Leo and Forgiveness

I talked with a friend of mine a couple of weeks ago about forgiveness.  Don’t recall how we started the topic.  However we are both Leos.







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And I mentioned that I’m typically easy to hurt, but after I’m over the initial wounding, I’m willing to move on and forgive.  My friend said the same thing and he believes it’s a Leo trait.  I researched a bit online and here is some of what I’ve found:
Leos are loving, positive, and deeply loyal, so if you’re close to them, you’re likely to be forgiven for pretty much anything (but not without a lot of work).
The Frisky.com


When you hurt Leo, they want you to know.  One they feel you’ve “gotten it” or even if some time has passed, they’re usually willing to give you another chance.  They hate staying mad for long.
The ZodiacCity


Does that sound like you?  Are you a Leo?  I know those above quotes fit me, because I don’t have the capacity to stay angry anymore.  I learned a long time ago that holding grudges, staying angry, staying hurt, only hurts YOU!


It does nothing to the person you’re angry at.  Whether that’s a Leo trait or not I know that I feel much better releasing the bitterness, the anger, the hurt, rather than holding onto it.  And I’ve had plenty of experience.  


Up until several years ago, I stayed angry and hurt at the slightest provocation.  It wasn’t until I realized that anger and that hurt caused my great distress:
–Sleepless nights
–A pit in my stomach

The emotional pain caused physical manifestations.  It was then that I decided I could no longer angry, stay hurt.  Once I made the decision to voice my initial displeasure then move on, my emotional and physical well being changed for the better.


I forgive easily now.
I no longer hold grudges.
I no longer stay hurt.

And I have no expectations from anyone.


Whether Leo forgives more easily is beside the point.  We should all learn to forgive.  There is no better way to live than through forgiveness.  Your whole life will change if you can embrace that trait.  Your body will thank you.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.  


Innocent Man Forgives Police Officer



A recurring theme at Wisdom and life is forgiveness as can be seen from the number of columns in the previous link.  I will let this video do most of the work today.  Other than to say that holding onto resentment only hurts the person keeping the resentment.


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The video below is a perfect example of this message and should be seen my EVERYONE!









From The Daily Spectator


Sammy Hagar’s Forgiveness

A friend of mine sent me a news article about Sammy Hagar tweeting Happy Birthday to Eddie Van Halen in February.  The two former band mates had an acrimonious break up years ago.


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Hagar said that the passing of David Bowie and Glenn Frey lead him to mend fences with Van Halen.  He said that he didn’t want to pass with having enemies. He said he no longer wants to hold grudges.


It can sometimes be seen as a weaknesses to forgive because some may see it as being taken advantage of, some may think you’re weak, some won’t understand.


Forgive anyway!  


You’ll find a lightened heart.  
You’ll find the negative turn positive.



Negativity, anger, distress?
They only hurt you.  It’s like I say in Holding onto Anger.  You’re grasping a hot piece of coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, but you’re the one to get hurt.  I’m with Sammy Hagar:
Forgive ALWAYS


You may be taken advantage of on some occasions.
People may not understand how if you’ve been hurt how you can embrace the person or state again.


Ya know what?  You don’t owe anyone an explanation.  You’re the captain of your own life.  You get to decide if you want to row against the current or row with it.  I’d rather row with it, even if others may not understand.


I learned that it’s too painful to stay angry.  I don’t have time, strength or energy to stay negative, to stay locked in perpetual emotional distress. Each of our incarnations are short.  I want to spend each life I have here joyful.  If that means I sometimes get taken advantage of, I can live with that.  At least I’m not staying angry, staying hurt, staying negative.  I’ve been there and I don’t like it.


Want to join me in saying no to negativity?  Saying no to grudges?  Saying no to debilitating continuous anger?


Say yes to love!
Say yes to forgiveness.  It’s not easy but if you can move past the hurt and get to the other side and don’t let someone else question your motivation, I think you’ll find that life will be easier.  The weight of all that anger you carried will be lifted from your soul. And you will be much happier.


You can easily stay in that angry place and some do. It’s always easier to stay stuck then it is to move forward.   But just because it’s easy doesn’t make it right. I’d rather do the work and move forward.


To love is Divine.
To forgive is Divine.


Join Sammy Hagar.
Join me.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


Your Happiness Depends On You

Tell everyone you know: “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.” And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they’re doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel — and then, you’ll love them all. Because the only reason you don’t love them, is because you’re using them as your excuse to not feel good.


Abraham Hicks


This has been a process.  Taken me many years to comprehend and as with all processes, it is a constant challenge to stay on course.  I run into the wall, however as I’m fond of saying at Wisdom and Life, I’m now more adept at seeing that wall and sometimes, more times than not now, I’m able to walk around the wall.  In the end, Abraham Hicks is correct:
No one can MAKE you feel anything that you don’t allow in.


When one first starts to change their worldview,
When one first decides to stop letting someone or something affect their vibration, they can struggle because it is new to them.  They won’t know the steps.  They will feel they are doing something wrong.


You’re NOT doing ANYTHING wrong.  Don’t let that emotional storm in your gut determine what you’re doing is right or wrong.  Your happiness is what’s important.  Don’t let someone or something else determine how you feel.  When someone lashes out at you for something, many times, they are projecting.  It’s something in them that they are dealing with.  If you can realize this, if you can move beyond the hurt they caused and understand that THEY MUST be hurting too, if you can feel empathy instead of anger, if you can reach out in caring and not in reciprocal hurt your life will change.  You’ll no longer carry that anger inside.  You’ll only feel love and peace.


That’s a much better way to feel.  Don’t you think?


It’s a process.  However, I’d rather be moving in the direction of feeling positive.
Wouldn’t you?


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.


Amends to Those Who Oppose You

We encourage you to make peace with everyone who opposes you and with everyone whom you oppose, not only because you cannot insist on their yielding to your perspective but because their opposing perspective is of tremendous benefit to you.

You see, because of your exposure to what you perceive as their wrong or bad or unwanted behavior or perspective—you have given birth to an improved situation. And just as they helped the problem side of the equation to come into focus, they helped the solution side of the equation to come into focus, also; and that solution waits for you in your Vortex of Creation.

Through our daily meditation process, you will come into alignment with those solutions and creations that are in your Vortex, and from inside your Vortex, you will feel appreciation for everyone who contributed to its becoming.

When you make peace with those who differ in desire and belief and behavior from your ideas of what is appropriate, you do not perpetuate what you consider to be wrong. Instead, you align with the solution side of the equation that has been waiting for you in your Vortex of Creation.


Abraham Hicks


Make amends with those who oppose you?


Abraham-Hicks isn’t the only one who believes this.  It’s a practice of every world religion:
Forgive your enemy.  The Christian Bible has much to say on forgiveness.  

Matthew 5:44 says:
But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.

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Ephesians 4:31 – 4:32 says:
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.


Luke 6:27 says:
But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you.



In Buddhism:

I’ve written at Wisdom and Life about how holding onto anger is grasping a hot piece of coal.


Every major religion discusses forgiveness and making peace with those in opposition to you.  Unfortunately not every person practices.


I’m sure you’ve heard it said that there is nothing new under the sun.  That everything old will be new again.  This is why as I’ve said at Wisdom and Life:
that Law of Attraction is simply another gateway to Spirituality and Faith.


If you look back at the basic tenets of Law of Attraction, you’ll find many traits it shares with Faith and religion.  Another reason I’ve maintained that discovering Law of Attraction has only served to deepen my faith.



The only way I can survive,
The only way my happiness is ensured,

I no longer hold grudges.  I do my best to, as Abraham-Hicks says:
make peace with everyone who opposes me and with everyone I oppose.


I don’t need stress in my life and carrying anger and grudges and not letting go, hurts us just as much as a physical wound does.  By focusing on someone’s anger toward you or by continuing to hold onto your own anger against someone else it not only brings more of that to you, it also creates a place where it won’t dissipate.


I imagine if you’re here at Wisdom and Life reading these columns, you are someone who wants to find peace, who wants joy.  One way to find that peace within yourself is to let go of anger, let go of grudges.  Because who is it REALLY hurting?  Is it hurting the person you’re angry at or is it hurting you?  Let go of that hot piece of coal.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.



Everything Is Cyclical

“Everything is cyclical,” Rivers told The Associated Press during a chat last year. “So I just enjoy the good times. And when the bad times come, I know it isn’t forever. It’s happened to me three or four times in my life. But I moved forward.” 


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Joan Rivers has it right. She seemed to be on the same page with me.
–Moving on
–Letting go


These are all important attributes to have. For it is in letting go that we are able to move forward.  Enjoying the good times certainly brings more of that into your life.


Ms. Rivers had every right to hold onto the anger at Johnny Carson. But from what we know of her story, she did NOT hold that grudge.  It’s too bad that Mr Carson from what we know wasn’t spiritually evolved enough to understand.


As I said:
We only know one side of the story.  


Speaking from my perspective I can relate to Joan Rivers about Johnny Carson and the Late Night wars he had, not just with Joan Rivers but a host of other Late Night talk shows.


If the stories are true, it’s a shame that there was so much animosity left unresolved. Because now it will be left that way.  We ALL need to learn forgiveness.  For if we don’t, just like Joan Rivers says:
Everything is cyclical.


The next time we incarnate we will meet the same circumstances again and again until we learn to let go.
–How many times do we want to relearn that lesson?
–How many times will it take us to learn?


It looks as if Ms. Rivers understands.

Do you?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.



Out of Emotional Alignment

If you could get to the place where you no longer feel a need to push against anything that you disagree with—you would become in alignment with what you do agree with. Even within your own body, it is your pushing against those things you don’t agree with that causes you to be out of alignment with what you do agree.




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There have been times in the past when I’ve received distressing news:
whether it be someone walking out of my life,
whether it be losing the opportunity of a job that I REALLY wanted,
whether it be someone letting me down after promising to do something with me


that I would be devastated for days after.

I’d hide in my home.
I’d pout,
I’d get angry.


Who was this hurting?  Certainly not the people I directed my energy toward.  No!  It was hurting me.  It’s like I wrote here previously with Holding onto Anger.  When you keep that emotion with you it only hurts you.  What you need to learn is exactly what Abraham-Hicks says:
Find that place where you no longer need to push back.


It won’t be easy.  It took me thirty plus years to understand and to put it into motion.  Which is not to say I don’t still feel the need to get angry and pout, I do!  I generally give myself one day to wallow.  Anything more than a day then I know something is more wrong than emotional distress.  I typically pick myself up after a day of wallowing.  We all need that to figure out where to go next what to do after we reach a particularly distressing plateau in our lives.  The trick is not to stay on that plateau for long.  We need to climb down and continue moving forward.  After all life is about moving forward, not standing still, not wallowing indefinitely, not holding onto negative emotions.


Want to move forward?  Then you MUST find the place where you no longer feel the need to push back.  Find it and not only will your emotional health improve, your physical health will also improve.


Don’t sit on that negative plateau any longer.

Climb down and keep moving!


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;


We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Prayer of Saint Francis/Prayer Monday

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.


O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;

to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.


Prayer of Saint Francis

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Red Letter Christians


I love this prayer as it PERFECTLY describes the meaning of Wisdom and Life.  The prayer also does a commendable job of describing my purpose of incarnating is this my most recent lifetime.  The entire reason Wisdom and Life came about is to discuss how faith can strengthen our lives.  I clearly understand there are those in my circles who can feel uncomfortable when I discuss words like faith, like God, like Spirit.


But as I do my best to explain, when I use these words I’m not using them in a religious way.  I use these words in the universal divine interpretation.  My faith is such an important part of my life and I believe The Prayer of Saint Francis neatly describes part of my worldview; especially the first paragraph.


If you read back through my blog I think you’ll see all of these themes underlying my entire blog.


Where there is injury, let me paron.

Look at all I’ve written about Forgiveness.


Where there is doubt, faith

Look at all I’ve written about faith and spirituality.


This line in the 2nd paragraph:
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;

is another favorite of mine as I have said here many times that I no longer hold grudges.  I no longer stay angry.  Staying angry only hurts me.

I learned that valuable lesson several years ago after a lifetime of being challenged by it.  I’m so comforted by the fact that I’ve learned this lesson and if I can do JUST one thing in this, my latest incarnation it would be to teach people this lesson.  Teach them that peace is the only way.  Making me an instrument of peace.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.



This is the last Prayer Monday

The Thing You Fear Most

The thing you fear most needs the most love.


One of the best places for affordable amazing food in Madison, Connecticut is Jia Mei Asian Kitchen.  I eat there at least twice a week for lunch.  I’ve eaten just about everything on their menu and nothing has disappointed.  I’ve converted many of my friends to the place.  I ate there last week with John D. an old friend who hadn’t been there yet and I converted him as well.  Being that Jia Mei is Asian, at the end of the meal you receive a fortune cookie.


The fortune I received last Monday, July 22 ws the quote above.

Can you understand the quote?
Why do you think the thing you fear most needs the most love?
Why do you fear?


Because you think that something will hurt you emotionally or physically, correct?  Why don’t you (as they say) walk a mile in their shoes?  See what their life is like?  Most likely they are are living the life they are inflicting on their victim.  Typically when someone hurts another, they are only releasing their own emotional baggage.  All that negative energy must go somewhere.  The bully can’t keep it inside. Believe me, I’ve been there!


There was a time (as those of you have followed Wisdom and Life know) when forgiveness was not in my lexicon.  I discovered that anger, hurt, fear, holding grudges was killing me.  I released all of those negative emotions and I chose to love that which I feared.


A funny thing happened when I made that change.  Those who bullied me put away their own emotional weapons and held out their hands in friendship and love.  NOT everyone chose to do so. Enough did, however to prove my hypothesis that love, forgiveness, understanding is the ONLY way to defeat bullies, to defeat what you fear.


Are you strong enough to walk up to what you fear and embrace it in a loving way?  You may just be surprised at the result.


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.


Apostles’ Creed

I believe in God the Father, Almighty, Maker of heaven and earth:
And in Jesus Christ, his only begotten Son, our Lord:
Who was conceived by the Holy Ghost, born of the Virgin Mary:
Suffered under Pontius Pilate; was crucified, dead and buried: He descended into hell:
The third day he rose again from the dead:
He ascended into heaven, and sits at the right hand of God the Father Almighty:
From thence he shall come to judge the quick and the dead:
I believe in the Holy Ghost:
I believe in the holy catholic church: the communion of saints:
The forgiveness of sins:
The resurrection of the body:
And the life everlasting.


The Apostles’ Creed holds a special place in my mind.  My best friend, while growing up in Lisbon, Connecticut went to Saturday night Mass in Taftville, Connecticut just about ten minutes from our homes in Lisbon.  I usually went with him and it was typically the only time I attended any organized religion.  I recall the prayer being said about half way through mass and I always appreciated its cadence, its intonation.  The Creed was probably my most loved prayer to say because I loved its cadence so much.


The Creed also has meaning because of its theme.
Everything about the prayer is in my entire paradigm:
–The Resurrection
–Everlasting life


I find this stuff so fascinating:
That after some thirty years; BEFORE I even understood my belief system, BEFORE I knew what I REALLY understood about spirituality, about faith, on some deep level I DID KNOW that faith and spirituality were an important facet of my life, that they would become so intertwined in my life that as I’ve written:
If you were to attempt to take them away’ I would cease to be who I am.


It’s another reason I resonate so deeply with this prayer, because now as I look back at my spiritual growth I realize I understood even when I didn’t understand.


God was merely prepping me.
God was giving me clues.
God was showing me at a young age how important a role faith would play in my later life.
HE was presenting me with pieces to my life’s puzzle that wouldn’t fit until I was ready.


That’s what a master HE is at the intricate process of our growth.

And only those of us who see the Divine everywhere,

Only those of us who have removed the veil,
Only those of us who have seen through the veil
understand the intricacies of HIS process.


Are you one who understands?
Do you see the Divine everywhere?


Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.