Are You Plugged In?

While dreaming of a better future today, you may also notice that you feel hopeful. This is a positive sign that you realize these are not mere flights of fancy but plans in the making. Once you can imagine even a few of the infinite possibilities, you may feel encouraged that they seem more within reach than you might have previously thought. Whether or not you have a vision of each and every step to get you to your goal, you can still feel buoyant as you do your best to steer your course while trusting yourself to the tides of the universe today.

 

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Monday, June 15, 2015

 

Your intuition is ALWAYS working beneath the surface, whether you realize it or not.  When you’re plugged in, when you feel joy, when you know you’re on the right path, your intuition will tell you. Feeling hopeful is a clear sign that you are doing what you’re supposed to be doing.

 

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Listen to that bliss.
And listen FOR that bliss.

When you’re plugged in, time will appear to speed up and slow down at the same time.  Time will appear not to exist.  Do you understand why that is?  It is as I said in the column:
Time Doesn’t Exist at Wisdom and Life.

 

It’s because when you’re plugged in, you are tapping into the Divine.  Because you are using the gifts that you incarnated with and when you tap into the spiritual realm, the Divine, there is no need for clocks.  There is no need for time.  You know when you’re tapped in because you get into flow.

 

You should ALWAYS dream of a better future.  Never stay still.  Always be reaching for something greater than you have at the present moment.  That’s how we stay in hope.  For without hope, why go on?

 

It’s why my ambition never falters.
It’s why I’m continually seeking to improve.
Hope is what moves me forward.
Faith is what gets me there.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Security Clothes

I’m sure you’ve heard of emotional eating:
When you eat to fill an emotional void within you.

 

A friend of mine recently showed me that while I don’t emotionally eat, I DO wear certain of my favorite sweatshirts or wrap myself in a “security blanket” when I’m NOT feeling right.  I wasn’t aware I did this until it was pointed out.  I’ve said it before that sometimes you can’t see the forest for the trees.  That’s what happened in this case.

 

The image below is a Red Sox Blanket that my friend made for me.  This is my so called security blanket.
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We all have rituals we perform to help us feel secure.  We may not be aware of them until they are pointed out to us by those who spend time with us.  What do you do do give yourself refuge, to provide emotional sanctuary, to help you cope when you are feeling less than positive?

 

Do you emotionally eat?
Do you wrap yourself in security clothing?
Do you reach out to a trusted friend?

 

Or do you do all of these?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

The Process of Pivoting

Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want. . . . In the moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And—in that moment—your feeling will change from not feeling good to feeling good. That is the Process of Pivoting.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

As a follow up to my 2010 column, Pivoting, In that column I spoke about changing your emotional outlook, by changing the way you think.  In today’s column, let’s look at pivoting differently:
What happens when you feel a negative emotion?
How do you release that emotion?

 

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Do you lash out at the most convenient target?  The weakest target?  That does nothing but hurt that target.  It may create a temporary fix in you. However you’re REALLY only hurting yourself when you lash out.  Instead of excoriating someone, why not do what Abraham Hicks says:
Stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want.

 

This MIGHT be a challenge when you initiate the process, however if you continue with this technique, it will become second nature and eventually, you’ll discover that you’re not even thinking about thinking.

 

–The way I see life,
–The way I live my life,
–The way I’ve ALWAYS attempted to live my life:

–is doing my best to be nice.
–is doing my best to get along.

 

–I don’t hold onto anger.
I drop that hot piece of coal.

 

I understand that lashing out,
I understand that getting angry only hurts me.  And I pity those who haven’t reached that conclusion yet.

 

When we finally understand that lashing out at others only hurts ourselves and those around us, our lives will be richly blessed, because knowing that will change our ENTIRE life.  Knowing that will change our behavior and thus will alter our entire dynamic.

 

Are you blessed?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Alignment With Source

I’m so excited with what’s starting to happen in my life at the moment.  All the effort I’ve put into everything I’m doing is beginning to bear fruit:
All the writing and sharing on social media.
All the photography I’ve been sharing.
All the efforts I’ve put into my social business.

 

is being recognized by people.
The stars are aligning.

 

I can feel something is sprouting.  I’ve tended my life garden and I’m just now starting to see that flower push its way up through the dirt.

 

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I’ve been sharing that I’m writing a book on death and dying, combining columns from Wisdom and Life and my own personal belief system.  I already found someone who wants to review it for possible publication.

 

Another friend recently contacted me about combining my talents and helping him grow his business.  He’s been following what I’ve been doing and he thinks we’d be a good match.

 

When I reach for something.
When I put my mind to it.

When I put all of my effort into creating the abundance I so desire, success can’t help but find me.  It’s why I never listen to the naysayers.  It’s why I ignored everyone who asked me:
How are you planning on making a living doing THAT?

 

I understand it was said simply out of fear.

But just like I KNEW I would be hired at The Scranton Library in Madison, Connecticut, I ALWAYS knew I would eventually find my success with everything I’m doing on the side.

 

I have something that many do not:
The Gift of Perseverance!

 

When someone tells me no, I say yes!
Everything in my life is finally in alignment with source.
Everything in my life is happening exactly on schedule.

 

And it is simply because I never gave up.  I never shrunk away from doing what I KNEW was my Divine Gift.  You do understand that we all are given gifts when we incarnate, don’t you?  It’s up to us to rediscover those gifts as we go through life.  It’s those people who:
A) Ignore them and chase financial abundance.
B) Listen to others and follow another’s dream for them

 

who eventually suffer.  It becomes an echo.  It becomes a ricochet.  Those who aren’t happy with their life choices do their best to change the cycle but because they don’t know how to change it, because they don’t know how to be happy, they don’t have the tools to help someone else.  The ONLY way to stop the ricochet is to NOT listen to the echo.

 

Do your own thing!

And don’t let the fear creep in.  If you’ve found your gift then you will eventually find success.

 

I can’t wait to see what happens next.
I can’t wait to see what’s around the next corner.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Imagining Our Success

Leverage your time more by spending a little more time every day imagining and a lot less time every day doing. Do a little more imagining and a little more less doing. Until eventually most of what’s happening is happening in the cool, calm, anticipatory state. Just imagine yourself into the successes, and watch what happens. Imagine a little more and act a little less.

 

Abraham-Hicks

 

Success is personal.  How we view it.  How we get there.  What it takes to attain it.  First we have to believe it is within our grasp.  How do we do that?  I believe Abraham-Hicks has it right:
We first have to imagine it.
We have to tell ourselves we are a success.  And we must believe it!
We must tell others we are successful even if we may not feel it.

 

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Because success means different things to different people, we aren’t exaggerating.  If we imagine our success, if we think we are accomplished, our lives will reflect it in what we see.  If we tell others we are accomplished, they will see it, for people only see believe what they see.

 

Stop downplaying your accomplishments
Stop featuring your failures.

 

Start imagining the riches that are already in your life.
Start focusing on the advancements you’ve made.

 

The other important thing you need for success, for an accomplished life is the right people in your life.  You must surround yourself with like minded people.  People who recognize your fortune, who recognize your accomplishments.  People who are successful in their own lives.  If you want to know success then you have to see it in action.  Find a group of like minded individuals.  Whether it be artists, writers, musicians.  Whatever talent you have, become involved with the group.  And when you surround yourself with this group, you’ll naturally soak up the positive energy osmosis like.

 

Success, accomplishment, advancement is contagious.  And once you understand that, once you see your success take root, you’ll start seeing it in others as well.  That’s why it is so important to find a circle of friends who are accomplished.  You start to feed off each other.  You become a tree, with each branch feeding off the main trunk.  Without the trunk there would be no branches and without the branches there would be no trunk.  As I’ve always maintained at Wisdom and Life, everything is symbiotic.  EVERYTHING is connected.  Our very connectedness breeds success just as much as our individual efforts.

 

You MUST start by first imagining your success before you can see it come to fruition.  If you can see it, if you can imagine it before it blooms then you are already accomplished.  remember:
–Surround yourself with successful people.
–Imagine your success first
–Focus on the advancements you’ve already made.

 

If you can do that, your trunk will produce many branches.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Is Respect A Lost Art?

My friend, Karen recently posted something  on Facebook that intrigued me:
I’m trying really hard to understand why some people don’t understand the meaning of respect or just good old fashioned courtesy. Maybe I’m asking or expecting too much.

 

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I’ve had a similar conversation with another friend of mine.  We have agreed that there has been a general decline in respect.  As I commented on Karen’s post:
I think we were raised at a different time. And some of us were taught to treat others like we want to be treated. Unfortunately not everyone shares that belief.

 

All we can do, Karen is continue to live our lives the way we were taught. The people who understand will ALWAYS be in our lives. The ones who don’t don’t matter anyway.  

 

One of my favorite ex high school teachers, is a frequent library user.  After he retired, he subbed for awhile and he would come in and visit with me at the library.  Some of what he said went on with the classes he subbed for turned me red.  Openly swearing at those in authority, refusing to listen to teachers, continuing to do what they’d been told to stop doing.  I can’t imagine not respecting those in authority.  Not for fear of retribution, simply because I wasn’t raised any other way.  I’m not sure who should be held responsible because at some point, children and young adults eventually have to assume accountability for themselves.

 

I sometimes find myself jokingly saying:
Kids these days.

 

I’ve said as much to that ex teacher a few times, attempting to lighten the mood.  But it isn’t just kids who don’t understand respect.  Even some adults have a challenging time understanding common courtesy as can be seen from my friend, Karen’s statement on Facebook.

 

I seldom tread into the political realm because it is fraught with trap doors and someone will find something to be angry with.  However even in politics, things have become us against them.  There is no respect shown to either side.  It’s all about me, me, me.  What’s in it for me?

 

I have a friend who has her own business and she sees the same thing.  People not treating her with the respect she deserves.  She’s become discriminating when it comes to picking up new clients.  She can afford to do so now.  It’s a shame that there are some of us see a lack of respect.  Even in my own fledgling social media business, I’ve seen it.  Not so much with my own clients because I’m able to choose the people I associate with.  This is not my main source of creating abundance.  When I’m out with my clients I’ve seen others not treated with the respect they’ve earned.  Is this an epidemic that is only going to grow exponentially, or can we find a way to curb this?  I’m afraid to know the answer.

 

 

There is always going to be those who show a lack of respect.  What are some of the steps we can take to ensure we aren’t hurt by those who attempt to disrespect us?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Happiness Is Within

Happiness comes from within.  You can’t FIND happiness.  It already exists in our hearts.  You can’t run away from a challenge and expect to find joy.

 

Do you know someone who who is always chasing joy, who is always looking for something to create happiness? You do of course understand as I said above that you can’t FIND happiness.  It is within all of us and until we realize that, joy will slip through our fingers as sand does.  If you are unhappy and you believe by leaving the place that is creating that unhappiness will bring you the joy you are so in need of, you will not succeed.
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No matter where you go, you can’t escape YOU!  You create the joy or the grief in your own life.  Surely by escaping, you’ll find some temporary peace.  Long term, however?  I’m not so sure.  Wherever you left from, whatever challenge you left behind will follow you until you confront the dispute.  Your unhappiness may not return in exactly the same form it had when you left, however if you experienced a lack of joy in one place, simply leaving that place won’t fulfill your need for love, for joy.  That same challenge you’re running from will manifest at some point where you run to, until you face it and make amends.

 

Joy comes from within.  If you can’t create that gratefulness, that joy where you are at the moment, you won’t have success creating it anywhere.

 

You can’t find happiness:
It’s the same concept as I wrote at Wisdom and Life in July 2011 with The Journey.  Happiness comes from being on the journey.  NOT arriving.  You must find it within.

 

Yes; there will be challenges along the way.
Yes; you will find mountains to climb, chasms to cross.
Don’t turn back.
Don’t run away.

 

As I’ve said at Wisdom and Life previously:
Life is about moving forward.

 

Don’t give up.
You’ll eventually regret that choice.
Maybe not today.
Maybe not tomorrow.

 

Surely, however at some point when you’re looking back at the monumental decisions you’ve made during the course of this, your latest incarnation, there will be regrets if you chose to walk away from a challenge.  And lest we forget any challenge, any dispute we walk away from that could very well have been settled easily in this incarnation will show up again at the same time during your next lifetime.  Life is one big lesson plan.  Life gives us teachable moments and unless we learn from those moments we will see them again and again.

 

Find the joy within yourself.
Then you can move on.  Don’t move on to find joy.  You’ll be forever chasing your tail.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Memory Doesn’t Care

A long time reader of Wisdom and Life stopped into the library a few weeks ago to pick up a couple of books she had on hold.  Lisa R. looked at one of the books and said she THINKS she read it previously.  We then began a discussion about memory and how it works.  Lisa brought up Einstein and said there is a story that he never remembered his phone number because he didn’t care to.  I mentioned to her that if someone asked me about a book I read twenty plus years ago, I can tell you what it was about and why it resonated with me.

 

 

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Because you care, she said.  It’s why unless someone is motivated by what they are learning, unless they care about the subject matter, it won’t be retained, she said.

 

What I took away from that conversation for parents and children as well is what I’ve said from day one in my Parental Pressure category at Wisdom and Life:
Let your children go.
Let them decide the course of their lives.

 

If you push them to do something they are not ready to do they will surely fail because their heart isn’t in it.  The memory won’t care to retain any knowledge.  If someone isn’t motivated, they surely won’t learn.

 

I never really considered that.  I never thought about memory working if you care about what you’re doing.  Reading has always been a HUGE part of my life.  It stands to reason that I’d recall books I read years ago.  Lisa struck a chord with me.  It’s not the first time she has inspired me to write a column as can be seen from the search query below:
Lisa R/Wisdom and Life  The first seven columns:
Routines to Life is a Process are inspired by Lisa.

 

I just find it fascinating that it sometimes takes someone else to point out something that we don’t or can’t see in our own lives.  You know, like that saying:
You can’t see the forest for the trees.

 

It makes perfect sense now that I consider it, that memory only works for things we WANT to recall.

 

Do you have examples of this in your own life?  Would love to hear from you if you do. Leave your comments below.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

An All Providing Invisible Force

Make yourself available for success, and know and trust in an invisible force that’s all providing.

 

Wayne Dyer

 

A friend of mine who has been following Wisdom and Life for sometime now dropped into the library before this past Christmas and gave me a gift, a daily Wayne Dyer Quotes calendar.  I have such wonderful friends I’ve made and they continue to surprise me.  In August when my birthday rolled around, several library patrons left cards for me.

 

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It’s such a warm feeling to know that people I know superficially through my contact with them at the library, appreciate me and show that appreciation.  It continues to surprise me when these things happen.

 

The above quote came from that calendar.  I’ve discussed success at Wisdom and Life before and it’s one of those topics that never gets old.

 

Do you define success by what you have in the bank?
Do you define success by what your debt is?

 

That is surely one way to measure success.  There is so much more to success however.  You’ve heard it said That you can’t take it with you, I’m sure.  I’ve seen many people who have financial success and be miserable.  To me I’d rather create abundance:
An abundance of friends.
An abundance of memories.
An abundance of people who love me whether they be friends or family.

 

Success means different things to different people.  If I can help someone see that it means more than financial then that’s a good thing.

 

How much do we in general stress over finances?
How much good does it do to stress over something that is out of our control?
Yes we can control some of the financial stress in our lives by maintaining a balance on what we spend.  Some things are out of our control however:
Groceries.  
Car maintenance.
Household bills.

 

All of these things are out of our influence.  The only thing we can master is our reaction to the events that circle around us.  Most of us will always have debt in our lives.  The question is will we let it manipulate our well-being?

 

Does being in debt make us bad people?

That depends on our personality.
That depends on how we feel.  

 

You know my understanding of belief is that we receive what we believe, we receive what we think.  If we see lack in our lives, if we believe debt makes us bad people, then that’s what will happen.  We will be in that neverending cycle of debt equals bad people.

 

It’s one of the blessings I have to understand that yes I have substantial debt but I don’t let that navigate my life, I don’t let it affect my personality.  I understand that I will be taken care of.  If I chop away a little at a time, if I dig a little bit at a time, I will see that debt begin to evaporate.  Being in debt doesn’t mean I’m not a success.

I have a career that I love.
I have a roof over my head.
I live five minutes from work.
I can walk anywhere within a few minutes and be downtown.
I have countless friends.

 

This is how I measure my success.

 

I have a strong faith that my life is guided by the Divine.
That God is in control.
I understand that we have multiple lives to get it right.
I understand that we NEVER get it right.  Life is one huge lesson and there are no mistakes, just challenges to improve our lot in life.

 

Success is measured in abundance.  Not in financial well being.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Facing a Challenge

Last Thursday, January 29, I spoke before  an audience for only the second time in several years.  Rachel Salvo and I spoke about Social Media.  I’ve been using social for many years now and because of that, I’ve been able to understand what works and what doesn’t.  Google+ is my area of expertise.  I’m not saying that I’m G+ expert.  I’m not.  There are many others on the platform who know much more than I do.  I can speak to how it has helped my business and my three blogs however and that’s what I spoke about.

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See?  I have challenge with my speech, have had it all my life, where I block.  I sometimes can’t get out what I want to say.  When I was younger, this was a full fledged stutter where I’d repeat and repeat.  Somewhere along the way, the stutter morphed into what it is now, a block.

 

I used to be intimidated to speak before an audience.  Not anymore!  As long as I explain myself in the beginning and people understand the situation it kind of relaxes me and if I’m relaxed, I don’t stress as much and if I don’t stress the speech challenge doesn’t bother me.  I think knowing that I was going to speak about a huge passion of mine curtailed my anxiety as well.   We all have challenges in our lives.  The only thing that really matters is how we deal with them, how we face them.

 

We have to deal with them.
We have to face them.

 

If we don’t, if we simply run away from them, if we hide from them, if we bury our heads in the sand and pretend they don’t exist, then the challenge wins.  Notice I have used the word challenge to describe what I have.  Look at the first page of the search term Negative Words at Wisdom and Life to understand why I choose to use the words I do now.  I don’t see things in the negative anymore, because if we focus on negativity, that’s what shows up.

 

It’s why I continue to push myself beyond my expectations.  It’s why I accept a challenge such as speaking before an audience. It’s why when I was growing up, I pushed against what others expected of me, what others wanted me to do with my career.  It’s why I chose my own path.  And because I chose my own path it’s why I’m so happy with my life at the moment.  I love the career path I chose because I CHOSE it.  It wasn’t foisted on my by the well meaning people in my life.

 

Challenges will always arise in our lives.  We can face them head on and push through them; or we can choose to ignore them and run away.  I’m grateful to understand the only way to survive is to meet each challenge head on and push through.  For if we don’t do our best to beat each one that crops up, we may look back on our lives and say:
Shoulda.
Woulda.
Coulda.

 

I know I never want to be in that place.  It’s why I choose to live my life the way I do.  How do you live your life?

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

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