Your Happiness Depends On You

Tell everyone you know: “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.” And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they’re doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel — and then, you’ll love them all. Because the only reason you don’t love them, is because you’re using them as your excuse to not feel good.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

This has been a process.  Taken me many years to comprehend and as with all processes, it is a constant challenge to stay on course.  I run into the wall, however as I’m fond of saying at Wisdom and Life, I’m now more adept at seeing that wall and sometimes, more times than not now, I’m able to walk around the wall.  In the end, Abraham Hicks is correct:
No one can MAKE you feel anything that you don’t allow in.
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When one first starts to change their worldview,
When one first decides to stop letting someone or something affect their vibration, they can struggle because it is new to them.  They won’t know the steps.  They will feel they are doing something wrong.

 

Stop!
You’re NOT doing ANYTHING wrong.  Don’t let that emotional storm in your gut determine what you’re doing is right or wrong.  Your happiness is what’s important.  Don’t let someone or something else determine how you feel.  When someone lashes out at you for something, many times, they are projecting.  It’s something in them that they are dealing with.  If you can realize this, if you can move beyond the hurt they caused and understand that THEY MUST be hurting too, if you can feel empathy instead of anger, if you can reach out in caring and not in reciprocal hurt your life will change.  You’ll no longer carry that anger inside.  You’ll only feel love and peace.

 

That’s a much better way to feel.  Don’t you think?

 

It’s a process.  However, I’d rather be moving in the direction of feeling positive.
Wouldn’t you?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

All Is Truly Well

If you know that all is well, you know all you need to know. And if you know life is supposed to be fun, you know more than almost anybody else knows. And if you know that the way you feel is your indicator of how connected you are to Source, then you know that which only a handful of Deliberate Creators, respective to the total population, really know. The beasts all know it. Your animals know that all is well. Your animals live in the moment. They understand the power of their now. They expect the Universe to yield to them. They don’t worry or fret or conjure or make laws or rules or try to regulate. They are Pure Positive Energy. Your beasts vibrate more on the Energy scale of contentment than of passion. Their desire was set forth from Nonphysical, and continues to be set forth by those, like you, who want Energy balance, who want sustenance. The difference between the beast and the human is that the beast is more general in its intent. The human is usually less blended, usually less allowing of the Energy to flow, but is more specific. And that is why the human is seen to be the Creator while the beast is more the balancer of Energy.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

How often do you feel content?
How often do feel connected?

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PluggedIn

 

 

What is source?
What does it mean to be connected?

 

If you look at source as the universal power for good, as the power of positive energy then you can clearly see that being connected means being plugged into that energy source.  That source, for me is simply another way of defining the Divine.  It’s just another way of defining God; which is why I’ve always maintained that Law of Attraction (LoA) has served to deepen my faith.  Law of Attraction is so much more than asking for THINGS.  It is so much more than bringing THINGS into your life.

Law of Attraction is a means to an end.
Law of Attraction is a philosophy.
Law of Attraction is a way to live your life.

 

Re-read the above statement from Abraham Hicks and you’ll begin to understand the philosophy behind LoA.  LoA tells us that we can change our thoughts and when we change our thoughts, our entire well-being changes, our well-being will improve.  Simply look at the first line:
If you know that all is well, you know all you need to know.

 

Those of us who are truly steeped in this paradigm understand that all IS well and all will ALWAYS be well.  Even when challenges arise, after they dissipate, we can always find a blessing.  Those of us who know where to look will always find that opened window after a door closes.  That window ALWAYS opens.  Sometimes we have look harder for it.  When you are connected to source, this all becomes rote.

 

Knowing that all is well becomes routine.
Knowing that you will be provided for becomes routine.  It’s just like I said at my column at Wisdom and Life called:
Two Symptoms of Enlightenment:
When we become spiritually enlightened, we lose all our fears, we lose our worry.

 

Where does fear and worry originate from?  Why do we worry?

We worry and fear when we look to the future, correct?
We worry and fear when we don’t know what’s around the next corner.

 

So how do we stop that worry?  How do we halt it in its tracks?
Anyone?

 

Let’s go back a couple of lines here and look at what causes worry:
when we look to the future.

 

So the solution is as Eckhart Tolle says in his quintessential book:
The Power of Now:
Stay in the present moment.

 

That’s how to stay connected to source.
That’s how to feel content.
That’s how to know that all is truly well.

 

How many of us can practice this on a regular basis?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Stay In Your Vibration

Because others cannot vibrate in your experience, they cannot affect the outcome of your experience. They can hold their opinions, but unless their opinion affects your opinion, their opinion matters not at all. A million people could be pushing against you, and it would not negatively affect you unless you push back. They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction—but it does not affect you unless you push against them.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

I’m usually very adept at putting Abraham Hicks motivations into action for myself.  However we all have places where we can improve.  My own is in this realm.  While I understand intellectually that we all vibrate at different levels and in order for something or someone does to get through we have to lower our vibration to their place, it is easier said than done for me to stay at a higher vibration when influenced by negativity.  This is something I constantly need to work on, something I constantly need to improve about myself.  Last week, I mentioned about being sensitive sometimes to my detriment. This is where that thought continually crops up from.  Do I let circumstances and hurt affect me in a way that is harmful to my own psyche?  I know when someone says something or does something hurtful to me, I tend to let it fester.  I used to not stand up and say:
No.  I’m an adult now and I don’t expect to be treated like a child anymore.  This is NOT going to happen anymore.

 

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I’ve become strong enough now emotionally that I CAN stand up and say this.  My heart still flutters when I stand up for myself, but I understand that unless I say something, the negativity will continue eating its way through me.  And the situation won’t get any better because it won’t change.  Most of the time I simply walk away and that feels better too.  That way I’m not feeding the negative energy.  I’m not giving it what it needs.  I like the part of the above statement:
They are affecting what happens in their experience. They are affecting their point of attraction.

 

I see that as truth.  And I also understand that what happens within the person who throws out negativity is hurt and angry themselves and they have to rid themselves of that negative energy.  They haven’t yet reached a place in their lives where they understand that they are only hurting themselves in the long run.

 

See how smart I am now?  Well after the fact, well after the outburst I can clearly see the challenges.  But when someone is in the moment of emotional negativity, it is a COMPLETELY different situation.  What we have to do however, is when we are in that moment, remember everything we know about why this is happening.  If we can do that, we can remain in that higher vibrational plane.  We are safer there; those of us who have reached that place.  How do you feel?  Those of you at that higher vibration?

–Happy?
–Positive?

 

Isn’t that where you want to stay?  Isn’t that where you want to bring everyone who is in turmoil?  The best way to show people the way is NOT to let the negativity in.

 

The next time someone does or says something hurtful, smile at them.  Give them a hug.  And stand back and watch their reaction.  I bet they won’t know what to do.  Stay at your high vibration.  Don’t come down to theirs.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Give Your Children Wings

Parents can’t choose the mates of their children or the behavior of their children. You actually can’t choose anything for your children without disempowering them.

 

Abraham-Hicks

 

Your family of origin, your genetic family ALWAYS has the best of intentions for you when they attempt to guide you.  However, more often than not their guidance pulls you away from your heart, from your true reason for incarnating.  Your genetic family has to learn to let go.  They have to let you do what is best for you.  As I’ve maintained here at Wisdom and Life from this blog’s inception:
EVERYONE eventually finds their way if you let them be.

 

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Look it at this way:
What if someone attempted to tell you as an adult what they think you should be doing and pushed you in a direction you knew wasn’t right for you?

 

What if someone told you No!  You can’t be with him or her when you were of an age where you could clearly decide for yourself?

 

Now I understand that children need guidance.  I’m not condoning letting them run wild.  What I am saying is this:
Give them the freedom they need to make their own way.  If they have a desire to pursue something that you feel is a mistake, stand back and let them go.  And remember:
Sometimes, you may be influencing your child to do something for financial gain because you’re concerned for their future.  My belief is just the opposite.  You should be influencing your children to be happy, to be joyful.

 

Isn’t it more appropriate to love what you’re doing and make a little less money than be making money hand over fist and be miserable?  And missing out on all life has to offer?

 

Disempower
What a powerful word to use here.  By attempting to choose the life for your children, that’s EXACTLY what you are doing:
Disempowering them.

 

Children need to learn from their challenges and by not letting them make errors in judgement, by shielding them, you are in the end doing them a disservice.  And they know better than you do what they want to do.  If they are brought up in a family where they feel intimidated to speak their mind, they won’t.  And they will wind up letting someone else make their decisions for them, thus disempowering them yet again.  Parents need to step away and let their children fly.  It’s truly the only way our children will make their way in the world.

 

If you attempt to tell your children who they can be intimate with and who they can’t, you’ll also run the same risk of alienating them.  Is that what you really want?  Love happens in many ways and takes many forms.  You can no more tell someone who to love than you can tell them what career to choose.

 

Maybe someone who attempts to guide their children is REALLY trying to live vicariously.  In other words, perhaps what the parents are guiding their children toward is something they themselves wanted to do when they were young.  The cycle has to break somewhere, otherwise children and adults will continually be unhappy.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

The Process of Pivoting

Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want. . . . In the moment you turn your attention to what you want, the negative attraction will stop; and in the moment the negative attraction stops, the positive attraction will begin. And—in that moment—your feeling will change from not feeling good to feeling good. That is the Process of Pivoting.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

As a follow up to my 2010 column, Pivoting, In that column I spoke about changing your emotional outlook, by changing the way you think.  In today’s column, let’s look at pivoting differently:
What happens when you feel a negative emotion?
How do you release that emotion?

 

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Do you lash out at the most convenient target?  The weakest target?  That does nothing but hurt that target.  It may create a temporary fix in you. However you’re REALLY only hurting yourself when you lash out.  Instead of excoriating someone, why not do what Abraham Hicks says:
Stop and say: Something is important here; otherwise, I would not be feeling this negative emotion. What is it that I want? And then simply turn your attention to what you do want.

 

This MIGHT be a challenge when you initiate the process, however if you continue with this technique, it will become second nature and eventually, you’ll discover that you’re not even thinking about thinking.

 

–The way I see life,
–The way I live my life,
–The way I’ve ALWAYS attempted to live my life:

–is doing my best to be nice.
–is doing my best to get along.

 

–I don’t hold onto anger.
I drop that hot piece of coal.

 

I understand that lashing out,
I understand that getting angry only hurts me.  And I pity those who haven’t reached that conclusion yet.

 

When we finally understand that lashing out at others only hurts ourselves and those around us, our lives will be richly blessed, because knowing that will change our ENTIRE life.  Knowing that will change our behavior and thus will alter our entire dynamic.

 

Are you blessed?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Imagining Our Success

Leverage your time more by spending a little more time every day imagining and a lot less time every day doing. Do a little more imagining and a little more less doing. Until eventually most of what’s happening is happening in the cool, calm, anticipatory state. Just imagine yourself into the successes, and watch what happens. Imagine a little more and act a little less.

 

Abraham-Hicks

 

Success is personal.  How we view it.  How we get there.  What it takes to attain it.  First we have to believe it is within our grasp.  How do we do that?  I believe Abraham-Hicks has it right:
We first have to imagine it.
We have to tell ourselves we are a success.  And we must believe it!
We must tell others we are successful even if we may not feel it.

 

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Because success means different things to different people, we aren’t exaggerating.  If we imagine our success, if we think we are accomplished, our lives will reflect it in what we see.  If we tell others we are accomplished, they will see it, for people only see believe what they see.

 

Stop downplaying your accomplishments
Stop featuring your failures.

 

Start imagining the riches that are already in your life.
Start focusing on the advancements you’ve made.

 

The other important thing you need for success, for an accomplished life is the right people in your life.  You must surround yourself with like minded people.  People who recognize your fortune, who recognize your accomplishments.  People who are successful in their own lives.  If you want to know success then you have to see it in action.  Find a group of like minded individuals.  Whether it be artists, writers, musicians.  Whatever talent you have, become involved with the group.  And when you surround yourself with this group, you’ll naturally soak up the positive energy osmosis like.

 

Success, accomplishment, advancement is contagious.  And once you understand that, once you see your success take root, you’ll start seeing it in others as well.  That’s why it is so important to find a circle of friends who are accomplished.  You start to feed off each other.  You become a tree, with each branch feeding off the main trunk.  Without the trunk there would be no branches and without the branches there would be no trunk.  As I’ve always maintained at Wisdom and Life, everything is symbiotic.  EVERYTHING is connected.  Our very connectedness breeds success just as much as our individual efforts.

 

You MUST start by first imagining your success before you can see it come to fruition.  If you can see it, if you can imagine it before it blooms then you are already accomplished.  remember:
–Surround yourself with successful people.
–Imagine your success first
–Focus on the advancements you’ve already made.

 

If you can do that, your trunk will produce many branches.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Law of Attraction and Transitioning

Okay.
So please enlighten us how these two things go together, Chris. I bet is what you’re asking. I’ll tell you:

 

Just to make you aware that Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working in the background. You may not even know it until you’re able to recognize it. I’m hoping those of you new to the concept can take something away from my blog.

 

Law of Attraction says we draw into our lives what we focus on.  That’s one of the concepts.

 

So last Monday I had a computer job up the street.  (One of my original clients.)  After I fixed what was wrong, Carol asked me if I was still out with my camera. Then she asked if I was still writing.  I told her about my latest project:
Working on a book about transitioning.

 

She didn’t quite understand so I clarified that transition means dying. I don’t like using negative words. And after all dying is just moving from one state to another:
Transitioning, right?

 

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Turns out we both share some of the same thoughts.

 

So, I stopped by my Mom’s after I left Carol since she needed help setting up her new television.  Now here’s where Law of Attraction comes into play:
While I set the television up, my Mom had the news on in the next room.  The newscaster reported on the earthquake in Nepal. Then we started discussing what we wanted after we transition.

 

That’s one example of Law of Attraction for you in a nutshell.  Carol and I talked about transitioning not twenty minutes earlier and here it came up again with my Mom. Totaly unrelated to my conversation with Carol.  That’s why I always say LoA  is always working in the background.  Unless you are steeped in this paradigm (as I’m fond of saying) you’ll miss it.

 

Start paying attention. You’ll be shocked at how much you’re missing.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Amends to Those Who Oppose You

We encourage you to make peace with everyone who opposes you and with everyone whom you oppose, not only because you cannot insist on their yielding to your perspective but because their opposing perspective is of tremendous benefit to you.

You see, because of your exposure to what you perceive as their wrong or bad or unwanted behavior or perspective—you have given birth to an improved situation. And just as they helped the problem side of the equation to come into focus, they helped the solution side of the equation to come into focus, also; and that solution waits for you in your Vortex of Creation.

Through our daily meditation process, you will come into alignment with those solutions and creations that are in your Vortex, and from inside your Vortex, you will feel appreciation for everyone who contributed to its becoming.

When you make peace with those who differ in desire and belief and behavior from your ideas of what is appropriate, you do not perpetuate what you consider to be wrong. Instead, you align with the solution side of the equation that has been waiting for you in your Vortex of Creation.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

Make amends with those who oppose you?
Seriously?

 

Abraham-Hicks isn’t the only one who believes this.  It’s a practice of every world religion:
Forgive your enemy.  The Christian Bible has much to say on forgiveness.  

Matthew 5:44 says:
But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.

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Ephesians 4:31 – 4:32 says:
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

 

Luke 6:27 says:
But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you.

 

 

In Buddhism:

I’ve written at Wisdom and Life about how holding onto anger is grasping a hot piece of coal.

 

Every major religion discusses forgiveness and making peace with those in opposition to you.  Unfortunately not every person practices.

 

I’m sure you’ve heard it said that there is nothing new under the sun.  That everything old will be new again.  This is why as I’ve said at Wisdom and Life:
that Law of Attraction is simply another gateway to Spirituality and Faith.

 

If you look back at the basic tenets of Law of Attraction, you’ll find many traits it shares with Faith and religion.  Another reason I’ve maintained that discovering Law of Attraction has only served to deepen my faith.

 

 

The only way I can survive,
The only way my happiness is ensured,

I no longer hold grudges.  I do my best to, as Abraham-Hicks says:
make peace with everyone who opposes me and with everyone I oppose.

 

I don’t need stress in my life and carrying anger and grudges and not letting go, hurts us just as much as a physical wound does.  By focusing on someone’s anger toward you or by continuing to hold onto your own anger against someone else it not only brings more of that to you, it also creates a place where it won’t dissipate.

 

I imagine if you’re here at Wisdom and Life reading these columns, you are someone who wants to find peace, who wants joy.  One way to find that peace within yourself is to let go of anger, let go of grudges.  Because who is it REALLY hurting?  Is it hurting the person you’re angry at or is it hurting you?  Let go of that hot piece of coal.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Ask and Ye Shall Receive

One of the challenges with Law of Attraction is when you REALLY begin to understand what it says and what it can do for you is you learn to be VERY specific when asking for something.  You’ve heard the adage:
Ask and ye Shall Receive

 

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That is a Biblical reference that has been assumed by Law of Attraction.  The more specific you are, the more information you give, when making your request, the greater the opportunity you will have to receive everything you want.  Before putting your wish “out there” so to speak, make sure you think of EVERY contingency, make sure you’ve thought about EVERY feature you want.  That can be a challenging undertaking, but unless you think through your desire clearly, you will surely come away with something less than what you asked for.

 

Whether you’re looking for a romantic relationship.
Whether you’re looking for a job or career.
Whether you’re looking for a place to live.

 

Make sure you think long and hard about EVERYTHING you want:
In a relationship:
Do you want long term
Do you want to be exclusive and monogamous in time?
Long term and exclusive are two ENTIRELY separate traits.

 

If you ask for long term and THINK you are asking for monogamous, think again.  If you want an exclusive and monogamous relationship, then ask for that.  Write down EVERYTHING you want and be as specific as possible.  Don’t put ANYTHING “out there” that you don’t want.  The more specific you are the more you will receive.

 

Take it from personal experience.  I didn’t realize this until I came in contact with Law of Attraction, however, EVERY relationship I’ve had has come to me as a result of my asking for EXACTLY what I wanted.  And I ALWAYS received EXACTLY what I asked for.  I’ve left out key points each time I put the request “out there.”

 

When looking for a home:
Do the same thing:
Be as specific as possible.
Write down EVERYTHING you want.

 

I have a friend who looked for a house several years ago and did this.
She found the EXACT house she described while writing down her wants.

 

The lesson I’ve learned when making requests, when asking for gifts, when seeking what I want:
Be as SPECIFIC as possible when asking the Universe/God/The Divine for ANYTHING.

 

 

Because the LAST thing I want is for what happened in W.W. Jacobs Story:
The Monkey’s Paw.

 

The definitive:
Better make sure you’re as specific as possible when asking for ANYTHING.
Or
Be careful what you ask for because you just may receive it.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

A Great Chasm

As you go the way of life you will see a great chasm
Jump.
It’s not as wide as you think.

Native American Proverb
Into the Abyss
Page 169
Carol Shaben

 

I read Into the Abyss this past summer and was blown away.  If you’d like to know what the book is about, feel free to open the preceding link.  It will bring you to Scranton Page Turner, one of my other blogs I write. Creating abundance doing what I love has been an amazing experience.  I get to read for a living.  Who else can say that?  Many people obviously.  However, I’ve learned since being in this worldview I’ve been experiencing for sometime now, that as Law of Attraction suggests, our thoughts do indeed create reality.  Because I CHOOSE to see my career in a certain light, because I CHOOSE to see I get to read for a living that’s what becomes my reality.

 

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I find inspiration for Wisdom and Life everywhere as you can clearly see from this above quote.  As with photography, when I’m constantly seeing with my photographer’s eye, everything quote, every phrase I come across becomes fodder, becomes as my friend, Jason Marchi likes to say becomes grist for the mill.

 

The above passage can be used in almost every aspect of life.
Don’t be afraid.

 

Life is full of challenges, full of chasms.  You can’t move forward if you always choose the easy path.  You won’t live life fully unless you take some risk, unless you jump occasionally.  You’ll stagnate if you constantly run from that chasm.  There will be no success.  Life without risk is not the life I want.  No one should want that life!

 

It’s not as wide as you think.
The chasm is NEVER as wide, the challenge you THINK you have is NEVER as challenging as you make it out to be.  After you’ve faced it down, after you’ve jumped, once on the other side, tell me this isn’t true.  Every time you face a challenge and jump, the less likely you’ll shrink from the next one that appears.  As with muscle memory, the more you do something, the stronger you become.

 

Take that risk!
Jump.
You may surprise yourself and find that you can indeed fly.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

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