Memorial Day

As today is Memorial Day my usual column will be postponed.  Memorial Day should be a day of remembrance.  When you see someone in the US Military this week, make sure you thank them for their service.

 

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And PLEASE remember, Memorial Day is more than the unofficial start of summer.  It is more than just another day off.  It is more than picnics and sales.

 

Memorial Day is designated as the National day of Remembrance.  It is the day we pause and give thanks to all those who lost their lives in our conflicts and wars throughout our history.

 

Imagining Our Success

Leverage your time more by spending a little more time every day imagining and a lot less time every day doing. Do a little more imagining and a little more less doing. Until eventually most of what’s happening is happening in the cool, calm, anticipatory state. Just imagine yourself into the successes, and watch what happens. Imagine a little more and act a little less.

 

Abraham-Hicks

 

Success is personal.  How we view it.  How we get there.  What it takes to attain it.  First we have to believe it is within our grasp.  How do we do that?  I believe Abraham-Hicks has it right:
We first have to imagine it.
We have to tell ourselves we are a success.  And we must believe it!
We must tell others we are successful even if we may not feel it.

 

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Because success means different things to different people, we aren’t exaggerating.  If we imagine our success, if we think we are accomplished, our lives will reflect it in what we see.  If we tell others we are accomplished, they will see it, for people only see believe what they see.

 

Stop downplaying your accomplishments
Stop featuring your failures.

 

Start imagining the riches that are already in your life.
Start focusing on the advancements you’ve made.

 

The other important thing you need for success, for an accomplished life is the right people in your life.  You must surround yourself with like minded people.  People who recognize your fortune, who recognize your accomplishments.  People who are successful in their own lives.  If you want to know success then you have to see it in action.  Find a group of like minded individuals.  Whether it be artists, writers, musicians.  Whatever talent you have, become involved with the group.  And when you surround yourself with this group, you’ll naturally soak up the positive energy osmosis like.

 

Success, accomplishment, advancement is contagious.  And once you understand that, once you see your success take root, you’ll start seeing it in others as well.  That’s why it is so important to find a circle of friends who are accomplished.  You start to feed off each other.  You become a tree, with each branch feeding off the main trunk.  Without the trunk there would be no branches and without the branches there would be no trunk.  As I’ve always maintained at Wisdom and Life, everything is symbiotic.  EVERYTHING is connected.  Our very connectedness breeds success just as much as our individual efforts.

 

You MUST start by first imagining your success before you can see it come to fruition.  If you can see it, if you can imagine it before it blooms then you are already accomplished.  remember:
–Surround yourself with successful people.
–Imagine your success first
–Focus on the advancements you’ve already made.

 

If you can do that, your trunk will produce many branches.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Grist For The Mill

One of the most common questions writers get is:
Where do you get your ideas?
What inspires you to write?

 

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A friend of mine asked me this VERY question a few weeks ago.  For myself, ANYTHING can inspire me:
–A conversation overheard as in: Lunchtime Conversations
–Something I read as in my Books category
–Even a conversation with a friend as can be seen from this VERY column.

 

Usually if I use a conversation I’ve overheard or one I have with a friend I will mask the person, either I won’t mention them by name or I will create a false name.  The ONLY time I have used someone’s real name is when I refer to them at Wisdom and Life as in:
Google+ Mentions and Several columns in Friendships.

 

In one case a street name in Madison Connecticut inspired me to write a short story that is in my eBook:
Random Acts: Stories of Redemption

 

There is no clear answer to what inspires an artist to create, whether that artist is a painter, a writer, a photographer.  Anything and everything can be grist for the mill.  I think it’s one of the reasons some artists find the question challenging.  It’s almost like asking them why do you breathe?  Being an artist is who we are and we can no more turn off the flow of inspiration then we can stop our breath.  Just like being a writer, myself, I simply cannot turn off the editor in my head when reading.  A writer is who I am, and my ears and eyes are always scanning my environment whether I want to or not.  I may not be consciously aware of my scanning, but when it comes time to put my fingers to the keys on my computer, my mind drifts back to my day.  And with Wisdom and Life I’ve said it before and I will repeat it now:
What I write at this blog is I’m CONVINCED divinely inspired.  I may be tapping the keys, but the words are emanating from the somewhere else.  Perhaps The Akashic Record.  Perhaps from the Divine.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Law of Attraction and Transitioning

Okay.
So please enlighten us how these two things go together, Chris. I bet is what you’re asking. I’ll tell you:

 

Just to make you aware that Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working in the background. You may not even know it until you’re able to recognize it. I’m hoping those of you new to the concept can take something away from my blog.

 

Law of Attraction says we draw into our lives what we focus on.  That’s one of the concepts.

 

So last Monday I had a computer job up the street.  (One of my original clients.)  After I fixed what was wrong, Carol asked me if I was still out with my camera. Then she asked if I was still writing.  I told her about my latest project:
Working on a book about transitioning.

 

She didn’t quite understand so I clarified that transition means dying. I don’t like using negative words. And after all dying is just moving from one state to another:
Transitioning, right?

 

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Turns out we both share some of the same thoughts.

 

So, I stopped by my Mom’s after I left Carol since she needed help setting up her new television.  Now here’s where Law of Attraction comes into play:
While I set the television up, my Mom had the news on in the next room.  The newscaster reported on the earthquake in Nepal. Then we started discussing what we wanted after we transition.

 

That’s one example of Law of Attraction for you in a nutshell.  Carol and I talked about transitioning not twenty minutes earlier and here it came up again with my Mom. Totaly unrelated to my conversation with Carol.  That’s why I always say LoA  is always working in the background.  Unless you are steeped in this paradigm (as I’m fond of saying) you’ll miss it.

 

Start paying attention. You’ll be shocked at how much you’re missing.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Is Respect A Lost Art?

My friend, Karen recently posted something  on Facebook that intrigued me:
I’m trying really hard to understand why some people don’t understand the meaning of respect or just good old fashioned courtesy. Maybe I’m asking or expecting too much.

 

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I’ve had a similar conversation with another friend of mine.  We have agreed that there has been a general decline in respect.  As I commented on Karen’s post:
I think we were raised at a different time. And some of us were taught to treat others like we want to be treated. Unfortunately not everyone shares that belief.

 

All we can do, Karen is continue to live our lives the way we were taught. The people who understand will ALWAYS be in our lives. The ones who don’t don’t matter anyway.  

 

One of my favorite ex high school teachers, is a frequent library user.  After he retired, he subbed for awhile and he would come in and visit with me at the library.  Some of what he said went on with the classes he subbed for turned me red.  Openly swearing at those in authority, refusing to listen to teachers, continuing to do what they’d been told to stop doing.  I can’t imagine not respecting those in authority.  Not for fear of retribution, simply because I wasn’t raised any other way.  I’m not sure who should be held responsible because at some point, children and young adults eventually have to assume accountability for themselves.

 

I sometimes find myself jokingly saying:
Kids these days.

 

I’ve said as much to that ex teacher a few times, attempting to lighten the mood.  But it isn’t just kids who don’t understand respect.  Even some adults have a challenging time understanding common courtesy as can be seen from my friend, Karen’s statement on Facebook.

 

I seldom tread into the political realm because it is fraught with trap doors and someone will find something to be angry with.  However even in politics, things have become us against them.  There is no respect shown to either side.  It’s all about me, me, me.  What’s in it for me?

 

I have a friend who has her own business and she sees the same thing.  People not treating her with the respect she deserves.  She’s become discriminating when it comes to picking up new clients.  She can afford to do so now.  It’s a shame that there are some of us see a lack of respect.  Even in my own fledgling social media business, I’ve seen it.  Not so much with my own clients because I’m able to choose the people I associate with.  This is not my main source of creating abundance.  When I’m out with my clients I’ve seen others not treated with the respect they’ve earned.  Is this an epidemic that is only going to grow exponentially, or can we find a way to curb this?  I’m afraid to know the answer.

 

 

There is always going to be those who show a lack of respect.  What are some of the steps we can take to ensure we aren’t hurt by those who attempt to disrespect us?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

On The Right Path

You are on the right path; you are marching straight to your own joy, and to happiness for others.

Neale Donald Walsch

 

We are ALWAYS right where we are supposed to be.  It does no good for anyone to compare themselves to someone else.  Everyone has a different path to travel.  We are all unique.  One of the challenges I faced growing up is having a friend who knew from the third grade that he wanted to be a doctor.  Joe set his mind on that one goal, never deviating from his path.

 

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Several people in my life would look at his determination, point to Joe and say why can’t you be more like him?  He studies all the time and his grades reflect his effort.  Sometimes I’d take these comments to heart and be distressed by them.  I did the best I could in school and yet these words echoed through my head.  I set my own goals.  And I met every goal I set for myself.  It may have taken me until adulthood to put my goals to work.  We all get there eventually.  And that’s something everyone must remember.

 

Very few people know how they want to create abundance when they leave high school.  Or if they do they may feel intimidated to speak up.  The few times I spoke up, my dreams were dashed.
How are you going to make a living doing THAT?

 

What we have to remember is our lives are our own and we shouldn’t let someone else determine our path.  We all have our own path to cross.  As Neale Donald Walsch so eloquently put it above:
You are on the right path.

 

Don’t let someone who means well divert you.  The one diverting you was most likely diverted as well.  It’s a vicious circle and someone must be brave enough to step outside the circle, to break the circle.

 

I did.

And I’m now creating so much joyful abundance in my life.  Will you join me and break your own cycle?  Follow your own path and let no one divert you.  There REALLY is a pot of gold at the end of your path if you continue to follow it.

 

Don’t stray from your goals.
Don’t let someone tell you no.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Friendship vs. Romance

A friend recently celebrated a birthday and it dawned on me that we’ve known each other for almost half our lives. She’s one of my longest tenured friends. After I sent her a birthday wish she responded back and said this:
However unlucky I’ve been in love, I’ve had it made up for in the friends I have.
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Some of us are better suited to friendship rather than romance.  I can’t necessarily speak for my friend but I believe I’m one of those who is better suited to friendship.

 

One of the things we share in common is our track record in romantic partnerships. We’ve both been burned a few times.  But my friendship with the opposite sex has ALWAYS been golden.  You’d think after watching my romantic relationships implode and my platonic relationships prosper that I would have realized sooner that I’m better suited to be the “friend.”  The important thing is not how long it took, the important thing is that I realize now.  As I’ve always maintained at Wisdom and Life, it doesn’t matter how long it takes.  It only matters that we get there.  And we ALL eventually find our place.  Sometimes it takes longer for some.

 

Being the “friend” can be fraught with challenges as you go through your life if you REALLY aren’t convinced it’s better.  Watching from the sidelines as your companion dates can be distressing until you realize that as the friend you will be the constant.

 

Romantic partnerships can end.
Lovers will leave.
Marriages may break up.

 

Friendships stand the test of time.

 

One of the things that others may see as weird, odd, strange in my friendships is the fact that the bulk of my friends have ALWAYS been female.  That has only increased as I’ve moved through this, my latest incarnation.  I  feel more at ease in the company of women, always have.  I think it’s because I’m not your so called “typical male.”

 

I don’t drink.
I don’t smoke.
I don’t party.

 

Taking another tack, If you consider my worldview, my belief in Karma and Reincarnation, if you believe that Karma plays a role in our lives as I do, you may reach one of the same conclusions as I have:
That my karma has caught up with me in this life and is balancing the scales from a previous life.  

 

As I said in Karma and Dead Again:
Sometimes I wonder if in a previous life I was a philanderer, and the fact that I have so many women who are my friends is because women see me as a non threat in this lifetime. The karmic aspect being that I can’t find that long term relationship because I’m paying my debt in this lifetime for a previous lifetime’s philandering.

 

Finally coming to this realization and understanding that I don’t necessarily NEED a romantic partner to make me whole has lightened my soul and I no longer chase that elusive ghost.  I’m happy with the friends I have now and it seems that I’ve cheated the rule from When Harry Met Sally that says:
Men and women can’t be just friends..

 

My best friend is female and I don’t think I’d want anything else. We are bonded in a way few others are.  I have to pinch myself sometimes because it still surprises me to say my best friend is female.  How often does that happen?  Not only how often does it happen, how frequently does that relationship last?

 

I must also agree with my birthday friend when she says:
However unlucky I’ve been in love, I’ve had it made up for in the friends I have.

 

I have a whole host of close friends, both male and female and my friends have more than made up for my lack of a romantic partner.  My life is full of blessings and there is nothing unlucky about any aspect of my life.  Are there things I’d like to change?  I can’t even say that.  Growing up I dreamed of changing things but as I grew into the paradigm I’m now in I realized that ANY small change I made to my life would send it in a completely different trajectory.  My life would be so different from what it is now to be unrecognizable.  Much like the Butterfly Effect.

 

My life is golden.
My friendships are golden.  And I wouldn’t change a thing about either.  My friendships made me who I am.  The fact that I have amazing friendships with women is who I am.  It’s part of my Spiritual DNA and I wouldn’t change that about myself either.  I’m happy to have finally realized in this incarnation that I can be happy with a small group of close friends and as I said earlier that I don’t need a romantic partner to center me.  My friends center me and that’s really all I need.

 

Harry was wrong!
Men and women CAN be friends.  I’ve proven it.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Seeding Planet Earth

There is a theory that humanity developed from space, that we were placed here by a benevolent race from outside this universe.  There have been many movies and television series that touched on this theory.  In the Star trek The Next Generation episode called The Chase in one of the final scenes, we see a hologram of a humanoid explaining how all races are tied together:
Star Trek Next Generation The Chase Monologue

 

One of the plot lines in Ridley Scott’s Prometheus posits the same theory that we all have one common ancestor and that ancestor is tied to a seeding of the planets from another world.

At the 40 second mark of The Prometheus Trailer, we hear someone discuss a pictogram that was discovered in civilizations separated by centuries.

 

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The February 6 release of Jupiter Ascending is the latest movie to proffer this theory.  Not that these examples necessarily prove the theory, however knowing that there are many who promote this and seeing it show up so frequently certainly relays the fact that there is something going on.  As Law of Attraction states:
The more something shows up in our reality, the clearer it becomes that we should pay attention.

 

Maybe that’s why I walked into The Madison Coffee Shop a few months ago and saw my friend, Pete Onofrio.  As we waited for our lunches we started a conversation about a variety of topics we are both passionate about.  One of the topics Pete brought up was the theory that we originated from the stars.  The funny thing about my showing up at The Coffee Shop that afternoon was that it wasn’t my initial intention.  I planned on going somewhere else.  Obviously the Divine had other plans.

 

That’s what usually happens when I run into Pete.  I never really plan on doing The Coffee Shop when I see Pete there.  The Divine knows when he is there and it ALWAYS diverts my thought process.  We’ve talked about this before as well, how we end up seeing each other and it’s totally serendipitous.

 

So; the theory that we originated from the stars, how does one balance this with a belief in God?  If we DID originate from another species, who created THAT species?  I’ve touched on this topic previously in a column called Alien Life.  Like the Chicken and the Egg, which came first?  Someone had to create the first life.  As The Bible says:
And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.

 

Who is to say that God didn’t seed the multiverse?  What if God was the benevolent being who put is DNA everywhere?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Amends to Those Who Oppose You

We encourage you to make peace with everyone who opposes you and with everyone whom you oppose, not only because you cannot insist on their yielding to your perspective but because their opposing perspective is of tremendous benefit to you.

You see, because of your exposure to what you perceive as their wrong or bad or unwanted behavior or perspective—you have given birth to an improved situation. And just as they helped the problem side of the equation to come into focus, they helped the solution side of the equation to come into focus, also; and that solution waits for you in your Vortex of Creation.

Through our daily meditation process, you will come into alignment with those solutions and creations that are in your Vortex, and from inside your Vortex, you will feel appreciation for everyone who contributed to its becoming.

When you make peace with those who differ in desire and belief and behavior from your ideas of what is appropriate, you do not perpetuate what you consider to be wrong. Instead, you align with the solution side of the equation that has been waiting for you in your Vortex of Creation.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

Make amends with those who oppose you?
Seriously?

 

Abraham-Hicks isn’t the only one who believes this.  It’s a practice of every world religion:
Forgive your enemy.  The Christian Bible has much to say on forgiveness.  

Matthew 5:44 says:
But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.

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Ephesians 4:31 – 4:32 says:
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

 

Luke 6:27 says:
But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you.

 

 

In Buddhism:

I’ve written at Wisdom and Life about how holding onto anger is grasping a hot piece of coal.

 

Every major religion discusses forgiveness and making peace with those in opposition to you.  Unfortunately not every person practices.

 

I’m sure you’ve heard it said that there is nothing new under the sun.  That everything old will be new again.  This is why as I’ve said at Wisdom and Life:
that Law of Attraction is simply another gateway to Spirituality and Faith.

 

If you look back at the basic tenets of Law of Attraction, you’ll find many traits it shares with Faith and religion.  Another reason I’ve maintained that discovering Law of Attraction has only served to deepen my faith.

 

 

The only way I can survive,
The only way my happiness is ensured,

I no longer hold grudges.  I do my best to, as Abraham-Hicks says:
make peace with everyone who opposes me and with everyone I oppose.

 

I don’t need stress in my life and carrying anger and grudges and not letting go, hurts us just as much as a physical wound does.  By focusing on someone’s anger toward you or by continuing to hold onto your own anger against someone else it not only brings more of that to you, it also creates a place where it won’t dissipate.

 

I imagine if you’re here at Wisdom and Life reading these columns, you are someone who wants to find peace, who wants joy.  One way to find that peace within yourself is to let go of anger, let go of grudges.  Because who is it REALLY hurting?  Is it hurting the person you’re angry at or is it hurting you?  Let go of that hot piece of coal.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Happiness Is Within

Happiness comes from within.  You can’t FIND happiness.  It already exists in our hearts.  You can’t run away from a challenge and expect to find joy.

 

Do you know someone who who is always chasing joy, who is always looking for something to create happiness? You do of course understand as I said above that you can’t FIND happiness.  It is within all of us and until we realize that, joy will slip through our fingers as sand does.  If you are unhappy and you believe by leaving the place that is creating that unhappiness will bring you the joy you are so in need of, you will not succeed.
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No matter where you go, you can’t escape YOU!  You create the joy or the grief in your own life.  Surely by escaping, you’ll find some temporary peace.  Long term, however?  I’m not so sure.  Wherever you left from, whatever challenge you left behind will follow you until you confront the dispute.  Your unhappiness may not return in exactly the same form it had when you left, however if you experienced a lack of joy in one place, simply leaving that place won’t fulfill your need for love, for joy.  That same challenge you’re running from will manifest at some point where you run to, until you face it and make amends.

 

Joy comes from within.  If you can’t create that gratefulness, that joy where you are at the moment, you won’t have success creating it anywhere.

 

You can’t find happiness:
It’s the same concept as I wrote at Wisdom and Life in July 2011 with The Journey.  Happiness comes from being on the journey.  NOT arriving.  You must find it within.

 

Yes; there will be challenges along the way.
Yes; you will find mountains to climb, chasms to cross.
Don’t turn back.
Don’t run away.

 

As I’ve said at Wisdom and Life previously:
Life is about moving forward.

 

Don’t give up.
You’ll eventually regret that choice.
Maybe not today.
Maybe not tomorrow.

 

Surely, however at some point when you’re looking back at the monumental decisions you’ve made during the course of this, your latest incarnation, there will be regrets if you chose to walk away from a challenge.  And lest we forget any challenge, any dispute we walk away from that could very well have been settled easily in this incarnation will show up again at the same time during your next lifetime.  Life is one big lesson plan.  Life gives us teachable moments and unless we learn from those moments we will see them again and again.

 

Find the joy within yourself.
Then you can move on.  Don’t move on to find joy.  You’ll be forever chasing your tail.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.