Enjoy the Roses

One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living.  We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon–instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.

 

Dale  Carnegie
Change Your Life
Allen Klein
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Dale Carnegie’s name is synonymous with his influential book:
How To Win Friends and Influence People.  After having written such a book, it should be no surprise to anyone that he was so forward thinking and such an authority on positivity.  The above quote from Mr Carnegie resonated with me because I do my best to live my life using that as a barometer.  If we all looked for the positive instead of the negative, if we all saw what was in front of us instead of what was down the road, if we simply lived in the moment and didn’t try to forecast our lives, if we didn’t always look for that crystal ball, our lives would work out just the way it is supposed to.  As my readers are aware I’m a huge believer in predestination.  Life always works out as it is planned.  After all we plan our lives before we incarnate in Transition Hall.

–If only we could remember that everything in our lives are working out JUST the way it is supposed to.
–If only we could remember that WE planned everything from the challenges we face to the gifts that are presented to us.
–If only we could remember transition hall.

 

Think how much stress would be removed from our lives.
Think how our lives would change.

 

We would see the world in a completely different way:
We would be better people to everyone.
We would stop using people.

 

Then, would we REALLY want to remember?  It’s as I’ve written previously:
The reason we do NOT recall our previous incarnations
The reason we do NOT recall our time in Transition Hall

 

is that we’d be cheating on the most important test(s) of our lives.  We would already know all the answers and how to avoid the challenges in our lives.  God blinds us to the reality that we are truly spiritual beings having a human experience.

 

He gives the truth to all of us though as well.  We only have to look for it.  We only have to be open to it. Those of us who discover the true meaning of life are blessed because we grow beyond the stress.

 

We see that living in the moment,

We see that enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.

 

is the ONLY way to live.  Wisdom and Life does its best to part the physical veil, to show the spirit world is all around us.  We simply have to be open to it.  Can you see it?  If you can’t as I’ve maintained all of my life:
Start small.

 

Mr Carnegie is right:
We need to spend time in the moment enjoying the roses that are blooming today.

 

Not what’s down the road.  For it is when we attempt to forecast our future that we get in trouble.  It is then that we lose sight of what is truly important.  As Eckhart Tolle is so fond of saying:
Staying in the Present Moment

 

You can clearly understand now that the adage:
What Goes Around Comes Around is relevant here today.  Mr Carnegie and Mr Tolle were ages apart and yet they are writing about the same philosophy.  It proves yet again that this philosophy worked at an earlier age and STILL works today.

Everything Is Cyclical

“Everything is cyclical,” Rivers told The Associated Press during a chat last year. “So I just enjoy the good times. And when the bad times come, I know it isn’t forever. It’s happened to me three or four times in my life. But I moved forward.” 

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Joan Rivers has it right. She seemed to be on the same page with me.
–Moving on
–Letting go
–Forgiveness

 

These are all important attributes to have. For it is in letting go that we are able to move forward.  Enjoying the good times certainly brings more of that into your life.

 

Ms. Rivers had every right to hold onto the anger at Johnny Carson. But from what we know of her story, she did NOT hold that grudge.  It’s too bad that Mr Carson from what we know wasn’t spiritually evolved enough to understand.

 

As I said:
We only know one side of the story.  

 

Speaking from my perspective I can relate to Joan Rivers about Johnny Carson and the Late Night wars he had, not just with Joan Rivers but a host of other Late Night talk shows.

 

If the stories are true, it’s a shame that there was so much animosity left unresolved. Because now it will be left that way.  We ALL need to learn forgiveness.  For if we don’t, just like Joan Rivers says:
Everything is cyclical.

 

The next time we incarnate we will meet the same circumstances again and again until we learn to let go.
–How many times do we want to relearn that lesson?
–How many times will it take us to learn?

 

It looks as if Ms. Rivers understands.

Do you?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

 

Routines

We all have routines. When one is broken how do you react?

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I spoke with Lisa R, a reader of Wisdom and Life last week about this subject. I have a Sunday routine that is so sacred to me that when it is disrupted, when I can’t perform that scheduled routine I find it difficult to get through the rest of the day. There have been times when something interferes and I’m not the same after.

 

I’ve recently had another friend who has been asking me to join him at a 10am meeting on Sundays.  Unfortunately, the past two times he has asked me, I’ve had the client meeting.  Otherwise I would certainly have gone.  I want to spend the bulk of my Sunday mornings with my friends, and Pete is definitely someone I connect with on more than just friendship level.  We share so much more in common than simply friendship.  Our belief systems match up so closely that we can talk for hours and time stands still.

 

I hoping to get to his meeting at some point, however I’ll soon be working on Sundays again too.  That will throw another wrench into my routine as well  We will see.

 

Typically, Sunday mornings start this way for me:
I’m up by 8am and out the door by 9.  Usually every other Sunday, I have a 930 or 10 am meeting with photographers or social media clients.  Then I meet with several friends at Starbucks in Madison, Connecticut.  That was my schedule yesterday and it brings my so much joy to discuss with clients the things I do to bring abundance to my life.  After my 45 minute meeting, I took a little walk then met my friends at Starbucks.

 

That’s the way I typically spend my Sunday mornings.  When that schedule does not happen I find it challenging the rest of the day.

 

Lisa R said the same thing that she has to find a way to manage her schedule so she can maintain her rituals.  I’m in complete agreement with her because I know how it feels if my Sunday morning is disrupted.

 

My Sunday morning routine is sacred to me and if I don’t have the opportunity to spend the morning the way I want to then the rest of my day is disrupted as well.

 

What are some of yours?
What happens to you if you can’t perform your rituals?
Let me know in the comments below.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Building Walls

When you get in trouble and feel there is nowhere to turn, do you build walls and let no one in?  Or do you build bridges and let those closest to you do their best to help?

 

Do you run?
Or do you stay and fight?

 

I completely understand the desire to build a wall around yourself.  You believe its the only way to protect yourself. But doing so will eventually hurt all of your relationships as will running.  No matter where you go you’ll find the same challenges you’re running from.  No matter how many walls you build, you can’t hide from yourself.  Why not build a bridge and let your closest friends help you?

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Trust once broken is near impossible to get back.  We all need people sometime.  We can’t always be an island unto ourselves.  Everyone should have people they trust implicitly, whether it’s a member of their genetic family or someone in their genetic friendships.

 

Do you have someone like that in your life?
If so, hold onto them.  It’s so rare to find them.

 

Build walls with everyone else.
Run away from everyone else.

 

Make sure you let that one person in.

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Labor Day

Another holiday falling on a Monday which means another holiday column.  Today is Labor Day, a day that celebrates the United States labor movement and has since morphed into a day that celebrates all of the United States workforce.

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Unfortunately, the day has morphed once again into the unofficial end of summer, just as Memorial Day has become the unofficial start of summer.  How do you celebrate the day?

 

 

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Blog Care

Something a bit different today.  This column is directed at bloggers.  One of the things I’ve started doing recently is doing an automatic backup of my blogs to Google Drive using UpdraftPlus.  Check Updraft out on G+.

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With UpDraftPlus, you can schedule a backup to many outside sources.  I decided on Google Drive only because I use Google for just about everything:

–Mail
–Social
–News
–Doc Storage

 

Since I’m on Google ALL the time, it seemed to be the best tool to use.  I highly advise all bloggers to find an auto backup tool to use.  The LAST thing you’d want is to come to your blog at some point and find that it has been damaged, that you’ve lost it or parts of it.  If you can set up an automatic backup, then that’s one less thing to worry about.  There are many auto back up tools to choose from.  You simply have to search them out.

 

If you haven’t done so yet, what are you waiting for?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Dear Human

Scott Allen over on G+ recently posted the below graphic on his page and I immediately connected with it.
Dear Human
This is a topic I sometimes have a challenge with which is why I felt so connected to it.  On an emotional/spiritual level I certainly understand that we incarnated from unconditional love.  I understand that we don’t NEED to master it on some level.  However if it is true that we continue to incarnate over and over which I sincerely believe, then there MUST be a reason for reincarnation.  What do I think that reason is?
To learn and relearn from the past.

 

What we don’t learn in one life, we will face again during our next incarnation.  When it comes to unconditional love, if we don’t understand that we come from unconditional love and we do our best to find it, always butting up against a wall; we will continue butting against that wall until we learn the lesson.

 

There are so many forms of love.  As I wrote in my column Love Everyone, that tiny four letter word has received a bum wrap.  That word has been weighed down with one form:
Romantic Love

 

And unfortunately because it has that connotation, the word finds itself a lonely subject.  People are intimidated by the word.  I don’t think it is used enough.

 

We DID come here to learn personal love.  And until we as humans, we as society get over that block that love only has one form:
Romantic Love

 

We will continue to stumble through each of our incarnations.  I’ll admit, this is a lesson that took me some time to learn.  I know people who are still struggling with finding that one person who will give them the love they are so desperately seeking.  I want to shake them out of this notion that they can’t find what they are looking for.  There is more love around them than they see.
They are looking for the wrong kind of love.
They are looking for it in all the wrong places.

 

I want to tell them to turn around and look in a mirror.
That’s where they need to be looking first.  For if you don’t love yourself how is anyone else going to love you?

 

Unconditional love DOES exist!

You simply have to know where to look.  Do you know?

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

Be Kooky

You can be a blessing to the people you meet today.  Yes, life has its serious moments.  But being a bit kooky may be the secret to seeing yourself and others through good times and bad.  Go ahead, make someone’s day–make her smile.

Thelma Wells
God Always Has a Plan B
Page 57

 

Having a challenge or someone you know having a challenge?  Sometimes the best way to work through it is to laugh.  To dance.  To sing out loud.  There is a scene in Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret where it shows two people suffering from an illness.

 

One watches comedies and finds joyful events to celebrate.  The other circles in negativity.
One smiles at everything.  The other frowns.
One is upbeat.  One is woeful.

 

Which one do you think feels better sooner?  It’s always better if you’re feeling low to spread joy because by spreading positive vibrations, even if you’re not feeling joyful that joy will spread within your soul.  It is also the case that if you are feeling under the weather, it’s best to find laughter, as laughter brings endorphins to your body.

 

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So be kooky when you’re feeling low.
So find kooky when you’re sick.

 

I guarantee you’ll feel better sooner.

 

 

Spread that smile you know is hidden and soon you’ll feel the positive vibrating through your own skin, through your own spirit, through your own soul.  You CAN be a blessing today even if you aren’t feeling it.

 

Be kooky.
Be funny.
Make someone laugh.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!

Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

 

The Miracle Behind The Curtain

Most parents, when they see children not terrorized by the things that terrorize them, they work very hard until they’ve finally got you terrorized. They teach you those irrational fears. Well-meaning, but they do just the same.

 

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I’m reminded of a quote coming from the movie The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel:

Everything will be all right in the end. If it’s not all right, it is not yet the end.  

 

As children we understand this.  As MOST children become adults this and thoughts like this are beaten out of us by are well meaning parents and by society.  I don’t like the word terrorize as it signifies a conscious effort on the part of the one doing the terrorizing.  I don’t believe MOST parents CONSCIOUSLY terrorizes positive thoughts out of their children.  They are just doing what they were taught by their OWN parents. Simply  a vicious circle.

Someone has to stop the reverberation, the echo, the circle.

 

I choose to see the positive.
I choose to see that everything WILL be alright in the end.  That shouldn’t surprise anyone reading Wisdom and Life however.  My life wasn’t easy.

I could very well have gone down the pity path.
I could very well have become angry, depressed, and locked myself away.

I saw what that life could do and I was not going to follow that road.

I chose to see life as miraculous.
I chose to see life as a gift.

 

No one influenced me to see life as terrorizing.  Too much has happened in my life not to see the gift it has presented to me.  Sure!  I’ve experienced challenges.  Challenges I wouldn’t want my worst enemy to see.  But those challenges have made me the person I am today.

 

I’ve had experiences terrorize me.
I’ve had life do its best to terrorize me.
I’ve had people do their best to terrorize me.

 

Ya know what?
It hasn’t worked.  Experiences can undermine me.  Life can undermine me.  People can undermine me. I see all these things that have happened in my life and I see the gift in the experience.

 

Call me a fool.
Call me an optimist.
Call me too trusting.

But I see the miracle behind the curtain.
I see the positive in the negative.
I see the magic in the moonlight.

 

Life is full of miracles.  We only have part the invisible curtain to find it.  Do you know where that curtain is?  And if you found it would you be able to see the miracle yourself?  Or have you been so terrorized as you were growing up to NOT see life as the blessing that it is?

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.

Robin Williams and The Learning Soul

My friend, Jason who I mentioned in Monday’s column Water Wheels and Writing is making an encore visit today.  We talked on Monday night about Robin Williams apparent suicide.   Knowing my worldview has shifted in the twenty plus years he has known me, Jason wanted to hear my thoughts.  This is what I believe about transitioning at one’s own hand:
It is a one way direct ticket back to incarnation.  You don’t get to Transition Tunnel or Transition Station.  Taking your own life is a one way ticket back.

 

When I mentioned this, Jason said:
Interesting.  The learning soul.
Learning Soul

Classroom: Wikimedia Soul and Angel: Lingnan University Robin Williams: Wikipedia

 

So I owe Jason credit for the title of this column.

 

See?  In my worldview:
There is no direct punishment.
There is no vengeance.
There is no selfish act.

 

EVERYTHING becomes a learning tool.  Hence the learning soul.
God is NOT vengeful.
God does NOT punish.
God is love.

 

How can someone equate love and vengeance?
How can someone equate love and punishment?

 

When someone takes their own life, they are giving up.  They can’t face another day.  There is ALWAYS hope, however.  You just have to find it.  I completely understand that this is an emotional topic, an emotional issue.  And I’m NOT making light.  Believe me.  I was there at one point myself.  I think we all were.  I was fortunate to have reached out.  I wrote about it in Been There, Done That.  I don’t think I would have EVER sunk so low as to actually follow through.  Life is too precious.  Life has ALWAYS been a gift to me.  Which in no way means that people who transition at their own hands don’t see life as a precious gift.  I’m sure they do.  They simply reach a point where they can’t carry forward.  I read somewhere online on Monday that we don’t truly know someone if we only see their public profile, the persona they put forward in public.

 

Someone may APPEAR to have all their stuff together in public.  In private however, they may be wrestling with challenges we never see.  They may feel that they can’t shatter that happy profile they show to the world.  I’m sure you’ve heard said that the funniest people have the most emotional distress in their lives.  It’s because they need a release.  They need to release all that negativity.  Comics turn the negative.  They twist emotional distress into comedy.  The next time you hear a comic, don’t SIMPLY hear them, listen to what they say.  You may come away with a deeper understanding of what is happening or what HAS happened to them.

 

We may never know what caused Robin Williams to take his own life on Monday, but we DO know that he wrestled with his own challenges.  He was very forthright about his addictions:
Alcohol and drug abuse.

 

Obviously, he used these substances to mask his emotional distress, just as he used his comedy to do the same.  At some point, when these things no longer worked, he simply couldn’t move forward.  A shame Mr Williams didn’t have someone he could turn to, or something other than the masking agents he used.  A shame he couldn’t turn to his Higher Power when he was at his lowest point.

 

While I completely understand that actors and the roles they play are distinctly separate from each other, someone who starred in movies like:
Dead Again and What Dreams May Come would, you’d THINK understand that life is an echo, that life constantly repeats itself, that we don’t simply transition once.  Surely, something in those movie scripts resonated with Williams, otherwise he wouldn’t signed on to act in them.  Something in the stories must have rung true with him.  You’d think that would have been the case, wouldn’t you?  I can’t help but reflect on Robin William’s role in Dead Again as Cozy Carlisle when he discussed the topic of karma.  Or one of the last scenes in What Dreams May Come:

The two kids in the boat floating on a river.  And Robin Williams as Chris Neilsen saying:
I found you in Hell.  Don’t you think I can find you in Jersey?

 

Knowing all these things about Robin Williams, it would appear to me to be completely opposite of anything he would consider.  And yet as I suggested above, we ONLY know the public Robin Williams.  We don’t know the private person he was.

 

Still, I cling to the thought that transitioning at one’s own hand is a one way DIRECT ticket back to the physical. There is NO transition tunnel.  There is NO transition station.  You don’t get to see your soul group.  

 

You MUST return to the physical to learn the lesson that life is a gift and you can’t and shouldn’t return that gift until your prescribed time is written.  We all return over and over.  However when we transition at the determined time, our reward is being reunited with those in our soul group.  If we take matters in our own hands we don’t get to see our soul family.

 

That is NOT a punishment.
That is a lesson we must learn.

 

Life is a precious gift and we should not give it back unwrapped.

 

Be Happy!  Be Well!  Be Positive!
Blessings to you.

Chris

 

Once you realize that life is eternal,
That our souls our eternal,
That we return to light and physical over and over;

 

We then lose all our distress
We then lose all our fear of dying.  For there truly is no end.