Asking for Help

I’ve been without my car for a week now. It’s in hospital being repaired. Thankfully I live within walking distance of just about anywhere downtown.  Sometimes I need to go beyond downtown.  Take Friday for example:
I wound up having to see a doctor outside of walking distance.  I was fortunate to have a friend right downtown and he offered to bring me to my doctor just five miles down the road and even return to bring me back.

 

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In that case I didn’t find it difficult to ask, because I didn’t have to ask.  I know you may think that’s splitting hairs.  I have a more difficult time being the one to ask for help. I’d rather do everything on my own. I don’t like feeling like a burden to anyone. After having lived alone for much of the past twenty years I’ve become adept at doing everything on my own.

 

If this car challenge had happened in the middle of spring or summer I would have been perfectly capable of surviving. Alas with darkness falling a little after 4pm  it makes it quite challenging to walk home after work. I like walking home in the dark even less than I like asking for a ride.  That’s where my difficulty lies. The fact that I have to ask for a ride home after having my car for so long is not easy for me.  Even before I drove I found it uncomfortable to rely on others.

 

Just out of curiosity, I Googled:
INFP asking for help

After realizing that I AM an INFP. And I found a whole host of information.  Seems that that type certainly has a hard time asking for help when they need it. A couple of sites I stumbled across suggested that when an INFP tells a friend they were in trouble previously their friend gets upset that they didn’t ask for help.

 

This sounds JUST LIKE ME!  I’ve had that exact thing happen time and again. I’d rather offer help than ask for it.  It’s something I have to constantly work on.  All my friends tell me so.  Is that an INFP trait?

 

I know other people have this same issue.  I just find it fascinating that so many INFPs have this in their realm.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

November is the Grateful Month

Jean Wise at Healthy Spirituality discusses what Being Grateful means to at her her own blog.  We have similar thoughts not only on this topic but throughout the entire spectrum of both our blogs.

 

Thanksgiving has passed and we are now in full holiday mode. I heard it said last week that November is the thankful month and December is the “I want” month or something similar.

 

We shouldn’t have to rely on one month to be thankful.  We should be grateful 24-7/365.

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What are you thankful for?  And how can you carry that gratitude with you into December and beyond?  There is only so much that we can want before we start having too much.  Instead of “Wanting” in December, why not consider the true meaning of Christmas and other Winter holidays?

 

What do you think the TRUE meaning of the holidays are?  I can tell what it’s not:
It’s NOT about Santa Claus.
It’s NOT about getting “things.”
It’s NOT about Black Friday.
It’s NOT about wishing you spent more money on the people you love.

 

Then what IS the true meaning of the Christmas season?
Spending time with loved ones.
Being grateful for what you have and not wanting more.

 

Being grateful is one of the tenets of Law of Attraction.  If you know anything about Law of Attraction (LoA), it may well be from The Secret.  The Secret is only just one aspect of LoA however.  The Secret discussed how to GET THINGS.  But there is so much more to the practice.  LoA is REALLY a way of living your life and Being Grateful is the major tenet of the practice.  Being Grateful for what you have and not wanting anymore.

 

Interesting that Veteran’s Day and Thanksgiving fall in the same month.  For those are two days we should be thankful.  And it’s why I think that November is indeed called the Thankful Month.  We should be thanking US Veterans when we see them, not just in November but EVERY TIME we see them.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Reincarnation Blues –A Review

Reincarnation Blues is a book right up my alley.

 

Milo has lived almost ten thousand lives, the maximum a soul can return until it reaches perfection. If the soul hasn’t reached perfection in ten thousand tries then they are blown into oblivion.

 

In between lives that Milo lives we see him in a kind of afterlife that exists as a mirror of incarnated life. Three other characters play a role in Milo’s life between lives.

 

Suzie, who is his “Death” that comes for him each time his passes. And two women who are his guides. He calls them Grandmother and Nana.

 

Each life, Milo lives (We, the readers are treated to his last five) could be an individual story but the setup works well.   Several of the life stories are really fleshed out and I liked reading them.   There are some definite undertones from Susan Baker’s The Incarnations in the way both books take on the different lives the protagonists live.  Each life becomes a story unto itself.

 

The difference being that The Incarnations is much darker and violent throughout.  That didn’t keep me compelled from reading however.  Both books are worth reading.

 

You don’t necessarily have to believe reincarnation is a reality to enjoy Reincarnation Blues or for that matter Susan Baker’s book. There are aspects to Reincarnation Blues that resonate with me and there are some things that don’t. But it didn’t stand in my way from enjoying the book.

 

Pick up either book and leaf through the first chapters of both.  You may find yourself intrigued.  I did.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Are You Getting Enough Sleep

Sleeping is one of the most important aspects to physical well-being.  And it’s one of my most favorite things to do.  Ask anyone who knows me and they will testify to the fact that I value sleep above more than most anything else.

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Many things go into getting a restful
night’s sleep.

–Exercise.
Meditate an hour before bed.
–Make sure you have proper bedding.
–Consistency.

 

 

–The amount of caffeine you consume per day and when you stop drinking it.
–How much stress you have.
–What you do to relax before going to bed.

 

–What you do in your bedroom.
–Is it just for sleep?
–Do you read in bed?
–Is there a television in your bedroom?

 

Exercise
has been shown to improve your sleep patterns when done consistently,  In fact, some studies have even shown that exercise can reduce the possibilities of getting
sleep apnea.  The more you maintain a regular schedule of walking, aerobic activity, running or biking, the better you will sleep at night.  I understand that for those of us who live in the Northern Hemisphere it can sometimes be a challenge walk, bike, hike during the dead of winter.  However, you have to weigh the benefits of sleep vs the hindrances of dealing with the colder weather.  Dress warm and use the concept of layers.  Instead of ONE winter coat, use several layers, a shirt, a long sleeve cotton shirt, a sweatshirt, THEN your coat.  Make sure you wear a scarf to protect your neck from wind and cold getting into your body and ear muffs if like me, you don’t like wearing a hat.  If you’re consistent with the amount of activity you pursue, you will see a positive change in your sleep patterns.

 

Meditation
is one activity where you won’t have to wait to see results.  If you turn off all electronic screens at LEAST one hour before going to bed and sit in darkness with soft instrumental music playing in the background and simply let your mind drift away, by the time you crawl into your bed, all the work of relaxing will be complete and you’ll find yourself falling asleep much quicker than before.  This practice takes adherence, and again here comes that word:

 

Consistency
You can’t expect to meditate once a week and think that you’ll sleep well every night.  This must become part of who you are.  Meditate every night for a week and you’ll see a direct positive result.  You’ll fall asleep faster and you will wake feeling more refreshed.  Once you see the results, I believe you will continue to do this every night.

 

Do you have a comfortable sleeping arrangement?
How old is your mattress?

 

Speaking of Proper Bedding.  It is important that you have a bedding that fits your sleep patterns.  By bedding I mean not just your mattress but your pillow as well.  In December 2012, I wrote a column here about selecting the proper pillow for the way you sleep.  It is definitely worth a read through again.  As I wrote in that column:

 

I used a soft down pillow for YEARS. It wasn’t until I experienced neck pain that I realized I used the wrong pillow.  Read the column linked above to discover why.  The other important factor to consider in the proper bedding category is this:
Your bedroom should be used for ONE THING and ONE THING ONLY:
Sleep.

 

All other activities should be done outside your bedroom.  Your unconscious will be trained by what you do in your bedroom.  And your body will follow suit.  If you read or watch television in your bedroom, your unconscious will begin attributing your bedroom to those activities and you will find it more challenging to fall asleep.

 

What position do you sleep in?
–Are you a side sleeper?
–Do you sleep on your back?  On your stomach?

How old is your pillow?
And did you know the pillow you choose can determine how well you sleep?  
I’m using a Tempur-Pedic Side Pillow.  If you visit the preceding link you’ll see what caused me to begin using the Tempur-Pedic pillow.  I’ll never use another pillow again.

 

How old is your mattress?
Now we get into why this column came about today.  
In October on Columbus Day Weekend I FINALLY bit the bullet and purchased a new mattress after having my previous one for over sixteen years.  The first thing I noticed after sleeping on the new mattress for a week, is that I no longer wake up in the middle of the night.  Previously, I’d wake as many as three times a night as I shifted in bed attempting to find my sweet spot.  I didn’t realize how badly I needed a new mattress until about month before I made the purchase.  Once I slept for the first week on the new one it became clear that I was well overdue.

 

My advice is if your mattress is over ten years old, it’s probably due for a replacement.  I’m sure you’ve heard it said that we spend a quarter of our lives in bed.  Isn’t it important to be comfortable?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Einstein’s Happiness

A calm and modest life brings more happiness than the pursuit of success combined with constant restlessness

 

Einstein’s Happiness

 

As can be seen from the following link Einstein at Wisdom and Life,

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I’ve written extensively about the man.  This quote from Einstein is much like:
Don’t chase the money.  Also a topic I’ve discussed at:  
Parental Pressure

 

That adage that there is nothing new under the sun once more proves itself accurate.  The Don’t Chase the Money and A calm and modest life…  are on in the same.  I find it fascinating that Einstein left this note in place of a tip.  Was he relaying a message that money isn’t what is needed to bring happiness?

 

Yes.  You need money to live your life.  I’m not denying that.  However, unceasing pursuit of money at the expense of every other aspect of your life can be emotionally as well as physically damaging.  

 

It can cause your stress levels to rise.
It can cause physical illness. Stomach upset, headaches. Blood pressure spikes.  All kinds of physical ailments can arise from psychological stress

 

That’s what Einstein meant and that’s what Don’t chase the money means.  Chasing money instead of chasing your bliss is not they way to live your life.  Being in a state of calm and living a modest life as Einstein says can create more more happiness, more peace than in a constant state of pursuit for money..

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Being rich is a state of mind anyway.  There is more than one rich too.  I reminded of the pilot episode of Wings in which two estranged brothers are brought back together to search for a treasure their late father left for them. Travelling all over New England, they finally arrive back in Nantucket where they started and find a suitcase in a locker at the airport where one of the brothers has a airline.  The two brothers open the suitcase, but before they do, they begin fantasizing about the treasure that COULD be inside.  When they open the suitcase there simply a picture of them playing on the beach when they are much younger and a note:
You’re rich.  Is all it says.  

 

In other words you don’t need money to be rich.
You need to love and be loved.
You need family and friends.

 

If have love, if you have family, if you have friends, if you can live a peaceful life and let everything else fall into place then you will find the calm life you are chasing.  And let’s not forget that your life has been mapped out for you long before chose to incarnate anyway.

 

The monumental parts that is.  Click the link above to get a feel for my belief about predestination.  There are 31 columns in the category.  You don’t have to read them all to understand my perspective.  Several will probably give you a feel.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Fishing with my Grandfather

I’ve invoked Jonathan Carroll’s name at Wisdom and Life often.  He is one spectacular writer.  In The Ghost in Love, there is a scene where Ben Gould, the protagonist of the story visits himself at earlier times in his life.  The scene that is most memorable is one where Ben witnesses himself as a young boy on a swingset.  So what does this have to do with fishing with my grandfather?  

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I’ve also written at Wisdom and Life about going back in time.  With this column today, I’m asking if you could travel back to a previous experience in your life and interact with the experience, where would you want to go and why? Now mind you, you can’t attempt to change anything, because as you know from reading the previous link about going back in time, any change you make, big or small will send your life in a completely different trajectory.  

 

 

 

With that being said, as a bridge to last week’s column:
Don’t Take Time For Granted

 

where would you like to go?

 

 

Me?
I’d choose fishing with my grandfather at Blissville Pond in Lisbon, Connecticut.  It’s one memory I love, and sitting with a fishing pole in my hand at Blissville Pond is where I go when I meditate.  It’s my safe place.  As my long time readers understand, my maternal grandparents have been important in making me who I am.  As an example:
My grandfather was ostensibly the only routine male in my life who I identified with as a young boy.
My grandfather bought me my first camera.
My grandfather taught me to fish as can be seen from this column.

 

I spent so much time fishing at Blissville Pond growing up, sometimes with my grandfather, sometimes on my own.  As I’ve written at Wisdom and Life many times over, I felt so fortunate to grow up on Graham Terrace in Lisbon, Connecticut.  
My best friend, Joe lived just down the street.

I could walk to Blissville Pond.
I wouldn’t trade growing up there for a thing.

 

It’s why Blissville Pond holds such magic for me and it’s why that’s the one experience I’d like to eavesdrop on now as an adult.  I’d love to interact with myself as a young boy with my grandfather.

 

Where would you like to go?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Don’t Take Time For Granted

Time is not something you can take back. We see so often the phrase:
Don’t take the important people in your life for granted.

 

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A few days ago while having lunch with my Mom, she said she wished she could see her parents again. I wish I could see them again too.

 

We have a tendency to not take advantage of the time we get to spend with those we love. We’re always a step ahead. Always thinking of the next visit, the next conversation, when we should be staying in the present moment.  How many times have we heard:
My last conversation with my son, my wife, my husband, my best friend whatever was a mean word, a fight?

 

I don’t want to be morbid.  Is that REALLY how you want to remember your last conversation?  No one knows when their number is up.  So always be kind.  Say I love you to those who matter.  Show your love.  Don’t just tell those you love them.  Show them.  Spend quality time with your loved ones.  Listen to them.

 

There are people in my own life I miss whether they’ve been taken from me because of death or simply because we drifted apart.  A couple of people have drifted away from me and sometimes I wonder whether I could have done more to keep us close.  In the end however, I realize that’s how life goes.  

 

God puts people in our lives when we need them and takes them away when we no longer need them.  Harsh as that may sound, I’ve come to accept it.  It doesn’t have to sound harsh, it’s all in how we interpret it.  I’ve seen this in action many times over.  Another way of saying this is when a door closes, a window opens.  My childhood friend, Joe and I drifted apart shortly after high school.  When I look back at that friendship, it is truly amazing it lasted as long as it did.  We were separated by distance for much of our relationship, by well over fifty miles at some points in our friendship.  Somehow, we maintained our strong friendship through this adversity.  We were each each other’s best friends.  His was the longest lasting friendship I’ve had.

 

That door closed in the mid 1980s when we both went in different directions with our lives.  Joe will always be a part of my life and It is difficult not to think of him occasionally.  That’s why it is so important NOT to take for granted the people in your life.  For you never know when they will no longer be in your life.  Make sure you express your love for EVERYONE in your life.  When you end a conversation, say:
I love you!
When you leave their presence,

Reach out and hug them.

 

Show them how much you care.  You might not get that chance tomorrow.

 

When the door closed on my friendship with Joe, a window did indeed open and a new friend crawled through.  It’s fascinating to me how seamlessly this new friend fit into my life.  We had more in common than Joe and I did:
We were both writers.
We had similar experiences growing up.
We both had a strong affinity for Block Island.

 

After all this, my initial reason for writing this column today stands:
Don’t take time or the people you spend that time with for granted.
Tell the people in your life that you love them.
SHOW the people in your life that you love them.

 

For you have no idea when the last time you see them will be!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Back From A Hiatus

In August, I made the decision to take a little break from both of my blogs during the middle of September.  I’ve been writing my blogs for over seven years, first every day when I started then I slowly decreased the frequency to once a week.  I normally take my hiatus in December.  That will likely still happen as it is a holiday month for many people.

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I may take more frequent breaks throughout the year, so I don’t burn out.  I kinda found myself in May contemplating shutting Wisdom and Life down. That quickly faded as I realized how many people have come to enjoy reading my thoughts on life and how my positive attitude and my faith has caused changes in how I live my life.  The fact that I took September off also helped me regroup.  

 

We all need time to regroup.  Otherwise, the likelihood of burning out rises.  I’m not going anywhere.  I still enjoy writing.  I just think I needed a break from the weekly responsibility of producing two columns.  My next hiatus will come  December.  In the meantime, you can expect to hear from me on a weekly basis.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Taking a Brief Haitus

Good Morning fellow Wisdom and Lifers:

I’m taking a brief hiatus from my two blogs.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I will return in October.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Signs, The Divine, and Spiritual Evolution

Have you ever thought that you wanted something so badly and you looked for signs that pointed in the direction of “the rightness,” of the choice but every time you turned around there were opposite signs pointing you in a different direction?

 

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Did you see these signs or did you choose to ignore them?  What do you suppose would happen if you chose to ignore them?  On a soul level we ALL know what feels right.  We ALL know when something is NOT supposed to happen and when we ignore the RIGHTNESS of something, the Divine will continue pushing you toward the right path.

 

Maybe it is a conversation you have with someone.

Maybe you overhear someone else and ONE word or a series of words get magnified and you ONLY hear THOSE words.  These are the things we MUST pay attention to.  It is the Divine directing us but unless we are aware, unless we are awake, unless our “spiritual blinders” are off we won’t understand, we won’t see, we won’t hear where Spirit is guiding us.

 

It’s important for our spiritual evolution to move forward.  And the only way we can develop beyond our current capacity is to listen our intuition, listen to our gut.  And when a choice is to be made, follow your intuition.  Your intuition is the direct pipeline to the divine.  If you receive a message in the form of an overheard conversation and the message appears to be telling you NOT to do something, then for heaven’s sake, heed the message.  For if you don’t and you stumble forward choosing to ignore THAT message then something stronger will come down the pike and knock you on your ass.

 

The first message you receive from the Divine can sometimes be VERY subtle, which is why it take practice to hear that message.  If you are indeed awake and you understand the messages that are filtering through the first time and you STILL choose to ignore them, then the NEXT time you hear from Spirit, the next message won’t be so subtle  I SINCERELY believe we get that next communication that is more brazen to wake us up, to shake the lethargy from our inner being.

 

There is no bad.
There is no negative.

 

Everything that happens in our lives, from blessings to challenges are simply the Divine’s attempt to move us forward, to help us grow, to help us evolve.  To move forward, however we have to start paying attention to the communications we receive.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.