Once a Week

Hard to believe when I began Wisdom and Life I wrote columns five days a week.  Keeping that pace wasn’t difficult in the beginning as Wisdom and Life was the only blog I wrote.  Now seven years after its inception, W&L is one of three blogs I maintain.  The other two being:
Scranton Page Turner
CJP Photo News

 

There is no way I could keep the pace of writing five columns a week for W&L, three columns a month for SPT and two columns a month for CJPPN.  I cut back gradually at W&L.  It was in January, 2011 that I cut back from five days a week to three days a week:
Monday
Wednesday
Friday.

 

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As I went back through Wisdom and Life to see where each cut back occurred, I found that they both happened in January.  

 

 

 

To three times:
January 2011.

 

To once a week:
January 2015

 

And it isn’t that I’m not writing as often because I now write three blogs.  I almost feel as if I’m writing more now then when I maintained only one blog five times a week.  I struggled both times I cut W&L, more so with the second cut because I enjoyed writing three times a week, however I knew I put too much pressure on myself to write something so often.  Now I’m much more relaxed and I don’t feel as stressed with W&L as I did before I cut back to once a week.

 

And the last thing I want is to feel stressed with something I love to do.  Cutting back was the best thing I could have done.  Not only was it the best thing, it was the RIGHT thing to do.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end

 

Innocent Man Forgives Police Officer

 

 

A recurring theme at Wisdom and life is forgiveness as can be seen from the number of columns in the previous link.  I will let this video do most of the work today.  Other than to say that holding onto resentment only hurts the person keeping the resentment.

 

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The video below is a perfect example of this message and should be seen my EVERYONE!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From The Daily Spectator

 

Fear Not!

Fear itself is not the impediment to your joyful life. But, fear is pointing at the impediment to your joyful life. And just as the feeling of fear is within you, the impediment is within you also.

 

Abraham Hicks

 

Fear is a tricky word.  It can be an impediment just as it can be a blessing.  Fear can hold you back or if you choose it can also move you forward.  What are you afraid of?

Failure?

 

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There is no failure.  There are only lessons to learn.  
Even death isn’t a failure.  Because there is no death.  There is only transition.

You leave on state, the physical and transition to the spiritual, to the ethereal.  And even that state is temporary until we become living flesh again.  The failures we THINK we’ve seen are only lessons to learn in our next incarnation.  There is no reason to fear…

….ANYTHING!

 

Sometimes, as the image above suggests, you have to trust but IF you stray off the “trust” path, you may be fearful at first, however you may just find a new path and discover something about yourself you didn’t know.  Fear can hold you back but it can also move you forward if you release it and step out of your comfort zone.

 

And remember:
There is nothing to fear.
There is no failure.  Only challenges and lessons to learn.

 

Fear is a word that you can dismiss from your lexicon if you’re strong enough.

 

Remember, fear only rears it ugly head when we look too far into the future, when we forecast, when we start to think what happens tomorrow, next week, next year.  How do we stay joyful?  By staying in the present moment.  Nothing bad can happen in the present moment.

 

Stop forecasting!
Stop focusing on the future!

 

Finding it challenging to stay in the present moment?  When I have trouble doing that I meditate.  

–Meditating is an excellent way to get centered and stay centered.
–Meditating can knock the fear out of you, can knock it to kingdom come, can knock it out of the ballpark.  Fear is just a word.  You can knock that word of your lexicon.

 

Fear not!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end

When is it the End?

Uh oh.  Today’s column will probably stir up some controversy.  What you decide is ENTIRELY up to you.  I certainly won’t judge anyone by the decisions they make.  And as I wrote here, this is NOT an easy choice to make.  There comes a time when enough IS enough.  It’s up to each of us to make that decision when we’ve reached that point.  The trick is knowing when that point has come.  Too soon and you’ll always be thinking:
What if?

 

Too late and you’ll be cursing yourself for letting a loved one stay too long.

 

One of Scranton Memorial Library’s frequent patrons, (let’s call her Rita) came into the library a few weeks ago. I don’t recall how we began this discussion but we started talking about what happens if someone is incapacitated in a nursing home or a hospital and wants to end their lives.

 

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You do of course understand that we sign a contract when we incarnate?  Who are we to break a contract? And what happens when we break one?  You know what I THINK happens when we take our own lives even IF we are suffering?  

 

When someone takes their own life it is a one way ticket back to the physical.  As I’ve written at Wisdom and Life on numerous occasions, when someone dies by their own hand, I believe they don’t see Transition Tunnel, they don’t meet those in their soul group.  This is not a punishment.  Everything that happens in our lives is a tool to teach us.

 

Life is sacred and we shouldn’t decide when to end it.  Even as I’m writing this, I’m conflicted.  On the one hand, EVERYTHING in my soul says that we can NOT and should NOT do what God has decreed, what we have decreed when we choose our lives.  We choose not only our lives, but the challenges we will face in each incarnation.  When we become physical we forget the time we spent in Transition Hall.  If, as I believe we choose the challenges we will face and the way we will transition out of each life how can we break that contract?

 

Uh ha!

You may say.  What if we chose taking our life?  I suppose that’s possible, however I would like to think someone with greater power than ourselves would do their best to dissuade us.  We shouldn’t have that power.  Life is a gift and we shouldn’t return it.  I certainly understand the situation one can find themselves in if they are in a place where there seems to be no way out, where there seems to be no way to get better.  In the end the choice is ours.  No one wants to be on life support letting a machine keep us alive.  However, miracles DO happen.

 

I do believe we shouldn’t mess with our transition date.  I believe that date is carved in stone and to change it arbitrarily, because we are in emotional or physical pain will only cause us to repeat the same pain at exactly the same point in our lives until we learn to move beyond it.  Whether you believe that is entirely up to you. What you choose to believe is entirely up to you.

 

Everything comes down to a choice and what you decide to do with it.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

High Vibrational People

Seek out higher vibrational people, and avoid those who reflect more ego-oriented  behavior patterns

 

Your Ultimate Calling
365 Ways to Bring Inspiration Into Your Life
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Wayne Dyer has long been a muse for Wisdom and Life as can be seen from the link.  As is true with any twelve step program, it is important to dismiss your old friends from your life if they contributed to why you entered a program.  You don’t need people who will only drag you down, who will make it easy to slip back into patterns that brought you to the point where you didn’t like yourself, where you found yourself waking up with a hangover or worse.
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The same can be said when working to improve your emotional health.  The same old same old won’t work.  And the more you do to improve your well being and the more you see your OLD friends you will notice their destructive behavior.  As you get better and those people you associated with stay stuck in emotionally destructive patterns you will find yourself at a crossroads:
Do you stay with people because you’ve known them and they feel comfortable?
Or do you step outside your comfort zone and seek out people who are more like you now?

 

Think about it this way:
You made the decision to find a better way.  You did that.  It wasn’t easy.  You survived that choice.  You will surely survive without the negative people that have been your security.

 

Before you made the choice, you didn’t know better.  You didn’t see a better life was just around the corner.  These people were your friends.  After all as Law of Attraction states:
We attract what we believe.

 

And if we surround ourselves with negativity, we sometimes choose to believe that’s what we deserve.  I’ve seen this with various friends who have taken steps to better their lives.  Sometimes it isn’t always easy to walk away from negative people:
–If you work with them.
–If they are part of your family.

 

You can use this to your advantage though.  Seeing the behavior they exhibit can make it easier on you to understand that you don’t want to go back to that attitude.  When you are in a negative situaution, it is important to stay positive, to stay centered any way you can.  If it means not enagaging then that’s what you need to do.  And as soon as you are away from that place, reach out to one of your NEW friends.  Vent to them.  You can’t keep that bad juju in you.  It is at this time more than any other that you MUST seek out higher vibrational people.

 

And ALWAYS remember when one of these negative people lash out at you, it NEVER has anything to do with you.  They are releasing THEIR toxins.  Unfortunately, they haven’t learned how destructive their behavior is to those around them.  Weak peope attack those within closest proximity.  This is why it is so important to build new relationships with those in your new paradigm.

 

Easy to do when in a twelve step program.  Not so easy when we only want to change our emotional well being.  Not impossible, however.  We can look for like minded people anywhere.  Search Internet groups.  Start talking about your new paradigm.  Trust me, people are more open to Law of Attraction and Spirituality today than they ever were in the past.  

 

Find your higher vibrational people and embrace them!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end

Garry Shandling

In 1977, when he was 27, Shandling was in a serious car accident in Beverly Hills that nearly killed him.

 

“I had a vivid near-death experience that involved a voice asking, ‘Do you want to continue leading Garry Shandling’s life?'” he later wrote. “Without thinking, I said, ‘Yes.’ Since then, I’ve been stuck living in the physical world while knowing, without a doubt, that there’s something much more meaningful within it all. That realization is what drives my life and work.”

From that moment on, Shandling decided to concentrate on stand-up comedy, finding the constraints of traditional sitcom writing limiting.

Hollywood Reporter

 

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Too many celebrities have transitioned this year.  Now Garry Shandling.  I copied the above quote in bold because Mr Shandling seems to have the same worldview as I do when it comes to transitioning.  Interesting that Shandling had an N.D.E. and returned.  It seems that he experienced the same thing that MOST people who have Near Death Experiences have.  Shandling was asked if he wanted to continue leading Garry Shandling’s life.

 

I hadn’t thought about this until I copied that passage here.  Here’s what I’m thinking now:

Shandling was asked if he wanted to continue leading Garry Shandling’s life.

What was the other choice?  To transition to a new life?  See?  What I take away from that question is this:
Why would Mr Shandling recall the question phrased in that way, in the third person?  To continue leading Garry Shandling’s life?  What other life did he have the option for?  Unless we choose to believe as I do that we do indeed return over and over, reincarnate, in other words.

What other explanation is there for the question being recalled in the way that it was?  I choose to see the question this way:
Do you want to continue leading Garry Shandling’s life, or does your SOUL want to find another life in transition hall?
It is then that we are brought to Transition Hall.  Here is where we choose our next life.  That next life will be a result of how we performed in our previous life.

 

My worldview, my thought processes concerning transition runs toward the eclectic, towards the esoteric.  It’s who I am.  It’s what I believe.  That doesn’t mean I don’t believe in God, in Jesus.  I do.  I’ve managed to adjust my paradigm to fit into Christian thought.

 

Garry will be back as will all the souls who have transitioned this year.  It’s distressing for those they leave behind.  For them though, they are home.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Let There Be Light

And the Lord Said:
Let there be light.  And there was.

 

Daylight Saving time is upon us and I’m ecstatic.  Given the choice between cold and dark and cold and light I will choose cold and light every time.

 

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I LOVE leaving work at 5pm when it is still light. I don’t enjoy driving ANYWHERE when it is dark out, even two minutes from work to home.  Make no mistake however. I like the warmer weather too. Especially being a photographer. There’s nothing better than getting home at 5pm then being able to run down to the water to capture sunsets:

 

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Daylight saving time allows me to do that. It also allows me to take advantage of living within a five minute walk to work as I can start walking to work without worrying about walking home in the dark.  Are you getting the impression that given the choice between walking and driving, that will choose to walk EVERY time.  It’s why I feel so blessed to live where I live.

Thank you!
Thank you, Aunt Bet!

 

Bring on the light.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Wonder

A few weeks ago while attending Shoreline Universalist, the discussion revolved around the word wonder.  Hearing that service alone, convinced me that I found the right place for my spiritual practice, because everything that was discussed I have in one way or another written about here at Wisdom and Life.  One fine example is right here:
Natalie Merchant’s Wonder

and here:
An Overflowing Faith

 

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It isn’t simply that Shoreline Universalist and I are on the same page when it comes to my feelings on spirituality.  There is so much more.

 

Being a creative, wonder is an important word in my lexicon. For without that word, where would the artists be:
The writers?
The painters?
The photographers?
The actors?
The musicians?

 

Wonder is what propels creatives forward.
As in:
I wonder what would happen if I put this color paint on the canvas.
I wonder how these words would string together?
I wonder how this would look through my viewfinder?

 

Being a photographer I’m always using that frame of reference when I’m out photographing.  There are countless times I put the camera up to my eye, scanning the scenes.  That’s one way I use that word.  Another is once I’m home from a photo shoot and I begin editing my photos.  When I come across a particular image that catches my eye, I wonder at the colors I captured. Sometimes I don’t even remember taking that particular photo.  That’s wonder.

 

I feel the same way when writing.  Wonder, being in the moment, being in the flow; these are all examples of wonder.

 

So what does the word Wonder mean to you?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Sammy Hagar’s Forgiveness

A friend of mine sent me a news article about Sammy Hagar tweeting Happy Birthday to Eddie Van Halen in February.  The two former band mates had an acrimonious break up years ago.

 

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Hagar said that the passing of David Bowie and Glenn Frey lead him to mend fences with Van Halen.  He said that he didn’t want to pass with having enemies. He said he no longer wants to hold grudges.

 

It can sometimes be seen as a weaknesses to forgive because some may see it as being taken advantage of, some may think you’re weak, some won’t understand.

 

Forgive anyway!  

 

You’ll find a lightened heart.  
You’ll find the negative turn positive.

 

 

Negativity, anger, distress?
They only hurt you.  It’s like I say in Holding onto Anger.  You’re grasping a hot piece of coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else, but you’re the one to get hurt.  I’m with Sammy Hagar:
Forgive ALWAYS

 

You may be taken advantage of on some occasions.
People may not understand how if you’ve been hurt how you can embrace the person or state again.

 

Ya know what?  You don’t owe anyone an explanation.  You’re the captain of your own life.  You get to decide if you want to row against the current or row with it.  I’d rather row with it, even if others may not understand.

 

I learned that it’s too painful to stay angry.  I don’t have time, strength or energy to stay negative, to stay locked in perpetual emotional distress. Each of our incarnations are short.  I want to spend each life I have here joyful.  If that means I sometimes get taken advantage of, I can live with that.  At least I’m not staying angry, staying hurt, staying negative.  I’ve been there and I don’t like it.

 

Want to join me in saying no to negativity?  Saying no to grudges?  Saying no to debilitating continuous anger?

 

Say yes to love!
Say yes to forgiveness.  It’s not easy but if you can move past the hurt and get to the other side and don’t let someone else question your motivation, I think you’ll find that life will be easier.  The weight of all that anger you carried will be lifted from your soul. And you will be much happier.

 

You can easily stay in that angry place and some do. It’s always easier to stay stuck then it is to move forward.   But just because it’s easy doesn’t make it right. I’d rather do the work and move forward.

 

To love is Divine.
To forgive is Divine.

 

Join Sammy Hagar.
Join me.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

My Grandfather’s Birthday

Last week, my sister, Lisa asked me when my favorite time of my life happened.

“Growing up in Lisbon, Connecticut,” I told her.  Spending time with my maternal grandparents.  Today would have been my grandfather’s 109th birthday.

 

Happy Birthday, Grandpa

 

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I owe so much of who I am to him:
–My sensitivity (Sometimes seen as a challenge.)

–My ability to forgive (also sometimes seen as a challenge.)

 

–My photography career. For it was my grandfather who introduced me to the art of photography by giving me my first camera for my tenth birthday.

–All the time I spent with a fishing pole in hands growing up.  It was my grandfather who taught me to fish as well.  And I spent every waking hour from morning to dusk at Blissville Pond literally JUST down the street from my Grandparents house on Graham Terrace.

 

There are so many more things my grandfather imparted on me, too many to list in this small space. Let me just say growing up in Lisbon Connecticut on Graham Terrace was something I will cherish all of my life.   I’ve returned to Graham Terrace several times since I grew up there in the 1970s and ya know what?

 

In this case the saying that you can’t go home again rings true.  Blissville Pond where I spent my youth fishing is chained off.  My grandparent’s house once pale lime green as it was the entirety of my youth is now yellow.  One thing that has remained however is the red maple tree in the front yard.

 

My maternal grandfather was the only male role model I knew growing up and he impacted my life in ways he never knew.

 

Happy Birthday Grandpa Hoffman.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.