You Can’t Always Get What You Want

You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometime you find you get what you need.  

The Rolling Stones

 

Sometimes no matter how much we may want something to happen, no matter how much pray for that gift, no matter how much we sulk when we don’t receive what we wanted, as The Rolling Stones said:
We wind up getting what we need.

 

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WrappedPresent

 

Easier said than done for someone NOT steeped in this paradigm, however if we can learn to accept when something doesn’t go as planned and realize it only means something better is coming our way, we will experience less stress in our lives.  Stop expecting something to happen and embrace life even when that gift you’ve been praying for doesn’t arrive.

 

It’s as I said in last week’s column:
Where Would I Be?  What if everything you ever asked for were given to you?  Would you be happy with where you are now?  I doubt it.  Remember:
God is in control and he provides us with what we need not always what we want.  A perfect example of this is profiled in the previous link:
Losing the opportunity to work at Chatfield Hollow brought me to the Scranton Library.

 

I so wanted to work at Chatfield Hollow and I prayed every night for it.  However, there were other plans for my life and I’m so much happier where I am now.  There are so many more examples that I could give.  Every time something I THOUGHT I wanted, Every time I prayed for something as a child and didn’t get what I wanted, I sulked, I became angry, I cried; as do all children because they are not aware that something better always comes along.

 

It’s one of the reasons it’s so amazing for children to be growing up now.  For we can teach them that what you want isn’t always what you need.  And The Divine is always looking out for you.  We MUST teach our children that just because our prayers didn’t get us what we wanted doesn’t mean they weren’t heard.  God hears ALL prayers.

 

You can’t always get what you want, but if you listen to God, you’ll find you get what you need.

 

While I understand that isn’t what The Rolling Stones meant when they wrote that lyric, it IS how I choose to interpret it.

 

So remember, God is in control and God answers all our prayers and sometimes the answer is no, but the “no” ALWAYS comes with a gift.  You just have to keep your eyes open and remove those spiritual blinders.  You will see the gift if you look.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

A Life of Fulfillment

You cannot create a life of fulfillment, joy and meaning while barricading yourself from others and from the opportunities Life offers you.

 

Thoughts from the Heart of the Soul
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I have many sources for Wisdom and Life and one of the sources I continually return to is books of quotes.  I have many at my disposal.  Today’s quote comes from Gary Zukov’s
Thoughts from the Heart of the Soul
Zukav

 

If you’re feeling less than joy, one of the well known remedies is to leave your home, get outside, see your friends.  Go for a walk.

 

Don’t stay locked up inside.  That will only keep you dwelling.  For some of us we need time to cope with what is cause our distress.  But we can’t stay stuck.  The BEST thing to do is get out as SOON as we can.  The longer we stay inside, the longer it will take for us to recover our joy.  For those of us who are artists, whether painters,  this also can relate to getting stuck with our artistic endeavors.  I know I’ve experienced having a temporary writing block and if I step away and go for a walk, get out with friends, my mind leaves the challenge I’m having and I’m able to return with fresh perspective.  The same can be said if we are having an emotional challenge.

 

Step outside yourself.
Spend some time in nature.  Go for a hike in the woods.  Go to the water.  Find your happy place.

 

Don’t stay inside.  It’s like my blogger and friend, Dick Sederquist in his book:
Hiking Out

You need to get outside.  Find what brings you joy and don’t stay dwelling on what brought you to the state you find yourself in at the moment.  And remember:
EVERYTHING is temporary.

 

The next time you find yourself stuck in an artistic or an emotional challenge, get up and get outside.  You’ll find that will help motivate you to recover.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Emit Your Own Frequency

Everything changes when you start to emit your own frequency rather than absorbing the frequencies around you, when you start imprinting your intent on the universe rather than receiving an imprint from existence.

Barbara Marciniak

 

My friend, Koreen shared this on Facebook a few weeks ago and I completely connected with it.  

 

Nothing can disturb your calm, nothing can break through your wall of peace unless you let it.  That lesson took me many years to incorporate into my being.  When you learn to emit your own frequency

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Frequency

You’ll find that those who vibrate on a lower level can’t reach you.  A challenging thing to do when those around you do their best to bring you down to their level.  Stay positive.  Continue pushing forward.  Keep reflecting your spirituality.  When someone brings you down:
You’re not doing it right.  Or
Does anything else to lower you to their level,

Lift them up with a:
Yes But.

How do you do that you may ask?
Give them a:
Yes, but this works for me.

Or a:
Yes, but what if you look at it this way?

There is no RIGHT way to do ANYTHING.  It’s what works for YOU.  

By shifting the conversation from negative to positive, you’re also changing the frequency of both parties.  The more you do this, the less friction you will encounter not only with this particular party but with everyone around you.

 

Emit your own positive frequency and see what happens.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Detachment

Once more it is proven to me that we get things when we need them.

 

That God will ALWAYS provide.  It is now Thursday night and I hadn’t written anything for Monday’s column at Wisdom and Life.  Uh oh.  I thought.  It’s coming down to crunch time.  I need enough opportunity to have written a column and edit it so that when it goes live all the imperfections will be eradicated.  At lunch time as I left work, my friend Glenn walked into the library and said he wanted to thank me for my new found detachment.  That’s all I needed. And I had my topic. Since it is now Thursday night, I will have three full days to go through and edit.  

 

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Detach

 

Detachment you say?  Yes.  Read on:

 

 

 

 

 

Merriam Webster defines detachment as:

: lack of emotion or of personal interest
: the act or process of separating something from a larger thing
: a condition in which something has become separated from something else

 

When you look at the definition from a spiritual point of view a lack of attachment can aid you in relationships.  A sense of detachment can aid you in everything about your life. When you no longer stress over what MIGHT happen and simply understand that what is supposed to happen will, life will flow so much easier. It’s done so for me:

When you don’t expect anything from someone else and you understand that whatever happens is supposed to happen you can live your life with so much more ease.

 

The first definition above can seem a bit harsh when discussing a relationship. But

–If you can detach from any expectation
–If you can stop worrying about what someone else thinks or wants
–If you can think about your life and all your relationships as separate from yourself and let go of control, let go of the need to expect anything, you will ultimately find the exact relationship you’ve been looking for.

 

It’s not an easy concept to embrace or fulfill.  It takes constant vigilance, but once you arrive at that place. You find not only peace but also a sense that you’ve finally found your happy place.  No longer will you stress over:
–Will they call?
–Will they visit?
–Do they really like me or is it all a ploy to get something from me?

 

No longer will you stress over:
–Is this where I’m supposed to be?

 

Detachment takes all that away.

Detachment isn’t a bad thing when used in a spiritually motivated way.  It can help us all live a healthier spiritual life.  As I said above:
It’s not an easy undertaking, however. When you consider the alternative:
–Always expecting people to live as we live.
–Always expecting a response and when none is forthcoming getting anxious, dismayed, wondering why.

 

–Always stressing over life’s curveballs.
–Wondering what happened.
–Why you are in this particular position.

 

Wouldn’t life be easier, if you let go of all that anxiety?  You can.

Simply detach from any outcome and let whatever happens happen. It took me a long while to get to this point.  Now that I’ve arrived, there ain’t no way I’m going back; which is not to say I don’t still slip. I do. However, as I’m fond of saying at Wisdom and Life, now that I recognize the pattern of slipping it is that much easier to right myself. It DOES take constant vigilance, though.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Innocent Man Forgives Police Officer

 

 

A recurring theme at Wisdom and life is forgiveness as can be seen from the number of columns in the previous link.  I will let this video do most of the work today.  Other than to say that holding onto resentment only hurts the person keeping the resentment.

 

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ChineseForgiveness

 

The video below is a perfect example of this message and should be seen my EVERYONE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From The Daily Spectator

 

High Vibrational People

Seek out higher vibrational people, and avoid those who reflect more ego-oriented  behavior patterns

 

Your Ultimate Calling
365 Ways to Bring Inspiration Into Your Life

Page 201

Wayne Dyer has long been a muse for Wisdom and Life as can be seen from the link.  As is true with any twelve step program, it is important to dismiss your old friends from your life if they contributed to why you entered a program.  You don’t need people who will only drag you down, who will make it easy to slip back into patterns that brought you to the point where you didn’t like yourself, where you found yourself waking up with a hangover or worse.
UltimateCalling

The same can be said when working to improve your emotional health.  The same old same old won’t work.  And the more you do to improve your well being and the more you see your OLD friends you will notice their destructive behavior.  As you get better and those people you associated with stay stuck in emotionally destructive patterns you will find yourself at a crossroads:
Do you stay with people because you’ve known them and they feel comfortable?
Or do you step outside your comfort zone and seek out people who are more like you now?

 

Think about it this way:
You made the decision to find a better way.  You did that.  It wasn’t easy.  You survived that choice.  You will surely survive without the negative people that have been your security.

 

Before you made the choice, you didn’t know better.  You didn’t see a better life was just around the corner.  These people were your friends.  After all as Law of Attraction states:
We attract what we believe.

 

And if we surround ourselves with negativity, we sometimes choose to believe that’s what we deserve.  I’ve seen this with various friends who have taken steps to better their lives.  Sometimes it isn’t always easy to walk away from negative people:
–If you work with them.
–If they are part of your family.

 

You can use this to your advantage though.  Seeing the behavior they exhibit can make it easier on you to understand that you don’t want to go back to that attitude.  When you are in a negative situaution, it is important to stay positive, to stay centered any way you can.  If it means not enagaging then that’s what you need to do.  And as soon as you are away from that place, reach out to one of your NEW friends.  Vent to them.  You can’t keep that bad juju in you.  It is at this time more than any other that you MUST seek out higher vibrational people.

 

And ALWAYS remember when one of these negative people lash out at you, it NEVER has anything to do with you.  They are releasing THEIR toxins.  Unfortunately, they haven’t learned how destructive their behavior is to those around them.  Weak peope attack those within closest proximity.  This is why it is so important to build new relationships with those in your new paradigm.

 

Easy to do when in a twelve step program.  Not so easy when we only want to change our emotional well being.  Not impossible, however.  We can look for like minded people anywhere.  Search Internet groups.  Start talking about your new paradigm.  Trust me, people are more open to Law of Attraction and Spirituality today than they ever were in the past.  

 

Find your higher vibrational people and embrace them!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end

Let There Be Light

And the Lord Said:
Let there be light.  And there was.

 

Daylight Saving time is upon us and I’m ecstatic.  Given the choice between cold and dark and cold and light I will choose cold and light every time.

 

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DaylightSaving

 

I LOVE leaving work at 5pm when it is still light. I don’t enjoy driving ANYWHERE when it is dark out, even two minutes from work to home.  Make no mistake however. I like the warmer weather too. Especially being a photographer. There’s nothing better than getting home at 5pm then being able to run down to the water to capture sunsets:

 

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Daylight saving time allows me to do that. It also allows me to take advantage of living within a five minute walk to work as I can start walking to work without worrying about walking home in the dark.  Are you getting the impression that given the choice between walking and driving, that will choose to walk EVERY time.  It’s why I feel so blessed to live where I live.

Thank you!
Thank you, Aunt Bet!

 

Bring on the light.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Wonder

A few weeks ago while attending Shoreline Universalist, the discussion revolved around the word wonder.  Hearing that service alone, convinced me that I found the right place for my spiritual practice, because everything that was discussed I have in one way or another written about here at Wisdom and Life.  One fine example is right here:
Natalie Merchant’s Wonder

and here:
An Overflowing Faith

 

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wonder

 

It isn’t simply that Shoreline Universalist and I are on the same page when it comes to my feelings on spirituality.  There is so much more.

 

Being a creative, wonder is an important word in my lexicon. For without that word, where would the artists be:
The writers?
The painters?
The photographers?
The actors?
The musicians?

 

Wonder is what propels creatives forward.
As in:
I wonder what would happen if I put this color paint on the canvas.
I wonder how these words would string together?
I wonder how this would look through my viewfinder?

 

Being a photographer I’m always using that frame of reference when I’m out photographing.  There are countless times I put the camera up to my eye, scanning the scenes.  That’s one way I use that word.  Another is once I’m home from a photo shoot and I begin editing my photos.  When I come across a particular image that catches my eye, I wonder at the colors I captured. Sometimes I don’t even remember taking that particular photo.  That’s wonder.

 

I feel the same way when writing.  Wonder, being in the moment, being in the flow; these are all examples of wonder.

 

So what does the word Wonder mean to you?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Sammy Hagar’s Forgiveness

A friend of mine sent me a news article about Sammy Hagar tweeting Happy Birthday to Eddie Van Halen in February.  The two former band mates had an acrimonious break up years ago.

 

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Hagar said that the passing of David Bowie and Glenn Frey lead him to mend fences with Van Halen.  He said that he didn’t want to pass with having enemies. He said he no longer wants to hold grudges.

 

It can sometimes be seen as a weaknesses to forgive because some may see it as being taken advantage of, some may think you’re weak, some won’t understand.

 

Forgive anyway!  

 

You’ll find a lightened heart.  
You’ll find the negative turn positive.

 

 

Negativity, anger, distress?
They only hurt you.  It’s like I say in Holding onto Anger.  You’re grasping a hot piece of coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, but you’re the one to get hurt.  I’m with Sammy Hagar:
Forgive ALWAYS

 

You may be taken advantage of on some occasions.
People may not understand how if you’ve been hurt how you can embrace the person or state again.

 

Ya know what?  You don’t owe anyone an explanation.  You’re the captain of your own life.  You get to decide if you want to row against the current or row with it.  I’d rather row with it, even if others may not understand.

 

I learned that it’s too painful to stay angry.  I don’t have time, strength or energy to stay negative, to stay locked in perpetual emotional distress. Each of our incarnations are short.  I want to spend each life I have here joyful.  If that means I sometimes get taken advantage of, I can live with that.  At least I’m not staying angry, staying hurt, staying negative.  I’ve been there and I don’t like it.

 

Want to join me in saying no to negativity?  Saying no to grudges?  Saying no to debilitating continuous anger?

 

Say yes to love!
Say yes to forgiveness.  It’s not easy but if you can move past the hurt and get to the other side and don’t let someone else question your motivation, I think you’ll find that life will be easier.  The weight of all that anger you carried will be lifted from your soul. And you will be much happier.

 

You can easily stay in that angry place and some do. It’s always easier to stay stuck then it is to move forward.   But just because it’s easy doesn’t make it right. I’d rather do the work and move forward.

 

To love is Divine.
To forgive is Divine.

 

Join Sammy Hagar.
Join me.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

My Grandfather’s Birthday

Last week, my sister, Lisa asked me when my favorite time of my life happened.

“Growing up in Lisbon, Connecticut,” I told her.  Spending time with my maternal grandparents.  Today would have been my grandfather’s 109th birthday.

 

Happy Birthday, Grandpa

 

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I owe so much of who I am to him:
–My sensitivity (Sometimes seen as a challenge.)

–My ability to forgive (also sometimes seen as a challenge.)

 

–My photography career. For it was my grandfather who introduced me to the art of photography by giving me my first camera for my tenth birthday.

–All the time I spent with a fishing pole in hands growing up.  It was my grandfather who taught me to fish as well.  And I spent every waking hour from morning to dusk at Blissville Pond literally JUST down the street from my Grandparents house on Graham Terrace.

 

There are so many more things my grandfather imparted on me, too many to list in this small space. Let me just say growing up in Lisbon Connecticut on Graham Terrace was something I will cherish all of my life.   I’ve returned to Graham Terrace several times since I grew up there in the 1970s and ya know what?

 

In this case the saying that you can’t go home again rings true.  Blissville Pond where I spent my youth fishing is chained off.  My grandparent’s house once pale lime green as it was the entirety of my youth is now yellow.  One thing that has remained however is the red maple tree in the front yard.

 

My maternal grandfather was the only male role model I knew growing up and he impacted my life in ways he never knew.

 

Happy Birthday Grandpa Hoffman.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.