What Dreams May Come –Book Review

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I feel this column needs to be shared regularly
for new and old readlers of Wisdom And Life alike.

 

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What Dreams May Come
Richard Matheson


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This is one book that MUST be read by EVERYONE on this journey we call life.  It will forever change your life and your perspective on death if you are open to it.

 

I read Richard Matheson’s What Dreams May Come originally in the early 1990s and the book had such an impact on me that it changed my entire perspective on Life and Death. There have not been too many books that have had such life altering experiences for me.  What Dreams May Come is on a very short list of such books. This book should be on EVERYONE’S shortlist of books to read in their lifetime.

 

To show what an impact What Dreams… has had on me simply click Richard Matheson to see how often I’ve discussed this book at Wisdom and Life.

 

A movie of the same name based on the book is available on DVD:
What Dreams May Come
and though I don’t usually recommend both book and movie, this is that rare exception where both can be viewed separately and neither one takes away anything from the other.

 

The book is based on years of research by the author.  In fact so much went into this book that there is an extensive bibliography in the back of What Dreams May Come.  Matheson says in his foreword that he doesn’t expect us as readers to read every book that he used, however he DOES say that if we chose to we’d come away with a new perspective just as I did.

 

The book begins with a knock on the door of someone.  Chris Neilson has passed and he has been communicating with a medium.  It is said medium who knocks on Chris’s brother’s door and insists on giving him the notes from said conversations.

 

This is where the book begins.  Through this manuscript, Chris attempts to reach out to his brother, doing his best to explain that there is indeed a survival after death, that the soul does carry on, that at some point, we can choose to return to earthly bodies. Yes!  I’m referring to reincarnation.

 

Ostensibly, in What Dreams May Come is where I first saw this topic and really delved deeply into it.  I’ve read this book several times; one of only a handful of books I’ve read more than once.  Each time I read it I come away with a deeper insight.

 

What Dreams May Come is a MUST read!
It is a book that MUST be read by ALL of humankind.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

INFPs in Social Stiuations

 

Once in awhile at Wisdom and Life, I’ll be writing about the Myers Briggs Personality test and the category that I fall into

 

 

The INFP personality from Myers Briggs has benefits and challenges for themselves.  Let’s look at one trait that everyone has to deal with regardless of your personality type:
Social Situations and Relationships:

 

 

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Social:

–Do you find it a challenge in large groups?  Are you more comfortable within a small circle of friends?  You might be an INFP?

–Do you open your heart to a select few and even then crave alone time?

–Do you find it easier to help others then ask for help yourself?  You might be an INFP.

 

One of my best friends says that about me.  That I’m more concerned about others then I am about myself.  That I can’t open up about my own issues.  I understand that I do this.  But it’s only because I care more about my friends wellbeing.  With help, I’m getting better at expressing my own challenges.  After seeing these traits are indicative of the INFP personality, I’m more convinced than ever that I fall into that category.

 

–When you go out to a party, do you find yourself hanging back by yourself and not interested in making contact with people?

–Do you feel awkward in a crowd?

–Given a choice between staying home or going out with a bunch of people, do you prefer to stay home?

 

Relationships:

–INFPs can be seen as people who are cold, reserved who would rather be alone then out with a party.  That can be challenging for friends of INFPs.

–As a benefit, if you can crack an INFP’s wall, you’ll find someone who will stand by you sometimes as a detriment to themselves.

–INFPs want to get along with everyone, so much so, that they will avoid conflict also sometimes to their detriment.

–INFPs can sometimes find it difficult to leave a challenging relationship.  I THINK that’s because they feel so loyal to those who are in their inner circle.  Loyalty cuts both ways however.  It can hinder as well as help.

–As in the above, where I wrote that INFPs have difficulty asking for help, because of that, they can be seen as reserved, unwilling to open up even to their closest friends.  I THINK that’s because they are more concerned about their closest friends needs than they are for themselves.

–INFPs don’t stay angry as in the above where I wrote that they avoid conflict.  They do however, remember slights done to them for years.

 

Being an INFP myself, I can relate to EVERY one of these traits.  I imagine anyone in the INFJ/INFP pairing can also relate.  What personality are you?

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Independence Day

Seeing as we are into the Independence Day week, and even though Monday is not the 4th, I’ve decided not to post a regular column today.  Did you know we MAY be celebrating on the wrong day?:
July 2nd is the real Independence Day? John Adams thought so

 

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Regardless.  July 4 is our Independence Day.  As with every Monday that a US Holiday falls on I do not write a typical Wisdom and Life column on Holiday Mondays.  I think it is more important to celebrate the holiday.

 

Enjoy the holiday.

 

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

A Force in the Universe

There’s a force in the universe that’s 100 percent trustworthy.  It creates and manifests from love, cooperation, beauty, and expansiveness, and it’s to this flawless work of spirit that you can return in order to know inspiration.

 

Wayne Dyer
Your Ultimate Calling

 

 

 

 

In my power group, I’ve been told that I have the “God gene.”  That’s not the EXACT phrase that’s used.  What they mean is that I have faith that I’m taken care of, that no matter what happens, I’ll be safe. I’ve mentioned to them that I don’t worry….

….about anything.  It’s why I connect with the above quote by Wayne Dyer.

 

I understand that I’m taken care of.  No matter what.  I’ve always been blessed to feel that.  I wish everyone could feel the power of faith that I do.  But we all have our own path to walk.  That force mentioned above?

It can be seen as the Universe, a Higher Power, God.

 

We all need something to cling to when we are circling the drain.  For me, I’ve always relied on God.  I see him everywhere.  It’s why I think I’ve felt protected, because, for myself, God is everywhere.  I feel like we have a symbiotic relationship.  I believe God is everywhere, so God gives me the faith I need to march through this my latest incarnation.

 

I believe faith and God are all around us we simply have to know where to look.  Sometimes you can’t see what you’re looking for because you have your blinders on.  Remove those spiritual blinders, as I like to say and you’ll feel that force that Wayne Dyer writes about above.

 

It’s easy for me to have this faith that everything will be alright, because it’s a gift I’ve had my entire life.  If you want some  as I wrote in 2012, the best way is to start small.

 

There’s a force in the universe that is looking out for all of us.  Can you find it?  If not:
Start small.

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Myers and Briggs Test

Myers Briggs is a personality testing program that places people into sixteen personality categories. What type you fall into depends on the answers you give on the test. If you answer honestly, you’ll see which type you fall into.  You can take one examnple of the test here:
16 Personalities

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I’ve taken the test at various points in my life and have always fallen into two types. Either:

INFJ
INFP

 

 

 

As I look back now and after taking the test again within the last month, I now clearly see that I definitely fall into the INFP type.

 

I can relate to so many of both types but many morein the INFP are where I stand.  in the INFP characteristic fit me much better:

–INFPs tend to be introverted, quiet and reserved.

Being in social situations tends to drain their energy and they prefer interacting with a select group of close friends. While they like to be alone, this should not necessarily be confused with shyness. Instead, it simply means that INFPs gain energy from spending time alone. On the other hand, they have to expend energy in social situations.

–INFPs place an emphasis on personal feelings and their decisions are more influenced by these concerns rather than by objective information.
They also dislike conflict and try to avoid it. When conflicts or arguments do arise, they usually focus more on how the conflict makes them feel rather than the actual details of the argument. During arguments, they might seem overly emotional or even irrational. However, they can also be good mediators by helping the people involved in a conflict identify and express their feelings.

–INFPs tend to be very creative, artistic and spiritual. They are often skilled with language, but may prefer to express their thoughts and feelings through writing.
INFPs typically do well in careers where they can express their creativity and vision. While they work well with others, they generally prefer to work alone. Some possible careers that might be a good match for an INFP include:
Artist
Counselor
Graphic Designer
Librarian
Psychologist
Physical Therapist
Social Worker
Writer

The above info is from:
Verywell.com

 

I work in three of the above careers. And EVERYTHING above the careers I can certainly relate too.  

 

There is so much that I relate to with this personality type. The biggest is how I deal with confrontation. The following explanation especially rings true:
They also dislike conflict and try to avoid it. When conflicts or arguments do arise, they usually focus more on how the conflict makes them feel rather than the actual details of the argument. During arguments, they might seem overly emotional or even irrational.

 

I see this happen constantly in my life. Which is why I at all costs do my best to avoid any conflict.
I don’t like how I react.
I don’t have enough self confidence to stand up for myself.
I feel like I’m back to being a child with no experience about how to deal with the challenge that has arisen.

 

Seeing this is a trait that the INFP person exhibits makes me feel a BIT better. Knowing you are not alone and others experience the same traits always creates a safety zone around us.

 

A Myers Briggs personality test is something everyone should take, for their own experience but also to understand where they fit in the world. And answer the questions honestly, not the way you think others see you and not the way you WANT others to see you.  But how you REALLY feel. You may be surprised at the results you get.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris
Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Your Job

Your job is to help others get to where you are.   Why do you suppose you know the terrain so well?  Are you acting as The Source for the advancement of others today? Who have you lifted up, and how, in the past 24 hours? And in the next? What is your plan for the next?

 

Neale Donald Walsch Daily Inspiration
June 5, 2017

 

If you don’t know Neale Donald Walsch (NDS), he came to popularity through his books:
Conversations With God.

 

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NDS has always been one of my favorite spiritual people I follow. I connected with the June fifth, daily email I received from him because I consider one of my jobs is to help people see there IS another way to see life.  That’s really why Wisdom and Life exists.

 

Everyone has incarnated with a gifts to use.  Our mission while in the physical is to find the gifts we were given and use them to help others.  I’ve written an entire category at Wisdom and Life called Parental Pressure that has my columns about the gifts we receive.  Check it out when you feel like it.

 

I write often that if you remove your spiritual blinders, you’ll be able to see life is all about spirituality and less about physicality.  This blog is in existence to show that.  I’ve always had a strong faith and for those who are new to reading Wisdom and Life, you can certainly ready my category on faith.

 

My life has been filled with blessings and I’ve felt as the above quote states that I want:
to help others get to where you are.

 

How do you use your own gifts to help others?  There are countless ways to help.
–You can be a shoulder to lean on.
–You can be an ear to listen with.

 

Some of us use the gifts we were given to directly help others.  Writing is one way to help others.  Neale Donald Walsch knows that.  Through his Conversations With God series, he has certainly helped numerous people.  I hope Wisdom and Life is doing that as well, helping people understand that there is a spiritual underpinning to the world.  I consider it my job to help others see through this physical plane into the etheric one.

 

What are your gifts and how do you use them?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

 

 

Why Did You Do This For Me?

Why did you do all this for me?’ he asked. ‘I don’t deserve it. I’ve never done anything for you.’ ‘You have been my friend,’ replied Charlotte. ‘That in itself is a tremendous thing.

 

Charlotte’s Web
E.B. White

 

The Charlotte’s Web links lead to my Amazon Referral account.
Should you follow the links and purchase the book I will benefit.

 

 

 

 

Charlotte’s Web is one of my favorite children’s books of all time.  As with many of my favorite books, there are countless quotes throughout the book that resonate deeply with me.

 

 

Our friends play an important role in our lives.  There is no self made man.  We are all where we are because someone else cared enough to give us a hand when we needed it.  Whether it was friends or family makes no difference.  No man is an island.  

 

We need our friends.
We need others to help us move along the path of life.

 

 

 

Who has helped you?
Have you thanked them?

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Memorial Day

As today is Memorial Day my usual column will be postponed.  Memorial Day should be a day of remembrance.  When you see someone in the US Military this week, make sure you thank them for their service.

 

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And PLEASE remember, Memorial Day is more than the unofficial start of summer.  It is more than just another day off.  It is more than picnics and sales.

 

Memorial Day is designated as the National day of Remembrance.  It is the day we pause and give thanks to all those who lost their lives in our conflicts and wars throughout our history.

 

Taking Care of Yourself

Wisdom and Life discusses the spiritual aspect of your life.  As with all things, there are other points to consider when taking care of yourself.  There are the physical things you can do to maintain your health:
Yoga
Meditation

 

Exercise
Massages

 

Don’t sit all the time.

 

Yoga:
Yoga can be contemplative and it can also help with your overall physical well being.

Stretching your body in ways it doesn’t normally go can relieve pain and can also create more flexibility and balance.  The flexibility will help if you take an unexpected fall.

 

Many people as the age experience lower back stress.  Yoga can help alleviate some of this.

Cobra pose
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And Cat Cow (You can google this for images) are especially beneficial to alleviate lower back issues.

 

Meditation:
I have an entire category at Wisdom and Life devoted to Meditation.  Simply click the preceding link to read my columns on the topic.

 

Exercise:
We should all have an exercise routine.  Twice a week, three times a week at LEAST we should be out walking.  Walking is the best exercise we can do.  One mile, two miles it doesn’t really matter.  Our goal should be at least ten thousand steps a day.  It is fairly easy to judge how many steps we walk every day now with the advent of phone apps.  

 

Massage:
It can’t hurt to pamper yourself with a massage.  I’ll refer once more to those with chronic back pain, making a massage part of your routine can help.  It won’t help unless you are consistent with doing so.  In other words if you do so only when you experience pain, the massage won’t help with consistency.  It’s important to have a regular schedule, at least once a month, twice a month is better.  I know the times that I’ve missed my monthly schedule I have really felt it.  The same goes with all of these suggestions.  Creating a routine and sticking with them is as important as starting.

 

Don’t sit all the time:
I’m fortunate to have a day job where I get to stand all the time.  I also recently purchased a standing desk so I don’t sit when I’m working at home either.  I found that sitting all the time at home to write or do any kind of work at my computer, compressed my spine so badly that I started to experience more lower back stress.  Now that I have my standing desk:
It’s helped ease much of the stress on my back.

 

So how many of these are you doing to help your physical well being?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Prayers, Intuition and God

If prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking back.

 

Memories of Heaven
Wayne Dyer
Page 140

 

As anyone who has been reading Wisdom and Life for any length of time realizes,

I don’t believe death exists.
I believe it is simply a change in address.

 

Reading Memories of Heaven only enhances that belief.  The above quote from that book resonates deeply with me as I also have a strong faith in God.  The Divine is sending messages all the time to everyone.  We just have to tune in to the right channel.  

 

Prayer is a one way conversation if you don’t listen for a response.

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Prayer is like a muscle, if you don’t use it regularly and look for and listen for a response, you won’t know when that response arrives.  Your intuition, as the above quote from Wayne Dyer suggests, is that response.

 

God always responds.  You just have to learn how to listen.  If you’re tuned in to the right channel, you’ll hear the answers.  If you’ve never listened to your intuition, it’s time to start.  How do you know when your intuition is speaking to you?

Does a thought suddenly pop into your head?
Have you awakened from a dream that seems to have the answer?
You know that saying:
“A Gut Feeling”

 

When you get that gut feeling, that’s your intuition, that’s God opening the door.  It’s best to walk through that door because that’s the answer you’ve been looking for.

 

I know people who have ignored that feeling and eventually the decision was made for them.  You don’t want that.  Get ahead of of the choice.  Start listening.  Start praying.  And pay attention to your intuition.

 

Lastly, heed the advice that comes to you!

 

The Divine, God and Intuition can be one in the same.  For someone who isn’t spiritual, for someone who doesn’t believe, your intuition can take the place of the divine.  We have to learn to listen for it and when your inner voice speaks, it’s important to heed that advice.  That’s how to increase your ability to hear it.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.