortunately, most seem to believe it means becoming physical.  Intimacy is so much more, as again can be seen from Jonathan Carroll’s passage above.

 

Count your blessings if you have someone you can share your secrets with.
Count your blessings if someone feels at peace with you.  These people don’t come around often.

Hold onto them.
Tell them you love them.  Better yet, show them you love them.
Tell them your secrets and they will in turn learn to trust you.

 

And trust is the greatest gift one can give and receive.  Remember what I said above as well:
Trust is hard to build but extremely and painfully easy to shatter.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Signs, The Divine and Spiritual Evolution

Have you ever thought that you wanted something so badly and you looked for signs that pointed in the direction of “the rightness,” of the choice but every time you turned around there were opposite signs pointing you in a different direction?

 

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Did you see these signs or did you choose to ignore them?  What do you suppose would happen if you chose to ignore them?  On a soul level we ALL know what feels right.  We ALL know when something is NOT supposed to happen and when we ignore the RIGHTNESS of something, the Divine will continue pushing you toward the right path.

 

Maybe it is a conversation you have with someone.

Maybe you overhear someone else and ONE word or a series of words get magnified and you ONLY hear THOSE words.  These are the things we MUST pay attention to.  It is the Divine directing us but unless we are aware, unless we are awake, unless our “spiritual blinders” are off we won’t understand, we won’t see, we won’t hear where Spirit is guiding us.

 

It’s important for our spiritual evolution to move forward.  And the only way we can develop beyond our current capacity is to listen our intuition, listen to our gut.  And when a choice is to be made, follow your intuition.  Your intuition is the direct pipeline to the divine.  If you receive a message in the form of an overheard conversation and the message appears to be telling you NOT to do something, then for heaven’s sake, heed the message.  For if you don’t and you stumble forward choosing to ignore THAT message then something stronger will come down the pike and knock you on your ass.

 

The first message you receive from the Divine can sometimes be VERY subtle, which is why it take practice to hear that message.  If you are indeed awake and you understand the messages that are filtering through the first time and you STILL choose to ignore them, then the NEXT time you hear from Spirit, the next message won’t be so subtle  I SINCERELY believe we get that next communication that is more brazen to wake us up, to shake the lethargy from our inner being.

 

There is no bad.
There is no negative.

 

Everything that happens in our lives, from blessings to challenges are simply the Divine’s attempt to move us forward, to help us grow, to help us evolve.  To move forward, however we have to start paying attention to the communications we receive.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

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