A Sense of Community –Universalism

I written previously about Universal Unitarianism. How I attended a church in Madison a few years ago and have recently returned to that same church.

 

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The more I attend the more I realize how well I fit there. I love the sense of community I feel at Shoreline Universalist Unitarian Society. (SUUS) I’ve attended other churches throughout my childhood and adulthood:
Luthern
Catholic

 

Many in those two religions.  I never felt that I belonged in either religion.  It didn’t matter the church I attended.  I just never felt comfortable and it wasn’t for my lack of faith or the number of times I went.  As with people I meet, I’m a quick study.  I can usually tell within the first ten minutes if there is and will be a connection.  I’m typically spot on as well.  

 

From the moment I walked into SUUS, I was immediately put at ease.  It’s the sense of community that keeps me going back.  Shoreline is a small community and I’ve already made some HUGE connections there.  For the past three weeks I’ve been attending:
New to SUUS meetings, three in all and even before I went to these meetings I already knew I found my place of worship.

 

So how did I find it?

Every year in May SUUS puts on the Shoreline Spring Festival in Madison, Connecticut.  I’ve been a vendor there since the first year.  I had no idea what SUUS was when I started going and two years into the event I asked what the organization was.  When they told me I wanted to know more so in September of that second year I went to the church.  I knew right away that I found my home.  It’s that community that I’ve always been searching for and now that I’ve found it I’m not letting go.

 

Yesterday, (Sunday, May 22,) I became an OFFICIAL member having joined the church.  One of the things UUAs say is that there are more of us out there who don’t know they are UUA.  The most important factor for me in joining is the HUGE sense of community I feel at SUUS.  It’s the first place I felt welcomed from my first visit.  I invite all people local to Madison, Connecticut even just once.  I bet those of you with some of my sensibilities will also find it difficult to walk away.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

What Dreams May Come –Book Review

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What Dreams May Come
Richard Matheson


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This is one book that MUST be read by EVERYONE on this journey we call life.  It will forever change your life and your perspective on death if you are open to it.

 

I read Richard Matheson’s What Dreams May Come originally in the early 1990s and the book had such an impact on me that it changed my entire perspective on Life and Death. There have not been too many books that have had such life altering experiences for me.  What Dreams May Come is on a very short list of such books. This book should be on EVERYONE’S shortlist of books to read in their lifetime.

 

To show what an impact What Dreams… has had on me simply click Richard Matheson to see how often I’ve discussed this book at Wisdom and Life.

 

A movie of the same name based on the book is available on DVD:
What Dreams May Come
and though I don’t usually recommend both book and movie, this is that rare exception where both can be viewed separately and neither one takes away anything from the other.

 

The book is based on years of research by the author.  In fact so much went into this book that there is an extensive bibliography in the back of What Dreams May Come.  Matheson says in his foreword that he doesn’t expect us as readers to read every book that he used, however he DOES say that if we chose to we’d come away with a new perspective just as I did.

 

The book begins with a knock on the door of someone.  Chris Neilson has passed and he has been communicating with a medium.  It is said medium who knocks on Chris’s brother’s door and insists on giving him the notes from said conversations.

 

This is where the book begins.  Through this manuscript, Chris attempts to reach out to his brother, doing his best to explain that there is indeed a survival after death, that the soul does carry on, that at some point, we can choose to return to earthly bodies. Yes!  I’m referring to reincarnation.

 

Ostensibly, in What Dreams May Come is where I first saw this topic and really delved deeply into it.  I’ve read this book several times; one of only a handful of books I’ve read more than once.  Each time I read it I come away with a deeper insight.

 

What Dreams May Come is a MUST read!
It is a book that MUST be read by ALL of humankind.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Detachment

Once more it is proven to me that we get things when we need them.

 

That God will ALWAYS provide.  It is now Thursday night and I hadn’t written anything for Monday’s column at Wisdom and Life.  Uh oh.  I thought.  It’s coming down to crunch time.  I need enough opportunity to have written a column and edit it so that when it goes live all the imperfections will be eradicated.  At lunch time as I left work, my friend Glenn walked into the library and said he wanted to thank me for my new found detachment.  That’s all I needed. And I had my topic. Since it is now Thursday night, I will have three full days to go through and edit.  

 

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Detach

 

Detachment you say?  Yes.  Read on:

 

 

 

 

 

Merriam Webster defines detachment as:

: lack of emotion or of personal interest
: the act or process of separating something from a larger thing
: a condition in which something has become separated from something else

 

When you look at the definition from a spiritual point of view a lack of attachment can aid you in relationships.  A sense of detachment can aid you in everything about your life. When you no longer stress over what MIGHT happen and simply understand that what is supposed to happen will, life will flow so much easier. It’s done so for me:

When you don’t expect anything from someone else and you understand that whatever happens is supposed to happen you can live your life with so much more ease.

 

The first definition above can seem a bit harsh when discussing a relationship. But

–If you can detach from any expectation
–If you can stop worrying about what someone else thinks or wants
–If you can think about your life and all your relationships as separate from yourself and let go of control, let go of the need to expect anything, you will ultimately find the exact relationship you’ve been looking for.

 

It’s not an easy concept to embrace or fulfill.  It takes constant vigilance, but once you arrive at that place. You find not only peace but also a sense that you’ve finally found your happy place.  No longer will you stress over:
–Will they call?
–Will they visit?
–Do they really like me or is it all a ploy to get something from me?

 

No longer will you stress over:
–Is this where I’m supposed to be?

 

Detachment takes all that away.

Detachment isn’t a bad thing when used in a spiritually motivated way.  It can help us all live a healthier spiritual life.  As I said above:
It’s not an easy undertaking, however. When you consider the alternative:
–Always expecting people to live as we live.
–Always expecting a response and when none is forthcoming getting anxious, dismayed, wondering why.

 

–Always stressing over life’s curveballs.
–Wondering what happened.
–Why you are in this particular position.

 

Wouldn’t life be easier, if you let go of all that anxiety?  You can.

Simply detach from any outcome and let whatever happens happen. It took me a long while to get to this point.  Now that I’ve arrived, there ain’t no way I’m going back; which is not to say I don’t still slip. I do. However, as I’m fond of saying at Wisdom and Life, now that I recognize the pattern of slipping it is that much easier to right myself. It DOES take constant vigilance, though.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Once a Week

Hard to believe when I began Wisdom and Life I wrote columns five days a week.  Keeping that pace wasn’t difficult in the beginning as Wisdom and Life was the only blog I wrote.  Now seven years after its inception, W&L is one of three blogs I maintain.  The other two being:
Scranton Page Turner
CJP Photo News

 

There is no way I could keep the pace of writing five columns a week for W&L, three columns a month for SPT and two columns a month for CJPPN.  I cut back gradually at W&L.  It was in January, 2011 that I cut back from five days a week to three days a week:
Monday
Wednesday
Friday.

 

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As I went back through Wisdom and Life to see where each cut back occurred, I found that they both happened in January.  

 

 

 

To three times:
January 2011.

 

To once a week:
January 2015

 

And it isn’t that I’m not writing as often because I now write three blogs.  I almost feel as if I’m writing more now then when I maintained only one blog five times a week.  I struggled both times I cut W&L, more so with the second cut because I enjoyed writing three times a week, however I knew I put too much pressure on myself to write something so often.  Now I’m much more relaxed and I don’t feel as stressed with W&L as I did before I cut back to once a week.

 

And the last thing I want is to feel stressed with something I love to do.  Cutting back was the best thing I could have done.  Not only was it the best thing, it was the RIGHT thing to do.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end

 

Innocent Man Forgives Police Officer

 

 

A recurring theme at Wisdom and life is forgiveness as can be seen from the number of columns in the previous link.  I will let this video do most of the work today.  Other than to say that holding onto resentment only hurts the person keeping the resentment.

 

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The video below is a perfect example of this message and should be seen my EVERYONE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From The Daily Spectator

 

Fear Not!

Fear itself is not the impediment to your joyful life. But, fear is pointing at the impediment to your joyful life. And just as the feeling of fear is within you, the impediment is within you also.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

Fear is a tricky word.  It can be an impediment just as it can be a blessing.  Fear can hold you back or if you choose it can also move you forward.  What are you afraid of?

Failure?

 

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Fear

There is no failure.  There are only lessons to learn.  
Even death isn’t a failure.  Because there is no death.  There is only transition.

You leave on state, the physical and transition to the spiritual, to the ethereal.  And even that state is temporary until we become living flesh again.  The failures we THINK we’ve seen are only lessons to learn in our next incarnation.  There is no reason to fear…

….ANYTHING!

 

Sometimes, as the image above suggests, you have to trust but IF you stray off the “trust” path, you may be fearful at first, however you may just find a new path and discover something about yourself you didn’t know.  Fear can hold you back but it can also move you forward if you release it and step out of your comfort zone.

 

And remember:
There is nothing to fear.
There is no failure.  Only challenges and lessons to learn.

 

Fear is a word that you can dismiss from your lexicon if you’re strong enough.

 

Remember, fear only rears it ugly head when we look too far into the future, when we forecast, when we start to think what happens tomorrow, next week, next year.  How do we stay joyful?  By staying in the present moment.  Nothing bad can happen in the present moment.

 

Stop forecasting!
Stop focusing on the future!

 

Finding it challenging to stay in the present moment?  When I have trouble doing that I meditate.  

–Meditating is an excellent way to get centered and stay centered.
–Meditating can knock the fear out of you, can knock it to kingdom come, can knock it out of the ballpark.  Fear is just a word.  You can knock that word of your lexicon.

 

Fear not!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end

When is it the End?

Uh oh.  Today’s column will probably stir up some controversy.  What you decide is ENTIRELY up to you.  I certainly won’t judge anyone by the decisions they make.  And as I wrote here, this is NOT an easy choice to make.  There comes a time when enough IS enough.  It’s up to each of us to make that decision when we’ve reached that point.  The trick is knowing when that point has come.  Too soon and you’ll always be thinking:
What if?

 

Too late and you’ll be cursing yourself for letting a loved one stay too long.

 

One of Scranton Memorial Library’s frequent patrons, (let’s call her Rita) came into the library a few weeks ago. I don’t recall how we began this discussion but we started talking about what happens if someone is incapacitated in a nursing home or a hospital and wants to end their lives.

 

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You do of course understand that we sign a contract when we incarnate?  Who are we to break a contract? And what happens when we break one?  You know what I THINK happens when we take our own lives even IF we are suffering?  

 

When someone takes their own life it is a one way ticket back to the physical.  As I’ve written at Wisdom and Life on numerous occasions, when someone dies by their own hand, I believe they don’t see Transition Tunnel, they don’t meet those in their soul group.  This is not a punishment.  Everything that happens in our lives is a tool to teach us.

 

Life is sacred and we shouldn’t decide when to end it.  Even as I’m writing this, I’m conflicted.  On the one hand, EVERYTHING in my soul says that we can NOT and should NOT do what God has decreed, what we have decreed when we choose our lives.  We choose not only our lives, but the challenges we will face in each incarnation.  When we become physical we forget the time we spent in Transition Hall.  If, as I believe we choose the challenges we will face and the way we will transition out of each life how can we break that contract?

 

Uh ha!

You may say.  What if we chose taking our life?  I suppose that’s possible, however I would like to think someone with greater power than ourselves would do their best to dissuade us.  We shouldn’t have that power.  Life is a gift and we shouldn’t return it.  I certainly understand the situation one can find themselves in if they are in a place where there seems to be no way out, where there seems to be no way to get better.  In the end the choice is ours.  No one wants to be on life support letting a machine keep us alive.  However, miracles DO happen.

 

I do believe we shouldn’t mess with our transition date.  I believe that date is carved in stone and to change it arbitrarily, because we are in emotional or physical pain will only cause us to repeat the same pain at exactly the same point in our lives until we learn to move beyond it.  Whether you believe that is entirely up to you. What you choose to believe is entirely up to you.

 

Everything comes down to a choice and what you decide to do with it.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

High Vibrational People

Seek out higher vibrational people, and avoid those who reflect more ego-oriented  behavior patterns

 

Your Ultimate Calling
365 Ways to Bring Inspiration Into Your Life

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Wayne Dyer has long been a muse for Wisdom and Life as can be seen from the link.  As is true with any twelve step program, it is important to dismiss your old friends from your life if they contributed to why you entered a program.  You don’t need people who will only drag you down, who will make it easy to slip back into patterns that brought you to the point where you didn’t like yourself, where you found yourself waking up with a hangover or worse.
UltimateCalling

The same can be said when working to improve your emotional health.  The same old same old won’t work.  And the more you do to improve your well being and the more you see your OLD friends you will notice their destructive behavior.  As you get better and those people you associated with stay stuck in emotionally destructive patterns you will find yourself at a crossroads:
Do you stay with people because you’ve known them and they feel comfortable?
Or do you step outside your comfort zone and seek out people who are more like you now?

 

Think about it this way:
You made the decision to find a better way.  You did that.  It wasn’t easy.  You survived that choice.  You will surely survive without the negative people that have been your security.

 

Before you made the choice, you didn’t know better.  You didn’t see a better life was just around the corner.  These people were your friends.  After all as Law of Attraction states:
We attract what we believe.

 

And if we surround ourselves with negativity, we sometimes choose to believe that’s what we deserve.  I’ve seen this with various friends who have taken steps to better their lives.  Sometimes it isn’t always easy to walk away from negative people:
–If you work with them.
–If they are part of your family.

 

You can use this to your advantage though.  Seeing the behavior they exhibit can make it easier on you to understand that you don’t want to go back to that attitude.  When you are in a negative situaution, it is important to stay positive, to stay centered any way you can.  If it means not enagaging then that’s what you need to do.  And as soon as you are away from that place, reach out to one of your NEW friends.  Vent to them.  You can’t keep that bad juju in you.  It is at this time more than any other that you MUST seek out higher vibrational people.

 

And ALWAYS remember when one of these negative people lash out at you, it NEVER has anything to do with you.  They are releasing THEIR toxins.  Unfortunately, they haven’t learned how destructive their behavior is to those around them.  Weak peope attack those within closest proximity.  This is why it is so important to build new relationships with those in your new paradigm.

 

Easy to do when in a twelve step program.  Not so easy when we only want to change our emotional well being.  Not impossible, however.  We can look for like minded people anywhere.  Search Internet groups.  Start talking about your new paradigm.  Trust me, people are more open to Law of Attraction and Spirituality today than they ever were in the past.  

 

Find your higher vibrational people and embrace them!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end

Garry Shandling

In 1977, when he was 27, Shandling was in a serious car accident in Beverly Hills that nearly killed him.

 

“I had a vivid near-death experience that involved a voice asking, ‘Do you want to continue leading Garry Shandling’s life?'” he later wrote. “Without thinking, I said, ‘Yes.’ Since then, I’ve been stuck living in the physical world while knowing, without a doubt, that there’s something much more meaningful within it all. That realization is what drives my life and work.”

From that moment on, Shandling decided to concentrate on stand-up comedy, finding the constraints of traditional sitcom writing limiting.

Hollywood Reporter

 

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Too many celebrities have transitioned this year.  Now Garry Shandling.  I copied the above quote in bold because Mr Shandling seems to have the same worldview as I do when it comes to transitioning.  Interesting that Shandling had an N.D.E. and returned.  It seems that he experienced the same thing that MOST people who have Near Death Experiences have.  Shandling was asked if he wanted to continue leading Garry Shandling’s life.

 

I hadn’t thought about this until I copied that passage here.  Here’s what I’m thinking now:

Shandling was asked if he wanted to continue leading Garry Shandling’s life.

What was the other choice?  To transition to a new life?  See?  What I take away from that question is this:
Why would Mr Shandling recall the question phrased in that way, in the third person?  To continue leading Garry Shandling’s life?  What other life did he have the option for?  Unless we choose to believe as I do that we do indeed return over and over, reincarnate, in other words.

What other explanation is there for the question being recalled in the way that it was?  I choose to see the question this way:
Do you want to continue leading Garry Shandling’s life, or does your SOUL want to find another life in transition hall?
It is then that we are brought to Transition Hall.  Here is where we choose our next life.  That next life will be a result of how we performed in our previous life.

 

My worldview, my thought processes concerning transition runs toward the eclectic, towards the esoteric.  It’s who I am.  It’s what I believe.  That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in God, in Jesus.  I do.  I’ve managed to adjust my paradigm to fit into Christian thought.

 

Garry will be back as will all the souls who have transitioned this year.  It’s distressing for those they leave behind.  For them though, they are home.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Let There Be Light

And the Lord Said:
Let there be light.  And there was.

 

Daylight Saving time is upon us and I’m ecstatic.  Given the choice between cold and dark and cold and light I will choose cold and light every time.

 

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I LOVE leaving work at 5pm when it is still light. I don’t enjoy driving ANYWHERE when it is dark out, even two minutes from work to home.  Make no mistake however. I like the warmer weather too. Especially being a photographer. There’s nothing better than getting home at 5pm then being able to run down to the water to capture sunsets:

 

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Daylight saving time allows me to do that. It also allows me to take advantage of living within a five minute walk to work as I can start walking to work without worrying about walking home in the dark.  Are you getting the impression that given the choice between walking and driving, that will choose to walk EVERY time.  It’s why I feel so blessed to live where I live.

Thank you!
Thank you, Aunt Bet!

 

Bring on the light.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.