Happiness Is Within

Happiness comes from within.  You can’t FIND happiness.  It already exists in our hearts.  You can’t run away from a challenge and expect to find joy.

 

Do you know someone who who is always chasing joy, who is always looking for something to create happiness? You do of course understand as I said above that you can’t FIND happiness.  It is within all of us and until we realize that, joy will slip through our fingers as sand does.  If you are unhappy and you believe by leaving the place that is creating that unhappiness will bring you the joy you are so in need of, you will not succeed.
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No matter where you go, you can’t escape YOU!  You create the joy or the grief in your own life.  Surely by escaping, you’ll find some temporary peace.  Long term, however?  I’m not so sure.  Wherever you left from, whatever challenge you left behind will follow you until you confront the dispute.  Your unhappiness may not return in exactly the same form it had when you left, however if you experienced a lack of joy in one place, simply leaving that place won’t fulfill your need for love, for joy.  That same challenge you’re running from will manifest at some point where you run to, until you face it and make amends.

 

Joy comes from within.  If you can’t create that gratefulness, that joy where you are at the moment, you won’t have success creating it anywhere.

 

You can’t find happiness:
It’s the same concept as I wrote at Wisdom and Life in July 2011 with The Journey.  Happiness comes from being on the journey.  NOT arriving.  You must find it within.

 

Yes; there will be challenges along the way.
Yes; you will find mountains to climb, chasms to cross.
Don’t turn back.
Don’t run away.

 

As I’ve said at Wisdom and Life previously:
Life is about moving forward.

 

Don’t give up.
You’ll eventually regret that choice.
Maybe not today.
Maybe not tomorrow.

 

Surely, however at some point when you’re looking back at the monumental decisions you’ve made during the course of this, your latest incarnation, there will be regrets if you chose to walk away from a challenge.  And lest we forget any challenge, any dispute we walk away from that could very well have been settled easily in this incarnation will show up again at the same time during your next lifetime.  Life is one big lesson plan.  Life gives us teachable moments and unless we learn from those moments we will see them again and again.

 

Find the joy within yourself.
Then you can move on.  Don’t move on to find joy.  You’ll be forever chasing your tail.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Bridging my Life

Another bridge to my life in Madison, Connecticut from my Hell in Farmington, Connecticut:

 

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A bridge gets you from Point A to Point B.

My first grade teacher’s name was Mrs. Newton. As a senior in high school, my English teacher’s name was:
Ms. Newton.  My first grade teacher’s daughter.

 

I can look back now and clearly see the connection. Does anyone else think that SIMPLY is TOO odd an event to think it was NOT part of a clear plan, as in yet another example of predestination working in my life?  I understand that some of you may be thinking:
Yeah, well because you are steeped in this paradigm, because you believe these things happen, you will look for and see these events that occur and believe they are what they are according to your point of view.

 

That may be true.  However, doesn’t that prove my point?  I’ve written here at Wisdom and Life previously, that everything is a choice.  If I choose to see something in a certain way, then that becomes my reality.  Because I choose to see this connection between my life in Farmington and my life in Madison as a direct path, that makes it so in my reality.  If after reading this column some of you also see the connection then I’ve done my job.  There is definitely something or someone somewhere pulling our strings, manipulating our lives, putting us in situations to improve us, to help us grow, to develop our etheric bodies, our souls.  I see this every day.  The fact that I experienced pain, challenges, storms during that brief time I lived in Farmington, Connecticut helped me become the person I am today.

 

I can look back now and understand the reason, the deeper meaning behind that turbulent time in my life because I see the reward:
I see the fact that I have a home that I wouldn’t have had otherwise.
–I see that I wouldn’t have the friends I have now.
–I see the bridge that my first grade teacher built to get me to my 12th grade teacher.

 

That bridge is just a message telling me that I crossed to safety; reminding me that if we look for messages, if we CHOOSE to see the events in our lives as connections, as messages from the Divine then we will always live in joy. Nothing will dampen our enthusiasm for life as long as we look for bridges, as long as we see the connections that make up our lives.

 

PLEASE see everything as a message!
PLEASE see all the connections around you!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Moving to Block Island

My two year old niece’s friend recently moved.  Let’s call my niece, Katie (This is NOT her REAL name.)  So last month, Katie’s Mom asked her if she could move ANYWHERE where she would want to move.  You’d think her answer would be near her friend wouldn’t you?  That’s what I expected when her mom began this story.  I should have known better.  Her mom said Katie thought about her answer with deliberation.  Then Katie said:
Block Island!

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Uh oh.  I thought!
I’ve created another Block Island geek.

 

As you who have been following me here at Wisdom and Life are aware, Block Island is my favorite place, the place where my soul sings.  You only have to look back to previous columns at Wisdom and Life to see that.

 

I found it truly amazing that I’ve made an impression on my niece as well.  I can only hope my presence in Katie’s life continues to influence her in such a positive manner.

 

 

 

Katie and I are walking toward Southeast Light here:
WalkingToSELight

 

Here’s the way my mind works now that I understand that EVERYONE has been here before and we will ALL be here again.  We generally resonate with places we’ve experienced previously.  It’s why I believe I feel so connected to Block Island.  I feel as if I’ve been there in a previous lifetime.  As if I’ve always been connected to BI.

 

As you who have read Wisdom and Life previously should be aware, I think that children are most sensitive to the etheric world, that children are the easiest to talk to about where they were previously to incarnating.  My heart and my mind naturally travel to why did my niece consider Block Island?

 

What do you think?

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Traveling Among The Stars

Friday, February 27 2015:
A sad day for me as I discovered that Spock truly wasn’t returning.  We can Search For Spock all we want, but he won’t be found.  Not this time.  For he is now truly traveling among the stars.  I’ve been a huge fan of the the entire Star Trek universe since I first discovered the original series in the early 1970s.  I think I most connected with Leonard Nimoy’s portrayal of Spock over any other character on the original series.

 

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Spock was the serious character in a somewhat otherwise sometimes campy series.  I believe he was the heart and conscience that held the crew together.

–He was the logical one.
–He thought through the challenges that arose.

 

Although Leonard Nimoy played other roles during his lifetime, it was with Spock that he became an indelible fixture in the hearts and minds of everyone.  Even people who:

 

 

A.  Never watched Star Trek
B.  Never knew anything about the series

knew who Spock was.  In fact I’d go so far as to say that the character of Spock became even more ubiquitous than Captain Kirk.  Maybe I’m thinking so because I felt a strong connection to Spock.  If you look at the breadth of his career, I believe you’ll find that he appeared in more Star Treks (movies and series after the original series ended than any other original series character.)   He even appeared outside the Star Trek Universe as Spock.  How many other fictional television characters have played themselves so frequently after their series ended?  Why did I feel that connection to Spock?

 

I think because even though he was supposed to be emotionless, his feelings surfaced frequently throughout the series.  His raised eyebrows after something amusing happened wouldn’t have occurred if he wasn’t half human.  Spock struggled consistently with his humanity as we all do.  Another reason I connected with his character.
We all have challenges.  
We all have our struggles.

 

It may have been the reason behind creating the character of Spock in the first place.  Roddenberry was ahead of the curve in so many ways.  He portrayed the first interracial kiss for one.  And one of the reasons Science Fiction (SF) is my favorite genre is that many of the stories are simply allegories masked in the SF genre.

 

To show a half alien half human character struggle with human emotions is Roddenberry’s mask.  Spock was ahead of the curve as well and he stayed ahead by staying the most relevant character from the original series.

 

Live Long and Prosper, Spock.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Memory Doesn’t Care

A long time reader of Wisdom and Life stopped into the library a few weeks ago to pick up a couple of books she had on hold.  Lisa R. looked at one of the books and said she THINKS she read it previously.  We then began a discussion about memory and how it works.  Lisa brought up Einstein and said there is a story that he never remembered his phone number because he didn’t care to.  I mentioned to her that if someone asked me about a book I read twenty plus years ago, I can tell you what it was about and why it resonated with me.

 

 

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Because you care, she said.  It’s why unless someone is motivated by what they are learning, unless they care about the subject matter, it won’t be retained, she said.

 

What I took away from that conversation for parents and children as well is what I’ve said from day one in my Parental Pressure category at Wisdom and Life:
Let your children go.
Let them decide the course of their lives.

 

If you push them to do something they are not ready to do they will surely fail because their heart isn’t in it.  The memory won’t care to retain any knowledge.  If someone isn’t motivated, they surely won’t learn.

 

I never really considered that.  I never thought about memory working if you care about what you’re doing.  Reading has always been a HUGE part of my life.  It stands to reason that I’d recall books I read years ago.  Lisa struck a chord with me.  It’s not the first time she has inspired me to write a column as can be seen from the search query below:
Lisa R/Wisdom and Life  The first seven columns:
Routines to Life is a Process are inspired by Lisa.

 

I just find it fascinating that it sometimes takes someone else to point out something that we don’t or can’t see in our own lives.  You know, like that saying:
You can’t see the forest for the trees.

 

It makes perfect sense now that I consider it, that memory only works for things we WANT to recall.

 

Do you have examples of this in your own life?  Would love to hear from you if you do. Leave your comments below.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

An All Providing Invisible Force

Make yourself available for success, and know and trust in an invisible force that’s all providing.

 

Wayne Dyer

 

A friend of mine who has been following Wisdom and Life for sometime now dropped into the library before this past Christmas and gave me a gift, a daily Wayne Dyer Quotes calendar.  I have such wonderful friends I’ve made and they continue to surprise me.  In August when my birthday rolled around, several library patrons left cards for me.

 

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It’s such a warm feeling to know that people I know superficially through my contact with them at the library, appreciate me and show that appreciation.  It continues to surprise me when these things happen.

 

The above quote came from that calendar.  I’ve discussed success at Wisdom and Life before and it’s one of those topics that never gets old.

 

Do you define success by what you have in the bank?
Do you define success by what your debt is?

 

That is surely one way to measure success.  There is so much more to success however.  You’ve heard it said That you can’t take it with you, I’m sure.  I’ve seen many people who have financial success and be miserable.  To me I’d rather create abundance:
An abundance of friends.
An abundance of memories.
An abundance of people who love me whether they be friends or family.

 

Success means different things to different people.  If I can help someone see that it means more than financial then that’s a good thing.

 

How much do we in general stress over finances?
How much good does it do to stress over something that is out of our control?
Yes we can control some of the financial stress in our lives by maintaining a balance on what we spend.  Some things are out of our control however:
Groceries.  
Car maintenance.
Household bills.

 

All of these things are out of our influence.  The only thing we can master is our reaction to the events that circle around us.  Most of us will always have debt in our lives.  The question is will we let it manipulate our well-being?

 

Does being in debt make us bad people?

That depends on our personality.
That depends on how we feel.  

 

You know my understanding of belief is that we receive what we believe, we receive what we think.  If we see lack in our lives, if we believe debt makes us bad people, then that’s what will happen.  We will be in that neverending cycle of debt equals bad people.

 

It’s one of the blessings I have to understand that yes I have substantial debt but I don’t let that navigate my life, I don’t let it affect my personality.  I understand that I will be taken care of.  If I chop away a little at a time, if I dig a little bit at a time, I will see that debt begin to evaporate.  Being in debt doesn’t mean I’m not a success.

I have a career that I love.
I have a roof over my head.
I live five minutes from work.
I can walk anywhere within a few minutes and be downtown.
I have countless friends.

 

This is how I measure my success.

 

I have a strong faith that my life is guided by the Divine.
That God is in control.
I understand that we have multiple lives to get it right.
I understand that we NEVER get it right.  Life is one huge lesson and there are no mistakes, just challenges to improve our lot in life.

 

Success is measured in abundance.  Not in financial well being.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

God is in Control

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again today. I feel so blessed to understand that my life is out of my control.
I no longer worry
I no longer stress

 

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Open Window

 

I’ve finally come to the realization that whatever happens is supposed to happen. And that whatever happens is ALWAYS for the greater good.  I certainly understand that not everyone shares my belief in this, however, the point is that my life works so much better, my life flows, my life is no longer a struggle because I’ve ceded control of the challenges I encounter to the Divine.

 

 

 

I’ve always known that God is in control, that God brings the best to us, that God presents challenges in our lives to make us stronger, to bring better to us.  When something leaves our lives, whether it be a relationship, whether it be a job, whatever it maybe, don’t shut down, don’t close your eyes and give up.  Keep your eyes open.

 

Watch for the gift that will arrive.
Watch for that window to open.
Remember the Divine is directing our lives.

And the Divine only wants what is best for us.

 

I feel blessed to have realized this and to be able to put it into daily practice; which is not to say I don’t mourn the losses I experience.  I do!  However I also know to watch for that window.

 

It’s NEVER not happened.

Every challenge that has occurred in my life has always come with a something better in the future:
Living through my temporary hell in the 1970s brought my Fairy Godmother.
Losing the opportunity to work at Chatfield Hollow brought me to the Scranton Library.

 

There are so many other examples I can give, but you get the picture.

 

How did I reach this point where I see life as a gift, where I see the Divine as the director, where I see a window open as a door closes?  Excellent question.

I’ve seen it happen all the time.  You know how they say hindsight is 20/20?  As I look back over the course of my life and see EVERY challenge I’ve endured, (And oh man!  There have been too many to recount here.)  I’ve also seen blessings that have resulted from those challenges.  The biggest emotional challenge I experienced is recounted above in Living through my temporary hell…

 

The gift that arrived from that experience alone proved to me that there is ALWAYS a silver lining, that a window will ALWAYS open.

 

I certainly didn’t see it at the time because I was all of five, six and seven years old.  Twenty years later however, I see the blessing.  And now when a challenge arises I wait for the storm to clear the debris and look for the gift.  I understand that there is ALWAYS a gift, only because I’ve experienced it in the past.  You know what is said about the past:
That it is a wonderful teacher if you learn from it.

 

I’ve learned from my past have you?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Facing a Challenge

Last Thursday, January 29, I spoke before  an audience for only the second time in several years.  Rachel Salvo and I spoke about Social Media.  I’ve been using social for many years now and because of that, I’ve been able to understand what works and what doesn’t.  Google+ is my area of expertise.  I’m not saying that I’m G+ expert.  I’m not.  There are many others on the platform who know much more than I do.  I can speak to how it has helped my business and my three blogs however and that’s what I spoke about.

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See?  I have challenge with my speech, have had it all my life, where I block.  I sometimes can’t get out what I want to say.  When I was younger, this was a full fledged stutter where I’d repeat and repeat.  Somewhere along the way, the stutter morphed into what it is now, a block.

 

I used to be intimidated to speak before an audience.  Not anymore!  As long as I explain myself in the beginning and people understand the situation it kind of relaxes me and if I’m relaxed, I don’t stress as much and if I don’t stress the speech challenge doesn’t bother me.  I think knowing that I was going to speak about a huge passion of mine curtailed my anxiety as well.   We all have challenges in our lives.  The only thing that really matters is how we deal with them, how we face them.

 

We have to deal with them.
We have to face them.

 

If we don’t, if we simply run away from them, if we hide from them, if we bury our heads in the sand and pretend they don’t exist, then the challenge wins.  Notice I have used the word challenge to describe what I have.  Look at the first page of the search term Negative Words at Wisdom and Life to understand why I choose to use the words I do now.  I don’t see things in the negative anymore, because if we focus on negativity, that’s what shows up.

 

It’s why I continue to push myself beyond my expectations.  It’s why I accept a challenge such as speaking before an audience. It’s why when I was growing up, I pushed against what others expected of me, what others wanted me to do with my career.  It’s why I chose my own path.  And because I chose my own path it’s why I’m so happy with my life at the moment.  I love the career path I chose because I CHOSE it.  It wasn’t foisted on my by the well meaning people in my life.

 

Challenges will always arise in our lives.  We can face them head on and push through them; or we can choose to ignore them and run away.  I’m grateful to understand the only way to survive is to meet each challenge head on and push through.  For if we don’t do our best to beat each one that crops up, we may look back on our lives and say:
Shoulda.
Woulda.
Coulda.

 

I know I never want to be in that place.  It’s why I choose to live my life the way I do.  How do you live your life?

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Ask and Ye Shall Receive

One of the challenges with Law of Attraction is when you REALLY begin to understand what it says and what it can do for you is you learn to be VERY specific when asking for something.  You’ve heard the adage:
Ask and ye Shall Receive

 

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That is a Biblical reference that has been assumed by Law of Attraction.  The more specific you are, the more information you give, when making your request, the greater the opportunity you will have to receive everything you want.  Before putting your wish “out there” so to speak, make sure you think of EVERY contingency, make sure you’ve thought about EVERY feature you want.  That can be a challenging undertaking, but unless you think through your desire clearly, you will surely come away with something less than what you asked for.

 

Whether you’re looking for a romantic relationship.
Whether you’re looking for a job or career.
Whether you’re looking for a place to live.

 

Make sure you think long and hard about EVERYTHING you want:
In a relationship:
Do you want long term
Do you want to be exclusive and monogamous in time?
Long term and exclusive are two ENTIRELY separate traits.

 

If you ask for long term and THINK you are asking for monogamous, think again.  If you want an exclusive and monogamous relationship, then ask for that.  Write down EVERYTHING you want and be as specific as possible.  Don’t put ANYTHING “out there” that you don’t want.  The more specific you are the more you will receive.

 

Take it from personal experience.  I didn’t realize this until I came in contact with Law of Attraction, however, EVERY relationship I’ve had has come to me as a result of my asking for EXACTLY what I wanted.  And I ALWAYS received EXACTLY what I asked for.  I’ve left out key points each time I put the request “out there.”

 

When looking for a home:
Do the same thing:
Be as specific as possible.
Write down EVERYTHING you want.

 

I have a friend who looked for a house several years ago and did this.
She found the EXACT house she described while writing down her wants.

 

The lesson I’ve learned when making requests, when asking for gifts, when seeking what I want:
Be as SPECIFIC as possible when asking the Universe/God/The Divine for ANYTHING.

 

 

Because the LAST thing I want is for what happened in W.W. Jacobs Story:
The Monkey’s Paw.

 

The definitive:
Better make sure you’re as specific as possible when asking for ANYTHING.
Or
Be careful what you ask for because you just may receive it.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Daylight and Spring

Living in New England in the middle of winter can be quite the challenge if you don’t have the right attitude.  If there is one thing about New England winters that distress me more than anything else, it isn’t the cold.  Although, the bitter cold does cause me some concern.  It’s the early dark that causes me the most anguish.  That’s why if I have to choose a time for it to be, I will choose January over August.

 

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DST

 

 

I can see some of you scratching your heads wondering why I would choose the bitter cold of January over the warm summer evenings of August.  Here’s why:
In August, the daylight hours are decreasing.  If I must choose between cold and longer daylight and warm and shorter daylight, you better believe I want longer daylight.

 

 

One reason this is the case is that I’m no longer comfortable driving in the dark.  So because we are now in January in New England, things are looking up, things are getting better.  When I leave work at five pm, I can still see the sky.  I can still see the street without aid of headlights and streetlights.

 

We also start seeing warmer weather and flowers start blooming as well such as the Star Magnolia outside the EC Scranton Memorial Library

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StarMagnolia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

And it will only improve as the months move forward.  Then comes Sunday, March 8, when we turn the clocks and spring forward.

 

Woo Hoo!

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.